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writes: My bf didn't get me anything for christmas. He asked me what size i am and I said small or x small, and then he said i'm not getting u anything!!! so don't think i'm gonna buy u anything. He didn't get me anything for christmas. The relationship is brand new though. we haven even kissed yet. Should i dump him for not getting me anything?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2006): My boyfriend didn't get me anything for Christmas, either. I feel your pain! Mike & I just started dating and we spent every day for the past week together, so it's not like he had a lot of time to get me anything anyway.
I think what you always have to consider is intent and motive. Did he skimp on your present because he's broke or because he didn't think you were worth it?
Chances are, he didn't have the money or he was too put off by the pressure of getting you something you would love when he probably doesn't know much about you.
And remember, Christmas shouldn't be about how much "stuff" you get - but how much love you get. I would give this guy until Valentine's Day - and if he screws that one up, well - I think you know what you need to do!
Good luck...
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reader, dorfmeistersfan +, writes (27 December 2006):
 Okay, use this experience as a standard to observe his "caring" behavior. If it doesn't improve or if it remains the same, then DUMP him.
That simple!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2006): Sorry...I was confused.
See...stupidity at its finest.
If you haven't kissed...it's not that "serious" by male standards so...really...don't turn this miniscule moment into a BIG FRICKEN DEAL with a side of crummy fries.
Let me share a rule of mine with you: Focus on all you have and be thankful.
Don't get caught up in all you didn't have or what you don't have-it's a one way ticket to bittersville.
Have a Happy New Year's and hope that the BF gives you that first kiss.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2006): For serious?
Listen...life is too short and to be in it, living it and to be bombarded with all the crap that goes on, day after day...and to believe that you should be dumping your BF because he surprised you and thought about you and it's Christmas and you received a present is dumb.
Merry Christmas and hope you New Year's doesn't see you tossing a chance at happiness every danged moment you can.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (26 December 2006):
 It sounds like the guy is broke at the moment and he's worried about it. It doesnt mean he's a bad guy but he's not expressing it very well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2006): He doesnt sound like a very caring person. I mean fine, if his a bit tight for cash, then so be it, but its like his rubbing it in ut face and hinting for you to pay for things. Thats not right at all. Id maybe wait a few days and if he doesnt get his act together, then u deserve better xx
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reader, Ivanna22 +, writes (26 December 2006):
Ivanna22 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well I didn't get him anything cuz he told m he wasn't gonna get me anything. Also, on our first date he was joking all the time by asking me what I was gonna get him for christmas and that i'm gonna be paying for our next date and stuff like that. On our fist date he keot talking about his money issues. It was very weird cuz when we got to the restaurant and we were eating, he was telling me how his brother was gonna be mad at him for going out and spending money and that he shouldn't be spending money right now. When he said that he made me feel uncomfortable eating the food.
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reader, eddie +, writes (26 December 2006):
That sounds like a strange game. Maybe the words came out wrong. What did you get him?
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reader, bonym  +, writes (26 December 2006):
 Sweet heart, I am not sure that this is a real relationship yet. He seems a bit uncaring as Irish said, and I am not convinced that this relationship is off to a great start. You say you havent kissed, well that in itself is not an issue as such, but seeing as you are boyfriend and girlfriend,I thought that maybe you would have had some sort of intimacy and by that I dont mean sex, I mean intimacy i.e. kissing, holding hands etc. How do you feel about him? Ask yourself, do you want this relationship to progress? Tell him how you feel. xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2006): Sounds like you have a silly, uncaring bf there--all due to immaturity, on his part. To firstly ask you your size, giving you the impression he wants to buy you something and then to say 'he 's not doing this' was highly disrespectful. He should have just kept his yap shut in the first place. He's not obligated to buy you anything..perhaps a card would have been nice. I say- wtach his behaviours closely, this could have been a stupid mistake due to his youthfulness. Tell him it bothered you. But if he shows other forms of disrespect..yes by all means, move on. It sounds like you haven't invested a lot in him, anyways. You sound like a smart girl..I think his behaviour is an indicator, he may not be the one for you. Remember, dear...dating is a selection process at your age. With each fellow you date, you learn something, you mature and develop your self. To the point, that someday...you will know who the right person is for you, over the long term.
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reader, Emmz +, writes (25 December 2006):
the way he said it kinda sounded shitty and like he was doing it on purpose to be mean, i would dump him for talking to me like shit not neccesarily not buying me a present. You could give him another chance but personally he sounds like an arsehole so you should ask him what his problem is and if he doesnt apologise or have some explanation then dump him good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2006): Ok You havent even kissed?
in the guy's eye's the r-ship as not started. it was like me with my ex. we was friend's for a week and on the 2nd week she kept telling everyone i was dateing her which we didn't even kiss. what so ever.
i looked at it like when i kiss her the r-ship started my ex looked at it 2 say we was dateing a whilie before i even kissed her.
so don't be mad he didn't get anything 4 xmas.
don't get me wrong a card saying " happy xmas " or a small present wouldn't of been hard to get. but i think he doesn't even have to buy u anything because he doesn't think there's a r-ship 2 buy anything 4 yet.
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