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Different position hurt--is that normal?
Q. Hi, I have a bit of a strange question. Im sorry if this sounds awful. Last night whilst having sex we tryed a different position wth me bent over and I found it realy uncomfortable and i dont know if it was because he was going realy fast. it w...
A. 1 February 2009: You probably mean a variation of doggy style. It is well known that this allows for deeper penetration. The angle might also be an issue. Try this, put a finger in your mouth and move it in and out. goes fine right? Now do the same with your finger ... (read in full...)
Lesbian in love with a guy!
Q. ok, I have been aware that I am lesbien for a couple of years now. I am still not out the 'closet' or anything, but recently there has been this guy who I have spent alot of time with. I really like him, and want to be with him, but am not attracted ...
A. 1 February 2009: You are not attracted to him, but want to be with him.
Exactly what do you mean attraction means anyway?
In what way do you want to be with him. Playing darts in a bar, talking about girls or be with him in the romantic meaning?
... (read in full...)
What does a "goer" mean?
Q. My friends the other day at college where on about this girl, who just started in our class, they said she was a bit of a goer, what does a goer mean ive never heard of it?...
A. 1 February 2009: Easy.... (read in full...)
My brand new BF bought me an anal sex toy for my birthday!
Q. My very new boyfriend bought me an anal sex toy for my birthday only two weeks after we had met. Although I had told him that I have never had anal sex before and wouldn't mind finding out about it, I felt that it was way too rushed and made me feel ...
A. 1 February 2009: Help? Oh okay, if it is one of those dreaded plastic wrap things, you can get it open with a good sharp pair of scissors.
Oh you mean him giving something like this. It is an odd toy to give. It is not entirely not-done to give erotic toys but... (read in full...)
I really want a wedding and kids but sometimes I can't stand him!!
Q. I'm 23 and me and my bf have been together for almost 3 years. The first year he did a lot of bad things and I wished that I had broken up with him but I stayed with him to try to make it work. He is a much better boyfriend now but I have a hard ...
A. 1 February 2009: "I really want a wedding and to have kids soon".
Followed, almost as an afterthought: I love him. BUT that small token of affection is IMMIDIATLY followed by "am scared to start dating new people"
Sometimes a lot is said by the way we say thing... (read in full...)
Opinions appreciated... Did he use me?
Q. About 3 months ago my bf dumped me because of my age.. I'm 16 he's 18 wow!! Well we broke up and that really fucked up my life honestly I really love him.. the months past and he still flirts with me and he's always there when I'm sad. After new ...
A. 1 February 2009: Geez, he dumped you right after you had sex. He claims you are to young, but not to young to date or have sex with. If you were to young, why weren't you to young before you had sex?
But sure, he didn't use you, because your heart tells you. Men... (read in full...)
Handling dogs & disease?
Q. HI. I want to know if anybody here knows if having/ handling dogs transmit any kind of diseases that could affect female health and/or pregnancy. I've been having this doubt on my mind for years and have not find an answer. The thing is years a...
A. 1 February 2009: There is a disease cats can transmit, although if you owned cats for most of your life you are probably immune, ask a doctor. Dogs, nope.
The biggest problem with dogs is afterwards. Kids are the most common bite victims for a reason.
As you ... (read in full...)
My brother moved in and he's so messy!
Q. My brother (and get let fired from his job) and his girlfriend got booted from they'll apartmant. They have been living with me and my boyfriend. My brother has been driving me insane. He hasn't been picking up after hisself, he leaves dashes and ...
A. 1 February 2009: They got kicked out of their apartment for a reason. If he didn't clean up his act when faced with being made homeless, why should he now. Especially since he hasn't faced the consequences of being kicked out. He has found a new spot just like ... (read in full...)
I love physics more than my gifrlfriend.Is it fair to her?
Q. Hello, I am currently engaged in a pleasant long distance relationship with a wonderful lady (we have been together 1 yr). We do not have frequent contact, but I care for her very much and we enjoy the time we spend together. I cannot see mysel...
A. 1 February 2009: This is real life. We got to make choices and they ain't always perfect.
Some people allow "love" to rule their lives. They focus their entire life around it and usually end up miserable. Their happiness depends on another person.
You are not l... (read in full...)
Should I accept the fate of my 3 week marriage?
Q. HI everyone, this is gonna be kind of long and hopefully that doesn't lose your interest. I have been with my husband for 4 years, but we just recently got married jan 10(this year) He used to be different, I don't even know who im with anymore, he ...
A. 30 January 2009: Was he romantic when he was courting you? Perhaps he thinks that romance is no longer needed once you two got married? It is not unknown, partners forgetting that you have to court your lover for your whole life. Not that that is right, if you are ... (read in full...)
Curious sex question
Q. I have a curious question Would you french kiss a girl who engaged in oral sex with her ex boyriend 2 years ago? Next question is it true that if you kiss a girl that engage in those things it will come in like you kissing the guy private part?......
A. 30 January 2009: So if I kiss my gf after she gave me oral I would be giving myself a blowjob? COOL! I guess the guy in question won't be asking for any blowjobs in the future however. No kisses for you but no gagging either, every cloud has a silver lining right? ... (read in full...)
I need an ex-porn sex addicts opinion
Q. I am directing this question to porn / sex - ex-porn /sex addicts. My husband, although in complete denial is one. I have already going throug hell and back with him when we were dating. He cheated in lied so much and in between there was always ...
A. 30 January 2009: This is not going to be a nice comment.
Read your own post. Really READ it. As if someone else had posted it. What do you think of this person who wrote this. What kind of person is she to you.
You got a guy who from the started treated ... (read in full...)
He wants me to be his next baby mom.
Q. Hello, I'm 17 years old and I've been dating my boyfriend since Febuary 22 2008... and it's going on a year. Okay now we have had sex already but we don't have sex very often like maybe 2 times a month and he has a baby. Let me tell the story - ...
A. 30 January 2009: My mother told me that if you can't say something nice, say nothing at all.
With that in thought, here is my comment:
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How can he change so quickly???? I KNOW he's hurting here too...
Q. I am a 30 year single mum of 4, over 3 years ago I split with a violent ex. I met a fantastic man last year, he was a few years younger and didn't have children of his own. We met online and we chatted for 8 weeks, sometimes we were up all night. He ...
A. 29 January 2009: I think it is pretty clear what is going on. First, lets be blunt.
You are an adult woman with no less then four kids. Western women on average nowadays have fewer then 2 kids. (well in europe at least, french women are having the most with 2.0... (read in full...)
Sexy calendar good? Or cheesy idea?
Q. Hey all! I am just looking for some male opinions here. My boyfriend is in Iraq right now, unfortunately. While over there he is not allowed to have any pornography. For a Valentine's Day gift I decided to create a whole calendar for him with ...
A. 29 January 2009: Are they naughty or nude? As others said, he might not be the only one who gets to see it. So consider for each picture wether you would mind EVERYONE in the ENTIRE world one day seeing them. That includes your great-grandchilderen and your dad.
... (read in full...)
I found something unusual inside me, anyone know what it is?
Q. i know this isnt the right sight to be asking this question but i didnt no were to go. this morning i was masturbating and i felt a small sqishy ball in my vagina, rilled it out and it was just like a small lump of jelly but was a very very dark ...
A. 29 January 2009: Jelly, dark brown? Sounds like blood. I suffer from nose bleeds during dry weather and after one semi-clotted blood looks like that.
Blood dries dark brown even black, if half-clotted it is bit jelly like.
If it was feces you would have smell... (read in full...)
My boyfriend called me fat and repulsive!!!
Q. Ok I need some advice please, I have been going out with my boyfriend for around four years... he can be controlling with me and mean but I never feel like I have the strength to leave him. I suffered a bad eating disorder last year and lost a ...
A. 29 January 2009: You don't have the strength to leave him.
He has said what he thinks of you, even said that he knows it hurts you and did it on purpose, as punishment so that in future you will do what he says.
You end with saying you now worry that he mi... (read in full...)
Sex for the first time.... but I've taken my period!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have never had sex before, and this Saturday was going to be our first time. The only problem is today I have started my period (this morning) and we were planning to have sex either late saturday night or the early hours of...
A. 29 January 2009: Sex is always messy. If you do it right.
Some women are extra turned on during their period, you don't seem to be one of them. Would it really hurt to wait a bit longer?
What I miss from you is "you wanting to do it". Are you sure this is bei... (read in full...)
He says he's a virgin, but I don't think I believe him
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend now for almost six months, and he claims to still be a virgin. I don't know whether I can fully believe him or not because he has told me in the past that he has had sex before, but then one day he tells me that was...
A. 29 January 2009: Frankly, it is impossible to tell from just this.
Some people lie about having had sex because they want to impress somebody else. That is what he claims and it might well be true.
On the other hand, it is not unknown for guys to claim they ar... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants to be able to kiss other guys
Q. Hey guys, I am 19, and my GF is 18. Basically, my girlfriend loves me says I am perfect for her, says she wants to marry me and everything. Prior to this, I guess our lowest point is when she kissed a guy out clubbing drunk (i know no excus...
A. 27 January 2009: Simple, she wants her cake and eat it to.
Get rid of her.
Read very carefully what she is saying, "I love you, I want to marry you, I want to fool around with other men". Oh, yeah, it is "just" kissing right now. Maybe it is. Kissing, snoggin... (read in full...)
Being naked in front of a man terrifies me....any advice??
Q. Ive got a weird problem. Ive lost 5 stone in weight and im am a slim size 10. I do have a little excess skin on my tummy from the weight loss but the i seem to have a fat vagina. Its sticks out when i lie down like a mountain and when i stand up it ...
A. 25 January 2009: Are you talking about your venus mound/pubic bone?
It can be pronounced, part of your build and nothing to do with weight. .... (read in full...)
I hate to see my dad so sad, how do I get over this?
Q. Hey, I need some advice. Recently, (in August of 2008) my aunt (dad's sister) passed away from suicide. I was never really close to her, so I didn't cry or anything at the funeral. The thing that bothers me is that my mom made a slide show with ...
A. 24 January 2009: Pain is a part of life. If there are no sad memories then what meaning do good memories have?
This is hard to understand when you are young, this might be the first time you had to deal with loosing someone, or deal with others having lost som... (read in full...)
What's the difference between male and female fantasy, do we fantasize the same
Q. Hello: What's the difference between male and female fantasy, do we fantasize the same? This guy told me that he fantasizes about me, I'm thinking like, living together, sex of course but having a life together, then it hit me, that maybe men a...
A. 24 January 2009: Hard to say, what are your fantasies about? Living together? What does that mean, you masturbate thinking about going curtain shopping with him? In that case, yeah, men think differently. Curtains are NOT involved.
It also really means what kin... (read in full...)
Opinions!!! My boyfriend wants to watch me with another man - healthy and normal??
Q. Me and my man michael have been togther almost 5 months ever since we hit about 3 months he has been asking me to have a threesome with another man and him i dont feel comfortable i did it like 4 or 5 times thinking he would give it up but he told ...
A. 24 January 2009: You don't want to do it but did it 4-5 times already?
Healthy and normal are VERY difficult concepts when it comes to sex. Normal especially is very flexible. Take body hair, anyone else think it odd that as female eyebrows have becoming hairier ... (read in full...)
I badly need some guy advice please.
Q. A question for the men out there. My husband cheated on me 3 times that I know of. Anyway the last one got "under his skin" for some reason. He felt or thought that he loved her. He says that thru everything that has happened he has always loved ...
A. 24 January 2009: Do you as men really feel that you can love two women?? Will he realize that it wasn't really love but lust?
Is that your question? My dear god girl, how naive can you be. Men do NOT give a SHIT. Do you really think that a single man who has stru... (read in full...)
This is the woman who had the ring question...
Q. (This is the woman who had the ring question) And don't even get me started on his spending. We had a joint account and he claimed that someone came and stole our money. He had spent half of my bond that I got from my grandpa of about six hundred ...
A. 24 January 2009: Lovely guy.
A lot of things seem to come out in your updates. The suicide thing is really nice. It is a classic example of emotional abuse/blackmailing.
Abusers can force you to stay with in a couple of ways. Physical abuse: Stay or I kill y... (read in full...)
Where is the sweetest part of a girl?
Q. where is the sweeties part of a girl?...
A. 24 January 2009: On the outside, the inside is all bitter and twisted and made of pure evil with no goal but to ruin the lives of all men.
Bitter? Who me?... (read in full...)
Guys, what do you like in a girl?
Q. Guys, what do you like in a girl? I'm not going to try to change myself or anything, but what specific personality and physical traits do you, personally, find attractive?...
A. 24 January 2009: This is difficult, because it depends on the girl what I like in a girl.
For instance, something as simple as length of hair. If I had to say it in general I either prefer it long (way past the shoulder) or short (boyish) but not in between.... (read in full...)
Why do older men think they have a chance with younger girls?
Q. ok i'm a 22 year old woman and i have a question about old men, like 40+. basically why do they try and flirt with us younger girls, why on earth would we be interested in someone who is old enough to be our fathers?! seriously, i hate it when i a...
A. 24 January 2009: To be brutally honest? Because we do.
It is considered perfectly normal for the male to be older then the female. You can wish it isn't so or question why it is true but tell me this. When you date, do you date men your own age or few years yo... (read in full...)
This is the oddest friendship I have ever had
Q. I've been "friends" with this guy for about 6 months. He told me right off the bat that he didn't want a relationship, but wanted a deep and intimate friendship. We have slept together but he has emphasized that to him that is just the icing on the ...
A. 24 January 2009: Well you are not going to want to hear this, but he is playing you like... well actually, like only desperate women can be played.
Come on, read your own post. It is a CLASSIC example of how to play a woman. Say honestly that you don't want a r... (read in full...)
Day before we get engaged she has sex with the ex
Q. I am engaged to this girl who I've been in love with. The day before she said 'yes' she was making love to the guy she calls her ex. I came to know this only after I got engaged. That too not from the girl(but it appears she wants to tell me ...
A. 24 January 2009: What was the relationship before the engagement, on the day she had sex with her ex?
Were the two of you "dating exclusively" or something else?
What you need to consider is that the engagement is irrelevant. She had sex BEFORE you proposed not... (read in full...)
I'm 24, hot and still a virgin
Q. I am a very attractive 24 year old female virgin and I’m ashamed that I have yet to be intimate with someone. I have never been in a serious relationship and have never done anything more than kiss. I am worried that when I find a guy I want to have ...
A. 24 January 2009: Do you regret being a virgin still?
Just ask yourself, how many women out there regret having had sex too soon or with the wrong guy?
Loosing your virginity, for a women who is not completely hideous, is hardly an achievement. Some young girls... (read in full...)
Kid's dad is threatening to take me to court
Q. I am getting ready to give birth to my baby boy on February 14th (lets see). My daughters dad and soon to be kids dad is threatening to take me to court for 50/50 custody (in which he signed over his rights to our daughter). He haven't been around. ...
A. 24 January 2009: Lawyer time.
ALWAYS get a lawyer when you need to deal with the law. Get one who specializes in family law, tell him EVERYTHING and let him/her take care of things.
It is simple, lawyers deal with the law, you on your own don't stand a change b... (read in full...)
Am I doomed to be lonely or will I find my Mr. Right?
Q. Why am i still single at 25 i a m a 25 year old college graduate. i have dated several guys for only short period of time not because i find them either below my standards in terms of education, or their appearances dont quite appeal to me. I ...
A. 3 December 2008: Well yes, your clock is ticking. It also ticked when you were 2 days old, and will keep ticking for two decades at least.
You have dated, so have no trouble meeting people, you just haven't found the right one yet.
Now you are being pressured ... (read in full...)
My married boss suggested no strings sex, should I take his offer?
Q. Hi,for the last one year i have been attracted towards my Boss. I am unmarried 28 Y female and he is 35 Y married male. He is also attracted towards me. He has asked me for sexual relations with him without any emotional involvement.He never forces ...
A. 3 December 2008: Cheating on your wife is a sign of a good personality?
If I beat mine, do I get a sainthood?... (read in full...)
What are the options for a girl with a man whose penis is almost 5''?
Q. What are all the options for a girl with a man whose penis is almost 5 inches? I secretly cry in my pillow after sex because my body is so sexually pent up. I am 33 but I do kegol exercises everyday and I've had no children and my ex boyfriends ...
A. 3 December 2008: It depends. Where does you satisfaction come from during intercourse? Women all need/want different things. Deepness of penetration? Width? Or clitoral stimulation?
If you need a big one, then you are out of luck. Maybe you can introduce a sex to... (read in full...)
Is it against religion to masturbate?
Q. hey I've just started going back to chruch and I'm really trying to do it right. I'm a Christian. and I was wondering is it against my religion to masturbate. or any ones religions... please let me know if you know anything about this. tha...
A. 3 December 2008: A young girl reported being raped, for religion she was stoned to death. Nurses checking her during the stoning to see if the was death already and while not to let the stoning continue.
What religion you talking about? Oh, christianity.
Hard... (read in full...)
Could I go through the same problems as my mom did during pregnancy?
Q. I'll start by saying, I could be pregnant... Yet to find out but, any ideas or info you can give me is great. I don't like doctors much so I rarely go, I was just thinking when I was born mum and I both almost died, same with my older sister and ...
A. 26 November 2008: Talk to a doctor. What was the reason of your mothers problems with her pregnancies? Is it hereditary? If not, then there is no worry. If it is, still doesn't mean you got it.
Same with the hearing, since that is the same as your dad, it might af... (read in full...)
I climax too fast, even in case of a slow intercourse, what can I do to change this?
Q. Hi. Me and my husband have been married for four months. I've always/usually have came faster than him, but I was on Lexapro for a time, and it took me longer times to cum, compared to what it used to take me. Now when we have sex, I cum really f...
A. 26 November 2008: Go for a multiple orgasm? As the other said, what is the problem?... (read in full...)
We plan to marry in January but I can't forget that she has been unfaithful, please advise.
Q. Dear Sir, I’m happy to stumble upon your website. I have a fiancée whom we have dated for 6 years 3 months. I really love this girl and she claims to love me too. We arranged to get married early January 2009. All the marriage arrangements have been ...
A. 25 November 2008: Lets face it, if I got the timeline right, you were together 4 years when she started seeing someone else.
That means she wasn't happy with the relationship, maybe still isn't. Or maybe she just doesn't care as much as you would expect for a co... (read in full...)
Is it because of rough sex that I'm getting sore after sex?
Q. So, my ex and I got back together about 3 weeks ago. Since I haven't been on birth control in a while, the first time we had sex I used the Plan B (Morning after pill), the following weekend we ended up using a condom and he morning afterwards I ...
A. 25 November 2008: Being sore after sex seems common enough, lets face it, an activity that involves punching something very big (leave a guy his delusions) and hard into soft tissue is bound to cause some grief.
But bleeding? That sounds more serious. Sore as in br... (read in full...)
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