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30 March 2008: Slashdot is a geek site focussing mostly on tech. Relationship advice is not something you will find there, but this story just has to be mentioned. http://entertainment.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/03/30/0028211 http://www.livescience.co...
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Why does he say he has no money when I'm about?
Q. Right, first things first i love my boyfriend very very much and were about to celebrate our 2 yr anniversary however.. He is so selfish and whenever i bring this up he loses it and has a go at me making me feel small and in the wrong. For insta...
A. 8 May 2009: He is a thight fisted asshole whole thinks he can jerk you around. Up to you wether he is right or wrong.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says that sometimes I am wetter and loser. Why?
Q. My boyfriend told me that every now and then when we have sex I feel wetter and looser for some reason. He thinks I cheated. Is there any logical reason this could happen. I have not cheated on him....
A. 8 May 2009: Various states of arousal. Lots of influences. Diet, hormone balance, hornyness, sexual activity.
As an indicicator of cheating it fails although women tend to assume the same if the man's erection isn't up to standard.... (read in full...)
Why can't I find a guy who wants to commit to me?
Q. Hi, I am 28 year old female, who is a single mother to a beautiful daughter. I left her father 4 years ago, and for the first 2 years i have enjoyed the single life. However for the past 2 years since i have felt ready to settle down, all i seem...
A. 8 May 2009: Because you weren't looking?... (read in full...)
So what's the big deal about viginity?
Q. Okay so this really isn't a question. Truth is I don't see why people make such a big deal about sex and virginity. I don't find it such a big deal losing it. I mean I'm 16 I'm still a virgin and I believe that you know you should wait until you ...
A. 8 May 2009: It is a big deal because people make it. We live in society that is partly very open sexually. It is not abnormal for women to have had dozens of sexual partners. Men often claimed to have them to, but they were lying.
There is also an age diff... (read in full...)
He's 12 years older than me, what do I do?
Q. My mom is dating this guy who's about 10 years older than her... Well he has a son (I'll call him matthew) and hes really cute and sweet and just totally perfect... he thinks the same of me... i know your probably thinking whats the problem then... ...
A. 8 May 2009: Your mom is an adult, then a decade means little. THe older you get the small the difference.
But you are a child involved with an adult. He has lived for almost twice as long as you have.
He already gone through all those things you have ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend would rather climax watching porn, than satisfiy me, what can I do about this, please help?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. He enjoys porn alot. I mean alot. At first we had sex frequently and he appeared to enjoy himself. I have always had a high sex drive myself. However, when we were first together he did not ...
A. 8 May 2009: There seem to be several issues going on.
You two are having sex, but he doesn't finish and you aren't satisfied. So what the hell are you two doing? Speak plain english, if neither of you climax during sex, no wonder you ain't satisfie... (read in full...)
The relationship with my dad is fading fast and I don't know how to rekindle it. Help
Q. i am 13 years old and when i was younger i was very close to my dad. i looked up to him all the time. But as i've gotten older that relationship seems to have deteriarated. my mum had two more daughters so my dad now has three daughters. i also pla...
A. 7 May 2009: We are very bad with the opposite sex. Ask yourself this, you have a son and have to have a heart to heart with him. Do you sit down with him, face to face and talk to him frankly, asking him to tell you what is wrong?
Yes? NO! You do NOT talk to ... (read in full...)
No Make-Up?
Q. I've been dating this man for about 2 months now. He saw me makeup-less yesterday and raved about it. I HATE NOT WEARING MAKE UP. He caught me in very good light and my hair looked amazing, but this is rarely the case. It's not what I'm most ...
A. 7 May 2009: Tastes change. I for one am bloody glad those horrible plucked eyebrows are gone.
Claws belong on cats, not women. Even coloring I can do without. In short, I am a sucker for what is called the natural look.
Natural look does apparently not m... (read in full...)
Married 2 years and still no love for my husband
Q. how can i love my husband. weve been married for 2 years and still i dont love him until now. i married him because i was already 30 and no one courted me. i was afraid of being single.. i was pressured by my relatives and my friends. i thought i ...
A. 6 May 2009: Well, for a western woman the choice would be simple, but you are not from the west.
If you didn't think much of your future before you married, then it certainly won't have improved now. Pregnant, 32 and a divorcee. Something tells me that in ... (read in full...)
When is enough really enough?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and I want to know if what I'm feeling is just paranoia or is it real? My boyfriend is a tattoo artist and he's been going to clients houses to work. I get very "freaked out" by this because he ...
A. 6 May 2009: A tatoo "artist" for a father figure? Geez, keep reaching for the stars baby!
And he goes to their homes?
Does he take all his equipment with him, including a couch to work by that is high enough and all the inks and needles and other materi... (read in full...)
His story doesn't add up... is he lying to me?
Q. I have been married for close to 30 years and after a strange happening my husband told me he needs space and doesn't love me any more. Last week he told me he was going to a men's bible study group then came home and said he saw a stabbing and put ...
A. 6 May 2009: Not just lying but being really bad about it too. ... (read in full...)
Gummy bare!
Q. hi there. i have a sort of problem. i am a member of several different dating sites. also bebo, facebook etc..... i have no foto on these sites. the reason is, about a year and half ago i was mugged. my front teeth, 7, were either knocked ou...
A. 6 May 2009: Post an old pic.... (read in full...)
We lost our baby the first time, now I am scared to try again
Q. Im 21 and i been in a relationship with this man thats 28 for 3 years and we had a daughter that passed away. The pregnacy came unexpected and at first he didnt want kids then he wanted them. Now he wants to try again and i am really scared to go ...
A. 6 May 2009: The way you ask your question is REALLY odd.
"Should i have another baby for him since he dont have any other kids?"
Should I drive by the supermarket for him since he is out of cigarettes?
It sounds far to casual and almost as if you exp... (read in full...)
Is it better to have the little he gives to me or nothing at all?
Q. I met this guy a little over a year ago, we were together without the boyfriend/girlfriend titles and it wasn't until recently that I found out why. He's got a fiance! I had suspicions about it the whole time because she'd always send me messages ...
A. 6 May 2009: "I love him, he does too.."
Gosh, how insighful of you. Shame he doesn't love, just himself but kudoos for spotting the flaw in this relationship.
Now act on it.... (read in full...)
Escort girlfriend, true love, and sleepless nights. Help..
Q. I met a girl 10 months ago who is 2 years my junior at age 23. We hit it off and quickly our relationship developed. For the first two weeks I believed that she worked in a japanese restaurant, but it quickly became apparant she was in fact a ...
A. 5 May 2009: Shrug, most hookers are messed up, what do you expect? They don't exactly see life from the sun side. Men use them and they know it. The money seems good but their is no security and the expenses are high. I remember one interview with a hooker, ... (read in full...)
A 3-some gone wrong!!!
Q. Hey, I really need some advice for my best friend. She has been in a relationship with this guy for some time and its her first sexual relationship. A few days ago it was his birthday and she gave him a little surprise... he's always wanted a...
A. 5 May 2009: And that people is why you shouldn't do 3-somes until you are REALLY REALLY REALLY ready, or don't give a shit.
Most people just don't want to share their toys. MINE, not YOURS not even for a second.
Isn't that part of love? To want to be with ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend used to be an animal in bed. Now he won't even look at me!
Q. Hi, I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years. He’s perfect and I love him, but (same old story) we now have nooooo sex life! Yes, I know, heard it all before, but I never thought it would be me! I’ve always had a really exciting sex li...
A. 5 May 2009: "not the best I’ve had"
Tell me, is there any way these words could have gotten back to him?
The male sex drive is fragile and nothing kills it faster then feeling inadequate.
But then the guys that are passionate and very sexual never st... (read in full...)
Life's twist point
Q. I am 17 and have my bf of 32.i love him a lot and just cant stop thinking about him.he too loves me a lot we are apart and it isn't possible for me to spend a quality time with him.the fact is that i just cant live without my bestfrend and she ...
A. 5 May 2009: Some pedo's got all the luck. Two for the price of one.... (read in full...)
Won't have sex with me
Q. i dont understand whats gone wrong in my marriage,I need advice!I have been with my husband for nealry 21 years,we have 4 children that still live at home.He is the boss at his work so he's always on call.I work weekends mostly.but in the last 4 ...
A. 5 May 2009: O_o
Wow. I thought women like you had died out. Roughly about the time they abolished slavery.
Your actions seem closer to that of a house-slave then a wife let alone a partner. His actions to you in the last months seem to be that of an emerg... (read in full...)
What will he be like when he gets out of jail? Should I wait or just move on?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years; since we were both nineteen. And he's been in jail for the last year for a crime he did not commit. In fact, it was a crime his best friend committed but he died because of it. I am...
A. 5 May 2009: Right right. He didn't do it. Just couldn't convince a jury, a judge, the jury at the appeal, the judge at the appeal etc etc.
But he is innocent. Just somebody else did it who died.
Well okay, stranger things have happened.
It doesn't seem... (read in full...)
Doggy style hurts bad!
Q. When me and my boyfriend have sex in every other position, but doggy style, it feels great. But as soon as we try it doggy style, it kills me and we end up having to switch positions. Is there somthing wrong with me?...
A. 5 May 2009: It allows for deeper penetration. Your vagina is not infinite in length. He might be hitting the end. Or the angle might be wrong.
Either try more arousal (your vagina increases in length/depth, but not infinite) or try a different angle or try l... (read in full...)
How early is too early to annouce a pregnancy
Q. How early is too early to annouce a pregnancy. I just found out I'm pregnant, I have PCOS and it took 3 yrs for my husband and I to get pregnant with our first child, who was premature and died. This time amzingly We weren't even trying and I'm ...
A. 5 May 2009: Well your partner should know now. It is his baby too (well I presume so at least). The rest, lets put it like this, if they are likely to kill you if they find out that you kept it from them, tell them. You two can share the secret for a little bit ... (read in full...)
We have a child together, he has been in prison, should I be concerned about what people think if we date?
Q. When I was 16 I started dating the most popular guy in my school, He was captain of the rugby and soccer team, one of the top 5 students in our graduation class. We thought we would be the power couple, in 2006 we were 22 and in college. One nigth ...
A. 4 May 2009: He wouldn't hurt anyone, except the guy he beat to dead.
There might be a future but not if you put blinders on.
I want to know just one thing. Does he still drink? You know what happens if he gets drunk so he really should never, ever, dri... (read in full...)
I am a virgin, my girlfriend is not, any tips on performance?
Q. hey. My gf is not a virgin, but i am. I want to be a good sexual partner, but I'm not really sure how to be one. First of all, is there any way to make sex more pleasurable the first time? How can I go for longer? Anything else would help. Thanks....
A. 4 May 2009: Simple most effective tip. Remember you got a tongue and fingers. The penis is NOT the only part you bring into the battle.
Kiss her, touch her ALL over, everywhere. Find out where she is sensitive, what she likes and dislikes. Penetrat... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is obsessed with the "World of Warcraft", it is afecting our relationship, any advice that can help me deal with this?
Q. I've been dating my current boyfriend for almost 6 months now. He's sweet, intelligent, funny, and all around, a terrific guy. But like everyone else, he has his problems. Recently, he is becoming more and more involved in World of Warcraft. Whi...
A. 4 May 2009: An early popular MMORPG (Massive Multiplayer Online Role Playing Game) was Everquest (note what that name says) that was often called Evercrack.
WoW is EQ-light. It is far simpler and far more direct about its game. There is less to do on the side... (read in full...)
Is it normal that two people in a relationship do not talk to each other everyday?
Q. Hi everyone, I need help. my current bf has been a weird individual since the beginning. By beginning I meant to say 3 months ago. We've been together for 1 month. He never gives me good morning/night calls; never texts me during the day, he only...
A. 4 May 2009: Men say less then women. Everybody knows this. It is the reason why immigrant women typically speak their new language better then male immigrants. Women are the talkers.
But, any man with a clue knows that his woman needs to talk. While as a mal... (read in full...)
My 13 year old friend is dating a 19 year old guy is this going to end well?
Q. My friend(Girl 13) is dating a 19 year old boy and they have already like planned getting married and she wants to move in with him because she hates life at home. I don't think it seems like a good idea but they said it was love at first sight.Th...
A. 4 May 2009: Nope. Sounds like she is trying to find an escape from her home situation and find love/affection but she is WAY to young to be a lover, she needs the unconditionale love of a care-take, not the sexual love of a horny boy.
The emo stereoty... (read in full...)
I need help is it wrong or should I say something??
Q. Recently I’m 20 and I have been having feelings both emotional and sexual towards my mum's cousin's husband's brother’s son. We have always said we r cousins even though we are not related through blood. We have been close for about seven years. i ...
A. 3 May 2009: Are you related or aren't you? If there is no blood or legal tie getting in the way then there is nothing wrong. Kissing cousins is common enoug and with complex families a lot of people are cousins despite being far far removed.
Find out exactly ... (read in full...)
Delayed ejaculation and unsensitive penis, help!
Q. Hi, my boyfriend has problems with delayed ejaculation, he can always please himself but very rarely gets to orgasm through sex. he also seems to have a very unsensitive penis, he says he cant really feel anything, even fellatio, I think the ...
A. 3 May 2009: Some men masturbate to roughly. Observe the way he does it himself versus your own technique. They don't call it "beating your meat" or "spanking the monkey" for nothing.
If he abstains from masturbation for a while, chances are the sensitiv... (read in full...)
Am I really a dumb b*tch? That's what he said! Any advice?
Q. “Sometimes you must allow yourself to go through some hurtful things so you can become strong because you were emotionally weak”. (My quote) ***This is long, but not boring*** Were do I begin! I'm in love with an ex-con who had it together, but...
A. 3 May 2009: You watch Oprah a lot don't you (or another of those type of shows).
Feeling you. Love of a good woman. Closure.
16 years served. That is not what you get for a simple offence. THis is a hardened criminal. And you approached him as you would... (read in full...)
He accuses me of cheating..how do I deal with his temper tantrums and foul language?
Q. Me and my fiance are going through a very rough patch. We've been together for 2 years and he recently proposed. We were friends for about 5 years before we started our relationship and I felt I knew him inside out. Many people told me I had ch...
A. 3 May 2009: Right now, he seems to exhibit the typical behaviour of the control freak. A nasty form of abuse as it leaves no physical scars but if you give in to it will slowly come to control your life. He decides who you can see (if anyone) where and when.
... (read in full...)
My ex wants me to give him 125.00 for a speeding ticket!
Q. My ex bf has just asked me for 125 2 pay off a speading ticket he got and 6 points, i said i have 2 think about it i know i will get the money back, but he has a new gf and hasent even told her he has got caught speeding Im also not sure if hes ...
A. 3 May 2009: Undertaking? You mean he broke the speed limit with a hearse?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ImOS-7vWLWA I guess explains this.
He is your ex, he is with someone else. That means it is over. What connection remains that you should pay HIS f... (read in full...)
Do you think he is using me for sex?
Q. Im in a relationship and have been for nearly two months. I dont really like relationships so when i do get into one its no long term. The first few weeks was great he took me to the movies, we met each others parents and i think its fair to say t...
A. 3 May 2009: Yes.... (read in full...)
She's had sex with possibly 30 plus guys and I have issues with it!
Q. Hi everybody Me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost 5 months now. Im 20 and she's 23. I seem too keep on having an issue with her past. She's had sex with around 30 guys. Could be more. I myself have been with 17 girls, and as such I a...
A. 3 May 2009: Well you both got a past. You gave 17 girls a past, so why should you expect a virgin with number 18?
Double standards, you got them.... (read in full...)
Why am I always paying for things with this guy?
Q. I am not a generous person for sure. In fact, I care about spending equal amount of $$$ when I am going out with frds or significant others. For example, I've been seeing this 30 years old grad student for a semester. I just realized we've b...
A. 3 May 2009: What do people do when they are on dates?
Enjoy the others company, get lost looking in her eyes... oh okay staring at her tits. NOT worry about who is paying for what.
Sure, I can understand if it gets to extremes, but you don't mention an... (read in full...)
Telling the difference between friends? or more?
Q. I have never really had any close guy friends, so when it comes to boys i'm clueless as to whether I fancy them or if they are just a really good mate. How can I tell the difference?...
A. 3 May 2009: If your heart starts beating faster, your troath gets dry etc etc, you probably fancy them. Or got swine-flu.... (read in full...)
Dumped by fiancée, should I get the ring back?
Q. After proposing to a woman I have lived with for two years i moved to another city. She joined me a few months later, but then ended the relationship because I cheated on her. (note: she did as well prior to that) She wont give me the 10K diamond. ...
A. 3 May 2009: Ah, good one. Legally its get tricky. What is an engagement ring.
An unconditional gift? In that case you gave it, she got it, she owns it.
Or is it a conditional gift, "I give you this ring if you marry me." She didn't fullfil the agreement, s... (read in full...)
Married since August. Has he fallen out of love with me?
Q. Here's my situation. My husband and I have been together for over two years. We've only been married since August. Why do I feel like my marriage is already in danger of being over? He's a distant individual, unlike when we started dating. ...
A. 3 May 2009: "I also feel that he doesn't want to have to pay child support for another child."
Aha! What is missing from all of this. Another child? He has kids already?
If this is the case, why did that relationship end. I get the feeling you took a divor... (read in full...)
I'm terrified of giving birth again.
Q. I'm terrified of giving birth again. I know you probably get this alot but i dont know what to do.I had the most awful time the first time round, i was abroad so nobody could understand me and visa versa, they wouldn't give me any pain killers (i ...
A. 3 May 2009: Doctor time.
You are dealing with left over trauma from your previous experience. While it is not exactly my field I do know there are support groups for women who had cesarian. Apparently that can be traumatic too. Perhaps there is somethin... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and female and my friend (female) kissed me... thing is I liked it. Is this wrong?
Q. hi well here's the story and its long but i really need help so please read it all. im a girl, I'M 13 and i spent the night at my friend M's house last night and my other friend C spent the night too. we went to M's house right after school and we ...
A. 3 May 2009: First off, kissing feels good because of the contact. Our bodies are wired to respond to a touch on our lips. There is NO wire telling us to only react if the touch comes from a certain sex. Lips are lips and lips are good to kiss.
You are youn... (read in full...)
Can anyone shed some light on my questions about masturbation?
Q. ok. this is gonna sound reeeaaalllly weird. but that's okay. :) so when i masturbate i get a lot of pleasure from it; it feels sooooo good and everything but when i reach a "climax" i don't think i actually orgasm... isn't, like... stuff supposed...
A. 3 May 2009: Squirting is a porn myth. Yes it happens, sometimes for some females but it is not a requirement.
As for how you masturbate. Whatever works. If you rub on the outside then you are stimulating your clitoris. It works, so it works. If you masturba... (read in full...)
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