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*ndrewsb
writes:Okay, So I have no problem getting and keeping an erection when I'm by myself watching porn. I have no problem getting an erection when I'm intimately kissing my girlfriend. I do have a problem getting an erection when it comes time to actually get the job done. It really lowers my self esteem and I'm pretty sure that's the reason I CANT get an erection, cause I'm trying to hard. It's in my mind, yes. I know this, But how can I make it NOT on my mind?
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reader, SweetSmoochy +, writes (20 January 2011):
 You might have a porn addiction. STOP WATCHING!!! It's really, really destructive. Stick to the real deal. It's so much better!!
Take a break from porn, masturbation, and sexual attempts. Then, in maybe a week and a half try again. Talk to your girlfriend. If she is a caring person, she will understand and help you get your confidence back. This is hard for her too!! Rejection makes a woman feel terrible, so if she's a little crabby or abrasive she's probably just feeling like you aren't attracted to her.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (14 January 2011):
 THere is such a condition called, ejaculation denial...you need to google it.
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reader, Hoodzie  +, writes (9 January 2011):
Dude,quit watching porn and masturbating it has affected your sex drive. lay off the stuff and quit things will be back to normal.caution,if dont quit,you will develop premature ejaculiations during sex and that is a serious problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2011): Hey bud!
Yes, lay off the masturbation and also the pron as I feel your mind has become used to a certain kind of stimulation and therefore arent aroused unless your mind is subjected to it. This is unhealthy my good man. However, all the power is in your hands, literally (haha), and you can quit watching this so your mind becomes more used to the real thing in that being your lady. Good luck here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2011): It's called nerves, stagefright.
Younger guys commonly feel pressured when it comes to performance and, as a result, can't get things started. Watching adult films and doing the real thing are completely different. My guess is you're probably thinking that you have to perform like the guys in the film. Trust me, it's not only act, but also not expected as much as you think.
Try not to think about it during the time and don't feel pressured to go through with anything until it feels right. Just enjoy the moment, think about her and not yourself, and when you're ready, you're ready.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2011): Dude, give your hand a rest and lay off the porn for awhile?! Your not going to have an appetite for dinner if you snack all day either.
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