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I've gone through quite a few relationships! Some were great and some were down right terrible!
I really enjoy trying to help people get through relationship woes. Sometimes they can be life consuming and everyone can use a little help from time-to-time.
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How to steal my ex back from rebound?
Q. My ex and I still talk frequently (almost every day, or more). How do I steal her back from her rebound boyfriend? ...
A. 14 December 2009: Seriously...no confronting. Dump her already. Everyone has already told you MANY times to let this one go and you're not. You said you would never talk to her again if she screwed up, and it looks like she's screwed up about 3 times since then ... (read in full...)
How to steal my ex back from rebound?
Q. My ex and I still talk frequently (almost every day, or more). How do I steal her back from her rebound boyfriend? ...
A. 18 November 2009: I think you should quit talking to her now because you know she's going to flip flop. Being "pretty sure" is the same as not being sure. You wouldn't have asked if you did't think she was going to. Give it time, you know she probably will. ... (read in full...)
He gave me a back hander across the face when I mouthed off as he was yelling at me!
Q. Hi aunts. I have a real problem here. I'm just not sure what to do any more. Me and my boyfriend have been arguing a lot lately but last night it escalated and he backhanded me across the face because I mouthed off to him while he was yelling at me. ...
A. 17 November 2009: Listen, he WILL do it again. He "didn't know how to react" because you "mouthed off?" He's going to get mouthed off a lot in his lifetime, so does that mean he should go around backhanding people because he doesn't like what they say? NO! And ... (read in full...)
I am in lust/love with a straight man... or do I just miss my ex?
Q. Hi Guys + Gals I am in a strange situation which is pulling me apart. I currently live with this guy who I met in 6th form and we bonded really well. Since I met him I was attracted to him, although he is straight and has a girlfriend. (he kn...
A. 16 November 2009: Are you serious? You molested him in his sleep? That is beyond wrong. I think you need to start thinking with your head instead of your penis before he ends up waking up while you're violating him. The only advice I can give you is to stay ... (read in full...)
Is this really the price I have to pay for my happiness?
Q. I dont really know where to start... Back in June I posted about how I had canceled my wedding to my fiance of 3 years and left him, and how i felt bad because he was beyond hurt. I was given a lot of advice on how he would get over it eventual...
A. 16 November 2009: I'm not really sure how the system work in Canada...but yes, I think you should file a police report and try to get it back, and if you can't get them back; take him to small claims court. I think here, the value of what you're trying to get back ... (read in full...)
Trying for a baby
Q. Hi I have a question I really would love some advice on. My long term boyfriend and I are trying for a baby. In anyways I have been off the pill for the last year and now no longer using condoms. My boyfriend and I had sex umprotected sex on the ...
A. 16 November 2009: That was less than 2 weeks ago...a test usually won't be accurate in that short of time. It's best to wait a few days to a week after you've missed your period. Sometimes maybe the day before it will show up positive, but I wouldn't trust it too ... (read in full...)
His penis smells of sex!!!
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 7 months now, i love him so much and he always tells me he loves me... but on 2 occasions, i went down on him and his penis smelt like sex, now im paranoid hes been sleeping with another girl then coming back to me. ...
A. 16 November 2009: That's how most guys are caught cheating. However, if you really don't think that he is (there isn't anything else that would lead you to believe that he's with another girl)and since he doesn't stray away from you too often, all it could be is ... (read in full...)
This guy in college is REALLY pissing me off! How do I play this?
Q. Hello everyone. I've these few problems. In short, I am a 20 year old male. I am in college now. I am still single, so you can guess I've a confidence problem. I've issues talking to girls. So, my problem is I've few friends here. They are alwa...
A. 16 November 2009: They probably feel they have some dominance over you and so they mess around with you. I don't think it's because they actually think that you're a nerd or that they don't like you, but you're just an easy target for them. Do you get upset too ... (read in full...)
My best friend seemed surprised that a guy likes me, and not her.
Q. At work, there is a guy that I have been crushing on- we talk once in a while, but we don't talk as much because we're in different departments. I told my friend about him and she knows I like him. She happens to knows his older sister and hung out ...
A. 16 November 2009: Your friend is just insecure. Have you ever seen that movie American Beauty and the girl that tells people she is a model swears that a guy is gay if he doesn't even look at her and she would lie about screwing all sorts of guys? Truth was that ... (read in full...)
How to steal my ex back from rebound?
Q. My ex and I still talk frequently (almost every day, or more). How do I steal her back from her rebound boyfriend? ...
A. 16 November 2009: Garm,
I don't mean to butt-in here. But you shouldn't be trying to manipulate her into wanting her back. The best thing you can do is do what makes YOU happy--you're revolving your actions too much on how you can manipulate her into wanting ... (read in full...)
I just turned 18 and thought my mom would trust me with my boyfriend now, but she doesn't!
Q. Okay, so around october I started dating this new guy that I'm dating now. Last thursday I turned 18. In my mind I thought this would change things a little bit. So I asked my mom if I could help my boyfriend move into his moms house. My mom said no ...
A. 16 November 2009: You're 18...you're an adult. So technically you don't have to ask your mom if you can go somewhere. But, if you're living under her roof, then I'm sure she has certain rules that you need to abide by. So you need to talk to you mom about you ... (read in full...)
My first time and I think I've fell pregnant. Help!
Q. hi i am 16 years old and i had sex the other day with my boyfriend. I have not been feeling that well lately and yesterday i was hungery even although I had been eating all day but today im hungery but i feel very sick. My parents and his are ...
A. 16 November 2009: First of all, if you had sex the other day you wouldn't be having any symptoms yet. You're just freaking yourself out.
Second, you used protection and if it was used correctly, then you're probably fine.
I agree with the other poster, yo... (read in full...)
Are we a couple of does he just want a hook up?
Q. Does he only want to keep hooking up? I met this guy Matt*(fake name) at a party in late September, his friend told me he was interested in me and he found me on Facebook, he then gave me his number and we've been hanging out since but I feel lik...
A. 16 November 2009: Regardless if you two admit it, it pretty much sounds like you two are in a relationship. So if you want to know for sure, you need to talk to him about it. He may be afraid that you don't feel the same way (just how you're afraid that he doesn't ... (read in full...)
He's giving me contradictory statements, how do I handle this?
Q. Hey!! Ok....so i'm really confused and need all the advice i can possibly get! Basically...theres this guy that i kinda got together with at the end of summer..but then he had to go back to wales and i'm still here in London. But..we kept it ...
A. 16 November 2009: You don't do anything now! Get over this guy! If you keep trying to go after a guy that can't make up his mind, that is stringing you along and supposidly has friends texting you from his phone and he doesn't really give you a sincere apology, ... (read in full...)
I prefer older guys! Should I hold off on dating?
Q. this may sound bad but im 16 and i've noticed lately that im more atracted to guys in like there late late teens or like 22, so like 18-22... i just ind guys my age anoying and inmucher....i just want to find some one to cuddle with and feel safe ...
A. 16 November 2009: I think you should ask your parents this question, because they are the ones that would throw your older boyfriend in jail if they did not approve.... (read in full...)
Why can I only remember my bad dreams?
Q. Why when I have a good dream I cant remember it but when I have a bad I can? I would like to remember the 'really good ones' but of coarse the bad dreams are more clear than possible?...
A. 16 November 2009: That's something you can't possibly have control over unless you sit and really try to remember what was dreamt the night before. Sometimes you don't even remember for days later, like a deja vu. Maybe you have a lot of bad dreams. If that's the ... (read in full...)
I lied about a pregnacy and abortion to hurt my ex...should I come clean?
Q. I lied to my ex by telling him I was pregnant and aborted the baby. I only did it to hurt him because I found out he was sleeping with my friend. I know it's horrible and at the time it made me feel good to hurt him like he hurt me, but now I feel ...
A. 14 November 2009: I think you should only tell him if you still somehow speak with him and he has told you that it bothers him. Otherwise, if he's your ex, just let it go. What's done is done and there is no sense in bringing that stuff up if you two are over and ... (read in full...)
Are these reacurring sex dreams a sign that I am a pervert?
Q. I have been having reacurring sex dreams of me and my 15 yr old niece. When they happen i wake up in a cold sweat. Once i even ejactulated while i was dreaming. I would never do anything with my niece and now if i see her or talk to her i feel ...
A. 14 November 2009: I think that it just happens. I've had dreams about some people that I was completely disgusted about. I think that a dream is just a dream. Besides Sigmund Freud (really it's all just theory), nobody really knows for certain what dreams are. ... (read in full...)
Is it weird to make a silicone doll of my girlfriend?
Q. Hi Agony Aunts! I have an interesting question that I want to ask. Well I love my girlfriend so much that I would want to do something grand. I am planning on making a life-size doll version of my girlfriend in silicone like the ones I have seen ...
A. 14 November 2009: Yes, I agree--it's weird and a little flattering. If my boyfriend did that, I wouldn't know if I should run for the hills or think, "Wow, he loves me so much he made me into a doll." So your girlfriend could have the same response, I think to most ... (read in full...)
Should I stay hopeful that my friend will return or just move on?
Q. I have noticed that my friends have gone through phases where one would kind of deviate from our group and started to hang out with another group. (And completely forget about us/not talk to us as much while they hung out with that group.) Most have ...
A. 13 November 2009: It's okay for your friend to want to hang out with other people. Sometimes people have different groups of friends for different purposes. I have several groups that I go back and forth with depending on what mode I'm in. I have my friends that ... (read in full...)
Late period, and pregnancy test is negative! What do I do now?
Q. I just took a pregnancy test because I'm over a week late for my period, the test was negative... Should i take another one? If yes how long should I wait? And what should I do? I'm normally not this late!...
A. 13 November 2009: If you were pregnant, you should have gotten a positive test by now, but on rare ocassions, it's not always the case. Take another one first thing in the morning in a couple days, if it's still negative then you may want to make a doctor ... (read in full...)
Is he lying or is does he just want to get my attention again by hurting me?
Q. When I discovered that my boyfriend was cheating on me, I became a bitch and decided to talk to guys he prohibited me to talk to. It made him even angrier when I told him I don't care anymore if he leaves me for the other girl, I said I was fine ...
A. 12 November 2009: He's trying to manipulate you and make you jealous. He's probably doing both: lying and trying to get your attention (he's a cheater so of course he's a liar). He probably wants you back because he's lonely and an idiot--then he "accidentally" ... (read in full...)
How can I show her she deserves better than some guy who wants to screw other men?
Q. My sister is 23 and has been dating a guy for over 7 years. A month ago he told her he was bi and had been cheating on her with a guy. She broke up with him but has since taken him back. They now have an open relationship where he can go and be gay ...
A. 12 November 2009: Hmm that's quite a predicament. Well you can't show her she deserves better, she can only see that for herself once she opens her eyes. Unfortunately, the more you tell her she can do better and try to convince her that she shouldn't be in a ... (read in full...)
I'm really excited about this new guy, but suddenly he seems distant
Q. Dear Cupid I broke up with my ex back in March and we havent been on speaking terms at all for the last couple months (we decided that we cant be friends right now because it would always be more, and he had a new gf) he broke my heart but i am ove...
A. 11 November 2009: I know EXACTLY what you mean, but for now just leave him alone. Don't try contacting him or anything for now because then he'll just feel bombarded if you start asking him questions as to why he's not being so attentive. Let him come to you and ... (read in full...)
Does she like me as a friend or more?
Q. I met this girl about 3 months back through a mutual friend. Went on a few dates and i thought things seemed to go well. Then one night we went out for drinks and i ended up spending the night at her place and we hooked up (no sex). Another t...
A. 11 November 2009: If she asked you if you liked her...telling her yes was not a mistake. She probably asked you because she likes you too. If you tell a girl no when she asks you that question that would definitely make her probably not want to talk to you again. ... (read in full...)
I had just started to get over her and now she texts me saying she wants me back!
Q. ok so my ex and I were in a long distance relationship. I was in love with her and she told me the same. we met in person after a few months and we had a real good time. soon after we got back home to our own places. she broke it off and didn't give ...
A. 11 November 2009: Keep doing what you're doing. DO NOT TAKE HER BACK! It's too little too late on her part, she should have realized what she had before she let it go. You can do so much better! Don't let her jerk you around like that, she'll want to keep you ... (read in full...)
I would already be engaged to her if it wasnt for her past! How do I overcome this?
Q. I'll try to keep it short. In June 07 I met a girl at a party and ending up sleeping with her that night. Both of us were sober. For the rest of the summer we hooked up here and there - f buddies. About a month after we first met my good friend told ...
A. 11 November 2009: Hmmm well, I think some of this you just can't really get passed, since she had slept with some of your friends.
But just some food for thought, you want to marry a person based on who they are and how they make you feel. Obviously you're c... (read in full...)
Dating an older man who won't come to visit me!
Q. Hi guys! I'm in a long distance relationship of 1 and a half years now, with a wonderful man I really adore. He's 40 and I'm 24, big gap but we get on great and he makes me laugh all the time. Basically, I have to go away to uni for approx 6 mon...
A. 11 November 2009: You're not being needy and demanding. I think he's kind of taking advantage of the fact that you are the one to always come see him. I think you need to tell him that a relationship is a two-way street and that it's not fair for you to have to ... (read in full...)
Does she like me as a friend or more?
Q. I met this girl about 3 months back through a mutual friend. Went on a few dates and i thought things seemed to go well. Then one night we went out for drinks and i ended up spending the night at her place and we hooked up (no sex). Another t...
A. 11 November 2009: I think she's interested in you, but probably waiting on you to make the move. A lot of women are afraid of telling guys that they are interested in a relationship of any kind or that they do like them for fear that the guy will get "scared" and ... (read in full...)
How do I get past these horrible feelings I have?
Q. I'm disgusted with myself. 5 yrs ago, I got pregnant, it wasn't planned, I was shocked, I was on birth control and there it was. My bf at the time was very supportive, however after a length discussion we decided not to have our child. A year lat...
A. 11 November 2009: You can feel free to send me a PM, I know what you're going through to a certain extent. I hope you're not with that guy anymore? ... (read in full...)
Did she shoot me down or should I ask again?
Q. Hello, There is this girl I have been talking to in and out of class for the past few weeks (I'd say about a month and a half), and tonight I decided that I would finally call her and ask her out (I had already gotten her number about 2 weeks ag...
A. 11 November 2009: Talk to her in class, act like nothing happened for now. She may have just been in a hurry and didn't think and just got off the phone quickly. BUT, I would say that if she was interested in going out with you and it sounded like your conversation ... (read in full...)
He broke things off and never told me why!
Q. I was in a relationship with this boy for almost a year.He had proposed and wed planned for our future, he couldn't have children, so we decided when the time was right we'd adopt. Well just 3 weeks later, everything changed. He was driving me ...
A. 11 November 2009: Aww, I'm sorry to see that you're going through something like this. Some boys are such cowards and don't have any idea what they are doing to the person they just left hanging. It's just coldhearted and MEAN!
You didn't do anything wrong. ... (read in full...)
What would the symptoms be of pregnancy 2-3 weeks into it?
Q. what would the symptoms be of pregnancy 2-3 weeks into it? any at all? its about 4 days before im supposed to get my period and my nipples are sore, pains in my sides and lower abdomen and insideeee my vagina and im crying all the time sometimes ...
A. 11 November 2009: If you had unprotected sex 12 days ago, sorry, but not you most likely would not be having any symptoms yet. Having a hard time sleeping definitely wouldn't be one of the symptoms, if anything you'd be wanting to sleep more.
It sounds like you... (read in full...)
Will our relationship last if he moves half way across the country?
Q. heres the scenario.. We are both 16, in highschool, met when we were 14, have been dating for almost two years. I switched to a different highschool and we've been fine. I believe we are in love, we never have the stupid problems all of our f...
A. 11 November 2009: Regardless if anyone knows about or has experience LDR's, they aren't all the same. There are some that last and some that don't. In your case, we can't fortell the future. However, based on your ages, it would be most likely that even if he ... (read in full...)
When having first time sex how long does the guy usually last?
Q. just a general question, when having first time sex how long does the guy usually last?...
A. 11 November 2009: I was joking about 12 seconds...well on some ocassions it's not a joke. If he's inexperienced and doesn't masturbate shortly before, then he'll last a few minutes. Really though, all a guy needs to do is last long enough for you to have an orgasm. ... (read in full...)
When having first time sex how long does the guy usually last?
Q. just a general question, when having first time sex how long does the guy usually last?...
A. 11 November 2009: 12 seconds if you're lucky.... (read in full...)
Should I make a move on him when he comes over?
Q. So, I have been best friend with this lad for about 3 years now, and we talk to each other about everything. Recently I started to like him, I told him, and he said he would talk to me about it, but he hasn't. But I don't think it's becuase he ...
A. 10 November 2009: Yeah, definitely bring up what you two haven't gotten to talk about before. He probably hasn't brought it up yet because he's shy or nervous about it; guys aren't the greatest at sharing their feelings. Don't put "moves" on guys, that can lead to ... (read in full...)
If a man "bucks" during sex, what does it mean?
Q. What does it mean when a guy bucks durning sex? Probbly a stupied question and one I should know but i'm just curious....
A. 10 November 2009: Never heard of that before in my life...I don't know what you mean by bucking because I think of a horse trying to get something off of it's back when you say that; I hope I never see a guy do that especially during sex.... (read in full...)
Did he text me so we can be friends?
Q. Ok so another small problem. I was seeing this guy for 8 weeks, we had such a laugh together and everything was great. I had met him 4 weeks after I came out of a 4 year relationship and I found him irrestistable. A few years ago, he came out...
A. 10 November 2009: I would say he's interested in you. He made up an excuse to touch bases with you and called you gorgeous...hmmm, I would say he probably likes you more than a friend, but I don't know if he only wants a friendship with you, that would be something ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend slept with a girl when we'd just started dating. Is this an issue?
Q. my bofriend and i have been dating for a little over 8 months now and i recently found out 3 days after he asked me out on a date he slept with another girl should i confront him about it or leave it alone since me and him are living together now ...
A. 10 November 2009: I'm guessing that 3-days after he asked you out on a date he was still single? Meaning that you two hadn't even gone out on your first date yet? Ummm...no, this is something that is definitely not worth bringing up, he wasn't your boyfriend at the ... (read in full...)
What other rational explanation is there other than cheating???
Q. Hi Aunts, I have just discovered that my husband has had a 'relationship' with a co-worker. I found out from phone bills, texting and calls. He swears that it was not physical but I also know that he bought her some jewellery (a heart pendant)...
A. 10 November 2009: Follow your heart, because like you said, you know in your heart that it's BS. What man buys jewelry for someone he's NOT romantically involved with besides for maybe his mother, sister, or grandmother? I know I've certainly never had a man who ... (read in full...)
How can I find out whether we are actually a couple without scaring him away?
Q. Hi, I've known T since beginning of Sep. He first asked me out on a group date beginning of Oct, and since then our dates become more and more frequent. He invited me to his company's dinner and dance as his plus one where he kissed me. Since then, ...
A. 10 November 2009: If he likes you, you can't scare him away. Just ask him! Say, "Hey, T. We've been spending a lot time together, and just so I know that we're on the same page, are we exclusive?" Not every guy asks you to be his girlfriend, some think it's ... (read in full...)
My bossy boss!
Q. I have a boss that is very emotionally abusive towards me. I can never do anything right it seems no matter what. I have talked to her only once about it but it still occurs. I do my absolute best to please her but its not enough. The worst is she ...
A. 10 November 2009: If you've already confronted her yourself and things haven't changed then all you can do is go over her head. She's creating a hostile work environment for you--and that's not good. Nobody likes a boss that micromanages and makes you feel like ... (read in full...)
How to steal my ex back from rebound?
Q. My ex and I still talk frequently (almost every day, or more). How do I steal her back from her rebound boyfriend? ...
A. 9 November 2009: Eh, you just want her back cause you can't have her. So, you know that the relationship probably isn't going to work out in the future. But you pretty much have to follow what anonymous said, the more you act like you don't care, the more she'll ... (read in full...)
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