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30 March 2008: Slashdot is a geek site focussing mostly on tech. Relationship advice is not something you will find there, but this story just has to be mentioned. http://entertainment.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/03/30/0028211 http://www.livescience.co...
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Should I terminate this pregnancy?
Q. right so im pregnant and I want to keep it as i belive that we have been stupid enough to get ourselves into this mess no will we have to live with the consiquences, however my boyfriend says that were are too young (were 20)) that hes in army and ...
A. 17 June 2009: Catch 22? Don't you forget a couple of options?
A: You have the abortion, he starts to hate you for killing his child.
B: The abortion goes wrong, you can never have children again, he leaves you for a fertile woman.
C: You have the abortion, he... (read in full...)
I don't want to have sex with alot of people!
Q. I recently got out of a six year relationship, this guy was the first only person ive ever slept with. Im a single mom of two, now and am trying to move on. I am old fashioned, had my ex been a better man I would've been happy having only 1 sex ...
A. 16 June 2009: What society? A famous often quoted statistic is that 50% of people will have sex before 18. "Oh my GOD, I am 19 and didn't have sex yet, I am a freak!" or " I am a 12 year old virgin and everyone else is having sex before 18, I am a freak!"
What ... (read in full...)
Why are the majority of men bad in bed?
Q. If all men supposedly view porn (which seems to be the consensus on this site) and it is supposed to give you hints and tips to spice up your sex life (isn't this what all guys say), then why is it the majority of men are crap in bed. This was a ...
A. 16 June 2009: Why do so few women CORRECT men in bed. I know women love to play "well if you don't know what is wrong, I am certainly not going to tell you" but then get a vibrator and some long lasting batteries for your pleasure.
Most porn, especial... (read in full...)
My mum has hated him for 3 years, how do I tell her I'm pregnant with his child?
Q. i met this guy when i was 14, there was a group of us and we'd never met him before. i instantly fell for him. he was absolutly gorgeous! 20 year old 6ft tall, dark hair, blue eyes, 6 pac, he was like something from a magazine! haha. noo waaayyyy ...
A. 14 June 2009: In a 7 months time, you are going to be a parent. Responsible for another person who can't in anyway protect themselves.
And right now you write a post that just screams 12yr old girl. Lets hope he is the guy you think he is and not a pedo (wh... (read in full...)
Is it safe for me to call the police on the person who is sexualy harrasing my girlfriend?
Q. i really dont know if its weird but its just a confusing situation. My girlfriend and i have been dating for the past year. But recently, she has been getting texts on her phone from some people who want to have sex with her. She replies with a h...
A. 14 June 2009: She should really be the one to report it as the police will want to examine her phone records to trace the caller.
It is NOT safe to ignore this. Convince her to go to the police. Stalking is a crime that can easily lead to worse.... (read in full...)
Did I make the right decision by saying lets not be friends?
Q. Yeah, so I like this girl and she claims she likes me but we were gonna try the whole just friends thing for some unknown reason. We've been friends for a while now, we see each other once every blue moon. She said I was her best friend. We're ...
A. 14 June 2009: Do you regonize this description:
Some guys are the eternal backup. The guy she feels she should have as a bf and perhaps eventual husband but never does because the grass is always greener on the other side.
She will never get serious about hi... (read in full...)
I'm only attracted to guys wanting sex. Am I the problem?
Q. I feel like I seem to only attract guys wanting sex. Out of all the guys I have met, every single one of them (except one) has only wanted sex. I found out even my ex bf only wanted sex too. I dont think its how I dress - i dress pretty respectable. ...
A. 14 June 2009: I am presuming here the headline/topic is wrong, because the body of the questions is completly different.
The problem is only partially with you. The main problem is visibility. Lets say you are a fish then what would be more visible. Someone ... (read in full...)
Its hard to be supportive and watch someone throw their life away!
Q. so... where do i start? So dating this girl for a while and fall in love... before we were dating she was dating a guy who went to jail for selling drugs.. So he gets our of jail and im S.O.L..the guys kinda of abusive so she seems to be in a ...
A. 14 June 2009: Yet you are asking us to be suportive while you are throwing your life away with this girl? Ah irony.
Some people don't know what they want and she seems to be a prime example. She doesn't the bf, because she went with you the moment he was lock... (read in full...)
My bf is always slagging women off!!
Q. This all started a while ago, me and my boyfriend have been together for 11 months and I used to be able to just ignore it but now it's getting ridiculous. My boyfriend has had a bad past with girlfriends, cheating, stealing, using etc and he...
A. 13 June 2009: Well, you are showing him wrong. Not all women are cheats. Some are just plain stupid.
Just what makes you willing to accept all this? That is what you should be worried about. Let him sort out his own problems. Why do you feel that have to put u... (read in full...)
Husband angry with me over a rape
Q. ive been maried for 5yrs,we had a serious problem me and my husband, i kept him for a year that i have been raped,and seriously, i had baby from that thing that wasnt my fault, nobody understands me, and saying that hiding is seriously a fault to my ...
A. 13 June 2009: The rape wasn't your fault and while it is understandeable that you didn't want to talk about it, this puts your partner in a difficult position.
Don't you trust him? Feel you can't come to him your problems?
At the most basic level, you lied ... (read in full...)
Guys, are erection (or lack of) cases like this common?
Q. My guy has had sex with only one girl before me. Lately he claims he can nolonger get erections for other girls other than me. Yeah, he realised that coz he has tried to cheat on me severally :-( While am happy he cant erect for others am worried ...
A. 13 June 2009: I would say he is trying to bullshit you. Yes, erections can be influenced by emotions but to say that he is incapable of an erection with other women is just bullshit.
Be honest with yourself, would your body not react with another man? Not even... (read in full...)
My friend is dating a total jerk!
Q. Okay, so..... My best friends boyfriend, who is one of her first, and she just got together with, is pretty dangerous according to a few of his past girlfriends. He smokes weed and has "touched" his past girlfriends against their will (take in mind ...
A. 13 June 2009: Very little you can do. Young girls don't have a danger sense. Young boys will happily dive from 10 meters into a pool shallow water and break their neck. Young girls will happily dive into relationships with guys that are sure to break their ... (read in full...)
What is so attractive about the bad boys?
Q. I'm perplexed at the number of women who tell me they want a man who is nice to them, but in reality, the men they are attracted to and form relationships with are "bad boys." Then they spend their time complaining about how the bad boy behaves and ...
A. 13 June 2009: Bad boys are easy. If the relationship goes wrong, the woman can dump all the blame on the guy.
There is also constant emotion. They might be bad emotions but they still provide a sense of drama, that something is happening. Most people in a bad... (read in full...)
Girlfriend kissed another guy, please help me get over it!
Q. Okay, so I'm with my girlfriend of 7 months at her house, and this other guy that has been bothering my her for the best part of 2 years starts to text her. My girlfriend tells me that the texts have gotten alot worse during the past 2 weeks. These ...
A. 11 June 2009: Putting on your t-shirt the wrong, that is a mistake. Forgetting your keys, that is a mistake.
But mistakingly kissing someone. Well that is a mistake as well, but a different kind. It is the mistake of buying something you can't afford. She didn... (read in full...)
Will the sperm die instantly when he dipped it in the water?
Q. i got a question from my friend here. my friend wit his girl was messing around. Using his left hand, he fingers his girl friend and he while masturbaiting on the right, using his right hand. then my friend came and putted his semen and sperm on his ...
A. 11 June 2009: Of course sperm dies instantly in water. That is why it comes out as a powder and the vagina got to be bone dry or the sperm just doesn't stand a chance.
Sperm SWIMS in water. What the hell do you think semen is?... (read in full...)
She was an escort and posed for nude photos
Q. I've been dating a sweet, wonderful woman for two and a half years now. She's smart, beautiful, incredibly gentle and kind. I love her a lot and believe she loves me too. I even considered asking her to marry me. Recently however, she con...
A. 11 June 2009: Women got the option. Nobody would pay me for sex when I was studying so I had job on the side cleaning places nobody wants to clean. Like where somebody died alone in house filled to the roof with waste.
She slept with men instead. Can't say I bl... (read in full...)
Do I let him explore his fantasy of being with a man? I don't know what to think!
Q. Hi there, I have been in a relationship with same guy for several years. He just recently started opening up to me about how he is interested in being with another male, as well as wanting golden showers. He has become obssesed with anal sex.It...
A. 10 June 2009: 30 is too young for midlife crisis.
Tell me this, are these the action you imagined of your future husband when you were younger? Are these the actions of a man in love with his bride to be?
Is this what you want for the rest of your life? An... (read in full...)
I think I'm frigid
Q. Im very worried because i think im fridgid. All my life i hate it when people hugged me or touched me and im exteremly stiff, it never realy bothered me but then i relised something is very wrong with me. I dont want a boyfriend like everyone el...
A. 10 June 2009: Pretty easy to explain, you have grown up with a negative image of both sex and relationships. To you sexual acts represent rape and relationships are conflict.
While it is easy to see why you feel this way, it is something you are going to have ... (read in full...)
No inclination to actually have sex, but horny just the same
Q. Okay. So I masturbate quite often and frequently fantasize while I'm doing it about being WITH a...ya know, a guy...but I cannot imagine actual sex feeling good; rubbing myself is nice and I am your typical teenager--I get horny just like, listening ...
A. 10 June 2009: Sounds pretty normal to me. It is your body getting ready to be an adult. As long as you remember that horny does NOT mean ready for sex, you avoid a LOT of problems. No girl ever got pregnant from masturbation.
Someday you might fall in love and... (read in full...)
Is he a druggie?
Q. I've only been on a couple of dates with this new guy. I find him really smart, we get on well etc. Actually, he seems to be so much like me. He made an offhand comment once about scoring some "rocks" which was sort of a joke I guess but when I ...
A. 10 June 2009: If his comments are meant to be jokes, then were they told as jokes?
He is beginning to freak you out. I don't thank that happens just because of some comments. Probably there is more going on. Subtle signs that you have been noticing that tel... (read in full...)
Why do I feel bad about breaking up with a lazy abuser?
Q. Why do I feel like crap just finish breaking up with my man who has an anger problem and also wants me to accept him doing illegal stuff as long as I don't know about it. Mind you I'm a single mother working and going to school at night to get a ...
A. 10 June 2009: "I know he loves me cuz he shows me in every way"
In what way?
Oh, I see. True love is shown by being choked. Must have been in the directors cut of "When Harry met Sally".
What to you is best friends for ever? Severe beating?
Tell ... (read in full...)
Orgasm...how do I make it happen?
Q. asking about orgasms! ok so i have reached a higher level of intense pleasure by having sex on the side and having him touch my on my outside g spot. it feels really good and makes my legs go numb. but after a pretty decent amouunt of time ...
A. 9 June 2009: No, the way to an orgasm is to stimulate for a while, then when it start to feel good, you stop and do the dishes. That is why women LOVE doing the dishes.
Of course you continue!... (read in full...)
Parents getting divorced and now I can't stand to be around my father
Q. Long story short. Me and my brother found out last summer that my dad was cheating on my mum. They have been married for 30 years and he's been cheating for the last 4 years. My mum didn't know, and because of her love for him she didn't kick him ...
A. 9 June 2009: Oh gee, let me try to analyze your feelings. It is going to be a thoughie. Freud would be challenged.
Lets see... eh... betrayal? Not that hard after all I guess.
He cheated not just on your mother but on you as well. He broke the family and w... (read in full...)
Is it possible to get an STI from someone who doesn't have one?
Q. Dear Cupid, Is it possible to get an STI off somone who doesnt have one?...
A. 9 June 2009: No, and yes. No, if they are clean you can't catch anything from them.
However, a lot STD's might not show. Someone can be a carrier without showing sympthoms.
So, unless the person has had a recent checkup, and has NOT had sex with anyone ... (read in full...)
He wants me to give my virginity to him to show my love
Q. Hey frnds plz............ help me to come out of the complicated situation. For the last 4 years i am in relationship with a married man. Though he never forced me for anything, i was equally involved. we both r Indians and in India this type of ...
A. 9 June 2009: So, he wants your love. He wants it so much that he does NOT divorce his wife, does NOT make you his mistress, does NOTHING at all. Except ask you to fuck him first before dumping you.
Because is what he is saying. Yeah, yeah, he dresses it up ni... (read in full...)
He always finishes the job (oral sex), am I not doing it well?
Q. I have been dating my "boyfriend" for about 9 months and we've had a physical relationship for about 6 or less. He obviously wants oral and I have willingly given it. We were firsts for each other and I feel like I am doing the worst possible blow ...
A. 9 June 2009: You might be doing it to softly. Watch what he does when he does it himself and replicate it.
Men often masturbate to rough so that the more gentle touches of a woman ain't enough any more. If he abstains he will also become more sensitiv... (read in full...)
How to find men that want to settle down...?
Q. So, I am 22 years old and I am wanting to settle down. The single life style just isn't satisfying anymore. It seams that more and more of my friends are getting serious, engaged, married, etc, where I clearly am not. I could use some advice ...
A. 8 June 2009: Well, your friends are settling down, so where are they meeting the men who want to settle down with them. And for your male friends, who are the girls they are settling down with?
Monkey see, monkey do. Maybe, just maybe however you don't wa... (read in full...)
Married man wants me all for himself, what do you think?
Q. i met this guy at my job...who was sexually attracted to me and everyday he kept bothering me until finally he kisses me and we have a deep long sexual moment. the problem is that his with a girl and has two kids with her. i dont care and never ...
A. 8 June 2009: What I think? That you would be very intrested in this amazing bridge I got on offer. Just $1000, no questions asked. Deal?... (read in full...)
I'm such a wimp taking all this crap from men!
Q. Here's my story. Before I met him I had two unfortunate relationships in a row. First one had a bi-polar disorder, i coud not cope with anymore as he was hitting me alot and then was crying sorry. I had no strenth to tell anyone or dump him until my ...
A. 8 June 2009: From men...
Who is doing this to you. Your bf, or you?
Who is causing you pain. His action, or your own.
If you blame him, then to bad. This will be the pattern for the rest of your life.
Even if you leave him, there will be a 3rd and 4th... (read in full...)
He cheated, I've cheated, where do we go from here?
Q. Over the past 6 months, my husband and I have been at each other's throat. This past February, my husband moved into the basement. We didn't go to counseling, we just continued to exist. Finally, we made a decision to get in counseling in mid-May ...
A. 6 June 2009: 15 years of what?
What is it what you don't want to throw away, the lack of trust, the cheating, the fighting, the lack of physical contact.
What exactly would you be saving?
And what is this doing to your kids. You don't think they know wh... (read in full...)
Why does he want sex only when he is ready?
Q. Why does my husband only want to try and have sex with me after I am already asleep and then when I wake, he will not kiss me, love on me or anything, just wam bam, and if I try to proceed any other time he turns me away, it is always only when he ...
A. 6 June 2009: Has he always been like this? It sounds pretty old fashioned to me. If he was always like this, he might not know any better. If he used to be a more caring lover, then what has changed between the two of you?... (read in full...)
Why won't my boyfriend forgive my cheating?
Q. i ve cheated on my boyfriend and asked for forgivenness but he hardens up whereas he has cheated too although not caught redhanded but he still makes life difficult for me....
A. 6 June 2009: Because he doesn't want to. Why not? Well that is his issue. Sure, he seems a hypocrit if he cheated but can't forgive yours but that is the way he is.
Since you both are obviously inable to be to true to each other, what exactly are you together... (read in full...)
Why do I like much older men?
Q. I'm a 15 year old girl, and I absolutely can't stand guys around my age. They are immature and annoying to me. I'm attracted to much older guys (35+) and i'm not really sure why. I don't think it's a wanting-a-father-figure thing, because though my ...
A. 6 June 2009: Yes, boys your age are immature. Don't worry, they will grow up... oh okay, they won't but you will become more capable of withstanding their immaturity.
It is pretty common for girls your age to develop a crush on an older man. You are training... (read in full...)
Where should the line be drawn?
Q. Ok I need your opinion and advice. I'll try to make it as short as possible w/painting the entire picture. Originally my boyfriend and I were getting a house w/his best friend and his girlfriend. But she cheated on him and moved out they are ...
A. 6 June 2009: The answer should be obvious and that it isn't suggests that you are thinking of cheating on your boyfriend.
You are apperently not getting the emotional support you need from your bf and are getting it somewhere else.
This often leads to s... (read in full...)
I was going to marry her but caught her in our bed with another man
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for five and a half years; since Christmas 2004. I was planning on proposing to her and then joining her in a civil union, but I caught her having sex with a man. In our bed. I honestly don't even know what to ...
A. 6 June 2009: You are going to get over it. Sure, it will hurt and might for a long time, but you got no alternative.
You might decide to never trust/love again, but that ain't living. So you have to accept this happened, move on and learn to love again. ... (read in full...)
Am I normal to want to masturbate?
Q. well i am 18 and here recently i have been like really horny is this normal? everybody in my family says it's wrong to masturbate and do stuff before your married, so i don't really masturbate alot cause i feel bad when i do is that stupid? i know ...
A. 6 June 2009: You are horny, it is natures way of making you want to have sex despite all the risks (STD's, painful first time, unsatisfying sex, reputation, pregnancy).
There are three ways to deal with this. Have sex. Repress you bodies natural feelings... (read in full...)
How do you know when you really like someone?
Q. this is a bit strange but it keeps me up at night. I was wondering how you actually know if you like someone. I have been speaking to this guy for a while now and i've known him since i was little but we kind of lost touch. Now i talk to him ...
A. 6 June 2009: How do you know?
You get extremely silly and wonder about everything she does and loose sleep and like talking to her and feel all nervous.
You know, like you are feeling right now :P
Sometimes things won't work out. It just a crush and noth... (read in full...)
Are guys being selfish if they stop having sex after they orgasm?
Q. This is a question for men. Can you control how long you keep your erection for? Is it subconcious and out of your control or is it somewhat of a 'skill'? The reason I ask is because my boyfriend now can keep it hard for as long as we want to have ...
A. 6 June 2009: You can't control your erection after an orgasm. You can barely control it before. It easy to understand, just use your own "erection" as an example. Woman have one too and it is FAR larger. Your vagina extends, the walls encorge with blood, your ... (read in full...)
Is it ok for me to strip online for other men, if he uses porn... it's the same right?
Q. Since it is o.k for a guy to look at porn daily because they are "visual creatures" and need that release. Then isn't it just the same for a girl to go to chat rooms and talk since they are "emotional creatures" and need a release too. The guy on ...
A. 5 June 2009: What would this solve? You have a problem, you want guy X but not behavior Y that goes with him.
Not all men are into porn but the one you selected is. You got yourself a cat and are now upset that it scratches your furniture. Your solution... (read in full...)
He called me a selfish bitch because I don't want to have sex
Q. So I told my boyfriend that I don't want to do anything sexual with him mainly because it makes me feel uncomfortable. Well he gets mad at me cause I told him earlier I was going to gave him my virginity but I realize I wasn't ready. He called me a ...
A. 3 June 2009: Your body, your choice. You are not ready yet? Then you are not ready yet. That ain't selfish, it is called being in charge of your own body.
You just got a preview of his true character, he calls you selfish but what does that make his own acti... (read in full...)
Does anyone know the trick to a "flawless lady garden"?
Q. I like to be completely hair free down below. However, no matter what hair removing method I try, I still get red irritation and spots. Does anyone know the trick to a flawless lady garden? ...
A. 27 May 2009: Odd name? Shouldn't something grow in a garden?... (read in full...)
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