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writes:[OP original title]Hi. I am a 13 year old FTM transgender. I am not out. And I watch Degrassi, which has a FTM on it. And if I tell my mom I am then I am afraid she will tell me that its because of that show. Which its really not. So, how do I tell her? Me and my sister were talking about Adam, [[the person on Degrassi]] and she was saying how its like their child died and they had another. And it really depresses the parents. Which made me even more reluctant to come out. I haven't told anyone this. And I thought since I can be anonymus here. I might as well ask it here. How do I tell my parents? My family? My friends? I still look like a girl. Even though, I hate it. I am really depressed because of it. I have size 36 D boobs. And I want them gone. Which is basically impossible. But, I just want my family to know the real me. Aaron. Not Skylar. Please help. I'm desperate.
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (15 August 2010):
 I watch that show as well, and even watching it as I type this, I haven't gotten to this episode and I know that this show deals with everything and tries to be as realistic as possible, but you must remember that its a show and that the responses of the characters parents won't necessarily be the same as your parents.
it will be hard for them to deal with and they probably won't blame it on the show, but on your age. They'll probably convince themselves that you're going through a phase or that you'll grow out of it. Acceptance will come gradually as they will begin to see that you are serious. Its probably better to tell them now sooner than later, that way you won't have to pretend anymore.
have you came out to anyone else in your life? your friends at all?
I think you should set your parents down and sit with them,tell them that you have something important to tell them. Explain how you feel and maybe stop watching degrassi for a while so they can't blame the show.
Good luck and I really hope that your parents respond well:)
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (15 August 2010):
 I don't think it's anything to be afraid of. Don't your parents love you now as their child? What are their views on this sort of thing? They should support you if this is how you truly feel.
Tell them slowly, sit them down and just tell them that who are now is not who really are because who you really are is this 'Aaron'. Talk them through it but always let them know that you feel strongly about this. Good luck!
I hope this helps.
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reader, luvingme21 +, writes (15 August 2010):
 Well, you're a very brave one for admitting this. Your parents must be strict or you guys lack communication. I say you should maybe talk to your sister about it first. Open up to her and tell her how you feel. And from her response I think then you might have a little less pressure on your hands when you tell your parents. But remember when open up to your parents there are two senarios that can play out. 1-They disown you as their child and block you out of their lives forever(which later on they'll regret) or 2-Your parents will slowly come to accept the real you. #2 takes time, it could take months or even years and sometimes when it does happen it may be too late. Either way just remember that you are YOU and that doesn't seperate you from being human. Every human struggles in life, and in your case you're starting pretty early.
I wish you the best of luck, and feel free to write to me ;)
Luvingme21
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