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writes:hi guys! :) not really relationship problems but i deffinately think i have a problem! when i first got with my boyfriend about 18 months ago id been in previous relationships, so had he, we'd both had a few sexual partners, nothing out of the ordinary.. we started sleeping together before we got together and have always had a really good sex life.. but recently my sex drive is unbeliveably high! ive noticed it more the past sort or 3/4 months.. we used to have sex id say 5 or 6 times a week, could be three times in one day then not for a few days.. or every day once.. it varied.. but this past few months if i dont get it every day im horny to the point where it actually affects my behaviour! its quite embarrassing, he loved it at first, but now he gets annoyed, we got to the point where it was three or four times a day every day! but he backed off! we woke up this morning and slept together, then at about half 2 we had got back in from shopping and i kissed him and laid on top of him on the sofa, he pushed me away and shouted "im not in the mood!" we argued quite a bit today and then tonight when we went to bed, he went straight to sleep! didnt even kiss me good night! will this wear off? am i going through some sort of phase? does this happen to many people? i didnt realise how bad it was getting until i thought about it! i dont know why im always so horny! i masturbate daily, once, twice, three times! i thought it was normal! but obviously its not! ive never been like this before.. hope someone can help me out, thanks x
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave +, writes (4 January 2011):
In my opinion, if you're having good sex it raises your sex drive, but the problem can be that you want it more and more and become complacent when you don't get it.
It may be that you have worn your fella out. Having sex three or four times a day is a considerable amount and you should consider yourself lucky to get it that often.
It's not bad to have a high sex drive but it seems like you have a very high one if you're doing it as much as you are and masturbating on top of it.
But I think you should back off your fella a bit because you don't want to wear him out too much or worse still turn sex into a chore for him - that's when it can start going wrong.
Maybe you should consider trying to go back to the old days of sex with a few days break in between and it will make you appreciate it more and possibly have better orgasms.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (4 January 2011):
 why is it "obviously not normal?" if you were a guy it would be Obviously Normal. Sounds like you're a dream catch for some guy. Keep on keepin' on.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (4 January 2011):
 ps. I did see that you masturbate often already, I don't know why I worded myself so weirdly about that, so excuse me. I still think the best thing for you to do in the absense of sex is to masturbate, something you already are doing. Perhaps you could variate in the way you masturbate to take more of the edge off of your horniness.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (4 January 2011):
I can't speak for others, but you sound normal to me. When it comes to our sex drives there is nothing that hasn't been seen before. We're all different there.
However, you are wearing your poor fellow out. It's time to give him some well earned rest. Demanding sex is never accepted. If the two of you can compromise on how much each of you need/can handle, that is great.
In your particular case, try to adjust back to the way you had sex before. You want more, and he knows that, so if he is in the mood/has the energy/has time for more sex then take that as a bonus. A relationship shouldn't be all about sex either you know, it tires people out unless both are equally interested in the sex.
You should start masturbating more. Buy some toys, learn to have fun on your own. Or figure out if you can channel all that sexual energy of yours into something creative.
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