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I've gone through quite a few relationships! Some were great and some were down right terrible!
I really enjoy trying to help people get through relationship woes. Sometimes they can be life consuming and everyone can use a little help from time-to-time.
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How to steal my ex back from rebound?
Q. My ex and I still talk frequently (almost every day, or more). How do I steal her back from her rebound boyfriend? ...
A. 14 December 2009: Seriously...no confronting. Dump her already. Everyone has already told you MANY times to let this one go and you're not. You said you would never talk to her again if she screwed up, and it looks like she's screwed up about 3 times since then ... (read in full...)
How to steal my ex back from rebound?
Q. My ex and I still talk frequently (almost every day, or more). How do I steal her back from her rebound boyfriend? ...
A. 18 November 2009: I think you should quit talking to her now because you know she's going to flip flop. Being "pretty sure" is the same as not being sure. You wouldn't have asked if you did't think she was going to. Give it time, you know she probably will. ... (read in full...)
How to steal my ex back from rebound?
Q. My ex and I still talk frequently (almost every day, or more). How do I steal her back from her rebound boyfriend? ...
A. 16 November 2009: Garm,
I don't mean to butt-in here. But you shouldn't be trying to manipulate her into wanting her back. The best thing you can do is do what makes YOU happy--you're revolving your actions too much on how you can manipulate her into wanting ... (read in full...)
My bossy boss!
Q. I have a boss that is very emotionally abusive towards me. I can never do anything right it seems no matter what. I have talked to her only once about it but it still occurs. I do my absolute best to please her but its not enough. The worst is she ...
A. 10 November 2009: If you've already confronted her yourself and things haven't changed then all you can do is go over her head. She's creating a hostile work environment for you--and that's not good. Nobody likes a boss that micromanages and makes you feel like ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is the only woman I've slept with. Will I regret having missed out when I'm 50?
Q. I have been with my GF since I was 18. Now I'm 28. I've never had sex with anyone else. Lately, I'm finding myself very tempted by many women I see and finding myself capable of getting their attention. When I'm 50, will I regret never being wi...
A. 10 November 2009: If you're feeling like that now, then yes, you probably will. Don't cheat on your girlfriend, if you don't want to be with her then don't and don't string her along by "taking a break" so you can keep her around while you go mess around.
I don... (read in full...)
I cheated so why isn't my wife angry?
Q. I had an affair. She ended it. I was no longer in love with my wife. The situation wasn't fair to either of us, so I told her everything and that I was ready to leave (she'd had her suspicions). She broke down and couldn't really function, so I ...
A. 10 November 2009: Yes, your wife would be better off if you left. She's doing everything she can to try to make you happy--she's too nice and she deserves better than you. She probably does hate you, but she doesn't like herself either, she probably thinks she ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is 25, my son is 27!
Q. I am 47. My gorgeous boyfriend is 25.. my son is 27, I initially could not believe a guy younger than my son would be interested in me... but I have looked after my figure. We have a mind blowing relationship and both his and my parents have no ...
A. 10 November 2009: If he makes you happy then that's what matters. I don't think there's much you can do about your son being somewhat uncomfortable with the situation since your boyfriend is younger than him. I mean, if my mother or father started dating someone ... (read in full...)
How to steal my ex back from rebound?
Q. My ex and I still talk frequently (almost every day, or more). How do I steal her back from her rebound boyfriend? ...
A. 9 November 2009: Eh, you just want her back cause you can't have her. So, you know that the relationship probably isn't going to work out in the future. But you pretty much have to follow what anonymous said, the more you act like you don't care, the more she'll ... (read in full...)
Can high ambition be a turn off for women?
Q. Hello, If I could just ask the females if they think having too much drive and ambtion is major turn-off, that would be great! I recently dated about 2 women in the space of 2 months, but it didnt work out! I think is becuase I have grand plans fo...
A. 9 November 2009: It really does depend on the woman. Because that is something I would find highly attractive in a man, but that's because I'm very similar in that aspect. I've had guys turned off from all that I want to do because they are "comfortable" with what ... (read in full...)
I am afraid to marry her, yet also afraid to flush 5 years of my life down the toilet.
Q. I will try to be brief. I have been dating my girl friend for almost 5 years, 4.5 of which she has lived with me. We've gone through many ups and downs as all relationships do, but more and more I dread the thought of spending my life with her as a ...
A. 9 November 2009: I think that if you're feeling that way about her, and I don't blame you for not wanting to spend the rest of your life with her, then she's not the right person for you to marry.
Obviously you two have tried to work things out and are aware th... (read in full...)
Would this be considerd rape...i don't want to think badly of him...
Q. Mah boyfriend and i had been together for 5 months...we had had sex before but one night we were washing his car in his barn and there is a couch in his barn. Well sprayed him with the hose (juss being goofy) and then ran to couch. he followed too ...
A. 9 November 2009: If you told him, "No" to begin with and he kept going, he "stuck it in" and you again said, "No" then yes, he raped you. He knows that he did wrong. To give him the benefit of the doubt, it may have been one of those scenarios where he thought ... (read in full...)
My friend's boyfriend keeps hurting her over and over, what do I do?
Q. Hey! Alright, so my friend (F) has a boyfriend, his name is A. A is the worst boyfriend on planet worst boyfriend. No joke. He flirts with other girls ALL THE TIME, either online or in person. He even flirted with me a couple times, intul I ...
A. 9 November 2009: It's only natural to become irritated by a friend that makes dumb mistakes by going out with some loser over-and-over again. I think most of us have been there ourselves or had a friend that was doing what your friend is doing. Hopefully your ... (read in full...)
We had sex, but I don't want a relationship, should I call him?
Q. Ive known this guy for over a year and we have hooked up in the past. Last week we ran into each other a few times, each time we were drunk. Last night we ran into each other at a party and ended up having sex. We had pretty kinky sex last night. ...
A. 9 November 2009: Might as well if you're not really concerned about anything further than a sexual relationship, because there's really not much to lose if you don't want anything more from him than just sex. So yeah, call him if you don't hear from him--just make ... (read in full...)
How long after hooking up should I wait to contact her?
Q. Last Night I went out with this girl and after some drinks we came back to my place and had amazing sex. In the morning I drove her home and she gave me her number. Now I'm wondering when I should contact her again. Two female friends of mine say...
A. 9 November 2009: Yeah, if you're interested in her besides just sex then you should call her tomorrow afternoon. Waiting until Tuesday is called playing games, like she won't see right through you calling on he third day? If it was just a one-night-stand then ... (read in full...)
Is asking for a 'break' the same as breaking up?
Q. i need advice. been dating my boyfriend for 15 months long distance. we saw each other once every month for an extended weekend and had several week long visits. i have met practically his whole extended fam, one of the week-long visits was with ...
A. 9 November 2009: I agree with quiet echo. And yes, a "beak" is pretty much the same as a breakup. He wants to keep you around without having to put any effort in a relationship. So, as much as you care for him...just consider it a breakup and move on; and again ... (read in full...)
Will un-protected sex in July result in pregnancy now?
Q. Hi, I had unprotected sex in July of this year. My periods have been shorter and I have gotten one every month. Is there anyway I'm pregnant?...
A. 9 November 2009: They're 6 instead of 7 days? No, you're for sure not pregnant. It would be different if they were 7 and now 1 or 2 days. ... (read in full...)
He lost interest but I can't forget him, even though I'm now seeing a great guy
Q. Can someone please get some sense into me? I went out on a date with this guy and we really hit it off. He's in the airforce and the day after our date he left on a three week assignment. During the three weeks he was away he messaged me ever...
A. 9 November 2009: Do you think that you're still thinking about him maybe because you can't have him? Sometimes when things seem to be going good with someone and you really start to like them; then they back out, it's like a part of you wants to win them over into ... (read in full...)
Will un-protected sex in July result in pregnancy now?
Q. Hi, I had unprotected sex in July of this year. My periods have been shorter and I have gotten one every month. Is there anyway I'm pregnant?...
A. 9 November 2009: It's been 4-months and you've gotten a period every month but they're shorter? I highly doubt you are, but if you're worried about being 4 months pregnant, it would sound pretty reasonable to get a test by now...... (read in full...)
Is it possible to get your period while you're pregnant?
Q. I am sexually active with my girlfriend of course. My question is... is it possible to get your period while you are pregnant? According to those menstrual cycle calculator things her fertile days 19-24 of october. And she was supposed to be ...
A. 7 November 2009: Actually, I've heard of some women getting their period every month while still pregnant. I'm not sure if it's an actual period and maybe more so spotting like other posters have mentioned.
It does sound like it could be a possibility that she... (read in full...)
I've very shy and quiet.. any tips?
Q. I'm extremely shy and quiet. I'm in my mid 20's, which is also embarrassing because most people outgrow this stage by now. Some people may think I'm cold or unfriendly or serious, but I'm really just shy and quiet. I stink at making small talk. (I ...
A. 7 November 2009: I forgot to include, when you're asking them questions try to listen for what you can talk about. If they mention something that you know about or have interest in, talk about it for minute...that way you don't end up sounding like an interviewer, ... (read in full...)
I've very shy and quiet.. any tips?
Q. I'm extremely shy and quiet. I'm in my mid 20's, which is also embarrassing because most people outgrow this stage by now. Some people may think I'm cold or unfriendly or serious, but I'm really just shy and quiet. I stink at making small talk. (I ...
A. 7 November 2009: I've always been fairly shy, probably not as shy as you--but I know it can be hard to keep the conversation flowing sometimes when you don't know someone too well.
So instead of one-word answers just try to elaborate a little more on what was aske... (read in full...)
She cheated with me when she was in a relationship with my best mate... I worry that she might do it to me now
Q. This is a very long and complicated issue, but its kind of bothering me and wanted peoples advice. well im currently seeing this gurl and things are all great but the problem i have is a trust issue. the thing is she used to date a friend of mine ...
A. 7 November 2009: I'm just going to put my 2 cents in: you lose them how you got them.... (read in full...)
My husband checks out girls and watches porn online... I'm a little overweight could that be a factor?
Q. I think i have a huge problem, and i need some advice, i dont know if its me or my husband but it seems like i catch him every other day looking at internet porography, well it will be in the history, he says he loves me but i dont know we have been ...
A. 7 November 2009: No, it's because your husband is a jerk. I completely agree with what caringguy said. Just about every guy looks at porn or checks out other women, but your husband doesn't need to act like a disgusting pig about it.
Making a remark and dry-hump... (read in full...)
I've split with my ex but he's so depressed and still dependent on me... how do I help him to get help?
Q. I just got out of a relationship that lasted for a few years about 2 months back, and my ex is taking it pretty hard. He still calls me sometimes when he is really upset and says stuff like he is so depressed. It is hard because I do care about him ...
A. 7 November 2009: There's nothing that you're supposed to do. You can't help a person that doesn't want to help themself. You've made suggestions and his mother has tried to help him and he doesn't do anything about it, it's his problem. You're completely right ... (read in full...)
Is there a risk of prostate cancer if you don't masturbate or have sex?
Q. Hi Cupid,I asked this question here last time about the word masturbation. this question confused me sometimes, i want to be sure of it. my question is, a person that still a virgin whether a boy or a girl. like a boy that still a virgin. if the ...
A. 7 November 2009: I don't know about the whole prostate cancer deal, but if you don't have sex or masturbate--I do remember from back in the days of Biology class, that since a man is continually producing sperm his body will just naturally get rid of the "old" sperm ... (read in full...)
Should I make the move to be with this guy? Anyone got experience of this kind of thing?
Q. One of my really good friends for years and I have really fallen for each other, but we live in different cities. We have kept in touch over many years although living in other places, and lately we have been going to visit each other and have ...
A. 7 November 2009: Yes, I have and I would never do it again. Don't compromise what you have going on in your life to fit into his...especially moving. If you don't have any of YOUR OWN friends there (his friends that you like and like you too don't count), he's ... (read in full...)
Why do bad things happen to good people?
Q. I'm in a awkward place in my life, I feel like I have no direction nor anything to look forward to. I've been questioning a lot about life. I consider myself to be a good person and my attitude towards life is treat others as you want to be treat...
A. 6 November 2009: Things like what your friend is going through is just life. People aren't immortal based on their behavior. There's a reason for everything, life is indeed rough. It's like things will be going great and then there's a big crash...you hang out on ... (read in full...)
Will I always be alone?
Q. I'm beginning to get quite down on myself. It's been a long time since I've had a relationship. I'm not giving up hope on finding that someone, it's just the advice I keep getting from friends seems so contradictory. For instance, everyo...
A. 6 November 2009: It's okay to think about wanting to meet someone. However, it's kind of more along the lines when you go out to just have fun and not give a care about whether you meet someone that night or not. Just go out and have fun, but don't be in the ... (read in full...)
The love of my life cheated on me...is he at it again?
Q. I have been cheated on 3 years after I was married, by the person whom I knew for more than 10 years and who showed me nothing but pure love, respect and trust. We had a beautiful love story that a lot of people envied and wished they would have the...
A. 6 November 2009: 1. Should you believe him? No. He's already broken your trust, so why should you believe him? It's possible he hasn't done anything with that other woman YET, but it's total BS that it was just a joke about seeing her again. If I were you, I ... (read in full...)
I hate that my boyfriend watches porn!
Q. I hate that my boyfriend watches porn. I gave him many pictures of me, and he himself has taken several pictures of us doing stuff. But he doesn't use them at all, he just uses regular big tit porn. I have small boobs, and I'm not as perfect as ...
A. 6 November 2009: Cut him out of the pictures that you have together, then replace his head and body with magazine cutouts of hot men. My personal favorites include: David Beckham, Hugh Jackman, and Carey Hart. Now that you have replaced those photos with men that ... (read in full...)
Is she really that busy?
Q. I have been exchanging emails with this girl. She has written twice that she is sorry it took couple of days to reply to my email, but she first mistakingly thought that she had replied me and only later realized she hadn't. Do you think it's pos...
A. 5 November 2009: Yes, my friend is that way. However, you really expect any of us to believe that you just want to "know her better" and that you're not planning on having an affair? Riiiight. Maybe she is blowing you off and is too nice because she would prefer ... (read in full...)
What is wrong with teacher/student relatonships?
Q. what's the big taboo with student teacher relationships? I know there's all this stuff about peadophillia, but why does it HAVE to be reported? And does anyone know how teachers react, like what do they say to a student who has just admitted...
A. 5 November 2009: Because it can cause favoritism and the teacher giving out better grades if you give them "favors." Therefore, students can basically prostitute themselves for better grades, or the teacher can give not so good grades to students who don't want to. ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a woman to fall in love after spending only 3 intimate weekends together?
Q. Is it possible for a woman to fall in love after spending only 3 intimate weekends together? We are both divorced and single. We both have kids that are grown and on their own, so in that aspect there is no problem. Even if they were small or ...
A. 5 November 2009: I think what she means by "falling for you" is that to begin with she was trying to think rationally and come to the realization that it is what it is: it's long distance and may not work out, so it's best to keep it friendly. Well it looks like ... (read in full...)
Does he still love me? And why is he ignoring me?
Q. I was with this guy for a year and we both loved one another very much. But there was a lot of struggles we had to go through to be together and we both got tired of it so we decided that we should just stop for a while. Well... after that I text ...
A. 5 November 2009: He's trying to move on. If you two have followed a pattern of breaking up and getting back together he's probably tired of it and decided this time it needs to end for good. I'm sorry, but that's just the way that it is sometimes. ... (read in full...)
Why does he not respond? Does he need space?
Q. The guy I am dating had a birthday and I text him happy birthday and something nice at the late evening, on that day and the day after in the morning I text him happy good morning and happy birthday and some very nice sentences about that, he is the ...
A. 5 November 2009: He's backing off for whatever reason, and it's time for you to do the same. Yes, give him space. Don't text him or call him anymore regarding the dinner, getting together, etc. Even if a week goes by, just don't do it. Let him come to you. If ... (read in full...)
My best friend is dating my ex who I still love... what should I do?
Q. I want to know what to do... my friend well "best friend" and i have been bickering back and forth for a while now over dumb things.... lately the reasons we've been fighting because every time i just break up with a guy she goes and asks him out ...
A. 5 November 2009: You need to recognize that your so-called best friend really isn't a friend at all, and I think you know that. She does this probably because she's jealous of you, she's insecure, and she thinks everything is a competition. That's not what a friend ... (read in full...)
I've never kissed before and don't know how to do it!
Q. ok the guy i have liked forr aggess has asked me out and he is my first boyfriend....well this is kindof embaressing but i have never kissed anyone before and i dont want him to think i am a rubbish kisser...so how do you kiss? ...
A. 5 November 2009: Nobody can explain how you kiss, you just do it. Nobody had an instruction manual the first time they kissed someone so don't feel embarrassed. It's usually a fairly natural thing, it's not a hard thing to do. Besides that, kissing someone new is ... (read in full...)
Am I being too needy or is my boyfriend slacking on his part?
Q. To make a long story short... I met my boyfriend almost four years ago. We dated, life got in the way, broke it off, remained best friends the next two years, he was there through it all- good, bad, you name it. We recently got back together. We ...
A. 5 November 2009: No, I don't think that you're being too needy. He needs to take you seriously; otherwise, how can you take this relationship seriously? If you two are around the same age, remember that guys mature a lot slower than girls. So his behavior is ... (read in full...)
Do opposites attract? Will I not attact him because we're so much alike?
Q. I have had a crush on my boss for the past 8 months. I don't believe in having a work relationship so I have done nothing to pursue it. I would be willing to find a new job, its time for me to move up in my industry anyway, but I don't know how to ...
A. 5 November 2009: Actually, I've heard that the whole "opposites attract" thing is bogus. Sure, we like some traits in people that we don't have because that is something that we may find admirable since we don't have those traits. However, people typically are ... (read in full...)
Can a smaller penis look bigger from a different person's perspective?
Q. Hi i am about 18 years of age, and I have a question on measurement in penis sizes. When i put the ruler next to my penis it shows me that i am 8 inches. Now the problem is, when i was in MMA the men had to take showers when the session was over. I ...
A. 5 November 2009: 8 inches and 7 inches? Do you guys start measuring at your scrotum? I'm guessing you do...sorry but I've just heard guys make jokes about that before.
Listen, I doubt you and all those other guys are walking around with erect penises (at leas... (read in full...)
We both really like each other but she has a boyfriend?
Q. This is kinda long/confusing but i'll keep it simple. I'm a senior in high school and have had a great friend since my sophomore year. Back then when she was a freshman, she had a big crush on me but i was oblivious since even if i was great friends ...
A. 5 November 2009: Well you kind of have to really think about a couple things here. One, if she's kissing you while she has a boyfriend; what does that really say about her? If she has "strong" feelings for someone else while she's with you do you think she'll be ... (read in full...)
I only seem to attract older men who want to have sex. Is it because of my behaviour?
Q. I always feel like i attract men that only want to have fun with me. There was a professor who is married that tried to get into my pants he never did. then there was a thirty year old that only wanted to get into my pants. I just want to know why i ...
A. 4 November 2009: It's okay to flirt, but it's about how you do it. As long as you put very minimal to no comments regarding sexual inudendo, then they won't be so quick to think that you're good for one thing. I flirt with some guys all the time, but it's just ... (read in full...)
Must a woman orgasm to conceive?
Q. Should my wife have an orgasm to become pregnant or is it enough that my sperm goes inside through the vagina during intercourse?...
A. 4 November 2009: No, she does not need to orgasm to conceive.... (read in full...)
I'm developing feelings for him even though it's wrong. What do I do?
Q. I have known this guy since I was a little girl, our families are beyond best friends. We have been spending a lot of time talking, and I am quickly becoming infatuated with him, because he's been exposed to me and my family life so much, he ...
A. 4 November 2009: It's okay to have a crush on him--it's only wrong on his part if he acts on anything. Don't tempt him with anything that could cause him to get into trouble. Leave it be for now, we all have a time (or a few times) in our life when we have a crush ... (read in full...)
I only seem to attract older men who want to have sex. Is it because of my behaviour?
Q. I always feel like i attract men that only want to have fun with me. There was a professor who is married that tried to get into my pants he never did. then there was a thirty year old that only wanted to get into my pants. I just want to know why i ...
A. 4 November 2009: It would help if you were specific about your behavior. Do you think you behave in a particular way that would lead men to believe you just want to have "fun?" ... (read in full...)
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