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I've gone through quite a few relationships! Some were great and some were down right terrible!
I really enjoy trying to help people get through relationship woes. Sometimes they can be life consuming and everyone can use a little help from time-to-time.
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My girlfriend is put off by my orgasm
Q. Some time ago my girlfriend (of a couple years) and I were making out on the couch. For the first time she put her hands down my pants and started giving me a hand job. I must say that it felt really good. In fact, perhaps too good because I ...
A. 6 December 2009: I agree, she's a bit sexually immature if you ejaculating grosses her out. You can talk to her about it, but you're just about always going to ejaculate when you two do anything sexual, so what does she do or expect? So talk to her about it or ... (read in full...)
I havent heard from him for two weeks, and am thinking he has forgotten me
Q. My male friend, I have deep feelings for is enlisted in the USAF and one month ago he told me he was getting deployed and couldn't reveal the location. He told me to contacted him on Facebook and his email account. We have been Long Distance since ...
A. 6 December 2009: Uhhh...if he's out of the country in the military, he might be a little busy. I think you're being a little irrational and worrying over nothing with this. I don't know what's up with going to this undisclosed location, anyone I know that's in the ... (read in full...)
I'm doing all the chasing, but can't quite catch him!
Q. ok so i met this guy about a month ago at a college bar. i was dancing with my friends and he caught my attention as he was dancing with his friends so i popped a piece of gum in my mouth and approached him we started talking/dancing for about 10 ...
A. 5 December 2009: Eh, I'm not a guy but you can always give it a try. What do you have to lose? When you decide to go just let him know and if he responds, he responds. If he doesn't respond then that's over with, you can delete his number, and not bother with him ... (read in full...)
He wont talk so I don't know where I stand
Q. Hello, I've been dating a guy for the last 4 months, and within the last month or so he's been mentioning how he'd like to see me more often (we usually see each other once or twice a week). Last week after we went out I msged him when I got home...
A. 5 December 2009: Oh wow. This really is not complicated. I know that it's different when you're in the situation, but this is really quite obvious.
He seems pretty nervous about making it "official" and I'm almost certain that he didn't bring it up when you two ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a yoyo, here, gone, here, gone, will he be back?
Q. Hey everyone. Well basically, I was with my boyfriend for over 8 months... my first proper relationship. He dumped me on Thursday, saying that 'he didn't want the commitment of a girlfriend right now.' Yep, I know what you're thinking, anot...
A. 5 December 2009: We probably know about as well as you do if he comes back or not. You don't sound like a stupid girl, so why do you even care if he'll come back? First off, yes, he probably will. Douchey behavior is usually repeated by a douchebag. However, ... (read in full...)
My girlfirend admitted to cheating and I don't know what to do.
Q. My girlfriend Cheated on me and i seeing the circumstances I don't know if I should take her back. We are both in love and have talked about getting married and had some details planned out. we talked about our kids and how we would want to raise th...
A. 5 December 2009: The last thing she remembers is catching up with him? Hahaha. Yeah, she's lying. The blackout is an excuse of "I didn't know what I was doing" deal. She remembered talking to him then all of a sudden she went blank when they hooked up? How ... (read in full...)
How do I stop seeing my ex when my feelings for him won't die?
Q. I broke up with my ex boyfriend because he was a cheater and my family did not approve of him because of what he was doing. So I jumped into a relationship to get over him but I was never over him. I have been with my current boyfriend going on ...
A. 5 December 2009: The feelings won't die because you won't let them. I can't say it enough times, you don't get over someone if you still see them or talk to them. Quit thinking with your emotions and feelings and think rationally! If he's not good for you, then ... (read in full...)
I need to move on even though I love him. Any suggestions?
Q. I just cannot move on....Got dumped 4 months ago but he still calls me nearly daily and we see each other so its like it always was but without the sex! Then I get confusing signals like he still cares and if pushed he reminds me we're just friends ...
A. 5 December 2009: Here's your problem: you still talk to him regularly. You can only get over someone if you don't speak to them or see them. Either tell him that if you two are no longer together than it's best to go your separate ways and not even a friendship ... (read in full...)
My girlfirend admitted to cheating and I don't know what to do.
Q. My girlfriend Cheated on me and i seeing the circumstances I don't know if I should take her back. We are both in love and have talked about getting married and had some details planned out. we talked about our kids and how we would want to raise th...
A. 5 December 2009: Yeah right she doesn't remember. I know many girls who pull the "I blacked out" excuse and it's complete BS! One of my good friends does this, I believe her to an extent, on the other hand a person with this type of behavior is exhibiting a lack ... (read in full...)
I laughed at the wrong moment, now my family are grumpy with me
Q. My family is mad at my fiance and I for laughing at a really inappropriate time and I just want to know if people on here think that they are over-reacting or if we really were being that bad. This might be hard to understand but I'll explain it ...
A. 5 December 2009: It's kind of funny, but not that funny. You probably should apologize. I don't think they should really be THAT mad over you laughing over it...it is kind of funny, but not as funny as you made it out to be, so they may be a little overlysensitive ... (read in full...)
He spends more time with his male friends than he does with me!
Q. Is it normal for your boyfriend to hang out with his friends 3 times a week after work without you? I know guys need time out with the boys alone sometimes but is 3 times a week to much? He only see's me twice a week on his days off. Thanks for any ...
A. 5 December 2009: You asked this last night...... (read in full...)
He is engaged, but wants to be with me. My friend saw him looking at engagement rings, and now he says he has something to tell me!
Q. Gaaaaaaaaah! I'm going quite mad here, so someone PLEAASE help before I go do a Britney! Right then, the basics; I'm twenty six (ignore the age bracket, I clicked the wrong thing when I signed up, how clever am I??) and I'm an archaeologist, w...
A. 5 December 2009: I think it's okay to hear him out on whatever he has to say, but I think any sort of relationship between you two can only happen AFTER he has left the fiance he supposidly doesn't love or want to marry. I agree, don't allow yourself to be his ... (read in full...)
How much do I have the right to ask and know about his exes?
Q. Hi all. Ok, i know that it is very individual and unique to a person and to a couple, but how important/necessary is it to know details about a partners exes? So, what are common things to know (or me to ask about?). What questions should...
A. 4 December 2009: You don't ask. It's his past and it is nothing you should compare yourself to. All you should find out is if he's clean or not.... (read in full...)
At what age can a girl get pregnant?
Q. Hi to all, help me I have a serious question, what age can a girl or woman get pregnant? I want to know please help!..,....
A. 4 December 2009: Anytime she ovulates (which can be right before she gets her first period) which could be as young as 5 or 6 on very rare occasions...... (read in full...)
My mother has banned my boyfriend from visiting because we don't use birth control
Q. Ok so I have been dating my bf for 3 yrs now, since we were both 16. When my mom seen our relationship was getting serious she took me to get birth control pills. The first 2 months I was on them I got really sick and my doctor said I need lower do...
A. 4 December 2009: You're lucky that your mom lets your boyfriend come over PERIOD knowing that you two have sex. It is very disrespectful to have sex in the first place in your parents home. Your mom just doesn't want you getting knocked up under her roof. If ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't trust me with his internet passwords
Q. Okay, if this is weird or I'm being irrational, please let me know. My boyfriend and I have been dating each other for four years and have been living together for roughly 3 1/2 years. (Yes, we took things a little fast, but it worked out.) We ...
A. 3 December 2009: Yes, I think you're being a little irrational about it. I was on the opposite end of this once with a boyfriend I lived with. He would just give me his passwords to look up stuff for him, but I would never randomly check up on any of his stuff ... (read in full...)
Should I go against her advice and buy her a Christmas gift?
Q. Ive been "seeing" this girl for a couple weeks now, we hang out a lot, sleep over, bring each other food to work etc.., basically we get along very well and she has told me she likes me, but she is in the middle of a divorce and told me she dosent ...
A. 3 December 2009: Okay, I've been guilty of this. I only would say it because I didn't want the guy to feel pressured, but at the same time I was secretly hoping that he would get me something anyway. Of course don't spend a lot of money on a gift, maybe her ... (read in full...)
I was perfectly happy with the new guy before my ex came back..now I'm questioning everything?
Q. I am torn between two men. One is my ex, who broke up with me a month ago. We were together for 3 years, and he was deployed for the last year. He evaluated our relationship while over there are decided to end it prior to coming home. He said he ...
A. 3 December 2009: Definitely stick with the new guy. It sounds like you already know he's what's best for you and treats you right. Your new boyfriend probably feels like he made a mistake because he's alone and it's around the holidays. He won't be able to offer ... (read in full...)
How do we meet other couples?
Q. how can me and my boyfriend meet other couples to go out with and things? Im at college, hes at uni. VERY few/none of our already existing close friends have partners, any ideas? x...
A. 3 December 2009: Make new friends. I'm not saying drop your current friends but if you want to go out as couples, then it's really just the luck of the draw. Usually, I have always had friends that are in relationships that I met through work. So if you have a ... (read in full...)
Is flirting considered cheating?
Q. If your in a relationship, and you flirt with someone else would you consider that to be cheating? I haven't done this, i'm just curious to what people think......
A. 3 December 2009: It depends on the person. Some would consider that cheating, while I think most wouldn't as long as you don't cross a line. ... (read in full...)
How to say "you're ok but I don't fancy you?
Q. Hi Everybody, Apparently a woman I have recently met through a female friend "likes me". Although I don't know how much, she is the same age as me (46). I have spoken to her a couple of times and she seems OK and looks like she likes a laugh an...
A. 2 December 2009: Well it depends on how much you talk to one another. Do you two have daily conversations or is it just sporatically? I think if she just has a "crush" on you, then you're not really obligated to tell her anything. It's not like you two have been ... (read in full...)
He's cheated on me 8 times. Will he grow out of it?
Q. My boyfriend is extremely attractive, like the hottest boy I have ever laid eyes on in my life. He's got the tightest body made of solid muscle and the cutest face and he is sooooooooo much the best sex I have ever had a million times over. The only ...
A. 2 December 2009: I'm sorry, but I when I saw the title of this I laughed and had to read it. I can't believe you are hoping someone who is a serial cheater will just "grow out of it" simply because you don't think you can do any better!
"I can't bring myself t... (read in full...)
His girlfriends says I have to stop texting him
Q. So I have this guy friend who I'm pretty close with and we always find ourselves texting each other hours at a time. The problem is his girlfriend texted me last week not asking me but telling me that I'm not allowed to text him... at all. Is s...
A. 2 December 2009: In my opinion, even if the texts are harmless--he's taken. So you really should back off. But it really should have been him to tell you that the contact needs to stop or he should have just cut off contact with you. Of course his gf could have ... (read in full...)
My b/f sends me poetry, but he doesn't write it himself!
Q. Every so often, in an e-mail my bf will send me a poem. Call me a skeptic or whatever, but I usually google the first few lines to see if this was original or if he copied it from somewhere else. Most of the time, they're copied from somewhere e...
A. 2 December 2009: Okay, if he claims it's his--then yes, I'd have a problem too. Send him a poem back:
Roses are red
Violets are blue
You must think I'm stupid
But I'm onto you
Just a suggestion. BUT, I agree with oldersister...sending him so... (read in full...)
Is masturbating a bad thing?
Q. is masterbating a bad thing? im a 15 year old guy and i dont know if its a health issue if i masterbate a lot?...
A. 2 December 2009: Yes, you'll go blind and get hairy palms. Not really. No, masturbating is not a bad thing--everyone does it.... (read in full...)
My OBGYN tells me to dump abusive boyfriend, should I?
Q. Help! My boyfriend says that my vagina does not feel teh same as it did when we began having sex 9 months ago. He refers to it as being loose and accuses me of cheating on him. I have tried kegels (excessively and obsessively) and have been ...
A. 2 December 2009: I also suggest you dump him. Of course nothing is working, cause you're not loose! Suggest to him that maybe his penis is shrinking, the jerk!... (read in full...)
I have hpv, do I talk to my partner about it? I think I got it from him!
Q. I went to tha gyn a few months ago and found out i have hpv. I have only had three partnersz since i been sexually active but only two that i was serious with. I didnt have any symptoms before, but i think my current partner gave it to me. Now im ...
A. 2 December 2009: HELLO!!!! Sorry for being so blunt, but yes! You know you have HPV and you need to tell your partner and any future partners. You don't always have symptoms when you get HPV, so you could have gotten it from someone else in the past. Regardless ... (read in full...)
Is she overweight, and how do I handle this?
Q. Okay, well my niece is 12 years old and keeps asking me if she is overweight. I tell her that it is going to be alright and she isn't. She is about 120 lbs and hasn't had her period yet. Is she overweight? I don't know because when I was 12 I ...
A. 1 December 2009: We have no idea if she's overweight because you didn't give us her height. Just because she hasn't started her period yet doesn't mean anything is wrong with her. There are many girls that don't start their's until they're a few years older.... (read in full...)
NYC or Los Angeles?
Q. Hi I wonder if any of you can help me out here. I am planning a travel with my gf (who lives in Spain) and I would like some advice...we are intending to go to the USA next summer and would like to know what is a better City. New York City or Los ...
A. 1 December 2009: Oh also, as far as going to the Mexican border if you choose to go to California, don't go there. Stay in California, Tijuana is having a BIG problem with drug trafficking with a lot of crime, especially against tourists. ... (read in full...)
NYC or Los Angeles?
Q. Hi I wonder if any of you can help me out here. I am planning a travel with my gf (who lives in Spain) and I would like some advice...we are intending to go to the USA next summer and would like to know what is a better City. New York City or Los ...
A. 1 December 2009: Okay, I've never been to NYC, but I've been to L.A. numerous times. I know many people that love NY and a lot of people that hate NY. The pros: culture, big city, shopping, broadway shows, etc. The cons: dirty, vermin running around, and yes the ... (read in full...)
B/f says I lay there and don't do anything! What am I supposed to do?
Q. i need advice on how to turn my boyfriend on before sex. he takes forever to get hard. he says its cuz i just lay there and dont do anything. what am i supposed to do?...
A. 1 December 2009: I really hope there's more to what you just asked. I don't believe you would honestly just lie there and expect him to get hard on his own. Ask him! We don't know what he wants you to do. I'm sure he would like some affection such as kissing, ... (read in full...)
25 year old virgin 6 years out of previous relationship
Q. Hi. I'm a twenty-five year old virgin man with Asperger's Syndrome. Back in middle school, something happened that left me very self-conscious. a girl had walked up to me during class and asked me to to the movies, but when she walked back to her ...
A. 1 December 2009: You can tell when a woman is flirting with you is, say if you were somewhere and she keeps making eye contact with you. Not eye contact where it's on accident and she'll look away really fast, but she'll probably hold eye contact for a second or ... (read in full...)
Wrong makeup! How do I handle this buying situation?
Q. Hi,this isnt a relationship question but i desperatly need some advice. 2 months ago my lady who does my wax and facials etc held a make-up party where we could test the items and then purchase etc... I was after some foundation and she found me...
A. 1 December 2009: Wouldn't it be an even exchange? Even if she is one of those independent sales people, most of the time the company they sell the products through will guarantee the products and if you're not satisfied then you can return it or exchange it. ... (read in full...)
I gave him my number and he hasn't contacted me yet. Did I do the right thing?
Q. Hi, I spoke to a guy at work about 3 months ago. During the conversation we both dropped it in that we were single. But nothing else. I then spoke to a friend who is good friends with him. I asked him what he's like etc. He told me that I've got...
A. 1 December 2009: It really wasn't that long ago. You know how guys can be...they don't want to come off too eager, so he may wait a bit. If he's the shy type, then he may be just too afraid to call you, or he could not be interested. I agree for now, just let it ... (read in full...)
I( want a baby but my boyfriend wants to wait
Q. hey,im 17 iv been with my boyfriend for a year now and we live together and everything, its going great ...but for years iv wanted a baby..but dont no if i should try for one ..i want to but he wants to wait a while..he doesnt understand everything ...
A. 1 December 2009: I'm sure your boyfriend wants a baby....one day. Look, I'm sure your boyfriend wants to have things in order before conceiving a child. A home that he owns, his career, and probably marriage. You have PLENTY of time to have a child, if the time ... (read in full...)
Hey guys, I don't want to get my hopes up but... could I be pregnant at last?
Q. I'm 20 years old and officially late for my period.. I was due on saturday, and am usually very regular. Me and my fiance have been trying for a baby but it hasn't happened in 6 months of trying. I was beginning to assume that he had something wrong ...
A. 1 December 2009: You're only two days late...any symptoms now are probably imaginary. I know you're probably excited and hopeful that you're pregnant, but there's no way for anyone to give you the answer that you're probably looking for. The only answer we can ... (read in full...)
What do girls like the most...???
Q. I dont mean to sound unromantic about it but i want to know the best way to pleasure a girl, I want to take my girlfriend on a date to her favorite restaurant and then have some fun afterwards on like our aniversary and i want to know what girls ...
A. 30 November 2009: It depends on the girl. No offense to what pancakes rule said, but I find that way too cheesy. However, I know a lot of girls would go for it--and if your girlfriend is the type then that would definitely work for her.
I think for the most par... (read in full...)
A few pregnacy questions?
Q. So I have some questions about being pregnant, about the first trimester actually. Forgive me if it's TMI, but these are a few things I would really like to know from people with experience, not just another doctor brushing it off as anything. :) ...
A. 30 November 2009: Google "implantation symptoms" "implantation cramping" or "implantation bleeding" and it will have message boards with women asking similar questions. They have sharp pains/pressure. Sounds like implantation cramps or it can just be your uterus ... (read in full...)
How do I make his last name mine legally?
Q. My mom and me havent gotten along since my dad left, and that was in the 6th grade. Im 25 now.Shes done so many wrong things to me to where today i have disowned her, i cant forgive her and move on . I have talked to my fiance about my plans to ...
A. 30 November 2009: I would consult a lawyer...... (read in full...)
He wanted sex and I said no, so he broke up with me. Did I do the right thing?
Q. Hi friends, I need to talk to you,I would like some advice and but I don't want to go into full detail, but hopefully enough for you to help me. I had been dating this guy for 2 months until tonight. He ended things, because we were not havi...
A. 30 November 2009: Did you do the right thing by not telling him or did you do the right thing by not having sex?
If it's regarding not telling him, I think you probably should have told him when he told you he just wanted "fun." That could have probably saved yo... (read in full...)
A few pregnacy questions?
Q. So I have some questions about being pregnant, about the first trimester actually. Forgive me if it's TMI, but these are a few things I would really like to know from people with experience, not just another doctor brushing it off as anything. :) ...
A. 30 November 2009: Is the pressure/pain like cramping while you pee? I know that the second I stopped peeing I got a sharp cramp--but those stopped after a while. I'd get the pain at random times too, but they were just implantation cramps. As far as bleeding or ... (read in full...)
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