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writes:When I discovered that my boyfriend was cheating on me, I became a bitch and decided to talk to guys he prohibited me to talk to. It made him even angrier when I told him I don't care anymore if he leaves me for the other girl, I said I was fine with it and I am letting him go. Then he started sending me sweet messages intended for the other girl. I freaked out and asked him why and he told me he did it to see how I react. He said there is no way he had missent, while he saw her..he always knew what numbers to punch and never he had one mistake.Fast forward several months later. My boyfriend is now my ex. After I left him, he broke up with the other girl. He is now alone.At first we were bitter to each other but later on we decided just to forget the past and move on with our lives separately. But the thing is, he still sends me messages from time to time asking me how I am. I don't know what happened with him, I thought he wanted to move on without me. But because I told him that I don't have hard feelings over what happened before, I maintained a civil relationship with him. I reply to his messages but I don't meet him up.One time, he sent me a message out of the blue at midnight to tell me how sorry he was that he hurt me before and that he is devastated that he didn't end up with the other girl. I don't know why he had poured out his frustration about the other girl but I replied to him with.."you will be alright. don't worry"Our communication went on for a while with him always starting the contact. Then the last time, I decided not to reply to him. He sent me 3 more messages asking where I am and why I am not replying to him. He tried to call me but I missed the call. I was about to reply when I received another message this time addressed to the other girl and not to me. It was a sweet message again as if nothing happened.Can anyone help me what this guy is trying to do? I want to know if he is worth the friendship he wants me to give him. Do you think he lied to me all this time or he is just doing this again to get my attention?Help pls....
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reader, MISSYT  +, writes (12 November 2009):
Ahh ive been in this situation. Basically he's leaning on you when he needs you but he is neglecting to see how u feel in all of this. He's trying to hurt you and keep in touch with you so that you can't move on. Its the good old case of having his cake and eating it too. He only wants to talk to you when he has no one else. The best thing for you to do would be cut all contact with him, may it be changing ur phone number or whatever. Its obvious with him in your life tere is no way for you to move on and thats just not right. My ex did the same to me but evntually I have cut all ties with him and I am with someone very special. And i am more than happy. Hope Ive helped you'll find the strength to do whats right....
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (12 November 2009):
He's trying to manipulate you and make you jealous. He's probably doing both: lying and trying to get your attention (he's a cheater so of course he's a liar). He probably wants you back because he's lonely and an idiot--then he "accidentally" sends you a message that's supposed to be for her. My ex cheated on me and he would "accidentally" call my phone all the time (which never happened while we were together) but not say anything but it sounded like he was somewhere just to try to get my attention since I basically told him to F-off and wouldn't talk to him. He wants more than a friendship probably, but don't give him one. His erratic behavior will probably still continue and he'll probably still have that other girl on the side. He has issues and you deserve better.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (12 November 2009):
He cheated on you, it didn't work out so now he's trying to worm his way back into your life. Forget him, seriously. He doens't care about you and to be honest he sounds like an ass. What kind of guy treats a woman this way. Personally, I'd end all contact with him.
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