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writes:When I moved to my sisters house there was this other girl stay there and I moved and she was also dating another guy and also she just got engaged to him but after that she cheated on him with me, so we had sex etc...and then we started dating and she left him...but now its been like a year now but still to this day she is still friends with the guy she cheated on and in the past she has lied to me about her and him hanging out and drinking together still but she said there are no more lies anymore. so I said ok I trust her so anyways what I am saying should I worry that there still friends like almost best friends? he says rude comments to me on fb and thru text like for example when she was over there he would say I'm gonna fuck her so hard etcthis valentines day she wasn't with me but we did have lunch together before she went home, anyways I said I love her on fb and her ex bf dan said no she doesn't.he went on saying mean stuff about me and saying she will never be with u but she is with me and she says she wants a kid with me and loves me very much and we talked about this and I made her cry and I hate myself when she cries I said pick me or him becauuse his not respecting our relationship. yes I destroyed his...but what should I do? Just let them be friends and let him keep saying rude comments about me?
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reader, llifton +, writes (17 February 2013):
 one thing we know about this girl? she's a liar and a cheater. Big red flag. she didn't think twice about cheating on her fiance at the time with you. so what makes you think she's not gonna turn around and cheat on you with him? she clearly has no moral regard for anything.you can't trust a liar. i'm sorry. but i'm a very black and white person when it comes to this. once someone proves to me they aren't trustworthy, it's a done deal. i don't waste my time and i'm gone. if i were you, i'd have never even gone for that girl in the first place.if you insist on trying to stay with this girl, you definitely need to make her decide between you or him. she's being unreasonable and completely unfair. If she respected you, that guy would have been removed IMMEDIATELY. and a long time ago. the fact that he hasn't been removed already? another BAD sign.if it were me, and that guy kept making those comments, i'd give my girl one warning: tell him to knock it off or i'm out. and if she didn't handle it, i'd be gone. simple as that. but as i said before, i'm VERY black and white. i won't put up with nonsense. at least not anymore. i've been through too much and have learned what i will and will not tolerate. i wouldn't put up with any of that crap.
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reader, Geoth +, writes (16 February 2013):
Geoth is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks that cleared up some stuff for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2013): Triangle-situation 1. Her cheating on her ex fiancé with you was not a good thing, and the fact that you both soon dated and still are? Could or could not potentially be a good idea. If she cheated on him with you what gives you the idea she won't cheat on you with someone else?2. The fact that there still friends, "bestfriends" and have had sexual relations gives an idea they are or will eventually sleep together again.3. You shouldn't even consider having kids with her. Till your sure about the relationship that you both have. Her continuing to be "bestfriends" with her ex fiancé is very fishy to me.I believe everyone deserves better. And her ex fiancé is rude to you and doesn't respect your relationship with her. Does she say anything to him so that he stops? From what you've written it doesn't seem like she cares and her crying seems like a joke! I think you should reconsider being with her. Being alone waiting for the next right one will be better for you! Good luck :)Jen
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