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writes:My friends in love with a married man and he has decided to separate from his wife. They have a lovely kid who is maybe just a year old and one which is few years old. I feel for the woman and the kids though they are strangers and my conscience wants me to get in touch with her and ask her to save her marriage and the kids future. Maybe its a bit too late for her to manage that but still whatever she can do ... however, I feel doing so would be betraying my friend for a stranger. I have tried to speak to my friend to not to do this but to no avail. I really am not sure what i should do here.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (14 August 2010):
 I think you need to know whether or not they actually love each other. It is true that you cannot help who you fall in love with because the heart wants what the heart wants but, they have to be sure it's love otherwise he might just hurt your friend the same way he hurt his wife. Just be cautious and be there.
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reader, xpinkxladiex  +, writes (14 August 2010):
 Hi, the splitting up of families is getting more and more common now, and I know what it feels like because my father left me and my mum for another woman. It is one of the most awful feelings in the world, and we all wish we could do something to stop it.
However in your case, there is nothing you can do. Unfortunatly you have to leave the situation, it is not your concern or responsibility to deal with the situation and you are not involved. I to feel for the woman and her kids, but I like you cannot do anything to sort it. It is down to your friend and the man to sort things out because they are the ones who caused the problem. But remeber you cannot help who you fall in love with, so if the married man really is no longer in love with his wife, no one can change his mind.
All you can do is either stay out of it, or be there for your friend, but I advise you not to say anything to the woman, because you may be dragged into a messy problem.
Hannah x
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reader, xxmissyxx  +, writes (14 August 2010):
 the married man cud be unhappy with his wife, maybe his wife is also not happy with the marriage, so i don't know how you are making that judgement that their marriage needs to be saved. how old is the married man, how old is ur friend... can u say that? i'm assuming your friend was having an affair with that guy..? he was cheating on his wife..? didn't you think of stopping your friend then and letting his wife know about it..?
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