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I've gone through quite a few relationships! Some were great and some were down right terrible!
I really enjoy trying to help people get through relationship woes. Sometimes they can be life consuming and everyone can use a little help from time-to-time.
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I need some flirting tips so I can get him running around after me!
Q. i really like this boy, but the problem is that the other month i rejected him because i have some family issues and a boyfriend was the last of issues, but i let him down really badly. i want some tip on how to get talking to him again, so ...
A. 10 December 2009: Sometimes we may get the wrong end of things like you say, because we're reading a posted questions that YOU wrote. So it's not everyone else, it's how you asked the question. If you were more detailed about your question instead of writing two ... (read in full...)
I hate my life
Q. pleasee hellppppppp me..im an 18 year old male that hates his life and everything in it..i think i am veryy uglyy. fat people tell me im ugly all the time and when they do it brakes my heart because i should be used to it by now. i was always t...
A. 10 December 2009: My guess is the people that you're hanging out with. Maybe you need some new friends? I know you're going to ask how you make new friends, but sometimes it takes time. School and work are always the best ways. I'm sure you have at least 1 really ... (read in full...)
Nothing will make this guy stop!
Q. I have a problem this guy won't go away. What started out whatseemed like a crush has progressed to begging for one date. I have told him no I'm not interested . I'm in love with someone elae . I ignore his texts and phone calls I'm rude to him. But ...
A. 10 December 2009: Keep ignoring his phone calls and he will stop eventually or change your number.... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to pursue a girl who likes me because of what my friend says
Q. So I'm talking to this girl who likes me, and I really like her. Its been almost a week, and things are going great but my best friend is getting in the way sorta now. He just found out today that we are talking and the first thing he said was "don...
A. 10 December 2009: Your friend is probably just trying to look out for you so you don't get hurt. He may be right or he might be wrong. Either way, if you like her and want her to be your girlfriend in the future, you might have to step up your game. Just because ... (read in full...)
I am cheating but instead of making me happy, it makes me cry
Q. whenever my boyfriend and I have sex i never come unless he goes down on me, but lately Ive been crying after sex, Im also seeing some1 else and after sleeping with him I also started crying and I didnt even come, I laugh and cry alot its wiered and ...
A. 10 December 2009: Oh my God. You came here for sympathy, not for advice. Nobody sympathizes with a cheater, get a grip. No one is wrong, it is what it is. You cheat on your boyfriend and you whine and cry about it. Fix the problem: either quit cheating or quit ... (read in full...)
He wants to break up with me over my labia hanging looser!
Q. I'm in dire need of explaining to my boyfriend that I am not cheating on him. He says that when we have sex that sometimes my labia hangs and is more loose than other times. Is that normal? I don't know why it is that way sometimes, and I am so ...
A. 10 December 2009: It sounds to me that he's using that as an excuse to break up with you. He may want to break up with you for other reasons, instead he would rather turn it around on you that you're suddenly cheating on him while also making you feel insecure ... (read in full...)
I am cheating but instead of making me happy, it makes me cry
Q. whenever my boyfriend and I have sex i never come unless he goes down on me, but lately Ive been crying after sex, Im also seeing some1 else and after sleeping with him I also started crying and I didnt even come, I laugh and cry alot its wiered and ...
A. 9 December 2009: Maybe you should quit cheating and get a psych evaulation.... (read in full...)
Its only been 4 days but can she be pregnant?
Q. my girlfriend and i had sex the other day without a condom and she was on the pill but didnt take it 2 days b4 this happend and didnt take a morning after pill, now she says her stomach aches but its only been 4 days can anyone help ...
A. 9 December 2009: Nausea from pregnancy doesn't feel like a stomachache. And no, she wouldn't have morning sickness yet. I'm not going to lecture you, but if she's not responsible enough with her pill taking, it's up to you to be responsible with condoms.... (read in full...)
These are the things I bought for my BFs family for Christmas. Do you think Santa will bring me lots of goodies?
Q. what's you christmas shopping list this year ? finally finished all my christmas shopping... the follow list contains waht i got for the others as presents:, bf's dad: a wine shelf (together with my boyfriend.... we are poor students bf's step...
A. 9 December 2009: I hope by a miracle, for Christmas all my debt will magically be paid off so that next year I can buy everyone nice Christmas presents! And a job: been laid off for 6-months! I'm asking for the impossible from Santa, but one can dream, right?... (read in full...)
My 38 year old GF is smothering me and wants kids ASAP and I am not ready
Q. I 34.5 and my girlfriend is 38.5. We've been dating for almost 3 months and knew each other as friends for 2 months before that. I care for her very much, but feel as if I'm constantly being pressured to move quicker than I am comfortable with ...
A. 9 December 2009: If you don't think you know what you want or that you're not going to anytime soon, then you probably should end the relationship with her. She doesn't want to waste months and years on something that will never happen because her biological clock ... (read in full...)
I think I'm depressed, please help?
Q. I am depressed. I have seven of the nine symptoms I found on a list about depression. I have a lot of relationship problems that aren't going to be fixed for a long time. I also have very little extra money and no health insurance. Wher...
A. 9 December 2009: You cant always try looking into the Department of Mental Health for your county or city.
St. John's Wort is an herbal remedy sold at drug stores that's supposed to help with things like depression. You can look into that since you can't ge... (read in full...)
Why do people hate virgins so much?
Q. Why do people hate virgins so much? What did we ever do to be treated the way we are? It just isn't right.I never criticize my friends decision to have sex,so why cant they just respect my choices.It's not as if I'm some kind of saint constantly ...
A. 9 December 2009: I don't believe anyone hates virgins, I think you're being a bit dramatic. I think guys may be a little harder on one another about the matter, but they don't hate you, they're just giving you a hard time. The more you show you care or that it ... (read in full...)
HIV & oral sex
Q. I need advice from only men an women that know! My girl friend is hiv + ! I am not! I so much want to please her orally ! What are the risk to me if I do an often! Also right now her hiv is undetecable! I need to know if it is being done by other an ...
A. 9 December 2009: If you give her oral there is a possibility of contracting HIV if you have any sort of cut or wound in your mouth. Any sort of transmission of bodily fluids that can possibily get into your bloodstream puts you at risk.
http:... (read in full...)
Alot of sex sometimes without condom equals pregnancy?
Q. My boyfriend and i used the pull out method ,but one night we did it several times, and after he pulled out i would give him a hand job then an hour or less later we did it again. I am not really sure how long its been since that night and we have ...
A. 9 December 2009: Of course you can be. ... (read in full...)
Calling all males, can you tell if a girl likes you?
Q. Right. Simple question, more complicated answers I guess. I've read lots of times on here before that men and all males in general are rubbish at noticing signs that a girl likes them. Apparently they have no clue until they're told. I know girls te...
A. 8 December 2009: I think this is a good question! I'm interested to see more responses. I often wonder whether some guys are really that oblivious or if they're just not interested.... (read in full...)
Should you live together before you get married?
Q. is it good for fiance and finacee to be living together before they get married....
A. 8 December 2009: I think if you're engaged, it's a good idea. I agree that it varies from person to person, and a lot of it has to do with each person's experience.
For me, I would never live with a boyfriend again. I feel it becomes a "why buy the cow when you... (read in full...)
Penis problem!
Q. Hey guys i have a question. So im a 15 year old boy and i was wondering if you could help me. Under the head of my penis there are like tiny little bubbles that sometimes puss out white stuff. I was wondering if any of you know what it is? I'm ...
A. 8 December 2009: Hmm...are you taking any kind of antibiotics or have diabetes? Have you played around with any kind of condoms? You could have a yeast infection...either way, you should really go see a doctor and have it checked out.... (read in full...)
My best friend confessed his feelings, but I'm married.
Q. I have been married for four months and I just found out the my best friend who is a guy have strong feelings for me. I once felt the same way the problem is once he told me that all my feelings started to come back. I feel lost cuz I love my ...
A. 8 December 2009: Seriously, stick with your husband. You two are newlyweds and you love him, right? Listen, I'm sure this best friend of yours had years to tell you that he has feelings for you, yet he waits until you're married?! What kind of person does that? ... (read in full...)
Can anything be done for my boyfriend who doesn't last very long in bed?
Q. I've been dating my guy for a few months. We've had sex 6 times, and each time he "finishes " after less than a minute. Until me he hadn't had sex for 4 years, and is 36 years old. How long is normal for this to happen after such a long period of ...
A. 8 December 2009: I don't think that you should be afraid to tell him. If he's your boyfriend and he cares about you, he should want to satisfied you in bed sexually. Of course you want to tell him tactfully that way you don't embarrass him or hurt his feelings. ... (read in full...)
I need some flirting tips so I can get him running around after me!
Q. i really like this boy, but the problem is that the other month i rejected him because i have some family issues and a boyfriend was the last of issues, but i let him down really badly. i want some tip on how to get talking to him again, so ...
A. 8 December 2009: Essentially, you hurt this guy and now you want to play games with him? That's still not very nice. Just be sure that you really are interested in him and not just wanting him to chase you around because he lost interest and now you want his ... (read in full...)
I dreamed of a boy I no longer have a crush on. What does it mean?
Q. What does this dream mean? It starts out Dylan(the guy I used to crush on who's a year older than me) was in my house and I was in the backyard walking to school. I see him and decide sinse my parents aren't home I will just skip school and hang...
A. 8 December 2009: I think a website that caters to what you're asking will probably give you a better answer.
Just because you had a dream about him, it doesn't necessarily mean anything. We all have dreams about people, past and present. I've had sexual d... (read in full...)
I haven't heard from my boyfriend in almost 2 weeks...
Q. I havent talked to my boyfriend in almost 2 weeks. I messaged him on facebook and asked him what's going on and he messaged me back last night and said "you told me to f*** off, so I did." I dont remember ever saying that to him, and it doesnt m...
A. 8 December 2009: He probably will talk to you later, but it will probably be a while. As in, a few days, a week, maybe a few weeks?
I don't understand was soon567 is even talking about, from what I understand you didn't tell him to fuck off right? He kind of ... (read in full...)
I like him so why is he ignoring me?
Q. Hey, okay, so recently, this guy I really like has lost a friend and been ignoring me. His friend died and he's acting fine with everyone else. He's acting like his same goofy self...except with me. Like a few days ago I said "hi" to him and he just ...
A. 8 December 2009: We don't know why he ignores you, we're not him and don't know what's going on in his mind. You can ask him why he's suddenly ignoring you and only you, or you can ignore him back.... (read in full...)
How do I tell my mom that I want to stay at my bf's place?
Q. I come from a strict European background and up until recently I haven't dated much. I'm 23 and still live at home (I support my parents financially). I don't talk to my mom about guys or anything like that...she's never talked to me about it ...
A. 8 December 2009: Well you can just tell her and have tension. Or you can tell a white lie. My parents aren't strict at all, but even when I did live with them, my boyfriend of a couple years that they had met many times would ask me to stay at his place. My ... (read in full...)
Is birth control really necessary?
Q. Is birth control really necessary??? I mean hell i dont want to be a babies daddy just yet but i have condoms and we have been together for more than 2 years. I feel like she is just avoiding having sex.. no we havent had sex yet either...
A. 8 December 2009: For many women, yes. Condoms aren't as effective, they could slip off, or get a tear. So what if your girlfriend is coming up with excuses? If she doesn't want to have sex with you, then she doesn't want to. Two years is quite a while though, ... (read in full...)
How do I prevent these sounds?
Q. I dated this guy for 2 years and we just recently broke up, i had sex with this other guy and we did it doggy-style (my favorite).. everything was great during it but afterwards i queef.. and its really embarissing.. i dont queef durig it. is there ...
A. 8 December 2009: Try to keep your back level. Like don't stick your butt up so high with your lower body down. Or you can try just lying on your stomach right when you two are done instead of being upright, that way the air can come out without making that ... (read in full...)
What is causing my drug addiction?
Q. Hi! I'm a 23 years old, and very panicked at the moment. I'm addicted to drugs,mainly meth and crack. It started with smoking pot a lot when I was 13. I dropped out from school ,etc. My parents are nice people, they are not doing any drugs ,very ...
A. 8 December 2009: An intense addiction is caused by the drug itself. It causes the brain to believe that basically death with insue if the drug is not used.
You don't have to have a bad or horrible background to be an addict of any sort. I've known several ... (read in full...)
How can I lose weight for my wedding in March?
Q. Hello ! I was wondering if someone could get me a 11 days meal plan on calorie switching diet.I tried to go on the net ,but they just want to sell it. So I need to lose weight for my wedding in march. I appreciate any help. ...
A. 7 December 2009: I don't know what calorie switching is. But what works for just about every human being on this planet is to eat less and work out more.
I try to eat half or even a quarter of what I would normally eat that I know would usually make me stuffed.... (read in full...)
Trouble breaking up... I want to text him back but shouldn't...
Q. Hi all, I hope someone can help me with this. Again its another break up question. Me and my bf have dated for about 4 years now off and on. We split up for a year and both had relationships however, soon after they both ended we got back togethe...
A. 7 December 2009: I think you should text him telling him that you need to move on. Even if he is acting stupid, you don't leave someone hanging. Do the mature thing and tell him it's over.... (read in full...)
He came back to me but now I don't trust him at all!
Q. I am having trust issues with my fiance. We first got engaged just over a year ago. In july of this year he ended it providing no reason at all. During our time apart we continued to see each other. He also began to sleep with other girls (3 that i ...
A. 7 December 2009: I don't think it's necessarily "trust issues." When I hear that, it makes me think of someone who doesn't trust someone for whatever reasons they may have, even though the other person hasn't given them any reason to not trust them. Your ... (read in full...)
Just found out my boyfriend called my ugly and a dog to his friends after sleeping with me...
Q. I recently started dating my best friend. We have been together a couple months, I know it was wrong of me but i went on his facebook and I found a conversation between him and someone. My best friend and I slept together a couple times a few years ...
A. 7 December 2009: It's kind of funny (not your situation necessarily) but I recently answered a question about a girl who was upset because her bf changed passwords on her so she couldn't log on to his Facebook etc. anymore. And this is specifically one of the ... (read in full...)
I want to date my dad's girlfriend's son, gosh, he's wow!
Q. my dad is dating a new girl and we went out for my birthday and i met her son who is the same age as me. i really like him and he likes me but our parents said if we were to like each other they would split witch i don't want to happen but gosh hes ...
A. 7 December 2009: Probably not. Why ruin your father's relationship? That's a bit selfish. Your dad's relationship has potential for working out to where this lady may one day be your stepmother, while you and this boy's relationship won't last and he may wind up ... (read in full...)
His mother introduces me as his 'acquaintance' (after 2 year together!) and speaks Albanian around me! Should I end it?
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for over 2 years and last thanksgiving (11/26/09) my boyfriend's mom introduced me to her friends (who btw already knew me from previous meetings) as Ervin's aquaintence from school. 1) I'm his girlfriend, ...
A. 7 December 2009: It's a different culture, and in those cultures, the parents typically want their children to be with someone from the same culture. If you're not, then they don't have much respect for you.
No, the relationship won't get any better. Your mot... (read in full...)
Should I try talking to him or just give it up? We haven't talked in weeks.
Q. Let me know if I am wrong here seriously. This guy I were friends with for many years. He had a girlfriend. She hated me cause we were friends. NOTHING happened!! This girl moved in. He swore to me he did not ask her-that she just brought her stu...
A. 7 December 2009: It sounds like this guy is BSing both you and his friends. I also doubt that she just brought her stuff and started moving in. No person that wasn't ready or wasn't comfortable with someone moving in would tell them and not let them move in. I ... (read in full...)
I haven't heard from my boyfriend in almost 2 weeks...
Q. I havent talked to my boyfriend in almost 2 weeks. I messaged him on facebook and asked him what's going on and he messaged me back last night and said "you told me to f*** off, so I did." I dont remember ever saying that to him, and it doesnt m...
A. 7 December 2009: Okay, well he's being way weird and irrational. I doubt he fell asleep and didn't show up. Something is going on. It could have to do with his mom being in the hospital, but who knows? I think what you wrote him is fine and he'll probably ... (read in full...)
I haven't heard from my boyfriend in almost 2 weeks...
Q. I havent talked to my boyfriend in almost 2 weeks. I messaged him on facebook and asked him what's going on and he messaged me back last night and said "you told me to f*** off, so I did." I dont remember ever saying that to him, and it doesnt m...
A. 6 December 2009: Why would you tell him that you understand if he doesn't want to talk to you again? Did you not give us the entire story? Because it sounds to me like nothing happened besides him flaking out. Did you two get into a fight or disagreement and he's ... (read in full...)
Do wonderful relationships just "happen" or do they take work
Q. Just curious on what your take is on this, because I've heard two different camps. A lot of people on this site say relationships take work and you need to work at it to keep it in good order; then there are other people who say that when you're in ...
A. 6 December 2009: It's really a matter of both. There's a very fine line between a relationship being easy and being too hard. The reason why a relationshp can be too hard or take too much work is when two people come together; however, they lack the correct ... (read in full...)
How do I block porn sites on my computer?
Q. Hello, I have been trying to block porn websites from my computer and I followed it tells me to do : open Internet explorer tools Internet options click on security tab restricted site sites add the porn site which you want to block...
A. 6 December 2009: Try download.com. It's safe and they have many options you can try, I'm sure something like that would be on there.... (read in full...)
My life is boring and I get jealous of other peoples lives!
Q. I'm 15 and my life is so boring i don't get to go out much because i don't know anyone so i stay at home all the time. I have one friend but he's boring as a stick he's the type of good person i wanna go out with but he doesn't like to do anything i ...
A. 6 December 2009: I would say to quit worrying about the 9-year old. I question why her parents let her have a cell phone and text friends? That is way over-the-top...but anyway. I think you should try going out with your cousins. You can meet some of their ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is a bar star! What do I do?
Q. My boyfriend is a barstar and I need some advice Im not a fan of his behavious and dont know what to do. We have been dating for almost 4 months. He goes out almost every weekend to the bar and almost always gets drunk, passes out at home and wake...
A. 6 December 2009: So what if he's 25 and still does it? I'm 25 and still do it! Lol. Anyway, he's more of a partier than you want. So you can try joining him more often, tell him that you'd prefer it if he didn't go out to the bars so much, go out with your ... (read in full...)
Why do girls stay with the bad guys?
Q. Why do girls always stay with guys that they either dont like or are mean to them? I liked this one girl a few years back and i wanted to be with her but she had a boyfriend, and she would tell me that she kinda liked me and could see something bu...
A. 6 December 2009: The first reason is like what CaringGuy mentioned, which is that a lot of women think that they can change a man. They like the idea of being able to make this unappreciative guy see what he has in front of him and make him appreciate what he has ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is put off by my orgasm
Q. Some time ago my girlfriend (of a couple years) and I were making out on the couch. For the first time she put her hands down my pants and started giving me a hand job. I must say that it felt really good. In fact, perhaps too good because I ...
A. 6 December 2009: I agree, she's a bit sexually immature if you ejaculating grosses her out. You can talk to her about it, but you're just about always going to ejaculate when you two do anything sexual, so what does she do or expect? So talk to her about it or ... (read in full...)
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