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writes:This guy and I have became close friends over the past few months.. he has admited to being very attached and likes me alot, but I never really thought of him that way.. lately, I have been thinking I might give him a shot because I always date losers, and gives that end up not caring about me anyways and I thought, maybe.. I need someone like him in my life, you know?Well last night, I found out he is the soon to be father of a baby thats on the way. The baby's mother does not live in our home town but comes in often, (were 15 by the way) He claims it was a mistake, but feels he needs to take responsiblity of this child.. etc, the babys mother already has a boyfriend and another child with him alsothis leaves me a little stunned.. i want to be supportive, but now i feel like i shouldnt even approach the subject of us ever being a couple, i know that he would probably still take the chance of being with me if it was there, but i don't know if i would ever be able to accept him being a father to a childdo i completely close off this idea altogether, or is there hope for him and i?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (10 May 2009):
 To be frank ( and speaking from personal experience) I would keep it at a friendship level til you feel more certain about it all. It's not like you are going to be an instant "step-mom" if you start dating, but the child and the mother will be a part of his life no matter what. I can tell you having to dela with that, can be such a pain in the ass.
When I met my now husband of 10 years, I knew he had an exGf and ex-wife (and 2 kids) and I tell you, had I known the DRAMA these bitches would cause over the years, I might have never got involved with him. So much bagage and drama... I don't regret any of it, but I can tell you this, LIFE would have been so much easier with out all that.
Maybe it would be a good idea to see how he actually "deals" with being a daddy before you decide. His actions will speak louder then words.
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reader, KiaGrace +, writes (10 May 2009):
KiaGrace is verified as being by the original poster of the question How is he a two timer?
we're best friends - not an item.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (10 May 2009):
 "I have been thinking I might give him a shot because I always date losers"
By what standards is a 15yr old father/two timer NOT a loser?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2009): If you have doubts now then spare yourself, you are very young to be worring about these things. See what else is out there, dont tie yourself to someone who has these responsibilities at such a young age.
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