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I've gone through quite a few relationships! Some were great and some were down right terrible!
I really enjoy trying to help people get through relationship woes. Sometimes they can be life consuming and everyone can use a little help from time-to-time.
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How do I win her?
Q. Well, there is this girl I like. She has been dating this other guy for a year and plans on getting married to him. Well, she likes me to. She hates it when other guys flirt with her however, when I flirt with her, she likes it. She also flirts back ...
A. 14 December 2009: Well apparently she likes douche bags. So if she leaves him and goes to you, what does that make you? And yes, it is selfish because you're thinking of yourself. If she wanted to be with you, she'd be with you! It doesn't take that much winning ... (read in full...)
Could our adolescent sex play have turned her into a lesbian?
Q. When I was younger, me and my cousin played doctor and it went a little too far (sex, anal sex and oral sex). I was 11 years old and she was 10 years old. She was the one that talk me into these acts but after the first few times, she did not have ...
A. 14 December 2009: If you're male and she's female...why would that have anything to do with her being a lesbian??? She talked you into these acts to begin with? Sounds like she already had problems...I don't know of any 10 year olds that would know about anal or ... (read in full...)
I thought my ex cheated so I left rude voice messages. Now I want him back.
Q. [Moderator note: OP, if you post any replies to this thread, please use proper case. 'Talking' not 'tawken'] im 16 yrs old and i have been tawken t0 this b0y that use t0 be my b0yfriend until my ex bestie t0ld me he cheated 0n me s0 me and her sent...
A. 14 December 2009: Y0u sh0uld leave him and have n0thing to d0 with him anymore, as in d0n't talk to him, call him, 0r take his calls, but as you said, you're to0 stupid t0 leave him, s0 there's n0t much we can help y0u with.... (read in full...)
Who is the father of my baby?
Q. Hi. I'm 27 weeks pregnant tomorrow and my due date is on the 18 march 2010. Me and my partner were having a bit of trouble round the time I think I fell pregnant and I slept with a different boy on the 17th may and 26th june. I wanted to know if ...
A. 14 December 2009: You can always get a free paternity test after the baby is born by calling Maury Povich.... (read in full...)
My ex is threatening to rape me!
Q. help! im 16 and i jus broke up with my now ex bf who is 19 bc he kept pressuring me to have sex. now he wont leave me alone! he keeps txting me, threatening tht he is going to rape me! his texts say: "listen beautiful, u know u want me, and your gona...
A. 14 December 2009: You definitely need to tell your parents and the police.... (read in full...)
My girl is sexually selfish!
Q. It always atarts off that we have fool around really wild and dirty, then she wants me to eat her out, she comes, and afterwards, she won't get me off; she's suddenly "too tired," or if she "tries" she will complain about how tired she is, how much ...
A. 14 December 2009: Uuuhhmm...looks like you shouldn't have the relationship anymore. If talking about something that she's being totally unreasonable about is enough to end a relationship over, then yeah...she's definitely not a keeper, but a waste of time.... (read in full...)
I have set high standards but worry those standards might be TOO HIGH!
Q. I was in a relationship for two years. That was the best relationship I had, but I matured a lot during the relationship. The things that i looked for in a relationship when it began, i no longer look for. I need more and i wont settle for less. ...
A. 13 December 2009: Well, I agree; sometimes us women can become a bit bitter towards men after quite a few stupid ones.
There's a difference though between standards and wanting perfection. Also, if you don't take some time out for yourself you can also become q... (read in full...)
My girl is sexually selfish!
Q. It always atarts off that we have fool around really wild and dirty, then she wants me to eat her out, she comes, and afterwards, she won't get me off; she's suddenly "too tired," or if she "tries" she will complain about how tired she is, how much ...
A. 13 December 2009: Maybe I'm being too nosey, but is this the same girl that you were trying to "win back" or is this a different girl? Just curious because if it's your ex that you wanted back, I think you can refer to that thread as to why she's such a selfish ... (read in full...)
My cheatin' heart
Q. I cheated on my fiance. We have been together 6 years. I cheated and about a week later I couldn't handle it anymore, I had to tell her. I know I made a mistake and wanted to be honest. I love her to much to lie and get away with it. I knew it ...
A. 13 December 2009: Telling your significant other that you cheated is always the right thing to do. However, cheating is always the WRONG thing to do. So what if she cheated on you 6-years ago? It's your bad for taking her back.
Just give her time and space an... (read in full...)
My girlfriend of 13 wont even kiss me, she is frigid!
Q. Ok i am 13 years old and have a girlfriend who is friged but dosent want to be and she gets scared and backs away when i try to kiss OR EVEN HUG HER i like her alot and really dont want to dump her but for weeks now it seems that she dosent even ...
A. 13 December 2009: If you are your girlfriend's first boyfriend, then she's probably just really nervous and scared. It can be that way when you're only 13. As far as the other boy...he's not worth your time or energy; just ignore him.... (read in full...)
I'm always the one to fix things after a fight!
Q. well ...me and my bf got into an arguement ..nd he got really angry and told me not to text or call him anymore that he will do it whenever he feelz like it ...he also told me to do whatever the f**** i want nd that he'll do the same..so im asssumin ...
A. 13 December 2009: You love him with all your heart and don't want to lose him...this is the type of thinking that is putting you in this situation.
First off, you should start loving yourself a bit more, because frankly it sounds like this guy is treating you like... (read in full...)
My dad doesn't want me dating black guys
Q. My dad doesn't want me dating black guys. Which I think is terrible, but there's nothing I can do to change it. I just started going out with this back guy (I'm white), and I'm afraid of how my dad might react.. it's not that he's racist, he ...
A. 13 December 2009: You're an adult and you should be able to date whoever you want; however, I think your dad is going to have to get to know him in order to hopefully accept him.
My parents (my mother in particular) didn't want me to date anyone except men who are ... (read in full...)
Second date confusion!
Q. Had a great date over a week ago with a guy met on net..he made all the right moves added me as a friend on FB etc (i wouldnt have so early on as it tells you so much about people and you can see what the other is doing all the time!). The date was ...
A. 13 December 2009: I think for right now that you are looking too deeply into this. He cancelled one date due to confusion on his part and he let you know. If he stood you up, then yeah I could see that as things aren't going to take off whatsoever. Just relax, he ... (read in full...)
My period problem...
Q. Eh, this is a bit awkward, so please i am very sorry if it is too much info. I have irregular periods, meaning I have a period about once every 3 months, well, I started using vitex (chasteberry) a while back, and my period began on time, (it was ...
A. 12 December 2009: Just one more thing, I was thinking this was a prescribed medicine...I really think you should read this because I agree with the other poster that you could be pregnant and if you are, it could be harmful to the fetus:
http:... (read in full...)
My period problem...
Q. Eh, this is a bit awkward, so please i am very sorry if it is too much info. I have irregular periods, meaning I have a period about once every 3 months, well, I started using vitex (chasteberry) a while back, and my period began on time, (it was ...
A. 12 December 2009: Oooh, the OP's response was posted after I wrote my response...I think you definitely need to take a pregnancy test.... (read in full...)
Do they ever come back and commit?
Q. Has anyone ever been involved with someone who wasn't ready to be in a full blown relationship, and then later after some time apart, the person wants to be with you afterall? I dated a guy for 8 months, but he was still hurting from a break-up,...
A. 12 December 2009: I'll tell you what's happened to me. He said he was ready and that "things are different now" and that he wants to be that "perfect guy for me that I think about all the time" about 7 months ago. Haha what joke. I'll tell you, I did almost fall ... (read in full...)
A guy I dated between his prison sentences wants to go out with me again, but I don't know if I should or not
Q. I dated a guy for several months and he broke up with me cause he went to prison and then we dated again after he got out but he went back for 2 years and then we where friends for a while but he went back again. He wonts to go back out wit...
A. 12 December 2009: Are you joking. If "no" then why? Ummm maybe because he's an ex con! That should be enough of a reason. If you really think the best you can do is some scumbag that's in and out of prison, then go for it.... (read in full...)
I am living the American Dream, so why am I not happy?
Q. My husband and I have been together for six years, since we were twenty-three; married for two years. I'm currently pregnant with our first child, a son. Both my husband and I grew up decently. The most "worse-off" either of us have ever been w...
A. 12 December 2009: Perhaps you're just having some anxiety. The baby is coming very soon and maybe you're feeling a little overwhelmed that everything is pretty legit and this is pretty much how it's going to be--you're settled in basically. So now it's kind of a, ... (read in full...)
My friends don't take me seriously, there is either a problem or I am too needy
Q. My friends seem to not take what I say seriously- when I tell them something they kind of brush me off or not take what I say to heart. Maybe I'm being too sensitive, but it feels like they don't really care about me or my life. But then when they ...
A. 12 December 2009: I don't know...it might be helpful if you gave a few examples. You know how catty girls can be, and they probably do like you--but there are some friends that I have that I feel that they worry over stupid things and put themselves in stupid ... (read in full...)
We broke up and he has a new girl, but he knows I am still in love with him
Q. me and my ex broke up almost a year ago, and since then have remained really good friends, he told me that if i changed my attitude and was the girl he fell in love with again i would be hard to resist, we talk all the time (i live with him, for ...
A. 12 December 2009: I think you know what to do...which is to leave him completely. You can tell yourself and everyone else that you still live with him for financial reasons and believe it, but that's total BS. Sure, it might be financially EASIER, but if you wanted ... (read in full...)
How do you get tested for bacterial vaginosis?
Q. Ok well im new to this so i hope you can help me, i think i have a STI Bacterial Vaginosis so yh im just wondrin dose any one no how the test is done because i dont want any1 lookin at me ;/ Hope you can help Thank you...
A. 12 December 2009: You don't want anyone looking at you? Well you'll need to get over it, because I'm guessing they would have to swab your cervix for that. Plus if you're sexually active anyway you should get a checkup yearly to make sure you don't have sti's or ... (read in full...)
How can I make him hate her and love me instead???
Q. i am sleeping with a guy who has a girlfriend that he cannot sleep with because of her religion. Anyways i am confused. people have told me that he is playing me and i think he is. he has said some really hurtful things to me like he loves her but ...
A. 12 December 2009: Watch the movie Fatal Attraction--it sounds like you have the potential to be Glenn Close's character. Think about it, you don't want to be her, do you? Move on, he doesn't love you, he's using you. Get over it, obsessing over him is a little ... (read in full...)
My period problem...
Q. Eh, this is a bit awkward, so please i am very sorry if it is too much info. I have irregular periods, meaning I have a period about once every 3 months, well, I started using vitex (chasteberry) a while back, and my period began on time, (it was ...
A. 12 December 2009: Those sound like pregnancy symptoms, but sometimes the pill can do that too. It defnitely sounds like it's hormonal and probably not an STD. I wouldn't advise to suddenly stop taking your prescription. Call your doctor or the advice nurse first, ... (read in full...)
My ex is blackmailing me and I like skinny women but she is average
Q. How can I get my ex to stop blackmailing me. I don't want to get into alot of detail as this is the internet. It was a crime that was committed by both of us and she has the evidence to prove it. We will both be facing charges and she does not ...
A. 12 December 2009: Is it absolutely vital that you date someone right now? Like I said, you can tell her that a relationship isn't going to work out but you can still be there for her. Anyone appreciates honesty as long as they follow through with what they say. ... (read in full...)
Why does my ex hate me so much?
Q. Why does my ex hate me so much? My ex just hates me. He's terrible. He spreads lies, stirs the pot with friends, loves a good drama scene, loves making me feel crazy...We're not togther anymore, and since the summer- we haven't even been in ...
A. 11 December 2009: Have you ever heard about the fine line between love and hate? I have to agree though, he must have really loved you and got really hurt. When you really love someone and things don't work out; some people can become pretty hateful. I would be a ... (read in full...)
I had the best sex with my ex, but I feel guilty and don't know whether I should tell my husband or not!
Q. Hello Everyone, I'm currently married to my son's father( been knowing each other for 10 yrs, married for 6, together for 3, and separated 1 1/2 years). Anyhow, throughout our relationship, my husband has cheated in my face with 2 other females ...
A. 11 December 2009: I meant should NOT be married to each other, if at all.... (read in full...)
I had the best sex with my ex, but I feel guilty and don't know whether I should tell my husband or not!
Q. Hello Everyone, I'm currently married to my son's father( been knowing each other for 10 yrs, married for 6, together for 3, and separated 1 1/2 years). Anyhow, throughout our relationship, my husband has cheated in my face with 2 other females ...
A. 11 December 2009: Well, first of all, I don't really think that you can really be angry at your husband for "cheating in your face" if it's something you agreed to. It was wrong of him to stay in contact with those girls though, but that's the risk you take when you ... (read in full...)
My ex is blackmailing me and I like skinny women but she is average
Q. How can I get my ex to stop blackmailing me. I don't want to get into alot of detail as this is the internet. It was a crime that was committed by both of us and she has the evidence to prove it. We will both be facing charges and she does not ...
A. 11 December 2009: *Sigh* Although I didn't do any sort of crime, I was in a similar situation and the guy was a jerk...just like you. Whatever, that's your deal. Anyway, I know how hurt she probably is; things like that can really be a traumatic experience mixed in ... (read in full...)
I am in love, but she has a boyfriend and when I see them together I die inside
Q. hi, i'm on love with my best friend (a girl) i mean want whats best for her love not just the humdrum. but she has a boyfriend whos. well. bound to get her into trouble. they make a nice couple and all but everytime i see him with her (always) i ...
A. 11 December 2009: Okay, the oldest you guys are is 15 I'm guessing? Look at it this way: they're more than likely not going to last and she'll eventually learn for herself that he's trouble like you say. If you try to make her see what you see, guaranteed she will ... (read in full...)
He got another girl pregnant during one of our breakups, and my heart is breaking
Q. Well I'm 14 years old and I thought I found the guy I wanted to spend the rest of my life with... We quickly fell in love but we also faught way to much. These weren't just silly little fights they got serious to the point were he tried to kill ...
A. 11 December 2009: You go to school, look your best, have fun with your friends, and act like you don't give two shits about him. Don't talk to him anymore either! You'll stop crying and thinking about him with time, but it won't stop if you keep talking to him and ... (read in full...)
My ex is blackmailing me and I like skinny women but she is average
Q. How can I get my ex to stop blackmailing me. I don't want to get into alot of detail as this is the internet. It was a crime that was committed by both of us and she has the evidence to prove it. We will both be facing charges and she does not ...
A. 11 December 2009: I agree, I'm really confused. She wants you to be there for her during what emotional time? The emotional time while you two were pretending to be Bonnie and Clyde and breaking the law? Something else? Did you tell her that she's average and you ... (read in full...)
Why does she sign her emails this way?
Q. There's a girl I like who I've been exchanging emails with. She always responds the same day I send an email and sometimes it takes me a week to write back because these are long emails and I am busy. At the bottoms of her emails she started ...
A. 11 December 2009: Oh, a 5-day week, not a 7-day week? Well that makes a huge difference...? ... (read in full...)
He doesn't care for sex...could it be the porn?
Q. I am 21 and so is my fiance'. We have been together on and off for the past 3 years. In the beginning we were very intimate with each other. Now we have a 3 month old little girl and I have a 6 year old son from a previous relationship. I know I was ...
A. 11 December 2009: Okay, just remember that this is MY opinion and I think it's going to hurt your feelings; but, I think he's just not interested in you anymore. That doesn't mean that you're not a great and attractive woman, but you two are really young, and it ... (read in full...)
Now that we are FWB, he is no longer in love with me. What can I do?
Q. Hi i jus need advice/opinions plz no judgement. I have a fwb and weve known eachother for awhile (graduated from high school together) and he told me that he used to think he was in love with me in high school. so now that were fwb he said he loves ...
A. 11 December 2009: In a way, you could be right and he's telling you these things to distance himself. I don't think that all of a sudden having benefits in your friendship made him just love you and not be in love with you (such a cliche). Esentially, he just wants ... (read in full...)
Why does she sign her emails this way?
Q. There's a girl I like who I've been exchanging emails with. She always responds the same day I send an email and sometimes it takes me a week to write back because these are long emails and I am busy. At the bottoms of her emails she started ...
A. 11 December 2009: You take too long to respond. So when you take a week to respond since you're "busy" she probably thinks that you're finally getting around to it because you're trying to be nice. So she's probably getting the vibe that you don't really like her, ... (read in full...)
Why does sex with me make him sick?
Q. Hello, I have been with my bf for 10 months and for the last 3 he has been complaining about my vagina being loose and says that it was not like that before. because of this he believes that i have been cheating. I have one child, 7 years o...
A. 11 December 2009: No, but is there a medical reason as to why you're staying with an idiot like him? He throws up after sex with you??? If this is real, then I'm really in disbelief. If this is a different post than the one from yesterday about her boyfriend ... (read in full...)
Will being out of his league cause us problems?
Q. I've been with my new boyfriend for about a month and I think he's incredible. The only problem I can see is that he (and everyone else) thinks I'm way out of his league. Can something like that cause problems down the track? The guys I usually go ...
A. 11 December 2009: Guys joke around like that with each other all the time. I remember when I met one of my dad's friends that he works with, and he said, "I take it she must get her looks from her mother?" My dad, back in his day was a very attractive man, now he's ... (read in full...)
How do I win her?
Q. Well, there is this girl I like. She has been dating this other guy for a year and plans on getting married to him. Well, she likes me to. She hates it when other guys flirt with her however, when I flirt with her, she likes it. She also flirts back ...
A. 11 December 2009: To be honest, I think she likes the attention you give her. Otherwise, she would have dropped her fiance for you a while ago. Don't you feel bad for the other guy at all? What if she were to do this to you?
Say you were able to "win her over... (read in full...)
Should I have a chlymidia test?
Q. I am too minds about having a chlymidia test... i haven't slept with the guy i was last with but i did do oral sex...and he is known for being a player. As we all no chlymidia has NO symptoms...and college are giving tests out for free. ...
A. 11 December 2009: If you've slept with anyway EVER and haven't been tested EVER, then it's a good idea to give you piece of mind. It's probably just a piss test anyway, all you gotta do is pee in a cup. Almost too simple, right? Might as well do it.... (read in full...)
He is a lovely man but his hairy back turns me off!
Q. Ive met this lovely man after a very unhappy 3 yr being in a mental abuse relationship and didnt believe there could be any nice men out there! Ive been single a yr got my head sorted with counciling and finally ready to move on! And thats when this ...
A. 10 December 2009: I agree, bring it up once more and if he doesn't still, then Merry Christmas! You get him an appointment to get it done. As far as his legs being hairy...who cares? Men are supposed to have hairy legs. Men usually have a hairy chest too, but a ... (read in full...)
I need some flirting tips so I can get him running around after me!
Q. i really like this boy, but the problem is that the other month i rejected him because i have some family issues and a boyfriend was the last of issues, but i let him down really badly. i want some tip on how to get talking to him again, so ...
A. 10 December 2009: Sometimes we may get the wrong end of things like you say, because we're reading a posted questions that YOU wrote. So it's not everyone else, it's how you asked the question. If you were more detailed about your question instead of writing two ... (read in full...)
I hate my life
Q. pleasee hellppppppp me..im an 18 year old male that hates his life and everything in it..i think i am veryy uglyy. fat people tell me im ugly all the time and when they do it brakes my heart because i should be used to it by now. i was always t...
A. 10 December 2009: My guess is the people that you're hanging out with. Maybe you need some new friends? I know you're going to ask how you make new friends, but sometimes it takes time. School and work are always the best ways. I'm sure you have at least 1 really ... (read in full...)
I need some flirting tips so I can get him running around after me!
Q. i really like this boy, but the problem is that the other month i rejected him because i have some family issues and a boyfriend was the last of issues, but i let him down really badly. i want some tip on how to get talking to him again, so ...
A. 8 December 2009: Essentially, you hurt this guy and now you want to play games with him? That's still not very nice. Just be sure that you really are interested in him and not just wanting him to chase you around because he lost interest and now you want his ... (read in full...)
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