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writes:I'm 16, and recently i've begun to really like a a guy in my school, i knew he was interested and i think he knew i was intertested too. anyway we swapped numbers and it wasn't long until he admitted he was gay, i was devastated! but he told that i'm the first girl to ever stand out to him and he wants to date me. he makes me feel so happy and i trust him, but am i just setting myself up for heartache? because after all he is gay Reply to this Question
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reader, natnatxxx +, writes (11 May 2009):
 i no many lads who have changed sexuality like people change clothes. its like a trend for teenagers. You need to ask him if hes gay, if hes saying hes interested then he has to be attracted to the opsite sex, making him straight or bi. Find out whats going on in his head, if hes gay then let him be to find himself a guy, if hes bi, then go for it but take it slow. You dont wanna rush into sexual things just to keep him on the straight side.
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reader, KiaGrace  +, writes (11 May 2009):
 Gay? if he likes you, he clearly isn't, simple as that.
Bi-sexual, maybe? but, I think he should respect his sexual status either way, sounds you two really hit it off, so i'd say go for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2009): As you say, 'he makes me feel so happy and I trust him'..how wonderful is that! It sounds like you both adore one another's company and find each other attractive. He may well have feelings for men, whether romantic or sexual or both, and if so, you'll have to make up your own mind whether you're cool with that.
But that doesn't mean he can't feel the same way about a girl - there is such a thing as bisexuality! He says he wants to date you, how can that be bad? He must really like you and trust you if he even felt able to tell you about his gay feelings...take it from me, that's a big scary step for a gay guy who's still in school!
This sounds potentially great. And even if it doesn't go the way you dream it will, it could be a beautiful friendship. My best pal is a girl I was in school with, she's told me she had a major crush on me, but cos I'm gay nothing ever happened. But we love each other so much, and are so glad we have each other in our lives.
Be brave and date him, you never know how good this could be!
Good luck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2009): Take this from someone with far more experience in this kind of relationship. While it takes courage to step out into the great unknown, you should keep in mind that nothing (gay,straight, or bi) is set in stone. Those are merely lifestyles, not labels to their specific kind of humanity. Some might disagree, but truthfully, if you love each other, your nothing more than a male and female who met and now belong together. Don't be afraid of his fantasy life, if he loves you, you will either be all he needs, or he's booted to the curb to play around till he knows forsure what he wants outta life. Be strong, Lady!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2009): Take this from someone with far more experience in this kind of relationship. While it takes courage to step out into the great unknown, you should keep in mind that nothing (gay,straight, or bi) is set in stone. Those are merely lifestyles, not labels to their specific kind of humanity. Some might disagree, but truthfully, if you love each other, your nothing more than a male and female who met and now belong together. Don't be afraid of his fantasy life, if he loves you, you will either be all he needs, or he's booted to the curb to play around till he knows forsure what he wants outta life. Be strong, Lady!
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (10 May 2009):
 Eheh.
He is gay but wants to date you.
Oh dear, women still fall for that.
Here is a hint, being gay means you date the SAME sex. Not the opposite one.
I got a very strong suspicion he is trying to persuade you that you can cure him. Get him back in the closet. The medicine? Sex.
I admit, it is a good line for his age. Impotency works for older guys. Or being a virgin. Women love to take on a project. Feel, that they have to save him.
Simple test, is it complete news to everyone else he is gay?
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reader, summerslady21  +, writes (10 May 2009):
Honestlty gay guys are great friends and maybe he does want to just experiment but at the same time Maine he is confused. He is young and a lot of times people will try different things to help themselves understand what they really r all about! If you do date him it maybe fun and u will learn a lot about him and yourself! I don't think u r setting yourself up for heartache you may come to find being friends is best.. Just be u don't be someone your not...you may end up with him for along time and happy but then you may not last long and find friendship is best. You have to follow your heart and do what you feel is right. Maybe continue being friends for a while longer and then you will find out if he wants you or just wants to incderstand himself. Good luck and update!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2009): Most people don't marry the person they're dating at age 16. There's no reason why you can't date him and have fun in the here and now without worrying about what comes later. If you're headed into this thinking you will spend the rest of your life with him, though, THEN you might want to think twice, because he is bi at the very least. Good luck
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reader, ina baybee +, writes (10 May 2009):
 honestly i dont think your putting your self for a heart ache!! I think that if you are going to date him yuh need to set your mind to that level so at the end you will knoe what comes up next !! good luck
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