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*dareANDdream
writes:What is up with guys wanting to try Anal!! I am tired of every single guy i have dated wanting to try it. I am a girl I have a vag... If he wants anal go gay!!... Please explain how a guy sticking his dick in a butt hole with poop coming out of be attractive.. Reply to this Question
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reader, Heartbroken-xx  +, writes (15 May 2009):
I totally AGREE with you! Glad i'm not the only one who finds it utterly digusting. Thank you.
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reader, Guitarist  +, writes (15 May 2009):
 I never understood it either. i'm a guy, i've never done it and i never want to. always found it repulsive. so not all guys want to do it babe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2009): Satindesire, an enema is also sometimes called an anal douche, so Olivia wasn't incorrect.
http://libida.com/anal_douche.asp
http://www.cduniverse.com/productinfo.asp?pid=6743758
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009): Oooh my god how it hurts the first couple of thrust!
But after a minute or so it feels sooo good specially if he's rubbing your clit!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009): Quote: "Our bodies are not made for anal sex - hence the discomfort, tearing and bleeding that happens with it!"
Actually, that is very inaccurate. Anal sex done properly and gently does not result in tearing or bleeding. It might be uncomfortable at first, but many women get past the discomfort after a few times and enjoy it. Most do not. A lot of women bleed and tear the first time they have vaginal sex. Does that mean that their bodies are not made for that either?
It is true that our bodies are not made for anal sex, but women's mouths aren't made for giving blow jobs either. However, many women like doing that and many actually enjoy it a lot.
I think that many have answered the question of why guys like anal sex. If a woman doesn't want to try it then she should just say NO. There is no reason to do things that you don't want to do. If he insists then either dump him or tell him that he is just going to have to do without it. Of course, you could also learn how to do it properly and try it. It is entirely up to you.
There are sites that discuss how to do anal sex properly. Here are a couple that I found:
http://www.babeland.com/sexinfo/howto/buttsexbeginners
http://www.analsexyes.com/top5.shtml
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009): an enema flushes the system completely and quite violently wheras you can douche to remove any waste thats in the system. both are not that good, douching spreads bacteria and enemas are quite volitile, i'm a med student so take it as you wish
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009): Anonny, one person's views may erect a wall of unwillingness to understand. Your opinion dictate that no experimentation should have ensue in any form of relationship that 'requires' communication. Sex is a form of communication, just as the thousands of verbal and non-verbal languages around the world. To experiment what can be done, for necessity, or physical strength and stamina, for pleasure and other aspects, we find out what works for us and what won't for others.In other words, as you whole heartedly believe that anal sexual exploration is 'wrong', it is simply because you have no interest in it. As the possibility that you have no interest in braille, no interest in the Cantonese dialect, no interest in bitter melon, no interest in exotic cars, no interest in fancy technology, no interest in government politics and so on and so forth, means this form of sexual pleasure is not in your set of interests. Therefore, your 'opinion' and 'advice' is unwarranted. As Uncles and Aunties, we should give this person a more objective suggestion.2dareANDdream, the solution is simple. Communicate to your partner(s) that you are unwilling to experiment sexually beyond the boundaries you have laid out for yourself. The world is made up of a vast range of men and women with a massively broader range of interests and experiences. Your goal is to seek out a partner that shares a similar sexual outlook as you do. Of course, to find out such partner(s), you have to go through trial and error. That is what dating is about - to find out whether you can connect with that person or not and whether s/he is acceptable to you or not.
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reader, Anonny +, writes (14 May 2009):
I agree!Why are people so brainwashed by what they see in magazines and on porno channels?!! - I suppose these people think that everyone has a perfect bronzed body and are beautifully made up like in the porno vids too while having sex!!!These stars are PAID to do these things and they are not always enjoyable to everyone taking part - but they do it because its a job and a well paid one! - Our bodies are not made for anal sex - hence the discomfort, tearing and bleeding that happens with it! - So like you say tell your boyfriend to either find someone else to use or even get a bloke if he wants to!
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reader, Honest_Answers +, writes (14 May 2009):
 Olivia is right - Plenty of girls enjoy anal but at the same time there are many girls that don't.
It is described as an odd sensation but can be very pleasurable for both the male and the female if you relax and take your time.
Ultimately if a man wants to try it and you don't that's fine. I know plenty of guys who hate the idea too! But wanting to try anal doesn't mean they're gay as it doesn't make them attracted to men, they want to do this to you.
It is a very intimate experience and I would say this should only be attempted with someone who you respect and trust and ALWAYS with a condom and lots of water based lubricant.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009): Just say no firmly. If he keeps on about it, then dump his ass. Don't worry about it, loads of women hate anal while some like it, it's one of those things
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reader, QuartzKitty +, writes (14 May 2009):
Anal sex is fun if it's done right. I've had it a few times.
A woman has a lot of nerve endings in her anal passage. It can be as pleasurable for her as vaginal sex. If not more so.
You can easily clean out your ass beforehand if you are worried.
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reader, summerslady21 +, writes (14 May 2009):
Its normal for guys to want to try it! Tighter and something different. It don't mean they are gay or bi or should be gay! Its just different! If you don't want to then don't do it but most guys will want to try it that stuff is everywhere. Porn TV books magazines u name it! Its just a thing!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009): they watch porn and listen to their mates - some girls like it, some don't. All the pornstars do...
but the boys thinks its cool because of that....and next you will talk about squirting... sigh porn education.
Star.x.
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reader, Ms.Helper +, writes (14 May 2009):
 Then don't do it...
Nobody is forcing you to do it, not everybody likes it!
Men do like it because it's tighter but don't do something you aren't comfortable with, rememeber it's for your pleasure aswell as his!
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (14 May 2009):
 Then don't and find guys that don't want it.
What is up with girls bitching about the guys they date when nobody forces them to date those guys?
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reader, Olivia(Y). +, writes (14 May 2009):
 You don't have to be gay to try anal.
Lots of straight guys want to do it.
Boys like it because the hold is tigher than your vagina and gives them more pleasure. Some girls like the feeling of it and others hate it.
If you douche properly there shouldn't be anything on his penis after you have had anal sex.
Livia
xoxox
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