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writes:Why would he do that? I hate him so much:(?My ex bf cheated on me and dumped me so he could sleep around.I was heart broken for over a year. He came back begging to try and I gave him another chance cause I loved him so much. But it didn't work out.We haven't spoken over a year. He messaged me this morning on whatapp and I went on there and he's blocked me.Why does he make me feel so bad. I hate the effect he has on my emotions. I can honestly say I hate him. Because of him I've been single for 2years now and don't want to be with anyone and I've just lost interest in love and relationships.
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reader, llifton  +, writes (17 February 2013):
 Why do you allow him to make you feel so bad?you and only you are in charge of knowing what you will and will not put up with. this you should most definitely not put up with. you ultimately have the last say. he can't hurt you unless you let yourself be emotionally available to be hurt.shut this door and never look back. easier said than done, but start practicing now. you'll find that later on down the road, it'll save you from a LOT of heart ache. i speak from experience.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (16 February 2013):
 Hi
He has already spoilt several years of your life, so why let him ruin any more?
You don't want to let his bad behaviour dictate your future,he let you down badly when you loved him.You've given him 2 chances so enough is enough.
Time to draw a line under him,don't be drawn into his stupid games or let him know you are affected by him still.
There are millions of men out there so do not let one bad apple, one bad experience ruin your future.
He has shown how he feels about you more than once, so why LET im do more damage.
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reader, Darrell Goodliffe +, writes (16 February 2013):
 Hating him is understandable. He deserves to be hated. However, while you carry on hating him you are giving him the control he obviously craves over you, your life and your emotions. I dont think somebody who hates their ex has actually resolved the feelings they had for the person in question. It may sound odd, and this is probably going to take some explaining, but hating is the precise opposite of loving somebody but the point is that you still care about them, they still effect you and figure in your emotional universe. Feeling nothing about somebody, being indifferent, shows when somebody is really over their ex. I dont even think about my most recent ex and even if i I do I feel nothing and that shows I am over it.So, if you want a tip on how to move on, I would suggest trying to let go of your hatred. What was done is done, what he did was wrong, but hating the guy is just giving him what he wants, the ability to influence your feelings and control you. I know this is easier said than done but I think it is the only way forward for you. Good luck.
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