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writes:-I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months. -We are very private so none of our friends know about us.-I lost my virginity to him, therefore am not very experienced in the bedroom-We are both of legal age (me 18, him 20)So we were texting recently and he asked me to send him a picture of myself in my bra (which doesnt bother me, just haven't done that yet) and he said :"going to tell me what you want me to do to you?" (meaning in the bedroom..)I just don't really know what to say to that... What sort of things would you say? Any ideas? How do you reply to that? Any help would be appreciated :)x
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (14 January 2011):
 tell him you'd like a vacation from the question while you think up an answer. I'd be willing to bet he wants you to sa
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reader, viccra78  +, writes (14 January 2011):
I understand what you are saying...given your inexperience it IS hard to think of something to say when you really don't know.I would respond with something soft like "I want you to touch me (here)" or "I want you to kiss me (there)"There is nothing wrong with telling him that you don't know what you want him to do because you really don't have the experience to know. Tell him that you want to explore with him and find out what you like...Good luck and have fun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2011): When a guy initiates phone sex with "going to tell me what you want me to do to you?", he doesn't neccessarily want to know literally. He is just trying to get you to tell him sexy story involving you and him since he can't be with you physically at the moment.It's a way of sharing fantasies. If you don't really have any particular fantasies, make it up. While I think it's best to use details and inspiration from your actual life with him, you can always borrow from erotica fiction (or porn). Try reading a couple erotic novels and you get the idea. Your are basically telling a bed time story with sexual build up. It can be fun and funny. Try it out.
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (14 January 2011):
 You don't have to be overly detailed wtih what you want in the bedroom. You just lost your virginity and are exploring your sexuality and he wants to explore it with you and wants you to be open about sex with him.
Just tell him what you would like to try or explore in the bedroom. Be honest. Don't be afraid to let him know what you want.
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reader, 1989BABY +, writes (14 January 2011):
 Just have fun with it! and i mean that in the kinkiest way handcuffs, lotions, lingerie. I used to be so shy and never wanted to do anything exotic and one day I just decided to come home put some lingerie on and role play. like i said just have fun
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reader, Odds +, writes (14 January 2011):
 Just try things. By definition, half of all sex is going to be below average. And you'll be lucky if only one out of every four or five things you try in bed is mutually appealing. So, let the pressure off, try whatever comes to mind. If it doesn't work, don't do it again; if it does, be sure to say so.
If you need a starting point, it sounds like he's in the mood to please you. Ask for oral. Or lifted up and pressed against the wall (helps to have a blanket over your shoulders, walls are cold). Nothing too crazy to start, just some reliable acts while you build up the confidence.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (14 January 2011):
 You don't need to be wild or kinky, he just wants to know what you're interested in trying. If he makes all the suggestions, he'll think you're just humoring him and aren't really interested. He wants this new sexuality between you two to be fun for you too, so he's looking for ways he can please you.
Do you have any fantasies, or have you ever thought some things sound fun? Would you like him to give you oral (or maybe in a different way)? Does girl-on-top sound fun? Maybe you've always thought playing with whipped cream sounded fun. Maybe you just want to cuddle longer before and after. Just let him know what you're thinking.
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