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writes:I'm a single mother of two, separated from my husband of 19 years two years ago, finally dating, can't seem to find and keep a good man, a man like my husband who accepted that Im bisexual and will allow me to have flings with women while he stays monogomous to me and takes good care of my two kids and me. What's the problem with men these days and how can I find one who can step to the plate and do right by me and my kids like my husband did? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2013): Accepting your bisexuality is NOT the same thing as allowing you to cheat! When you have sex with someone who is not your spouse you are committing adultery, regardless of the gender of your new sex partner.So you are basically saying you feel entitled to a new spouse who will be ok with you cheating on him. I doubt you will easily find such a man except those who also want to cheat on you (and even then many cheaters cannot handle it when their partner cheats on them. Something about having the upper hand or being in control)
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 February 2013):
 As a bisexual woman in a monogamous relationship I'm going to speak to this...
If you want to be able to have flings with other people, you need to be willing to let your partner do the same. It's only fair.
OR you have to invite him to join you....
I'm bisexual. I'm married to a man who is more than willing to let me find other women to play with... as long as he gets to join in and find other playmates. He is straight so it would be women for him as well. Since I do not wish to share my husband with other women, I abide by the same rules... monogamy goes both ways. You forsake all other men for your husband, why do you downgrade and disrespect the relationship two women can have by assuming it's ok since it's same sex play?
This is why gays are having such a hard time getting marriage equality... because of people who do not deem same sex play as cheating....
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2013): Because your husband was a one in a million sap, you'll have to look into the fetish scene to find a guy with such little self confidence or a dedicated masochist.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (23 February 2013):
 You want a guy who will let you cheat basically (because I don't see you saying anything about him having flings as well.)
Just because you CHOOSE to be bisexual doesn't mean all potential partners have to "let" you explore your sexuality.
Maybe an open marriage is what you "think" you want.
I think however you use your sexuality as an excuse to be unfaithful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2013): I agree with the others. I won't get rude, but what you are expecting a man to accept is plain old cheating on him.
You got a man to accept that in the past. Lucky for you. But that doesn't mean it was a reasonable demand. Plenty of couples agree to situations that the majority of normal people would not think are reasonable.
You may find this kind of man again but you would be very lucky. If that is your measure of a "good man" then you are going to be looking for a long time in a world full of no-good men.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2013): You are not looking for a 'good man', you are looking for a doormat who will let you cheat on him whenever you like while he remains faithful to you. You will not find many self respecting man who will put up with this arrangemen I'm afraid. If you want a relationship with a good man, you will have to start acting like a good woman.
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reader, TreeOfLife +, writes (22 February 2013):
 First off.....Geez...girl...you want to cheat on a future man like that? If you are going to do that, bring the girl into the bedroom with him.....and share. At least then, the two of you are cheating on each other with each other's consent in front of each other.
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reader, llifton +, writes (22 February 2013):
 So you're asking why you can't find a guy who will do everything for you, and be faithful, while willingly accepting you cheating on him? I'm sorry but I think it takes a special kind of idiot to sign up for that. I date women and I'd be damned if I dated a girl who wanted me to take care of her while she ran off and dabbled in sleeping with men. Hell. No. Secondly, I think men who willingly give permission to their women to sleep with girls are insane. They don't think it's cheating cause it's not with another guy. Boy, if I could count how many times I've heard men say they don't care, it's not cheating because those women can't give them what they can, right before their women left their asses for a chick. Happens ALL the time.Why do you expect to receive the best of both world's? I don't understand your mindset. Maybe for a casual dating relationship, sure. But if you're expecting to be able to settle down and have a guy take care of you, only to grant you permission to run around with other chicks, I think you should re-evaluate your definition of love.
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