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My wife told me how much she liked having sex with her ex!
Q. Before my wife and I were together, she had a boyfriend that she lost her virginity to (at 16). She really liked him. She had a relationship with him that included regular sex, then after breaking up got back together after a couple of months ...
A. 19 January 2011: Been there -done that, the feeling of empty never goes away(47 yrs of marraige to one like yours)... (read in full...)
Is waiting worth it to a woman?
Q. I am also the authority of an other article '22 Year Old Virgin: Weak or Responsible'and this will be my second article on the subject matter. I am struggling with the issue of virginity. Because I am a very disciplined individual as my previous ...
A. 19 January 2011: If you wait -you'll be ten times happier than if you don't... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants me to leave bruises during sex?
Q. My Girlfriend wants me to leave bruises during sex? I am not sure what to take of this we have been dating over a year now. She wants me to hit her.. I dont know what to do is it normal?...
A. 19 January 2011: Sounds wrong to me bro..sounds like Sado-macochism or some such weird fetish. I wouldn't do it she might want to trap you into a domestic violence thing too($$$). You might want to seek help but don't play along!... (read in full...)
My wife's behavior is bizarre and I'm trapped in a loveless marriage
Q. Hi! I don't know from where to start? I am 26 years old its been a year since I am married and now I get the vibes that everything is falling apart. Basically I am from India I moved into England only because my wife wanted me to. I have well ...
A. 19 January 2011: Wow, you got messed upon..you might have a "gold-digger' on your hands(just sayin') If I was in your spot ,i'd probably have her go with you to a marriage conseler9assuming you want this to work in the long run. If she refuses, grab your bags and ... (read in full...)
Am I gay, bi, straight, or what?
Q. Hey everyone. I need your opinions. A year ago i started *asturbating on gay porn, I wasnt really attracted to guys, I just wanted to see it. And me, stupid idiot, kept doing it, cos I thought "Ah So what, I can stop anytime". I also did it on some ...
A. 19 January 2011: porn is porn you're fine, Watchjing men have sex on the computer is erotic even for straight guys-no sweat!... (read in full...)
Tired of her lies!
Q. Ok, so I currently have a girlfriend but she's been telling me lies for awhile, and to make matters worse my ex comes into the picture and tells me that she still likes me and wants to get back together, so this puts me in a tight spot, I still have ...
A. 17 January 2011: Start returning the "favor" Tell her a few whopers and see how she responds.... (read in full...)
I think my husband on facebook will create alot of drama!
Q. Okay so my husband's family is always bugging him to get on Facebook. I don't much care to be listed there and have been hesitant for him to sign up because I know his ex-girlfriends will cause problems for us. Plus I think he'll contact them (out ...
A. 17 January 2011: I don't "get" facebook,myspace or twitter..It all seems like mindless sniping or gossip.... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a guy mimics you?
Q. what does it mean when a guy mimics you? When I touch his face, he touches mine. If I rub his hand, he rubs mine back. I kiss his cheek and he kisses mine back. He will often repeat the things I say if he thinks they're funny. Is he do...
A. 17 January 2011: I dunno but if I did it I would fully expect a good slap across my face!... (read in full...)
What's my best move?/ I think I'm in love and he makes me laugh.
Q. This is probably a dim-witted question to ask but I am a girl on her last year of high school and I think that I am in love. With a boy, who I used to know and hang around. He used to make me laugh the most, even on my worst days. He left when I wa...
A. 15 January 2011: Your last Real analysis of this guy was when you were 8? Then you absolutly need to re-evaluate based on how he has matured(or not) since then..go slow!... (read in full...)
He's asking me what I want in the bedroom and I don't know what to say!
Q. -I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months. -We are very private so none of our friends know about us. -I lost my virginity to him, therefore am not very experienced in the bedroom -We are both of legal age (me 18, him 20) So we wer...
A. 14 January 2011: tell him you'd like a vacation from the question while you think up an answer. I'd be willing to bet he wants you to sa... (read in full...)
I need to relax but I'm not sure how to!
Q. Hey guys. Im a virgin, my boyfriend isnt though. I've been with my boyfriend now for 5 months and we have tried to have sex a few times now. But I always get him to stop because... It hurts ^^; He tells me it's because im too tense. I don't f...
A. 14 January 2011: IF you're in love, then wait until the wedding night, you will relax and consumate your union just fine. Don't sweat the small stuff And it's ALL small stuff.... (read in full...)
Should I have a one-night stand to get pregnant as I really want a baby!
Q. Hi cupids. Im 18 now and id prefer if i werent prejudged but when i was 14 i fell pregnant to an older man who was abusing me for 2 years 12-14. When i fell pregnant i spoke to a lovely lady nurse about what had been happening and she helped me ...
A. 14 January 2011: The short answer is No! The long answer is complicated... (read in full...)
I can get an erection during porn but, I can't get one will kissing my girlfriend!
Q. Okay, So I have no problem getting and keeping an erection when I'm by myself watching porn. I have no problem getting an erection when I'm intimately kissing my girlfriend. I do have a problem getting an erection when it comes time to actually get ...
A. 14 January 2011: THere is such a condition called, ejaculation denial...you need to google it.... (read in full...)
I'm getting married but feel like I need more time! Is this normal?
Q. I'm getting married in 3 months my fiancee and i have been together for about 2 year i know that he loves me and he respects me and tries to mAke me a better person. we almost Have everything ready for our wedding I'm having some doubts I get scared ...
A. 14 January 2011: It's called "getting cold feet" not unusual at all, I wish I'd listen more to my inner insticnts years ago but brushed them away. You might just want to reschedule.... (read in full...)
I listen to my friend but when its my turn to talk she changes the subject!
Q. im just wondering if anyone else thinks that someone acting like this, makes them a bad friend or is it just their personality? so my "friend" hasnt been very supportive to me and i have been doing all i can to be supportive to her because we both ...
A. 14 January 2011: Your friend is a "natural-born" politician...they nrver answer a question and only talk about what they think you need to hear. Try to get her to run for office.... (read in full...)
Wondering if I should stay in this marriage?
Q. Does anyone think I should stay? Will try to keep this short. In my heart I know the answer but although I am a very strong and independant person, I am also afraid of making the wrong choice. Married 16 years with teenaged son. Husband has ...
A. 12 January 2011: Occaional abuse is still abuse- If there's ANY abuse that's too much even if it's not physical. A man is not a man if he abuses his wife or any women! In my opinion you should not hang around to see if he "gets better".... (read in full...)
I'm frustrated that my boyfriend is watching porn all the time
Q. my boyfriend is always watching porno and more often murstabating. we dont have sex alot and i do like sex i hate what he is doing because he is always hiding and i alwazs know when hes doing it one time i asked him if am not enough for him and a...
A. 12 January 2011: I bet you like big Pe__s porn when he's not loking so what's the big deal?... (read in full...)
Should we still have sex anyway?
Q. I have been married to my husband for almost 3 yrs, it fell apart because I treated him like a nobody and wasnt very greatful for the things he did for me and our son. And now that I saw my mistakes he chose not to be with me anymore and I ...
A. 11 January 2011: Emotionless sex is like masturbating... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be my age and not have any interest in getting married?
Q. I am a single and very intelligent 29 year old woman and I am happy with my marital status. I like being independent and free I also like my quiet time. I am the adventurous type of woman though, I like to travel, I would like to go parachuting, ...
A. 11 January 2011: Some folks are just not "wired" to be joined in marriage 'til death do you part etc.etc....I wouldn't give it too much thought. It's not all it's cracked up to be...like the joker says, "They just want you to get married too 'cause misery loves ... (read in full...)
First time sex feels like..??
Q. I haven't had sex yet and i'm a guy, what does sex feel like for the first time?...
A. 10 January 2011: It's way too incredible to describe IF you're with the right person. If you're with the wrong person or doing it for the wrong reasons it can be a guilt-riden bad experience. Hold off until you meet the right girl. Even then you might want to ... (read in full...)
Why are men players?
Q. Why are men Players??? Why do they have a daytime girl and a nite time girl?? ...
A. 10 January 2011: Not ALLmen are cheaters if that's what the term "players" is refering to. If a man is in a commited relationship he may or may not "wander" to experiment. We men are terribly insecure by nature and need tons of reinforcement in whatever we do, ... (read in full...)
My partner left me and is pregnant with my baby!
Q. About 2 years ago I started dating a good friend of my brothers she was only just 18 at the time where I was coming up to 23. But we both got on very well and liked spending time with each other. But then I realized she had a hard time at school a...
A. 10 January 2011: Not sure about the actual law in your part of the world but it seems logical that you might have a shared custody arrangement coming to you if you want it. Soething to check into anyway.... (read in full...)
If I cut one of my testicles would I know it?
Q. alright, so me and my girlfriend are really looking forward to getting married, because we both believe in abstinance before marriage, and no, sex is not the reason why we're getting married, but she and I are extremely comfortable with each other ...
A. 8 January 2011: Not a doc but I can add that shaving youur groin is not something people do nomally so try to avoid that in the futureOR get an electric razor. Sharp objects and scrums don't get along well.... (read in full...)
My husband only cares about money. I still love him but I Don't know what to do
Q. i still love my husbnd to the core but all he cares about is money. he does not care for me nor respect me. he insults me and demeans me i do all the chores for him but am totally not appreciated. we have a baby, he plays with baby, ignores ...
A. 8 January 2011: Maybe, you can charge him for your "services" under the excuse that you care about money too.... (read in full...)
I slept with a prostitute and now feel regret
Q. OMG.I slept with a prstitute and I was so sexed up and curious I asked if I could have a look at her pussy.part the lips and look in between. she consented and I was so overwelmed, impulsively I kissed her there. just a peck. I didn't lick or put my ...
A. 8 January 2011: Stand down! my young friend it's not the end of the world, what you did was normal. Some women actually love that.... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel this nervous around someone I like?
Q. well my problem is i'm too shy, especially when it comes to guys (that i like) because there's a guy that i like for almost more than a year, we're both in college and he likes me too. i mean he made it very clear that he wanted to talk to me and ...
A. 8 January 2011: Totally normal...you should be nervous, The fear only grows over time as you begin to realize the ultimate power they have over the male species. Trust your instincts!... (read in full...)
I'm so terrified of getting pregnant it's ruining my sex life
Q. Ever since i've become sexually active, (about 2 years) i have had a huge "phobia" i guess you could call it, of getting pregnant. I'm on birth control and take it like i'm supposed to but once i have the 7 day break to have my period, i get ex...
A. 8 January 2011: You probably know this but you do not have to engage in intercourse to have a perfectly wonderful sex life. Pregnancy is a condition to be held in respect and I applaud you for being hyper vigilant. An unwanted child is a crisis to avoid but there ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to lose weight!
Q. Help! My boyfriend has a problem with my weight. I think I'm pretty hot though, and not overweight at all. I am 5'6 and weigh 132 lbs. His problem is, I've gained weight since we've been together. When we first met, I was a professional dancer and ...
A. 7 January 2011: In my mind(alledged as it may be) I think any guy that wants to set goal weights, etc. for his "lover" may just be on the edge of control freakism. A soft women is a good thing.Weight profileing is dumb!... (read in full...)
Does my fetish make me abnormal?
Q. Hello, I would like some advice on a personal and potentially embarrassing issue. I have a sexual fetish for shiny or transparent, glossy pvc plastic. Anything made from shiny or transparent pvc arouses me- pvc raincoats, transparent pvc shower c...
A. 7 January 2011: You might want to keep this fetish to yourself around women as they tend to also love shiney things(diamonds,gold,silver,etc.) and you may run into a competition thing. just sayin'... (read in full...)
Where did the sex go?
Q. hello i am new on the site, well i need answers on how to get my husbands eyes back on me... i get no attention anymore i always feel that i am so needy and i hate feeling like that. we have talked a million times about the almost non existant sex ...
A. 6 January 2011: Sexual desiores go away after about 3 years. Usually it's the women that meltsdown but sounds like he went down first. You could try resding the Kams Sutra together.... (read in full...)
Will I ever be accepting of his porn usage?
Q. First of all, I don’t want answers to my post or comments on it from people who are totally against porn. I am not against it, I am just asking for advice and I don’t want advice that I absolutely will not take. I mean no offense, but I see it on ...
A. 6 January 2011: Odds are you will never be OK with it.9Just being real) Women in general don't get porn.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend makes me cry every day
Q. My boyfriend When he gets mad he says mean things to hurt my feelings -your a bitch/whore/loser/pathetic Gets madder, and makes fun of me and acts like a complete jerk when I'm crying over him Wont listen to me when I tell him that I nee...
A. 6 January 2011: Gather up your remaining self respect and get the heck outa there! nothing good will come of this relationship. find a real man,one that respects and worships women.... (read in full...)
I was with another man and my boyfriend broke up with me. Help!
Q. i am in big trouble..i don't no how it happened? and now what i do, i was in a relationship with my boyfriend from last eight years i was quite long relationship, i tried to convenes my parents but no use the rejected him, and when we decided to ...
A. 6 January 2011: If he really loves you he WILL forgive(never forget but will forgive) and everything will be tolerable.. I speak from real life experience. Just tell the truth and then F___ him nearly to death.... (read in full...)
My hubby is cheating! What should I do?
Q. I'm 28 and live with my 30 year old husband and 3 kids. I'm in a weelchair so we live in a bungalow , however latly I'm not sure if my hubbys been so honest or faithful to me. It started about 1 month ago, my husband was coming home later and l...
A. 6 January 2011: You're in a real dilema and it sounds like he's a real idiot. Good luck to you. I'd divorce him... (read in full...)
It hurts when he looks at other women
Q. Hi, I need some insights... My bf and I are in a great relationship for over a year and half, we love each other so much and we plan on getting married. But he's a MAN and he can't help looking at other women. I know, they say it's normal, "m...
A. 5 January 2011: If the "look" lasts more than 90 seconds he's having a fantasy. Otherwise he's catching a casual glance. Tell him about the time limit and see if he responds. I know I would, hurting your loved one is never a good thing so tell him he's "on the ... (read in full...)
My sex drive has gone into overdrive, is this normal?
Q. hi guys! :) not really relationship problems but i deffinately think i have a problem! when i first got with my boyfriend about 18 months ago id been in previous relationships, so had he, we'd both had a few sexual partners, nothing out of the ...
A. 4 January 2011: why is it "obviously not normal?" if you were a guy it would be Obviously Normal. Sounds like you're a dream catch for some guy. Keep on keepin' on.... (read in full...)
I feel like my marriage is doomed!
Q. I feel like my marriage is doomed! My husband has always had a "strong" personality but since our wedding 2 months ago he has been horrible. I can be in a perfectly calm, happy mood and never know what's going to set him off and get him yelling at ...
A. 4 January 2011: Doesn't sound like a "strong" personality to me. He sounds like a classic P____k. I think you may be right on the "doomed " part be careful upon your exit strategy.... (read in full...)
My husband turned gay!
Q. Hi I've been in a marriage 25 yrs I found out that for 15 years of the marriage he has been sleeping with men, mainly older men but told me he stopped Doing it 5 years ago but I dont know whether To belive him we are now separated but I'm having ...
A. 4 January 2011: OUTCH! that's got to hurt like crazy, I don't think he "turned" gay. I've been informed you're born that way. So, don't try to internalize or take on any blame. Might want to think about getting tested for HIV though. good luck, that's a sad ... (read in full...)
Husband expects me to go down at him at all times when he wants it. If I say no he gets agressive. Should a wife treat sexual favours as a part of the job?
Q. So I have been with my husband for almost 7 years, married for about 3 and we have a 3 year old son. Our relationship has never been super wonderful but I’m still here and I am happy some times. My issue right now is sex. As a wife am I suppose...
A. 4 January 2011: o, the only "expectation' we as husbands have is to love and respect9the "vows" don't include sexual activities if they happen to occur that's icing on the cake not an expectation. if the situation were reversed would he comply?... (read in full...)
Is this all normal behavior during sex?
Q. Im in a new relationship and recently had sex with this man for the first time, during the act he spoke out about what he was seeing ie youve opened your legs wide for me, he shouted out on 3 occasions while looking away "fuckoff" as if to someone ...
A. 4 January 2011: I don't think grabbing your partner's throat is 'normal' under ANY conditions much less while having sex. Run, young lady,Run!... (read in full...)
Threesome gone terribly wrong...my husband is in love with her, my life is a mess and I'm pregnant with our 4th child!
Q. I feel like I'm at my wits end. I am so conflicted about what I should do that I am in a constant state of depression where it's almost debilitating. It all started about a year and a half ago. My husband and I have been married for 15 years and we ...
A. 4 January 2011: Sadly, they don't make beds for three(double beds are the common size) A threesome is what got you here, now the two of you gotta get out of it before you raise a bunch of kids that think gang bangs are the normal thing to do. Good luck.... (read in full...)
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