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writes:Hello, I' m Artemis, and I'm gay. I ended my relationship with my boyfriend a while ago and I can't move on, I'm desperate because this whole situation is affecting every single aspect of my life, 3 weeks ago I saw him, we said hi and all that, we went for a walk, we talked and we ended up kissing, he asked me if I still like him, I said yes, he didn't say anything back though, but he was always reminding me that we're not going out, anyway that night he was so sweet to me, putting his arms around me, kissing me, being so tender, I'm really confused because since then he hasn't texted or called, I dunno if he's expecting me to do it, but I've tried already a lot of things to make things work out and I think now he should do something to show me if he still feels something for me, I really feel there's still something going on yet, but I really don't know what to do. I love him and as much as i try, I just can't forget him, even tho he hurt my feelings soo deply.HELP PLEASE!!!I'LLBE FOREVER GREATFUL.
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reader, natmarie  +, writes (18 September 2009):
 Why not write him a really honest email or letter about how you feel. You have nothing to lose, and you certainly will not lose him by being honest. :o) he obviously still has feelings for you.
Forget any 'misplaced' pride. Life is short. You love this guy... just do it. X Nat Marie xx
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (18 September 2009):
 Well, it's hard to read what's going on here since things are so mixed. If he's constantly reminding you that you're not dating and yet showing you all this affection, it seems that he's setting you up as a booty call, of sorts. A NSA situation. Don't let him take advantage of your vulnerability! You deserve to be in a relationship and have him totally committed to you, so don't settle for less just because you miss him and the affection makes you feel good. I understand how tough that is, but that's what you deserve so don't accidentally slip up and give him a NSA relationship. He can't have his cake and eat it too!
But, it could be that he's confused about how he's feeling and missing you a bit too. Maybe he's feeling out if you want to be together again. And hey, you can ask him! If you should run into each other again, and things start getting steamy, don't be afraid to pull back and start a conversation.
I wouldn't put effort into calling or texting. You've already tried, so let him do the chasing now. Don't be easy and don't turn into a booty call. Remember what you deserve! Until then, distract yourself as much as possible. Take up theater or Tai-chi or boxing, get to the gym, go see lots of movies, call up pals you haven't seen in awhile. Get out there!
Good luck!!
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (18 September 2009):
Well, if you were the one that ended the relationship--my best guess would be that he is probably waiting for you to make a move. He's probably also hurt and still cares about you, but being that he was the one that was dumped he probably doesn't want to be the one crawling back. So I think if you want to talk to him, you should call him and see how he's doing :)
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