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Can your movements be tracked by your mobile phone, and how is it done?
Q. This issue has been playing on my mind..... The question is.... Can your movements be tracked by your mobile phone. And how is it done. Can you tell if your has been tracked. I think am sounding a bit paranoid here. But a friend recently that her...
A. 9 June 2011: It's an urban myth! You have GPS capability and if your phone is on you can be traced by tower "pinging" You've seen it on TV shows over and over. If you want to "hide" turn your phone off and leave it home.... (read in full...)
How should I feel when I don't climax?
Q. I am in a mostly happy relationship with a guy a 3 years my junior. We are, more him than me, both virgins. He is religious and I am not, so he enjoys seeing and hearing me being pleasured as a means of sex. However, he seems to want it much more ...
A. 9 June 2011: Don't fret over it there are millions of women that never reach orgasm ever.... (read in full...)
No sex, we talk about it but nothing changes!
Q. me and my man have been together for 6yrs we get on really well,i love him to bits. we have 2 children. the problem i have is we dont have sex hardly at all, which really gets me down, i have discussed this with him many times over the past 2yrs but ...
A. 9 June 2011: Could be he wants to keep the size of the family as is?... (read in full...)
My girlfriend gags when she give me a handjob!
Q. hi their this is my problem. My girlfriend has a really bad gag reflex so blow jobs are out of the question witch is cool with me cause i respect and love her. But over the past couple of months she gags when giving me a hand job. And well its ...
A. 9 June 2011: Sorry to hear that my friend, not much you can do about that. She's a gagger and that's that. So next time she wants tounge you need to gag.... (read in full...)
Tips for dealing with stress?
Q. Hi there, I'm 23 and I'm looking for some tips to deal with stress because I'm really struggling to cope at the moment. My dad had a stroke last year and isn't doing to great, now his sister (my aunt) has had a stroke and two heart attacks la...
A. 8 June 2011: Stress can kill so you do need to find a way to cope. I'm no doctor but common sense tells me you have a family history that makes you more vulnerable than the next person to have a stroke or heart attack too so you should consider medical ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend does not know how to comfort me?
Q. I love spending time with my boyfriend, and when I'm in a good mood (which I usually am) I am very happy with him. Lately however, I've been really stressed, sick, and having a lot of depressed/feeling down issues. I've told him I find it hard to ...
A. 7 June 2011: You nailed it boys are not good at expressing themselves with words. We males are very inadequate at verbal comunication. It's just the way we are. Why not ask him to write you a letter?... (read in full...)
I want to break up easily
Q. Hey guys I really need advice on how to break up with my girlfriend, I'm going to try and ease her down but I need help on exactly what to do. I need tips on everything Where What to say Should I tell her and leave Should I tell her and walk her...
A. 6 June 2011: Roll reversal first. remember one thing! If you really feel strongly for someone and they "dump" you it's exactly like having your internal iorgans pulled out through your belly button. I remember like it was yesterday. Proceed with gentle ... (read in full...)
We are not blood related. But can we go forward together? It's awkward due to our parents previous affairs.
Q. Hey Aunts! I have a really strange issue on my hands here. I met a guy about a month ago, we have been chit chatting and getting to know each other over the phone etc. His work hours make it challenging for us to meet up too often...but we try to a...
A. 4 June 2011: Sounds very complicated..try a DNA test first.... (read in full...)
I am so confused about girls!
Q. well i really like two girls. one goes out with my friend and she does flirt abit with me and the other is single like me and we have both told each other that we like each other. i decided to take the girl who likes me outand it was a little ...
A. 4 June 2011: WElcome to my world...Girls confuse us all. They spend hours trying to figure new ways to do it too. You cannot figure them out just enjoy the ride.... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as taking a break from your husband?
Q. I am confused about my feelings towards my husband. During my pregnancy last year he made me go through so much. I just can't seem to let go of these feelings and feel resentment towards him. I don't think I love him anymore and I am just so ...
A. 3 June 2011: My "kneejerk" answer is yes, it's called divorce. But then I thought , Oh wait she might be serious. So, in that event just take a vacation by yourself. Let him know you're going so he doesn't freak out and call the cops. But hey we all want a ... (read in full...)
Am I the only straight woman with a High Sex Drive?
Q. Hey. I'm just wondering i'm the only straight woman with a high sex drive. I want to have sex with men and only men. I find most woman who want sex like crazy tend to be bisexual, i'm wondering if i'm a unicorn?...
A. 3 June 2011: The obvious male answer is YEP! I don't know I guess there are a few women out there that actually enjoy sex with men we men just don't see many of them in our lifetime.... (read in full...)
We waited until we were married to have sex, and now we are married he is not interested!
Q. I am 21 married 5 months back to my boyfriend whom I dated for about 1 year, He was very caring and loving before marriage, we didn't have sex before marriage as we wanted the feel later, but sex was always the topic in our chat.. But after marriage ...
A. 2 June 2011: Don't worry, he'll "grow out of it" in other words he'll grow up. Right now he's probably got "buyer's remorse" You know,"Did I do the right thing?" we all go through this(especially men) Looking at your life as being forever changed is a hard ... (read in full...)
Wife headed towards an affair. Can I confide in her sister?
Q. Over the last few months evidence has been mounting that my wife has a thing for a colleague of hers. She thinks she is keeping it very discreet and in control (I don't think she has even told him), but a man knows his wife and knows when somethin...
A. 2 June 2011: THe quick response is no, sisters are like the same person. If you want to keep something confidential NEVER tell the sister.... (read in full...)
We have only been married for 6 months and he has already lost interest in me!
Q. Its been 6 months I have been married to my boy friend, but he is not interested in me nor in sexlife,he never enjoys my company to chat nor to have sex with, he is always in his own world working hard, we rarely have sex which is neither enjoyable ...
A. 1 June 2011: Have you ever had"buyer's remorse?" You know you find the "perfect" item then you think,"gee ids there something better? maybe I should return this one. "sadly this happens in relationships too. I'd forget him.... (read in full...)
His comment about my weight were rude and uncalled for, what should I say to him?
Q. I've been dating my bf long distance for almost 15mths now. Since I've met him, I've gained about 10-15lbs. Two nights ago, we were texting and I mentioned that I had started a new workout the day before and my body was achy because it was s...
A. 1 June 2011: IF we all had those "airbrushed" bodies we see in the magazines we'd have no reason to hurt each other with stupid insenitive remarks but we don't so we all need thicker skin.... (read in full...)
Can anyone else relate to this horrible experience?
Q. I have the most terrible guilt over cheating with another man at work. It happened a year ago. We were both very drunk and one thing lead to another. Within a couple of days I admitted my infidelity to my partner and we had a long period of ...
A. 1 June 2011: Yeah, I can relate, I've been drunk and alone and done "bad stuff" too. Who hasn't? Let it go, there's a whole life left to live why hurt everyone on the way to the grave?... (read in full...)
Kissed another....Should I tell my hubby???
Q. I've been married 2 years, together for 9. Last year I kissed another man on 3 separate occassions. I felt disgusted about what I did and put an immediate stop to it. I never told my husband. I was able to live with it up til now. We just bought a ...
A. 1 June 2011: OK, so hubby wals in from work today and says, "Honey , I made out with a chick at work today,I feel terrible about it,it won't happen again." Are you OK with that? are you devestated? That's your answer!... (read in full...)
Do most girls like a certain type of scuzzy guy?
Q. Do all girls think that scuzzy-looking barfly guys are hot or is it just a certain type of girl? All of my girlfriend's ex-boyfriends look like the type of dark-haired scuzzy bar-hopping, goateed, jewelry-wearing guys I would, as a woman, stay fa...
A. 1 June 2011: I don't know man but it does seem that way sometimes that the real jerks get the best looking,sexiest girls to fall for them. I've been an observer of life for a lot of years and some match-ups I've seen make No sense at all! BUT, phsyical beauty ... (read in full...)
She has inexplicably blocked me and I can't help but feel rejected. Should I give up on online dating?
Q. A girl I met online and have been talking to for the past couple of months has inexplicably blocked me. I say inexplicably because we had been getting along just fine (so I thought anyway) and had established a while ago that we'd like to meet up ...
A. 1 June 2011: yes, dating people you have never met before is beyond my area of ability to understand...as I understand it you read over a person's bio then send them a message? Sounds like a way to get rejected to me.... (read in full...)
Our sex life has dwindled and she now has problems having an orgasm, what is going on?
Q. Hi guys. My question will contain sexual references-just a forewarning. So I have been with my girlfriend for over three years now. We are still in love and there are rarely moments we have major arguments. My problem is our sex life. When we...
A. 1 June 2011: Take this as a lighter side answer. Congratulations you've moved into the fifth year of marriage already. This is what most husbands have to get used to without complaint.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is controlling and needy and it causes us to fight. What can I do?
Q. My girlfriend is very needy and controlling and it causes us to fight. I do not know what to do about it please help. We have been dating for 2 years, living together for 1 year and things are going great other than this. Wherever I go, my ...
A. 1 June 2011: Your premise is flawed. No one can cause you to fight. You allow yourself to be drawn into a situation and you end up fighting. It's you you should work on then whatever she or anyone else does is no relevant. Zen my friend read up on it.... (read in full...)
Should cuddles only be reserved for your lover?
Q. Aren't cuddles just meant for your lover as it's an initmate thing, what do you think of this, is the action of cuddling friends accpetable? (I don't cuddle my friends nor my family as I find it werid)...
A. 1 June 2011: I too find it weird to see others hugging and acting intamate when they're not lovers. For example there are these two sisters that are always hugging in church. I thought they were lovers until I was told(by my wife) no, they're sisters and ... (read in full...)
I am really sexually confused.and need advice.
Q. I will be 18 this year and I am still a virgin and the reason why is because I'm so confused and scared. So I spend time watching porn gay and straight and I am so sexually confused. I find a gay interesting first and ive been looking since about ...
A. 30 May 2011: As an older(much older) married man(note the missing word"happily") that can attest to the fact some guys will never be real positive and secure in their absolute direction. Watching gay porn is exciting, so is watching lesbian porn. Not to worry, ... (read in full...)
Girl I am seeing is very moody and never makes an attempt to control her moods!
Q. The girl I am seeing and I got into big fight the other day. She is very moody and when she is in a bad mood she makes no attempt to cover it up. So if she is sad or excited or angry or impatient...she lets it all out! Needless to say it makes ...
A. 30 May 2011: No, she should not have to "adjust her moods" to suit your liking. Women can be hard to read at times but they're not required to be all happy and spontaneous just because you think they ought to be. Nor should they expect us guys to be all cudly ... (read in full...)
Only the creepy ones seem attracted to me?
Q. I had my first boyfriend when I was 16. I am 17 now. He turned out to be a creep 'cause he was wayyyy more interested in my body than me as an actual person. I am no longer looking for a relationship, and rarely give anybody any hints that I wan...
A. 30 May 2011: I'm not convinced these guys were being "creepy" they may have just been "testing the waters" to try to identify the person they were dealing with.Don't be so quick to judge them or yourself. You're not attracing the "creepy" ones. They're just ... (read in full...)
My interfering mother drives me crazy
Q. me and my mum have just argued AGAIN. this time is because i said i would be cooking our dinner quite late (7pm) after she was starting to make noises about being hungry (she never cooks) so she snook up to my son's room and gave him a banana and ...
A. 30 May 2011: First, Let me congratulate you on doing the right thing of bringing your mother into your home. So many "children" just quit having anything to do with theit parents at your age. BUT, it is very common in this situation for the roles to suddenly ... (read in full...)
He masturbates next to me in bed - is this normal?
Q. my huband masterbate in bed right beside me .is this normal?...
A. 30 May 2011: Yep! IF it annoys you leave the room.otherwise help him out... (read in full...)
My ex wants us to get back together. I want to have a longer break, but I'm also scared of losing the one I love!
Q. My first boyfriend broke up with me 3 months ago. Within that time he has asked me to think about getting back together with him, even though at the time of the break up it was 'years' until he said we could get back together. I agreed we could tr...
A. 30 May 2011: the key words in your question are"the one i love" OK so which one is that? figure that out and you'll know what to do. Otherwise, he's in a holding pattern(boy 1) and that's really unfair.... (read in full...)
Last night I lost my virginity to him. Now I'm jealous of his past
Q. I'm 23 years old and lost my virginity to my 26 years old boyfriend of 7 months last night. He's my frist boyfriend, my first kiss, my first everything, but I'm not his first. I'll start at the beginning because it will be a little easier to follo...
A. 29 May 2011: Your emotional scar will last a lifetime I fear but, the good news is...you now know to think before you leap into bed. You can get past this by forgiving ypurself for any guilt you might be having. While you don't announce any reservations per ... (read in full...)
My bf thought I was asleep and started masturbating to porn. How should I deal with this?
Q. Hi new to this! But just wondering. Iv been with my boyfreind for 6months now and we live in our own flat. Everythings great etc and Yesterday we had sex during The day, and I fell asleep in bed cuddled up to my boyfriend about 1am this morning...
A. 29 May 2011: It doesn't sound like you're being "silly" but try not to read a lot into it. porn is just vapor and we men know it but love being voyeristic in that it reninds us of previous "encounters' that are more exciting. Just take a breath and think good ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend talks about sex but when the opportunity arises he backs out!
Q. me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 1 year and 4 months (whos counting :P) and i am really beginning to think that i love him. the problem im having is that we are always talking about having sex, but when an opportunity comes up, he ...
A. 29 May 2011: Could be he is actually letting his better judgement control his actions. Sex before marraige isn't exactly the thing that parents teach their kids is an OK thing to do. Why not just wait? It's not all it's cracked up to be anyway.You ever heard ... (read in full...)
I married for love but I don't know if that's what I got?
Q. Ok so I have been married to a woman for a year now and we dated for one and a half years b4 we got married. I think i love her but there are a couple of problems or more. She is very demanding, doesnt work, doesnt clean, very rude to me and doesnt ...
A. 28 May 2011: could b you need to listen to your friends but retain custody of the child cuz if she doesn't love you it's hard to see how she could love the boy.... (read in full...)
Sex with him leaves me unsatisfied.
Q. I came to my current partner as a virgin although, I had experienced oral sex before with my ex of four years. I didn't want to have sex with my partner but it happened anyway and after a while, I learned to like it. But now, I don't feel the same. ...
A. 27 May 2011: I think the comments from Annalisa were pretty much right on target.... (read in full...)
Help me romance her with roses to show how beautiful she really is!
Q. hi I have a new gf, but I want to show her how beautiful I think she is, but I have a idea, but need advice on if its good or bad. basically im going to buy a bunch of roses(12 but take one out), and give them to her, with the one of followin...
A. 27 May 2011: OK, Number 1 is the only coherent one so use it.... (read in full...)
Should I leave my marriage or tough it out?
Q. Hello, This is gonna be long. So if you don't have the time, you might want to click through this one, lol. My wife and I have been married for 12 years and together for 14 years or so. To start from the beginning, initially we got along...
A. 26 May 2011: Sounds like a typical marriage to me.. Remember your vows though. 'till death do us part" Yeah, I didn't know it would take this long either.... (read in full...)
Should I just not argue ever with him?
Q. I had an argument with my boyfriend and he told me he has enough stress to deal with from his ex wife, he didn’t want more from me and that I was starting to sound like her. So I should like never argue and always be agreeable just because he has ...
A. 26 May 2011: Most of us men don't know how to argue politely with a woman. we just want it to stop, mainly because we're inept at arguments and women are fairly good at it;i.e. we know we're gonna lose so what's the point. So, out of desperation we yell out ... (read in full...)
How can I get pregnant quickly?
Q. hi i am currently trying to conceive i would like some advice on the any quick ways to get pregnant? or anything i can do to get pregnant faster? i have been with my bf for 2years and have had one misscarraige before we have been trying again for...
A. 25 May 2011: Relax, trying to get get pregnant usually results in not getting pregnant. "Then to the lip of this earten ern I learned,drink,for once dear you never shall return" Relax, time will fix this "problem"... (read in full...)
Do porn stars really enjoy very hard core porn?
Q. I recently saw a porn that was very hardcore in my eyes, and was wondering if the women that star in the movies actually enjoy themselves. There was 5 men and one woman and they each did her anally, directly followed by orally till they cummed in ...
A. 24 May 2011: I got an answer to that from a reliable source years ago, she said she was so high on meth she didn't even care about the script calling for her to fake pleasure while she did the things she did so no, typically they don't even know what's going ... (read in full...)
Husband hired a sexy escort to work for him!
Q. I really need some advice as I am in shock and don't know which way to turn. I dropped by my husbands office (he is 43) recently as he left his phone at home and walked in to find him drooling from his desk at his new receptionist as she was walking ...
A. 24 May 2011: I doubt his intentions are to help redeem this woman from a past of "escorting" You may consider an exit strategy over time.... (read in full...)
Is it weird that I have these sexual dreams of being abused?
Q. hey it feels rather uncomfortable asking this, but i've no idea who else to talk to. I'll try to be brief but i'm sorry if it isn't. well i'm 16 and i'm a virgin, and i'm happy that way, i want to save it for someone special. but recently i've be...
A. 23 May 2011: Yeah it's a little out of the ordinary but who says ordinary is not weird?... (read in full...)
Was he offended by my height?
Q. I am an outgoing 27 year old female. I am 5 foot 4 1/2 and slender. I recently had a date with a guy and went to the river. I wore flip flops because of the rocks, he (6 foot 3) thought that I was taller (I wear heels a lot) Was he offended by my ...
A. 23 May 2011: Well, we'll never know but if he was he's an idiot and you need to find someone who can appreciate that the best things always come in small packages. Not that 5'4' is small in fact it's way tall compare to his intelect. You are the tall one of ... (read in full...)
I am really sexually confused.and need advice.
Q. I will be 18 this year and I am still a virgin and the reason why is because I'm so confused and scared. So I spend time watching porn gay and straight and I am so sexually confused. I find a gay interesting first and ive been looking since about ...
A. 20 May 2011: My advice is to date a girl,see how it goes and if it turns you off then date a guy. But society will be more receptive to a guy/gal relationship than the other.... (read in full...)
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