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writes:i am since three years i a relationship with a girl i love to bits. but during that time i know of at least 3times she cheated on me(was during the first one and half years) she confessed parts after i caught her the first time, then did it again and only when i caught her for the second time she told me what she was realy up too. i forgiven her, but never realy got my trust back in her since she was lying to me for such a long time. we recently separated for a short while out of other reasons and during that time she had an affair with another guy despite calling me every day that she wants me back. i found out, asked her and again she lyied to me denying it. still i got back with her.once a cheat always a cheat? dat true?can i ever trust her again or will she keep on lying and cheating?
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (16 May 2009):
 Where do people get the idea that love always has to work out? That there always is a happy ending?
Sometimes you fall in love with the wrong person. It is part of life. Accept it and move on.
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reader, Leanne1234  +, writes (16 May 2009):
this woman seems confused with what she wants to be honest. its not about whether she's a cheat and always will be one, or whether she can change, the main thing you need to think about is whether your happy being in a relationship with someone who clearly doesn't respect your love for her if she goes off with these other men. you need to think about whats best for you and whether you want to stay with someone who goes with other men and clearly thinks you'll take her back every time- blatenly because of the fact you have done in the past. If its ok for her to go with these other men, ask her to imagine how she would feel if it was the other way round. love makes people do stupid things- in your case' forgive and forget. but i dont think you can forgive and forget- otherwise you wouldn't have asked people for their advice on here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2009): from my past experiances, yes, once a cheat always a cheat
once you have done it, they jsut cant seem to stop =/
i know this cos of my ex's, telling me that they love me and they want me back. i took them back and it happened again and again.
and i cheated once when i was young and since then i have had trouble. i wud like another person as well as my boyfriend but wouldnt act upon it. i cheated once and lost the guy i was in love with. i didnt do it again but i did have trouble staying faithful when i had a boyf and i liked another boy. so chances are shes going to do it again. you'll have to move on. sorry x
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reader, Shannon Williams  +, writes (16 May 2009):
 I think you should try to move on from her maybe you can start dating friends without her, having a llok at other girls as friends and when you're ok you can undestand she has to be dropped by you
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2009): she will keep on lying and cheating. if she loved you she wouldnt look elsewhere. let this one go otherwise your going to be shit on always.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2009): no dat not always true.
she isn't into you, stop wasting your time and go find someone who is....
Star.x.
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reader, Regina80  +, writes (16 May 2009):
No, you won't be able to trust her again. Get rid of her. She has no respect for herself or for you for that matter.
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