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I want to give my husband the best blow job ever, but i dont know how.
Q. My husband and i have been trying new things i want to give him the best blow job ever but not sure how he is the only man i have done this to. He would tell me it was good even if it wasn't Come on guys help me out....
A. 5 October 2010: The real key to a "perfect" blow job is to either act like or really do enjoy having his semen all over you,the breasts or face is best. say things like:" More, I love it it's so warm and thick..give me all of it!" you know things like that. That ... (read in full...)
Why do most men like big boobs so much?
Q. Why do most men (especially guys my age...) like big boobs so much? As I see it, it's just extra fat! And last time I checked, for men, too much fat is bad. I have small breasts and feel so inadequate. Breasts are so "out there" (unlike a penis ...
A. 5 October 2010: The works of Sigmond Freud shed some light on the preocupation men have on larger breasts and hips- something to do with the reproductive instincts...It to me is a load...I actually think a pretty smile is the biggest "turn-on" ...With a little ... (read in full...)
I am a small B-cup so what I want to know is do some guys prefer small breasts?
Q. Dear cupid, sorry i know this is a boring question. now i dont compare myself to my friends or anyone else for that matter as i would rather be just me. It seems though, that when we're out almost all the guys go for them as almost all of them are ...
A. 4 October 2010: If you ever find a man that doesn't like small breasts then you've found the exception to the rule...now. listen young lady, breast size is TOTALLY irrelevant to life in general. so many girls fixate over their breast size because of media ... (read in full...)
First time sex went wrong
Q. My boyfriend and i attempted sex for the first time last night. we were both confident about it and it felt right, but we couldn't manage to get him inside of me. it didnt hurt but we couldn't get him in the vagina. am i too small? or is it normal? ...
A. 4 October 2010: No problems my friend, It's like the old adage; "How do I get to Canegie Hall?"- Practice,practice! Never give up sometimes, failure is fun, enjoy the experiences!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of three years tells me I am ugly!
Q. Hi everyone! What can you do if your bf told you that your ugly? I have beem with my bf for 3yrs, last year he told that im ugly and he don't know why he's in love with me, he says may is because of im good in sex, i was realy hurt and after that ...
A. 3 October 2010: Maybe you are the pretty one and he is ugly. The soul is the one that's ugly or pretty. the rest is vapor... (read in full...)
I need to know how to give a BJ to my BF bad!
Q. ok im 15 and my bf says he wants me to give him a bj but i dont really know how to do it. like i know u suck but i dont know like quite how to suck. i really really want to but i dont know how to please him. can u help me and i also need to know how ...
A. 2 October 2010: You might want to watch one in any of the multitude of porn sites then try to imitate that...they are pros.... (read in full...)
Am I lesbian? Does thinking sexually about a woman make me a lesbian?
Q. Hey everyone. I'm 17 almost 18. I have some big doubt about my sexuality, it's something that's killing me. Ok, I currently have a boyfriend and all my life I've had relationships only with men. I'm both emotionally and sexually attracted to men, ...
A. 27 September 2010: You make it sound like a reslly bad thing? Don't worry,if thinking about having sex with a women made you a lesbian then we'd all be lesbians!... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I'm going to get stuck.
Q. When my girlfriend is having an orgasm i feel like something is sucking my dick and she becomes very tight.is this normal for i fear i might get stuck....
A. 27 September 2010: Ain't gonna happen,but to make you feel better keep a bucket of water close at hand(LOL).... (read in full...)
What do men think about women with deep vaginas?
Q. What do men think about women with deep vaginas?...
A. 26 September 2010: I have no idea how deep is deep? Is it like how deep is the ocean? or I think deep thoughts?... (read in full...)
Why isn't my husband flushing the toilet anymore?
Q. Most of the time I get on really great with my husband who's a great bloke - kind, funny, supportive etc. Just lately though he's started forgetting to flush the loo after he's taken a cr*p. This really bothers me and it's sometimes 2 or 3 times a ...
A. 25 September 2010: Good Grief! I hate it when I go to a public restroom and the previous 'guest" has not flushe. i can only image how gross it must be to know who the culprit is. he's got a real anal retentive problem you should recomend he see a mental doctor. When ... (read in full...)
I'll never be the "wild ride" she had with others!
Q. I just can't get over my girlfriends past. It's not that I have an issue with the fact she's had sexual partners before me, or even that she had great sex with them. It's the fact that those relationships were almost purely sexual, and the sex was ...
A. 25 September 2010: Well, as wierd as this might sound to some...you have to get over yourself and go with what she tells you. None of us are as good in bed as we think someone else might have been. Just be happy you have a women that enjoys sex. so many don't.... (read in full...)
Is he dreaming of having sex with the other woman?
Q. Hello again.... I have a second or shall I say third delima. Now since my husband and I are tring to work on our marriage......we dont have sex anymore like we use to. Since I found out about this affair and the possible baby we have had sexmaybe ...
A. 23 September 2010: There's no way you'll ever know for sure so why not make each experience so mind blowing that there's no way he could think of anyone but you during the experience and "poof" she'll be vaporized.... (read in full...)
What does it mean when they say "do it harder"
Q. Hello everyone. i have a lil bit weird question lol what do girls mean by '' F/// me harder '' or when shes like '' harder harder '' !!! does that mean that guy is not doing well in bed or maybe thats the way the girls shows that they like it t...
A. 23 September 2010: She's approaching climax and wants you to have mutual orgasms I think. Or your nuts aren't spanking her butt cheeks yet. Just be darn happy you've got a girl that tells you how she likes it as opposed to the silent type that just lie there and ... (read in full...)
Why is he complaining when we have sex almost every day?
Q. Dear Cupid, Why does my fiancee constantly complain about our sex life when we have sex just about every day? At worst, four times a week. He constantly complains about not getting enough sexual attention. It is getting REAL annoying and I'm ...
A. 23 September 2010: My friend's wife complained to my wife that he was always trying to set up a time/date for the next encounter so everyone has different issues when it comes to sex.... (read in full...)
Men: why are you quiet during sex?
Q. To the men only: Why is it that some of you hold back from moaning or making noises during sex? Are you focusing too hard on your performance? ...
A. 23 September 2010: Every one is different.Not all of us want to chat during intimate times.... (read in full...)
Am I the only one who hates the smell and taste or sperm?
Q. This may be strange or maybe this is common...You tell me. I can not stand the smell or taste of sperm! I freely give my husband (of 25 yrs) BJ when he wants, let him cum on my chest and he has even rubbed it on my face BUT it makes me gag! ...
A. 23 September 2010: Of course it's normal to not like certain tastes and/or smells. He'd of course prefer you like his "production" so as to fulfil the male fantasy so well portrayed in porn flicks where the female lover can't get enough of the male's ejaculate. But ... (read in full...)
Men: Is sex a chore and not enjoyable?
Q. Do you men that focus only on performance during sex take sex as being a chore instead of enjoyment?...
A. 23 September 2010: True "enjoyment" from a man's perspective is providing pleasure to one's wife/girlfriend. If it was just for the satisfaction of "getting off" (which is also pleasurable in and of itself) then we'd just pleasure ourselves alone in the bathroom like ... (read in full...)
Swallow or not? Pros and cons please!
Q. Ok, this area REALLY worries me - Blow-jobs!! Firstly, do you have to swallow after giving a blow-job? Secondly, would anyone think less of you if you didn't? What is it like? And finally, is it actually a good thing to do?...
A. 22 September 2010: Not really, it don't do nothin' for me.The mere fact you allowed him to cum in your mouth is the part that's sexy. ... (read in full...)
I think I'm frigid
Q. Im very worried because i think im fridgid. All my life i hate it when people hugged me or touched me and im exteremly stiff, it never realy bothered me but then i relised something is very wrong with me. I dont want a boyfriend like everyone el...
A. 22 September 2010: I agree with Ashley it sounds like you anwered your own question...funny how cathardic this site is huh?... (read in full...)
I feel like I am the only one without a boyfriend, husband or child!
Q. hello everyone Im feeling very lonley at the moment, i seem to be the only one out of my group of friends that hasnt got a bf, married or has a child, and im begining to feel really down about this even my younger brother has gf and am jealous w...
A. 22 September 2010: Feeling better about yourself begins with self image improvement;
A. your looks are not all that important..your personality is- work on that if you must.
b. having a bf is not the secret to feeling better about yourself. most of us(guys)... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of leaving my husband, insights please!
Q. I am finally getting up the courage to leave my husband who I have been married to for 17 years (I am 38). My husband has never made any solid plans for us as a couple during our marriage, has just drifted along on the personal side of things, ...
A. 22 September 2010: It sounds as though you've done what i think most women in your prediciment should do..take care of you first. It sounds like he gave up on you a long time ago. Good luck you deserve better.... (read in full...)
He left me with nothing...
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me a week ago and took everything with him, money for bills and all!! i cried like hell because i loved him so much and i did so much for him, how could he do this to me if he said he loved me!! the reason for him leaving ...
A. 22 September 2010: He's most likely as confused as I am and therefore wants to keep out of any future issues.... (read in full...)
How can I make my cousin have sex with me?
Q. I am 16 years of age and my girl cousin is 15 and a want to have sex with her so badly but i dont know how to ask her, or what to do to make her have sex with me!! I have been trying so hard since 14-15 to have sex with her and i dont know if she ...
A. 22 September 2010: I don't know if cousins count as being too close for compfort to not worry over mutations of offspring but iwouldn't take a chance... (read in full...)
If I stay over with him more often will it eventually lead to sex? He promised we would not have sex until marriage but I'm worried he wont be able to control himself!
Q. I have been staying over at my boyfriend's hostel room like every once a week. And each time he will rub his penis on my vagina although i am still wearing my panties. I would like to stay over with him more often but I am afraid if that continue...
A. 22 September 2010: Eventually, the hormones will win the battle.... (read in full...)
Are orgasms stronger from a big one?
Q. I've heard that women often experience more intense orgasms when they are with a guy who is very large. I've read about the T-spot, and how only a large penis can reach it, and it is proven to increase wetness and the intensity of orgasms when ...
A. 22 September 2010: happily, i'll just watch from the sidelines...you girls "fight it out' I'll never know for sure I do know though that it makes no difference to me if the women is tight or loose. It's all wonderful!... (read in full...)
Is online flirting and porn entertainment... a sort of infidelity?
Q. My wife is really upset that I log into dating chatroom websites, sex webcam sites, and porn sites and view the contents and talk to online flirts, such as myself. I see this as a bit of harmless flirting and a diverting form of entertainment. Why ...
A. 21 September 2010: Look in the mirror if you see someone that's really wondering about this question then smash the mirror. you gotta understand women better than to think they 'might' want to understand that you like to flirt on-line or in person. DUDE-get a grip!... (read in full...)
Why do men in relationships watch porn?
Q. why do men in relationships have to look at porn sites of women and women as well as men and women and watch sites with other men jerking off?...
A. 21 September 2010: vouyerism is the spice of life. most women hate it because it's supposidly "hurtful' wehatever that means.Men don't see anyone getting hurt since they're on screen for fun or money.... (read in full...)
22 year old guy who's never made it to third base!
Q. I'm 22 years old and I'm still a virgin.Hell I've never even made it to third base.I'm just getting so tired of waiting. I really wanted to wait until I had some one I loved, I even prayed to God to send me someone but either he doesn't care or is ...
A. 21 September 2010: Don't obsess over things like that it's bad for your brain..just stick with porn that's what it's for when real women don't want it go for the porn it's better than Obsessing over some gee wizz "problem'. Stuff happens when it happens just chill.... (read in full...)
Why do I not last very long in bed?
Q. when i am going to sex with my girlfriend my sex is no longer.only 1 minutes.can you give me a suggetion....
A. 21 September 2010: yes read up on tantric sex -you can find it on-line.... (read in full...)
Stressed in South Carolina
Q. I'm married, but not happily. A few months ago I met a woman at a large gathering of mutual friends and we ended up spending the night together. She had been in a long relationship that had ended recently. She wasn't dumped, per se, but she ...
A. 21 September 2010: Lots of big words and covoluted logic to be a simple; "Should I mess around on my wife because she doesn't really understand me the way this totl stranger does. A really short answer is: Nope, you should be ashamed of your silly self!... (read in full...)
I've been talking to this guy online for a year. Should I meet him?
Q. Hello all, I have been talking to this guy online for a year and half. I have seen him on webcam. I have seen his facebook and myspace. I am not sure if he is tryly interested in me because I am usually the one who starts conversations wit...
A. 21 September 2010: Did you know that the police sometimes 'pretend' to be anon so they can catch pervs(which is a good thing) On-line relationships are like pen pals. don't put a lot of stock in them. It ight be an adventure but I warn you there are some really ... (read in full...)
He loved the handjob so does that mean he's interested in me?
Q. Last night i was having a sleepover with 3 of my best friends, two of which are guys. were all 16. we decided to watch some movies and hangout but before all the movies were done two of my friends were out, leaving only me and my guy friend the only ...
A. 21 September 2010: He's interested in part of you(your hands). There is NOTHING better than a great handjob. but it doesn't lead to love automatically. If you like giving him hamd jobs keep on but I don't think it's 'true love".... (read in full...)
Should I give him 'head' and would doing this make me his official gf?
Q. My Boyfriend recently asked me to let him "smash" (have sex). i told him yes. and he started to get more into it. I havent let him yet but i am going too. He asked me the other day if i "sucked dick" and i told him no he asked me would i do it for ...
A. 21 September 2010: NOOOOOO! wrong guy to go down on. Find a guy you want to go down on and make him your guy. This dude is a player and could give a flip less about you.... (read in full...)
My husband tells me not to move during sex. It's strange.
Q. In my past relationships, I never had a problem with a man stopping me from moving with him during sex. My husband tells me not to move, and let him do the work. Do anyone know a reason why? It's strange...
A. 21 September 2010: Not sure, but it suits his fantasy so go with it.... (read in full...)
Did he cum on my chest because he didn't enjoy the blow job?
Q. I am a 25 year old married woman. Recently, I was giving my husband a blow as he really likes that, when he had me stop, lay on the bed on back, and began to rub his penis over my breats and then shot on my boobs. We had never done this. I had ...
A. 21 September 2010: It is impossible to Not enjoy a good BJ. he came on your tits in the dear hope that you'd love it! The male fantasy is that his women loves his ejaculation as much as he does. try rubbing it all over your breasts next time and saying "more,more, ... (read in full...)
Why can't I climax from sex?
Q. I know this is a common problem and still I cannot seem to find the answer I am looking for. Are there any special techniques to help make me come during sex? I enjoy sex so much with my partner and feel fully satisfied after, yet I never climax. ...
A. 21 September 2010: My very first girlfriend was in a simalar quandry. What we did was place my fist on the car seat between her thighs while she moved up and down against the knobby portion of my wrist and I'd carress her bare breasts. She'd climax and that was ... (read in full...)
Why did my husband lie?
Q. Six months ago I found my husband on MySace, Facebook, Tagged, Yahoo personals, Fling, and a few more like that. At first he claimed someone hacked his email and it wasnt him. Then he claimed he did not remember and didnt know about them. Finally ...
A. 21 September 2010: Yes, there will be a time you'll forgive and forget. but he needs to earn that. he knows that and will make big efforts to earn it. As to the why part of the equation. Men's fantasies(I have them-we all do) tend to roam all over the place. We all ... (read in full...)
Why would a man turn a woman down even when he is really horny?
Q. why man turn a women down when they are really horny? is it the woman or is something else???...
A. 21 September 2010: That's a silly question. If he's horny he'll go for it..he wasn't horny.... (read in full...)
He put 4 fingers inside of me????
Q. Hi, I'm 18 years old and have been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half, and have been sexually active with him for about 8 months. On Monday we had sex and half way through he pulled out and fingered me for a short while, until I orgasmed, ...
A. 21 September 2010: I thought size didn't matter?... (read in full...)
Are women satisfied with average size penis or do they fantasize about bigger penises?
Q. hello everybody, thanks for the time i would spend in order to answer my question :D mu question is mostly for women who are married to men with average penis size, i just wanna know are the women in this situation really satisfied with their hu...
A. 21 September 2010: It would seem that the only ones preoccupied with size is us guys. I know I obsese over it 'cause it's only logical that the bigger it is the more pleaure you can impart to your lover. However, whenever the subject comes up(pardon the pun) the ... (read in full...)
Why do guys watch porn while they are in a stable relationship?
Q. Why do guys watch porn WHILE they are in a stable relationship? I found TEEN porn on my bf's computer. That makes me feel not good enough. Why do guys watch it, what is so interesting. I cant stand the thought that my bf is watching at other ...
A. 13 September 2010: Have you told him it makes you feel bad? If yes and he still does it it may just be the natural voyuer instinct all men have to watch sex. You shouldn't take it pwersonally. As to the why; There's no answer that will satisfy you. i've tried to ... (read in full...)
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