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writes:Okay, so around october I started dating this new guy that I'm dating now. Last thursday I turned 18. In my mind I thought this would change things a little bit. So I asked my mom if I could help my boyfriend move into his moms house. My mom said no because she didn't know his mom and she didn't know what the supervision would be like. I don't know how to let my mom know that she can trust me because I'm a responsible and mature girl, I know what's appropriate and what isn't. I just want her to trust me. I know that she's a mom and that's just in her nature. But I also want her to know that she doesn't have to jump to some conclusion where just because someone's not around to watch us means we're going to have sex. I don't know how to get my point across to her! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2009): well you see 18 means you are subject to the adult world without any leniency it does not mean you are able to handle things only that if you screw up you have to be ready to handle it alone. You are to be subjected to the world and you are suppose to get things shraight by 21, 18 is just the age you have to really be ready to do things on your own.
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reader, Emaz help  +, writes (16 November 2009):
 I went through this sort of thing but i was much younger, me and my mum used to fall out everyday over it and i realise that i should of talked to her about it and reassured her more. She doesn't really care what i do now when it comes to boys because she trusts me so im guessing that after a while your mum will be like mine and she will become less worried, it may just be all new to her and of course you're still her 'little girl' however old you are
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reader, Full moon temptress1 +, writes (16 November 2009):
My mom told me she started to really worry about me when i turned 18.This was because at 18 she is not legually responsible for me and has no real say how i live my life.She may feel she is losing you so wants to tighten her grip on you.As caring guy says sit down and talk to her as an adult and say you understands how she feels,but you need to make your own decsions,otherwise you will never learn.Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2009): Speaking as a mum. When you hit 18 we don't just flick a switch and youre an adult in our heads. It takes a little time for things to adjust for both of you into the next stage of life with you as a grown up. Talk to her, try not to go behind her back because that isn't going to help with her trusting you.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 November 2009):
Your mum is having trouble accepting that you're growing up. Not many parents like the thought of their children having boyfriends and girlfriends while they still think they're children. But you are now an adult, so you can choose whether to have a boyfriend or not, and you shouldn't have to be watched all the time. I think you need to sit down with her again and tell her that you lover her very much, and you do appreciate that she cares and that she's looking out for you. but you also need to say that you are an adult, and you need to be able to make your own choices in life, because if you don't, you'll only end up being forced to lie and hide everything from her. You need to be able to trust her, not have her watching over you.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (16 November 2009):
You're 18...you're an adult. So technically you don't have to ask your mom if you can go somewhere. But, if you're living under her roof, then I'm sure she has certain rules that you need to abide by. So you need to talk to you mom about you being an adult and that you would appreciate it if you were able to "cut the cord" a bit. She's worried about you and is having trouble letting go and she just wants what's best for you. But it's a bit excessive when she's concerned over the supervision of an adult woman. You may not be able to get the point across to her, but the great thing about being an adult, is you can also move out :)
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