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writes:If a guy says that the time is not right for him to be in a relationship and that it wouldn't be fair to me to start a relationship, is there EVER a time that this is a true statement?I feel like he's just letting me down easy and that he is just not interested, but part of me wants to believe his words. Am I wasting my time? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2010): Hi, I'm the op, thanks so much for your responses!
Well to elaborate, we'd been dating for a few months when we broke it off. He said he was going through a difficult time and wasn't sure about us, so I said we should stop, and we decided to be friends. (I suppose at this point, I did believe that his statement was just a way of letting me down easy and I didn't believe that he was going through issues...)
And we've been friends since, we hung out quite often and always had fun. But then one day while we were hanging out he started to act in a way that was more like a bf and not a friend (he kinda made a move).
So I asked him what was going on, and I wanted to know if he wanted to start a relationship or whether he was looking for fwb. He said not fwb. And that's when he made that statement. So I don't know, it still seems like a line, although the delusional me would like to think it's true.
So no, mrvhapy, he isn't coming out of a relatinship (as far as I know, ha, that would be a whole 'nother problem for me to deal with), and he isn't leaving the area. I mean I don't know how long this "difficult time" has lasted or will last.
I guess what Cerberus/Raphael said is true, he isn't interested right now, so I should just leave it alone....
Well, thanks again :)
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (15 August 2010):
 For some people, it is a true statement. Some people go through stages of their life where they just aren't ready to care about someone or feel anything. They could just be going through something big in their life. I don't know what the exact situation is but, if you like him, just let him know and then go with whatever comes along. If he says he's not ready then, he's just not ready. Either way, right now, he isn't interested.
I hope that helps.
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reader, mrvhappy  +, writes (15 August 2010):
Hi,
Its a difficult q to ans without more information from you.
It could be a way of letting you down gently or it could be that hes just come out of another realtionship/about to leave the area for wk/studies etc and needs time...
Hope this helps
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