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30 March 2008: Slashdot is a geek site focussing mostly on tech. Relationship advice is not something you will find there, but this story just has to be mentioned. http://entertainment.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/03/30/0028211 http://www.livescience.co...
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Does anyone know the trick to a "flawless lady garden"?
Q. I like to be completely hair free down below. However, no matter what hair removing method I try, I still get red irritation and spots. Does anyone know the trick to a flawless lady garden? ...
A. 27 May 2009: Odd name? Shouldn't something grow in a garden?... (read in full...)
Lost and confused
Q. i found out my girl of 11 months had went out with her old boyfriend from a 1.5 years ago.they went to dinner and she doesnt drink but she had a glass of dinner wine and was intoxicated,so she ask to be brought over to her girl friends.well she ...
A. 26 May 2009: Eheh, one glass of wine does not make you drunk. There are things called cabs and mobile phones and pay phones. There are also things like two different rooms in a hotel. there is no reason the two would have ended up in the same bed for any other ... (read in full...)
Recovering from anorexia but still have concerns
Q. Hello. I am currently recovering from anorexia, and I feel like I have reached a bit of a hurdle. I got to a very low weight and was nearly hospitalized, but I managed to turn things around with the help of my mom and psychologist and get better. ...
A. 24 May 2009: Anorexia is more then just an obsession with being thin. Part of it is self-hatred, fear of being disliked or fear of being liked while you don't feel you deserve it.
And part of having a disease is feeling special. Feeling you get attentio... (read in full...)
My husband finds the idea of retirement dull but I would like to spend more time with him
Q. I am 51 and my husband is 54, and he told me that his firm said to him that his retirement is set to come in six weeks time. He told me that they didn't really want to do it, and when he asked why they wanted him to retire, they said it was nothing ...
A. 22 May 2009: People are what they do. A man is often his job. That is what he uses to define himself. It is his worth in society, his worth to his family.
I presume you are a homemaker and probably a mother. How would you feel if your kid(s) told you, you... (read in full...)
I'm bisexual but should I try being in a relationship with a man?
Q. im a bisexual who prefers girls.. i've never fell in love with men (i only "like" them and their bodies) but have loved many women. im in closet..have never been into relationship.. there's this guy who has been chasing me for the past year...he's ...
A. 22 May 2009: Be honest with him. If he genuinly loves you and you are just using him as an experiment then he is going to end up hurt and that ain't fair.
Tell him the deal, that you like him but don't love him and are not sure you ever will but are willing ... (read in full...)
We have not had sex for 2 years due to his lack of sex drive...
Q. I'm asking guys, but not only... So, if my husband can't get it up with me, but he is not physically impotent,/night erections present// then is it possible he will be able to get it up with someone else? I mean, I just don't know, if I should ...
A. 20 May 2009: It could be, if he has a mental block that involves you. Lets say he lost trust in you (just an example) that would kill your sexual appeal to him. Then it wouldn't apply to another woman.
However, you should have a clue if this might be the case... (read in full...)
Does the amount of lovers you've had in the past matter?
Q. Hi, I'm 24 and just broken up with my boyfriend. He made me feel pretty bad a lot of the time and one of the things he said which upset me was that I've slept with loads of people and I'm a slag. He used to count on his fingers the people he kn...
A. 20 May 2009: Well if the update is true, and your boyfriend ain't lying, then he is just a hypocrit.
I have my doubts however. 100? At what age? Do the math, you know as a woman young boys are barely sexually attractive to women. Men often start later. S... (read in full...)
What do people think about casual sex?
Q. I'd like peoples opinions on casual sex (one night stands and friends with benefits). Do you think either are morally ok? I am trying to make my mind up on weither i think they are accetable and would like some opinions. ...
A. 20 May 2009: How an adult chooses to behave,as long as it hurts no others, is his/her business.
If you have casual sex and are clear about it, so you don't let someone believe it is more, then who cares. Your live, your values.
If you choose to only h... (read in full...)
Does the amount of lovers you've had in the past matter?
Q. Hi, I'm 24 and just broken up with my boyfriend. He made me feel pretty bad a lot of the time and one of the things he said which upset me was that I've slept with loads of people and I'm a slag. He used to count on his fingers the people he kn...
A. 19 May 2009: To most people, yes. Lots of women would think twice about being with a man who has lots of ex-lovers.
We all have different priorities in live, different ways of living. If you are one of those people who falls in love easily or doesn't have pro... (read in full...)
Why do I only seem to attract the jerks?
Q. I recently broke up with someone because he only wanted to have sex with me. I didnt do anything with him but he is one of many who just want to sleep with me. I dont know why I only attract the jerks because I dont dress like a slut or sleep around ...
A. 19 May 2009: All of the nice guys that I know are either not into me or are taken.
The last bit is the best explenation. While there are plenty of okay guys out there, they are taken and the woman who got them make sure they keep them. A nice guy also wouldn't... (read in full...)
Get over the issue? Or get over the girl?
Q. I have been in a relationship for 1 year and 5 months. I feel at this point that i was in over my head when i got together with my current girlfriend. I fell in love early in the relationship before i really got to know her. Before the rel...
A. 18 May 2009: Sbe is making you feel like this right now. Do you have any reason to believe things will change?
You seem to think that a relationship should be exclusive. She doesn't. Either you give up on what you belief or give up on this girl.
Sometim... (read in full...)
Shouldn't I be the one who is mad?
Q. Okay my boyfriend/bestfriend of 8 years on and off cheated on me and i found out by calling a number in his phone. Then he gets mad at me for calling her and tells me mean hurtful things. Then he changed his number on me. Shouldnt i of been the one ...
A. 17 May 2009: Yes, you should. Why aren't you.... (read in full...)
Text and sex with the ex
Q. Me and my x have been flirting by text. We haven't been with new people still going through divorce. Is it wrong to have text sex then maybe even hook up, knowing our marriage is still over?...
A. 17 May 2009: Got to disagree with Phil here. You two split up for a reason. Either that reason was silly and you two should never have ended up in divorce, or the reason was serious and you two should end this. Do you want it to drag on forever and ever?
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What is wrong with sex between brothers and sisters?
Q. Ok I know sex between brothers and sisters is considered wrong by most people. Why? I mean if they love each other and make sure they don't have any children, what is wrong with sharing that love physically? ...
A. 17 May 2009: Power and the abuse of it. Siblings live in a power hierachy. The oldest is often both a role-model and babysitter of the younger siblings. How then can they enter a relationship in which both are equal? My little sister was often told to listen to ... (read in full...)
She has been faking orgasms and I just now figured out it was all an act!
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for a month and a half and within the first week of our relationship we began having sex. Every time we had intercourse she "acted" like she was orgasming and I didn't question her but I had my doubts. Well about a ...
A. 17 May 2009: And what was she supposed to do? Tell you, you were a bad lay? Most women feel they can't do that, so if the guy doesn't do it for them, they fake it.
If you had your suspicions for so long, you should have tried harder. Women don't fake it becau... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a girl who's cheated on me at least 3 times
Q. i am since three years i a relationship with a girl i love to bits. but during that time i know of at least 3times she cheated on me(was during the first one and half years) she confessed parts after i caught her the first time, then did it again...
A. 16 May 2009: Where do people get the idea that love always has to work out? That there always is a happy ending?
Sometimes you fall in love with the wrong person. It is part of life. Accept it and move on.
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He says I have insecurities but I don't!?
Q. I been seeing this guy for 5 months now, we saw alot of each other in the beginning but now he seems to forget to call, i have spoken with him and sometimes when he cant get me right away and we have plans he goes and does something else. he said ...
A. 16 May 2009: Well, yes in a way you do. You are insecure about having insecurities or you wouldn't ask here.
He seems to be jerking you around. Why? Perhaps he just hasn't fully grasped that women are people too and not some toy he can use and put away whe... (read in full...)
My much older boyfriend is engaged to another woman, but I know he really likes ME!
Q. Im 18 and the man im seeing is 34. we are smitten by each other... we see each other nearly every day, send over 100 texts to each other daily and cant keep our eyes off each other. I have never felt this way about anyone before! There is the small ...
A. 16 May 2009: He cares for you so much, that is engaged to be married to someone else and hasn't made a choice for either of you yet.
But hey, sure. He likes you. Even if he does, which I doubt, what does it say about him. What if he picks you, will he cheat on... (read in full...)
Sociopath ex-boyfriend trying to guilt trip me back, what to do?
Q. Hey everyone, ok I broke up w/ my verbally abusive bf last week after 2 and 1/2 years together. A friend sent me a link to a site on Sociopaths. He fit the profile perfect! Pathological liar, no signs of remorse for anyone, difficulty in life ...
A. 16 May 2009: Did you finish reading the site? You said he fitted the profile perfectly. Well his current behaviour fits it too.
People can change, but it takes a long time and very hard work with the aid of proffesionals. Did any of this happen? No? Then it ... (read in full...)
Why is body image so important to men?
Q. Well, what if you don't have them, hmmmmm? What does that make me? Obviously, not a real woman. I know society puts pressure on women to be thin, but I don't understand why they need to listen to this crock of nonsense, since men prefer women ...
A. 15 May 2009: Okay, lets explain it one more time:
Woman: Do you like a-cups.
Man: Ah, a-cups. Lovely.
Woman: so you like small breasts, what about c-cups.
Man: Ah, c-cups. Lovely.
Woman: so medium and small. What about D-cups
Man: Ah, d-cups. Lovely. ... (read in full...)
I am perceived as not a convential beauty - can guys still want me?
Q. Do guys prefer the more convential beauty to some one who isn't - like me. I am 32 year old which is old and who has a fat face and short teeth. Now will you please print my question since you printed every one else's but mine every time. I re...
A. 15 May 2009: Hang out at your local wedding hall or whatever. See some of the brides, of for the males, some of the grooms.
There is someone for everyone. Love truly is blind and you know what, Marilyn Monroe was/is the sexiest woman on the planet and she kill... (read in full...)
Help me to be thin!
Q. hello. i have a problem. please help as best you can. well i am 14, 5'4'' and weigh 9 st 9 lbs. i am really fat. i want to weigh 8 st 7 lbs so i am going to do a pro-ana diet and lots of exercise etc. now someone told me that ana can make you pu...
A. 15 May 2009: "my life is fucked up and i want one thing to feel good about." That is what it is all about isn't it. Controlling your weight, achieving some impossible goal even if it kills you just to have something you can feel succesful about. That you ... (read in full...)
Should I hire a PI to follow my wife???
Q. I found 2 texts on my wife's phone. 1 sent to her, and 1 was her reply. I checked her contact list and the text was from a guy named Jim. That's it, only Jim in her contact phonebook. His text was 'so, how do you like my hang-down?' My wife's reply ...
A. 15 May 2009: What else is going on that you immidiatly suspect the worsed? What I tend to notice is that questions here come only after a long line of smaller incidents until finally it all bursts out.
Is it just this one incident or is there more?
If ther... (read in full...)
Tips for anal masturbation?
Q. Anyone have any good tips for anal masturbation pls? Thanks...
A. 14 May 2009: Don't lick your fingers after.... (read in full...)
If he wants anal then go gay!
Q. What is up with guys wanting to try Anal!! I am tired of every single guy i have dated wanting to try it. I am a girl I have a vag... If he wants anal go gay!!... Please explain how a guy sticking his dick in a butt hole with poop coming out of be ...
A. 14 May 2009: Then don't and find guys that don't want it.
What is up with girls bitching about the guys they date when nobody forces them to date those guys?... (read in full...)
Another porn problem!
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 5months now!! We have a fun and fufilling relationship and sex life, but i have a problem understanding his obsession with porn. We have watched it together, which i dont mind, but recently alot of the time i ca...
A. 10 May 2009: Boys will be boys does not excuse everything.
For instance, it does not excuse ignoring you for the sake of masturbation especially when you are ready and willing to turn it into a teamsport.
One possibilty is that he may not know you are ava... (read in full...)
When and why do guys get erections?
Q. okay. i really dont understand this erection buisness that well.i know that guys say they have one when they see a girl they fancy and she does something sexy. but do some gusy just have random one's?or just have one when they see a person they fan...
A. 10 May 2009: When and why do you get erect nipples. Roughly the same for men. Yes, it may happen because of a girl and it may happen because some hormones play up
... (read in full...)
What do guys want in a girl who is a 'potential hookup'?
Q. Just out of curiousity, what do guys want in a girl who is a 'potential hookup'? Most of the time when i have been out, all the guys have always seemed to go for a friend of mine, who is quite pretty but rather slutty. I'm not saying this to be ...
A. 10 May 2009: A pulse. Well, in the last week or two. A twitch. I am not picky.
On a more serious note. It all depends what you want to hookup for her with and the tastes of the guy in question. A slutty girl would attract the slutty guys who just want quick s... (read in full...)
I caught him red-handed but I still love him. What should I do?
Q. here goes: My boyfreind of 5 years has been dealing with some depression and anxiety. he has been going to doctors for this and we have been on and off the whole time. He has lied about his where abouts and who he has been with. And he even joined a...
A. 10 May 2009: Depression? That makes you sit at home, want to sleep and be inactive. Does that sound like what he is having?... (read in full...)
Why the gay sex pornography?
Q. I am just 22 have been marrid to my husband for almost 2years. Recently i have caught him watching gay porn and when i asked him that if he wants to tell me something or if he is a gay he denied it. After that he stopped for a week and then started...
A. 10 May 2009: Sounds to me like he is gay or at least way being bi-sexual.
He never initiates sex with you? How long does it take for him to be "ready" if you get my drift. While all men are different does it take longer then you would expect for a young he... (read in full...)
He's soon to be a father and I don't know if I want to be with him now
Q. This guy and I have became close friends over the past few months.. he has admited to being very attached and likes me alot, but I never really thought of him that way.. lately, I have been thinking I might give him a shot because I always date ...
A. 10 May 2009: "I have been thinking I might give him a shot because I always date losers"
By what standards is a 15yr old father/two timer NOT a loser? ... (read in full...)
I'd rather not go if he's flying first class and I have to fly economy
Q. i have a partner of 2yrs,i love him very much.he goes overseas twice a year for business,and hes asked me to go with him on his next trip.hes always flying first class.and hes collecting all points that he gets from fying 1st class to get me a ...
A. 10 May 2009: He really said that? Taking a trip together, he is in 1st class, you in economy?
That takes balls.
Making to much out of it? Lets make it simpler. Say you two go out. He takes a cab, you can take the bus.
Make the two tickets business cla... (read in full...)
Help! He's too tired to sleep with me but stays up all night to watch weird porn!
Q. *sigh* okay so here it goes i apologize for grammar since now because i am in a hurry. Okay so some inside details, I have been with my boyfriend for almost three years now, things were fine at the beginning of our relationship. and things moved ...
A. 10 May 2009: Seems to be a couple of questions/problems here.
First, bit naive to think guys don't watch porn in a relationship. Not all guys do and it is up for discussion wether it is acceptable in your relationship, but not knowing that some guys do shows... (read in full...)
How do I stop being scared that he likes me?
Q. There is this guy that I think might like me. I really like him too. I've never had a boyfriend. I've never had a guy act the way he does around me. It's to the point where I'm scared that he likes me. It's so bad that I've been trying to make it ...
A. 10 May 2009: Why don't you feel comfortable with the idea someone may like you?
Is it extreme shyness, are you afraid to talk to him or is it something more sinister. Don't you feel worthy of someones affections?
It is impossible to give advice without k... (read in full...)
Period late..not had sex..so why is it late?
Q. (this question is mainly for girls). I am a few days late for my period and I got my first ever period 2 months ago. So far I have been regular. I havn't had sex=not pregnant so I don't now why i am late. Is this normal? and what should I do? ...
A. 10 May 2009: Because at your age periods and regular are mutually exclusive.... (read in full...)
He prefers bigger breasts and mine are small...how do I deal with his remarks about that?
Q. My boyfriend wants me to stop being insecure, but I don't know how. Granted, never been the most self confident chick in the block, since I'm not the prettiest. But when we started dating, he used to compliment me a lot which gave me a huge ...
A. 10 May 2009: Make comments about his penis size. But then I am male and would never put up with comments like this. He doesn't like the goodies, then he can go find something else to play with.... (read in full...)
I have fallen for a gay boy
Q. I'm 16, and recently i've begun to really like a a guy in my school, i knew he was interested and i think he knew i was intertested too. anyway we swapped numbers and it wasn't long until he admitted he was gay, i was devastated! but he told that ...
A. 10 May 2009: Eheh.
He is gay but wants to date you.
Oh dear, women still fall for that.
Here is a hint, being gay means you date the SAME sex. Not the opposite one.
I got a very strong suspicion he is trying to persuade you that you can cure h... (read in full...)
Why do girls make things so complicated?
Q. ok so there i was sittin in the library revising. opposite me was a girl who was also doing some work. i asked her "i kno ur busy but would u like to grab a bite quickly?" she said no but is goin for a smoke later and i could come with if i do ...
A. 10 May 2009: She wasn't hungry, but she was in need of a nicotine shot. What is complicated about it?
"Do you want to go out with me tomorrow".
"No, I am busy, but I am free the rest of the week".
That ain't complicated, she says yes but just not to the ... (read in full...)
He wants to have sex to see what I'm like
Q. Men help me out. I have been pursued by a man whom I love to be with. We went out several times and are compatible and have great communication: honest, open, and trusting. We even discuss disagreements with respect for the other's feelings and ...
A. 10 May 2009: You are the one in love with him, not me. That means I don't see him through rose-colored glasses and see a prick.
Double standards, he has them. He seems to want a virginal girl but also try her out before buying. Right...
He doesn't respect ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to want to masturbate all the time?
Q. I am 15 Turning 16 in 1 Month I am continually horny and wanting to masterbate, is this normal?...
A. 9 May 2009: Depends, when you are a teen your hormones get pretty messed up. Is the desire simply a desire such as wanting to eat chocolate or something that is becoming uncontrolable.
If it starts to affect your normal life, you staying at home to masturba... (read in full...)
Why does he say he has no money when I'm about?
Q. Right, first things first i love my boyfriend very very much and were about to celebrate our 2 yr anniversary however.. He is so selfish and whenever i bring this up he loses it and has a go at me making me feel small and in the wrong. For insta...
A. 8 May 2009: He is a thight fisted asshole whole thinks he can jerk you around. Up to you wether he is right or wrong.... (read in full...)
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