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30 March 2008: Slashdot is a geek site focussing mostly on tech. Relationship advice is not something you will find there, but this story just has to be mentioned. http://entertainment.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/03/30/0028211 http://www.livescience.co...
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Call me old fashoined, or stupid, or naive, but I believe that truly amazing and intense sex comes from love!
Q. Does the best sex ever mean he truly loves me? Call me old fashoined, or stupid, or naive, or whatever you want, but I believe that truly amazing and intense sex comes from love, and not JUST the physical stimulation. My current boyfriend is by far ...
A. 18 April 2009: Okay, you are stupid and naive. Do you know what truly comes from love? Not great sex, that is a bonus, but the desire NOT to hurt the others feelings by cheating.
He cheats, hurting you, therefor he doesn't love you.
By your logic, if a kid ... (read in full...)
Should I be a self sacrificing dumb a*s or a self preserving b***h?
Q. ok so i have a problem. i have never been in a real relation ship, so i do not know how to handle this. There is a guy i have know since i was eight and he was twelve. i loved him from that moment on. im twenty now and he is mine and my brot...
A. 17 April 2009: Who saved you? You say yourself.
Okay, so who can save him?
Could you have been saved from this life by someone else?
Be honest and you know the answer.
To give up drugs and straighten out your life really requires your own effort.... (read in full...)
My husband likes to watch me sleeping. Is this odd?
Q. ok its a little weird but i have been married 7 and 1/2 years and ever since i got married when i go to bed at night after i am asleep my husband will mess with me in my sleep and i will wake up and not say anything but just pretend like i am still ...
A. 17 April 2009: Well the watching you sleep itself ain't all that odd. The messing with... that is. Why is he doing it? He wants more sex then you give during waking hours or is it that he wants sex while you are asleep and the being asleep is the thrill bit?
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What would you do in this case?
Q. Hello, What would you if your boyfriend cheated on you with his ex? The ex confronts you and tells things you never knew (not even that your boyfriend was seeing her behind your back), and all this time you his was over with his ex? What would...
A. 16 April 2009: A rational woman? Isn't that a contradiction in terms?
In my mind a rational woman would not even have to ask.
What exactly is the alternative to the obvious and already given answer? If you can't think of one, then take the answer given bel... (read in full...)
Weird situation-help!
Q. about 2 weeks ago my boyfriend hit me several times during an argument, although I decided to forgive him this time, he's been acting really paranoid that I will report him- then the other day, I noticed a group of young men following me across town...
A. 16 April 2009: Shrug, while it seems at first unlikely lets face it, women get killed all the time by their boyfriends. Mostly however the stupid kind of woman who forgives their boyfriend after being hit several times and tell people they ask for advice to not ... (read in full...)
What is an acceptable age to conceive a child??
Q. im just wondering on everyone's opinion, looking at this site you see a lot of young girls with pregnancy problems but what in your own opinion is an acceptable age to conceive a child?? i am 19 and me and my boyfriend want to start a family (...
A. 16 April 2009: Age doesn't have much to do with it.
A. Are you ready to take care of someone who is going to depend on you 24/7/365/18?
B. Do you have the resources to take care of a kid?
C. Have you done everything you wanted to do as a non-parent?
K... (read in full...)
Why won't I let myself cum?
Q. hi when i masterbate rub the clit to stimulate myself it's really good and really gets me going but what i find difficult is that i won't cum like i'll get really uberly wet but then i feel i have to go to the toilet and i am not sure whether i'v...
A. 16 April 2009: cummed whilst orgasming? Isn't this like wondering if you ever laughed while laughing?
The sensation that you have to pee is in some women part of the buildup to an orgasm. Go to the toilet before so you are certain you don't really need to pee a... (read in full...)
Can you have an orgasm in your sleep?
Q. Can u have a orgasm in your sleep? I think ive had this experience and it was lovely .but im not sure!...
A. 16 April 2009: "I think having an orgasm in your sleep is possible due to some dreams that one experience you can have an orgasm.otherwise why do guys wake up early morning stiff if its impossible?"
Morning wood has nothing to do with being aroused. You certainl... (read in full...)
Large tipped condom does ????
Q. my boyfriend and i bought a variety pack of condoms. Ribbed and Studded, i completely understand, but what is the large tipped one ment for? When he put it on it was just like the top was all baggy and didn't do anything for either of us. Is this ...
A. 14 April 2009: Odd. Is it solid or an air bubble?
Since it is at the end, the idea could be to extend his penis. Or maybe create extra sensation if the ball is big enough.
Most novelty condoms I think are about the idea, not the actual sensation. It ad... (read in full...)
Large tipped condom does ????
Q. my boyfriend and i bought a variety pack of condoms. Ribbed and Studded, i completely understand, but what is the large tipped one ment for? When he put it on it was just like the top was all baggy and didn't do anything for either of us. Is this ...
A. 14 April 2009: Odd. Is it solid or an air bubble?
Since it is at the end, the idea could be to extend his penis. Or maybe create extra sensation if the ball is big enough.
Most novelty condoms I think are about the idea, not the actual sensation. It ad... (read in full...)
Large tipped condom does ????
Q. my boyfriend and i bought a variety pack of condoms. Ribbed and Studded, i completely understand, but what is the large tipped one ment for? When he put it on it was just like the top was all baggy and didn't do anything for either of us. Is this ...
A. 14 April 2009: As said, the tip is to hold the semen and as far as I know they all got it. Without they just wouldn't work. Where else is it supposed to go after all? If you put a regular condom (with semen reservoir) on to thight you risk it ripping or sliding ... (read in full...)
My dad doesn't really know how to treat me like a young woman..treats me like little girl
Q. I guess I really do not have a question but I want to discuss and tell about myself. I recently registered after posting questions ananomonously. I feel like we are friends already. I am 14 and my Mom died five years ago so now I live alone with my ...
A. 25 March 2009: What do you expect of him? If he is a normal regular guy he will barely understand women let alone a teenage girl.
Periods? Those are the things that go at the end of sentences. Sure, his wive had them but that is about the limit of his knowledg... (read in full...)
Questions I need answered before I try anal sex!
Q. Hiya, me and my partner are going to be having anal sex for the first time and I'd like to know if this is true - If you have anal sex regulary, every couple of months, does the women's hips and bum get bigger? Also when I'm 60 I won't be able ...
A. 25 March 2009: Your bum gets bigger from anal sex?
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I just got to know, what possible twisted logic can be used to reason that out?
Young people today seem to know even less about sex then us old folks did when we were kids.... (read in full...)
Should I have a baby by this guy?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months and he asked me recently do I want to have a baby with him. He already has 2 kids already and I told him if we do decide to kids and if we're still together maybe within the next 1-2 years. The mother ...
A. 25 March 2009: WAIT A MINUTE.
First, what is with this sentence. "both of his kids are under the age of 1." Unless their mother is a fast breeder, how can this be unless they are twins in which case why not simply say so?
They are UNDER 1, and you are toge... (read in full...)
300 calories weekdays, 3000 cals weekend. Will I lose weight?
Q. heyx i am on this new diet where i eat 300 calories and do half and hour exersize everyday. though one day a week, i eat 3000 calories, just so i can go out and have fun and EAT once in a while!! would i lose weight from this diet? (I want to lose ...
A. 11 March 2009: Come one, 300 calories? 2000 are the norm for a normal female. You would eath 4800 (6x300+3000) in a week and you need 14000 (7x2000). Can you see a gap?
Sure you would loose weight, starvation tends to do that.
Eat normally and excersise. E... (read in full...)
I am too wet "down there". Is that a bad thing for men
Q. I have a problem with getting "TOO" wet even before intercourse. It's always been like this for me. Not with just one person, it happens whenever I get turned on. I mean it can be seen through my jeans. Anyway, my current boyfriend jokingly comments ...
A. 11 March 2009: If it doesn't have an off putting taste/smell there is no real problem. Soup sounds a bit "ewh", but if it is just like saliva during sloppy kissing, well then you can image a bit what it is like.... (read in full...)
He abuses me "slightly..but breaking up is really hard to do
Q. I am not happy in my relationship with my bf. He abuses me slightly, like its not that bad, but it does upset me. But the thing is, there is times when I am really happy in the relationship too, and I dont want to let go of those. Within the las...
A. 8 March 2009: Come back in twenty years, when you spend most of you adult life this way, constantly wondering how bad it is going to be this time. How long he will remember his promise to be nice.
Come back in twenty years when your daughters are dating t... (read in full...)
How can I tell him I'm still not ready for a baby at 22? I'm afraid this will push him away.
Q. Hi. I'm a 22 year old, just completed my varsity degree and have made a decision to move out of my parents' house now that i have a job- which i'm obviously very excited about... Been dating my boyfriend for two years now and everything between us ...
A. 3 March 2009: He wants a baby, that is nice but though luck, men can't have them. Women can.
Not to worry, ask a gf to have one for you. Sure why not. If he likes the baby then everything is fine, if he doesn't, well he can just leave.
Can't he? I notice tha... (read in full...)
My abusive ex boyfriend wont leave me alone!
Q. hi everyone, I broke up with my ex over a year ago (31/12/07) because he hit me. things were not going well before that because he was a bully and used to called me names like ''fat'' and ''ugly'' to hurt me. I made a police statement at t...
A. 25 February 2009: You filed a complaint, but didn't push through with it, because it was to much of a hassle.
You could easily get a new number, but it is to much of a hassle.
Stop running away from your own responsibilty. YOU dated this guy, YOU need to get rid o... (read in full...)
What is considered sex between two women? My girlfriend says she's waiting for marriage.
Q. I'm dating a woman for the first time and my girlfriend and I just started screwing around (rubbing against each other, mostly). Before we started dating she had always said she wanted to wait till marriage to have sex. I asked about this and it ...
A. 24 February 2009: I think the whole notion of pre-marital sex having some magic boundary is a bit silly.
"Oh yeah I am a virgin and can marry in white, yes I have taken it up the ass by a dozen guys and blown the fifth fleet but I am pure!"
Sex is sex and it is... (read in full...)
Is it abuse when a girl hits a guy?
Q. So I have a girlfriend. We seem to fight a lot. when I make her upset she tends to hit me. The other night we were arguing in the car and I said something to upset her, and she swung her arm and struck me right in the eye. she hit me hard enough to ...
A. 24 February 2009: Yes it does. Female on male violence is common enough but far more hidden. As you said, you can't hit back because you don't hit girls.
Domestic violence affects everyone, men women and childeren regardless of age, social standing etc etc. Bat... (read in full...)
How do 40-45 year old men keep up with much younger women in sex?
Q. If man's sex drive drops after 40-45, than how can they keep up with 20 years younger girls? Is this because their old wife does not turn them on , but the fresh young woman does? Is this an ago thing, or ist biological? I keep hearing about gu...
A. 24 February 2009: The guys who go after much younger women are the ones whose sex drives haven't dropped. Same for the women who go after much younger men.
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I'm having real trouble with speaking properly.
Q. Hi, I'm having real trouble with speaking properly. Whenever I want to say something, it's like I can't get the words out or fumble the sentence and use bad grammar. Also, I talk in a high pitched voice- how do I speak calmly and clearly? Help! ...
A. 23 February 2009: Read books out loud and record yourself. It really helps if you want to be able to speak clearly in front of an audience.... (read in full...)
He bought me a couch at our second date!...
Q. So i just broke up with my boyfriend about a week ago. I met a guy online shortly after and we met one time and he seemed great. Said hes new to the area but we didnt do anything - no kiss or anything we agreed that we'd, if anything, be friends. he ...
A. 23 February 2009: Odd. Drivers licenses in the US, as far as I know, are NOT a valid form of ID by european standards. For that matter, even the far more stringent checks in the EU make drivers license not valid forms of ID.
And employment info, who carries ... (read in full...)
Why can't a man deal with a facial peel?
Q. just curious: why cant man deal with a facial peal. a peal has 3 acids that sting a little, but if a girl can handle the pain, why cant a guy? and why do they get freaked out by hearing about it?...
A. 23 February 2009: Why on earth should we? We men got the world pretty much as we want it. We shave, when we can be bothered, our face. You shave your entire body and wax the rest. Facial shaving is a bit of a nuisance, waxing... well you know.
If we could deal wit... (read in full...)
Why does my girlfriend stuff her bra and want a boob job? I love her as she is!
Q. I was making love to my girlfriend (of two years) and I unhook her bra without her knowing. There was padding and toilet paper everywhere. Before I could say a thing she ran of the room. I called her a few times with no answer. I really don't thing ...
A. 23 February 2009: No women is ever satisfied with her boobs. A want to be B, B want to be C, C want to be D and D wants to be A.
Why? Well, your penis is to small. Ah! Understand now? For men the size of our penis is everything, despite that most women would sa... (read in full...)
My fiance won't let my friend come to our wedding because shes a lesbian.
Q. My fiance won't let my friend come to our wedding because shes a lesbian. She says The Dike (that's what she calls her when my friend isn't around) will eye up all the bridesmaids and also she doesn't want her to come because there going to be a lot ...
A. 23 February 2009: It seems she has some major phobia about lesbians but apparently thinks it is fine for a guy to be bi-sexual.
Could this be the reverse homophobia of men who think lesbians are fine but scared to death of gay men?
Just like these men fear g... (read in full...)
How should I tell my partner that I want to have kids?
Q. ive been with my partner now for over a year and im 21 and hes 22 i wanna have a child but i dont know how to tell him; he has already got a 3 year old from a previous relationship and hes a good dad but he could also have another one which is a few ...
A. 22 February 2009: He is a good guy, a good father. You know because at 28-21 he already got a 3 year old and a possible other one on the way...
Mmm, since when does "good father" mean unable to use condom? He didn't stick around for the other two kids, what mak... (read in full...)
Can you make someone miss you?
Q. This may sound like a stupid question but can you make someone miss you - my friend has this theory and I've tried to tell her it won't work but she's not listening. She broke up with her bf about 4 months ago and she does miss him but I dont t...
A. 20 February 2009: Your "friend" is an idiot. She pays for his phone AND drives him from work. Geez, why not simple tatoo doormat on her forehead and be done with it.
He is using her, if she stops doing it he might miss those things but it is the services NOT her ... (read in full...)
Why always the porn? Does he not enjoy sex with me?
Q. I been married to my husband for three years now, but for the past few months I had realized that whenever we have sex he always have to put on a porn movie to watch. It hurts me so much because I feel like I am not good enough for him and while we ...
A. 20 February 2009: "For the Guys/men please let me know what you guys think when you do that to your love one."
WHOA! Slow down woman. You are making an awfully big presumption here.
I don't think most guys would go this far. It is one thing to watch porn when ... (read in full...)
Masturbation and pregnancy?
Q. my bf told its not good for girls to mastrbate because it will give them problems later in pregnancy. is this true? thank you...
A. 20 February 2009: Well yeah, it is true, if all you do is masturbate you won't be having any kids.
For the humor impaired, this is a joke.
Of course masturbation doesn't have any effect on pregnancy. Before, during or after.
Your boyfriend is an idiot, i... (read in full...)
How to get a vibrator?
Q. I have a question. Can somebody tell me how to get a vibrator? Because it is boring fingering myself, and i dont want to use my sisters' one. ...
A. 19 February 2009: Culture question, in holland Mediamarkt (a large electronic store) carries them on its shelves as well as places like Etos (pharmacy? Where you buy toothpaste, shampoo and over the counter medicine). So it would be trivial to buy them here, how is ... (read in full...)
Are most beautiful women viewed as sex objects by men?
Q. I have noticed at my university that girls who are in relationships tend to be plain looking and most of the good looking women are single. Even though I have heard that I was beautiful many times, I have never had a serious relationship. Men view ...
A. 19 February 2009: Ask yourself this, the men who just want you as a sex object, are these the same guys who are in comitted relationships with the "plain" looking women?
No? Mmm, could that explain it then? That the regular guys go for regular girls and have reg... (read in full...)
Appetite problem, please help?
Q. hey..i just wanted to ask umm like lately i havent had the appetite to eat..and i am very skinny..every morning..my stomach hurts and want eat because i cant..i just wanted to know what that means?..but like i dont have sex so i know i cant be ...
A. 19 February 2009: Depending on how severe it is, your problem is pretty common. Breakfast is the most important meal of the day and most of us skip it because we don't feel like eating in the morning.
The reason is simple, we screw up our ritme. We go to bed to l... (read in full...)
What should I do if my hubby bought his lover a valentine present and nothing for me?
Q. What would you do if you found out your husband having an affair and brought his lover a valentine present and nothing for you. He says he still wants his marriage to work and his affair meant nothing he just enjoyed the thrill the thought of him n...
A. 19 February 2009: You REALLY have to ask?
Okay, some guys forget valentines or think it is a big scam and refuse to take part in it. Fine so be it. BUT he didn't forget or think it is a scam when it came to his mistress. Just didn't bother to buy one for you.
... (read in full...)
Do lots of guys think vaginas are sort of gross/weird?
Q. do most guys think vaginas are kind of gross? bc my boyfriend mentioned it the other day (he said "gross" isn't really the right word - and he kinda regretted using the word gross because he realized it probably came across as way too harsh. plus he ...
A. 19 February 2009: Son to father: What does a vagina look like before sex dad?
Father: Like a beautiful rose bud moist with dew about to burst open.
Son: And what about after sex?
Father: Have you ever seen a bulldog eating mayanoise?
Oh and homophobic and being... (read in full...)
I make things miserable for him and he still loves me!
Q. Valentines day past, and he didn't get me anything again. I don't know what's wrong with me but it hurts and I told him before and he said he didn't know how to love me but he says he loves me, and wants to marry me, but that I have to stop getting ...
A. 17 February 2009: "I want to feel loved."
Get a kitten, at least their paws are fuzzy when they walk all over you and when they treat you as nothing more then a litter cleaner and can opener it is cute.
The headline says you made things miserable for hi... (read in full...)
A guy would be nice to have around now but... am I doing something wrong?
Q. I am 40, have been divorced for 18 months now. During this time, I have managed to finish my MSc, get a good job, and get my household in order. I feel I have done pretty well for myself and I am fairly happy with my life at the moment. I have a ...
A. 17 February 2009: Well frankly, maybe you are just content enough to be single. Look at most of the women here who have a relationship but shouldn't be, they NEED the man to complete them. You don't. If you did you would just go for the young guy, after one thing ... (read in full...)
He chased me like a dog, now he is not sure he should divorce his wife? Should I wait for him to decide?
Q. i'm 25, about 5 months ago i met a man he's 43 and live in singapore, we got close after we met, at that time i still have a boyfriend (26) that already 3 years together,my relationship with my bf also a little bit uneasy because i dont like the way ...
A. 17 February 2009: "i know he's really serious"
As serious as when he made his wedding vows to his current wive?
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So I squirted, does it mean I orgasmed as well?
Q. Hey, I was doing some research on this site, looking up woman's orgasms and squirting. At first I was going to ask if it was normal, but apparently it is! I'm kind of embarssed about it, it seems so abnormal! What I am wondering is when I ...
A. 17 February 2009: Have you had other regular orgasms? Because if you had you would know what one feels like. It is sort like dropping a hammer on your foot, when it happens, you know it.
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Does my husband love me or is it over for him?
Q. I have been married over 8 years my husband works a lot of hours and he is always busy I got sick a while back and I was very week I asked him if he can stay with me that day His answer was I am not a doctor or do you want me to stay and hold yo...
A. 16 February 2009: Just how sick?
You are aware that there is an economic crisis? Staying home with a wife who got the sniffles is hardly a sound career move.
If you were on the other hand just inches away from the grave then yes, that is pretty insensitive.
... (read in full...)
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