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Leaving my wife for someone prettier?
Q. I grew up with a childhood fantasy of marrying a blond blue eyed girl, and instead I married a beautiful dark hair and eyed woman. We've been married for several years, and we have just one tween daughter... but now I want to pursue this idea...
A. 31 August 2010: Your ammended question is much more reasonable..OK you may not be a complete jerk but klike stated above...you're not going to be the catch of the day forever so re-define yourself as one that fixates on true beauty not "air-brushed" pretty babes ... (read in full...)
I want to divorce him but I feel guilty for not trying!
Q. I have been with my husband since early 2008 and we have a 2 year old son and when i was pregnant i set up a fake profile of this 'hot' chick to test him. It was sneaky but all he had to do was say 'thanks but no thanks, my partner is pregnant' etc, ...
A. 31 August 2010: People say divorce is OK for the kid(they never remember,etc.) that's BS, If you don't give a hoot about the kid then file, otherwise seek help.... (read in full...)
Is there a good approach for my defensive girlfriend?
Q. My girlfriend sometimes turns my words around and completely misses the message I am trying to convey to her, and quite often gets defensive and angry. She'll cool down later and we are able to have a rational discussion about the issue. I aways ...
A. 31 August 2010: Nope,girls are a mystery. don't walk on eggs, they'll break and make a big mess.... (read in full...)
I feel like the nice guy who always finishes last...
Q. Ended a relationship last year that ran for eight years but we basically became roomates - hadn't had sex for three years. Felt ready to start dating again this summer and have been seeing someone who I thought was really nice. I have never been ...
A. 31 August 2010: Sorry my friend it sounds like a pity party to me.... (read in full...)
Leaving my wife for someone prettier?
Q. I grew up with a childhood fantasy of marrying a blond blue eyed girl, and instead I married a beautiful dark hair and eyed woman. We've been married for several years, and we have just one tween daughter... but now I want to pursue this idea...
A. 31 August 2010: Beauty(real beauty) doesn't come in a photographic image. You must be the greatest looking dude on the planet to think you "deserve" a particular type of person. her eyes will tell the real beauty even if they're dark brown. I can't believe you ... (read in full...)
I'm Okay with my girl sleeping with another man, am I crazy for this?
Q. So my girlfriend and I have been dating for a year now, we are both in college (i am 20 she is 19) we hit it off from the start and have known eachother for about a year and a half. Dated all school year, basically lived with eachother, slept ...
A. 31 August 2010: yes it's perfectly "normal" if you have No respect for her and no feelings for her to "let" her sleep around. So, if you're looking for "permision" to be an idiot sure you have permission but i think it's too ate anyway.... (read in full...)
I love my husband but I always have to fake orgasms...
Q. Hi i'm 30 and been married for almost 6 yrs now. Since the first time i had sex i only had 2x orgasm with a partner. I can only get orgasm when i masturbate but not with my husband or with my past relationships. I always have to fake it everytime we ...
A. 27 August 2010: I would not worry over it at all. If he isn't complaining then who cares? You can always just ask for some tounge and i would think he'd be hot to comply. Most men that I know would rather give her pleasure than get it themselves.... (read in full...)
Will she think my penis is too small?
Q. My best friend and I decided that we should have sex, just to see if we should be together. I'm worried that she might think my penis is to small. I measured my penis and it is 4 and a half inches. I just wanted to know from a females opinion is ...
A. 22 August 2010: sorry my friend.. i'm in the same boat. There's nothing we can do about it.They all want the big one OR the guy wih the most money. Work hard,make good grades and make lots of money..then it won't mater.... (read in full...)
I attacked my Husband!!
Q. Today I got into an argument with my husband. The row started getting worse and then i pushed him and slapped him in the face. I also scratched him when he pushed me back. I've done this a few years ago and thought I'm over my 'anger' feelings...
A. 17 August 2010: There are some really good choices out there in anger management that teach you how to harness the energy of a 'blow-up" and put it into a box(a part of the brain). i'd suggest you seek out this typ counseling and by the way, do not purchase any ... (read in full...)
Update: How do I introduce my vibrator to the bedroom with my boyfriend? I need ideas for Vibrators now!
Q. First of all Id like to say thank to to everyone who answered a recent question i posted (How do I introduce my vibrator to the bedroom with my boyfriend)It really helped!! The two of us talked about it and hes totally ok with it..and probably cant ...
A. 14 August 2010: i've seen one in the catalouges called a "buterfly" it's like a vibrating bean mounted on a g-string...out to do the trick9i'd think)... (read in full...)
How could my husband be so coldhearted and leave me on my birthday?
Q. I have posted on here before regarding whether my marriage should continue the way it is... anyway, just to make it even more fun, my husband ended our marriage on my birthday. I am devestated. Reasons why he says are that he will never trust me. ...
A. 14 August 2010: Like you ladies say, "Men are pigs!" well, in this case I agree. perhaps he forgot it was your BD and hadn't bought a present and was afraid to show up without one(no that's a lame attept at humor-my bad)... (read in full...)
What's the hang-up on swallowing?
Q. It probably has been answered already, but what is the real hang up on women not wanting to swallow a man's ejaculation. Taste? Contents? Etc. Also, if you are going to let them cum in your mouth, what's the difference? Men go down on women and ...
A. 14 August 2010: It's a question as old as I am...some do some don't personally, I'll go down on her afterwards to clean-up and it's not so bad...just part of messy fun sex.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to be a virgin at 28?
Q. I'm a virgin at 28, is this wrong? I've 'technically' never had a girlfriend, but I did have a fairly decent amount of girls flirting with me back in college. I've also dated a few but we never officially had a relationship, although the dis...
A. 14 August 2010: No, you're fine..Everything will evolve naturally don't push it and don't seem desperate it turns women away.... (read in full...)
He hardly ever wants sex
Q. It's been a year now since I've moved in with my boyfriend who lives with his family, thing is I am extremely sexual, I always feel for sex, but my boyfriend who is 27 and I 34 hardly ever wants to,he is always tired and he says he doesn't want the ...
A. 14 August 2010: You need to live in a place of your own. He's not going to relax and enjoy himself with parents a few feet away.... (read in full...)
My Girlfriend was forced to suck someone off before and since then she is not into for me how can I get her to do it?
Q. my girl was forced to do it once a few years ago but now when i ask or go down on her i get nothing back and its really frustrating i mean i wont break up with her because of it its just sometimes i wish she would just do it is there anything i can ...
A. 13 August 2010: Go with her wishes if you like her a lot..obvious the SOB before you didn't giva a damn what she wanted. Rise above it!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend insists on fisting me and having rough sex even though I have had many operations 'down below' and it causes me so much pain
Q. so i think i need some advice cause i am not sure what to do. my fiance and i have been together for a year and a half. we are deeply in love and he does everything under the sun for me. i couldnt ask for a better man. but we have a few sex issues. ...
A. 12 August 2010: RUN don't walk get the hell outa there while you're alive... (read in full...)
How do I please my boyfriend in bed?
Q. I am in desperate need of help. Don't take this the wrong way. My boyfriend and I are in love and happy and hoping to start a life together. The only thing we really seem to have a problem with (or rather he has a problem with) is in bed. More ...
A. 11 August 2010: The Kama Sutra is just the thing for you two to read in bed together. It's not all that explicit and it will elevate both your orgasms to new levels never experience before.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to believe that sex outside of marriage is immoral?
Q. I am still a virgin at 34 due to mostly my own religious convictions. I believe it is immoral to have sex outside of marriage. I feel like a freak due to this fact. I hope that nobody knows since only the ones closest to me know about it. Am I wrong ...
A. 11 August 2010: No you a breath of fresh air actually. Too many girls just give it away willy nilly and live to regret it all their life.... (read in full...)
No one wants to have sex with me!
Q. I have to vent right now as I am SO angry and upset! I want to have sex but my partner keeps coming up with lame excuses. I am a virgin and he is much older than me and not a virgin and yet somehow its ME that has to pester him for sex. It starte...
A. 11 August 2010: You didn't say how old you are. If you're under the age of say 20 he probably just has a lot of respect for you and is trying to let you remain a virgin as long as possible for the true love of your life. You only have that virginity once in your ... (read in full...)
No one wants to have sex with me!
Q. I have to vent right now as I am SO angry and upset! I want to have sex but my partner keeps coming up with lame excuses. I am a virgin and he is much older than me and not a virgin and yet somehow its ME that has to pester him for sex. It starte...
A. 11 August 2010: You didn't say how old you are. If you're under the age of say 20 he probably just has a lot of respect for you and is trying to let you remain a virgin as long as possible for the true love of your life.... (read in full...)
I don't like him watching porn alone! Should I just watch it with him?
Q. I don't like my boyfriend watching porn. It makes me feel like I am not good enough for him. Just the thought of him watching other naked girls and doing the nasty with himself makes me sick. Should I just watch it with him? Would he stop watching ...
A. 11 August 2010: I think he might like that. Just sit behind him and stroke his manhood as he gets turned on.... (read in full...)
I love my husband but can't take his drunked shenanigans anymore!
Q. I have been married or over 20 years I love my husband very much. He also says he loves me. But anytime we go out with friends or just go out. He thinks he has to find another women to hang onto and follow around. He gets drunk and hugs on them. He ...
A. 11 August 2010: Short of divorce, I guess you could just feel bad about it and find a lover on the side.... (read in full...)
Is this a common fetish and should I be worried?
Q. I am a 23 year old wife and mother of 3 and my husband has just told me that he has a fetish for shemale's. We have been together for six years and married for 5 and since the begining of our relationship I have always known that my husband was ...
A. 11 August 2010: A great big old strap on cock should morph you right into his fantasy world luck to you let us know how he responds... (read in full...)
How do I return the blow job favor to my girlfriend?
Q. My girlfriend recently decided after 5 months of dating that she wanted to go a step farther and give me a blow job. I tried to lick her and she said it was more of a turn off than feeling good. What can I do to repay her physically? ...
A. 11 August 2010: Whoa if cunnilingus is a turn-off to her you may have a women that is un turn onable. I've never heard of a woman not wanting tounge action...oh well, there's always a first time. I guess you'll just have to thank her with a new car or something, ... (read in full...)
B/f took money and still hasn't given it back
Q. My boyfriend has taken my money. He knew I saved all of my money as he asked for a loan of it and he promised I would get it back. I'm going to london tomorrow and he hasn't got it. Weve been together 4 months and he owes me £570 should I finish it ...
A. 11 August 2010: A hard lesson to learn is you can't trust everyone. I'd take the slimeball to court if I were you and I don't even know how much an lb is but I'm certain it's enough to be worth seeing the moucher go down for.... (read in full...)
Do men like to see pussy lips through a women's shorts?
Q. What % of men want to see cameltoe on a woman and why do so many prude women have a problem with it ? Jealousy ? While you judge what looks inapropriate your alright with dresses, tops that display most of your breasts and cleavage and that isn...
A. 11 August 2010: all the men i know love seeing a big fat slit in a girls shorts it screams out "look at me i'mm thick and juicy!"... (read in full...)
My parents caught my BF fingering me and now they won't talk to me.
Q. HELPP! my parents caught my bf fingering me... and they havent spoken to me since (it happened last night and havent talked to me all night and today) are they disappointed..? sad? will they ever get over it? im so depressed right now because i ...
A. 11 August 2010: yeah, they'll "get over it" but they'll alson forever have that visual image of their precious young daughter 'giving it up ' for some terrible young creature...shoulda been more careful-lesson learned for others your age I hope.... (read in full...)
Did my husband touch my sister inappropriately?
Q. my younger sister age 13 stayed at my flat the other night wiv my 4yr old daughter. Our pc is in my daughters room so wen my hubby came home from he went on the pc after i went 2 bed. The next morning my sister went to her study class as usaul while ...
A. 11 August 2010: sounds like she is upset with him about "something" maybe he spanked hher for being a pain and now she's seaking retaliation? We'll probably never know. Lesson learned never leagve an adult male alone with a minor child!... (read in full...)
How do I give a hand job ?
Q. ok well i have a question to ask guys. i have never givin a hand job before and this guy wants me to give him one. im totaly up to it.....but obiously i dont know how to. so told him i dident know how to, and he said he would help me out (teach me...
A. 11 August 2010: No In fact the guy loves it if he's the first to recieve palm pleasure from you and is too happy to show you how HE likes it.... (read in full...)
Why can't I meet a guy who likes small breasts?
Q. I have small breasts, and as it is known, *most* guys like big breasts better. Some like small, but I have yet to meet one of those! Most guys just settle for small chested women. Like Salma Hayek is hot because of her big boobs, but Kate Hudson is ...
A. 10 August 2010: Not All men are "into' the larger sized breasts. Some of us out here actually prefer the more natural shaped [almost boyish] girl. It's all about frquency anyway not size or distribution of body mass.... (read in full...)
I want to ejaculate on her face, how to convince her?
Q. my girlfriend and i have done a lot sexually. we have both performed oral on each other, she likes it when pull out and cum on her, and she has even let me cum in her mouth and on her face once. i only recently told her that i would like cum on her ...
A. 10 August 2010: Do or Don't do ONLY what your girl feels good about...otherwise you're not respecting her at all. Just because you want something doesn't mean she should want it too. Maybe she wants a guy with a brain and a big penis and maybe youi're not him? ... (read in full...)
My partner wants to cum on my face but it makes me feel violated!
Q. I've been in a relationship for over four years, we love each other madly and have a child together. However, my partner wants to come on my face during sex and is unhappy (which I find unbearable to live with) when I refuse to let him. I feel vio...
A. 9 August 2010: Some women love it and some don't..just tell him no!... (read in full...)
what's a 69?
Q. dear cupid, im 15 and very naive can some one please tell me wat a 69er is??? thanks xxxx...
A. 7 August 2010: I agree with anon. Some things in life just need to happen over time and youth should be better spent preparing for life and having fun, not try out all the different sexual things.... (read in full...)
Do other ladies enjoy being 'fisted'?
Q. I have a very large viginia. So large, that my boyfriend has no trouble fisting me. Although I enjoy being fisted, I was wondering if other ladies are the same way. Also do they enjoy being fisted...
A. 6 August 2010: as long as he does the viginia..it's fine but don't let him between your legs.... (read in full...)
His touching doesn't feel as good as when I touch myself
Q. hey! i would appreciate your help very much. i am a girl, 21 years old. i'm with my boyfriend since one year. i love him very much and i find him VERY sexy. since i'm 12 years old i often masturbate and i always have great orgasms. most times wh...
A. 5 August 2010: i can remember when i was young and uninformed as to how to please a girl. my girlfriend said, "i guess i'll just have to show you." and she did. from then on it was nice to make her come to climax. I'd say, you need to let him watch you please ... (read in full...)
Unhappily married man in love with a lesbian!
Q. Ok, so i am a married man. I feel that i was pressured into getting married, and i don't have the greatest relationship. I love my wife, but i don't think i am in love with her. I met a woman, a woman with whom i work. She is amazing, and i got ...
A. 4 August 2010: If she's truly a lesbian you'r S.O.L. and should forget her... (read in full...)
He only likes anal sex
Q. is it suspecious that my new boyfriend only likes anal sex? or am i trippin...
A. 4 August 2010: You didn't say if you liked it or not? I assume you're not into it so tell him to find another pastime.... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend but I think I'm a lesbian!
Q. Hi everybody, I'm a senior girl in high school and i've never really had a boyfriend before. I've had some dreams about girls for 2 or 3 years and already asked dearcupid to know if it meant something or not. They said it's just hormones and my ...
A. 4 August 2010: how your mom feels about same sex relations is not relevant to the argument. if you are bi then your boyfriend is one lucky guy.... (read in full...)
I'm not in a very good place at the moment and need your help guys...
Q. Dear Agony Aunt Please can you help. I am 54 years of age as is my husband. Recently I have noticed that he has been visiting porn sites on the internet most mornings and evenings. Is this normal for a man of his age? Our sex life hasn't ...
A. 3 August 2010: Sadly, we men go throug some "tough times" too with the aging process, 1.) we produce less and less testoterone9slowing our drive) and 2.) we begin to have fanasies wishing we were youthfull again...this draws many of us to porn to see if we can ... (read in full...)
I'm not in a very good place at the moment and need your help guys...
Q. Dear Agony Aunt Please can you help. I am 54 years of age as is my husband. Recently I have noticed that he has been visiting porn sites on the internet most mornings and evenings. Is this normal for a man of his age? Our sex life hasn't ...
A. 3 August 2010: some women think(or hope) that we outgrow porn...not gonna happen, sorry ladies... (read in full...)
Is there any way of making a name for yourself in the job market without a degree?
Q. This is not a question on relationships but I am still looking for some advice/guidance from the older working generation! I'm currently 2 years into a 4 year course studying Mathematics at Edinburgh University. Before this my CV was building up ...
A. 3 August 2010: I never graduated and ended up with an engineering firm making more than many of the 5-year grad students. But I busted my buns doing "grunt work" once within the firm.I'd still recomend getting the degree. Life comes at you a little easier. So ... (read in full...)
I'm insecure about my saggy clit, help?
Q. mkkay well can you help me! i wanted ta know is it normal for your clit to be saggy? and is it a turn off? i didnt let my ex touch me down there because i as so insecure about it! i want to sex my boy friend but im afraid he will be freaked out by ...
A. 3 August 2010: now you gals are starting to sound just like us men all worried about our size...it's all good!... (read in full...)
How do I give a hand job ?
Q. ok well i have a question to ask guys. i have never givin a hand job before and this guy wants me to give him one. im totaly up to it.....but obiously i dont know how to. so told him i dident know how to, and he said he would help me out (teach me...
A. 19 July 2010: I have a terrific answer to this question...go to googl;e and type in lingham massage. This man will love you forever if you follow the instructions and for the guys, search for yoni massage everyone will be very happy tonight.... (read in full...)
How do I give a hand job ?
Q. ok well i have a question to ask guys. i have never givin a hand job before and this guy wants me to give him one. im totaly up to it.....but obiously i dont know how to. so told him i dident know how to, and he said he would help me out (teach me...
A. 5 July 2010: the absolute best way is to have him show you...since all guys are different they have different best ways- you've heard "different strokes for different folks. It can't be more true than here... (read in full...)
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