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writes: My girlfriend and I have been together for a year. It used to be great. We experimented a little bit, and we broke up for a little while. We got back together and we have been for about two months. We only broke up for a few weeks. Now she seems to be acting weird. I cant really do anything with her anymore. I like to joke around and I do frequently. She laughs at alot of my jokes, and some she doesn't. I was wondering how to get our relationship back like it was, when it was passionate. I loved it then, now every time we hang out I have some blind hope that something will happen to re-ignite that old feeling. Any advice on how I can change this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2006): Control of what?
The only thing we are in control of in this life is how we govern ourselves and how we will choose to respond to the events of life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2006): hopefully everything will work oout for you two. Because i just got out of a three and half relationship and it was going good there for a while until i started school and hanging out with friends and then i let them influence me in the wrong way and now we broke up becuase i wasnt ready to settle down i was in the running stage and now i feel horrible that were not together anymore. so if you really love that person everything well work out
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reader, Sexybum  +, writes (26 December 2006):
 Heya
It all really depends on the reason why you two split up in the first place and also how you got back together. If it's not passionate anymore than maybe she's moved on from that or it could be that she doesn't feel the spark right now.
She may be uncertain of what you want from her so she is being cautious with you and trying not to give too much away too quickly. The split could've hurt her or it could've made her question this relationship with you.
I would suggest that you tackle this head on. The longer you leave the problem the harder it will be to sort out. I would suggest that you take your lady to dinner and tell her how you've been feeling since you two got back together. You never know that once you open up to her she could open up to you two. You need to tell her what you are worried about and ask her how she feels.
Although if you're going to ask her how she feels you need to be prepared to listen to the answer and decide how to work on it. I'm not suggesting that your relationship is going to re-ignite over night, but if you open up the communication between the two of you than it could be the first step to regaining your intimacy.
Good luck
SB xoxox
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reader, eddie  +, writes (26 December 2006):
 Time will tell. The dynamics of the relationship changed. Wait and see. If you push things, you lose control.
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