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writes:Hi Guys + GalsI am in a strange situation which is pulling me apart. I currently live with this guy who I met in 6th form and we bonded really well. Since I met him I was attracted to him, although he is straight and has a girlfriend. (he knows I am gay). Anyway his parents are over at the moment and we are sharing a room. And I feel myself getting more and more attracted to him. I hate to say or reveal this but on one occasion i got so horny i went and fondled with his penis whilst he was asleep. I know this is basically rape and i dont know why i did it.Not only this but I went to a party and my ex was there and I really felt down because i realised i still love him and i miss him so much so this has really messed my head up (he was my first love).I think this is a case of lust and love, but i need to do something before i go crazy- any words of advice??
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reader, moomba38  +, writes (25 November 2009):
I completely understand what you are going through. I, too, am gay and only seem to find myself attracted to straight men. I don't think it has much to do with your ex, and unfortunately, the heart seems to go where ever it pleases... no matter how 'off limits' it might be.
If it is a possibility in your situation, try talking to him about it. Tell him how you don't want things to be weird between you. He will quite likely reassure of his straightness. I find that doing this allows me to better accept their it and move on.
Or there's the less healthy plan B... start hating them and remove them from your life. This i wouldn't suggest.
Good luck, and I feel for you.
(ps: dont feel so bad about the fondling, i've also done inappropriate things in moments of overwhelming lust. its a struggle trying to keep control sometimes...)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): whatever your heart feels you follow it. if you see that the guy whom you are living with now is sincere to you and loves you too then focus on him.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (16 November 2009):
Are you serious? You molested him in his sleep? That is beyond wrong. I think you need to start thinking with your head instead of your penis before he ends up waking up while you're violating him. The only advice I can give you is to stay somewhere else so you can have some sort of self control. Frankly, I don't think what you did to your roommate has anything to do with you missing your ex.
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