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writes:[OP original title]I feel so alone right now. nothing in lifes going right and to make it worse im being treated like crap by one of my friends. Im a quiet person in general and so is he, depending on who he is around, mostly hes fine. I dont always know what to say but once people talk to me im fine. he knows this. I wont say recently because hes always been like this but these past few weeks its gone beyond silly. He just not talking to me. Its a strange thing to talk about as on moment he may ask me if im alright or OCCASIONALLY just say something random to me if everyone is on the topic. And when he does he talks and you wouldnt notice any problem. However he will sit there and say random things to anyone else all the time, nothing he couldnt say to me. He jokes around with them and everything. He mainly walks up to others and starts a conversation just randomly. He makes effort. However with me he doesnt, he never starts a conversation with me, im not asking for anything speical.So a while ago i overheard the subject he was talking to someone about and when i was alone with him/had a moment to start a chat i asked him about it, tried to show an interest. he answered me, but didnt say much and then went back to being quiet and chatting away to other people. Nothing seemed to work. Its even got that stupid that if the friends we are with head outside for 5mins he wont stay with me he wants to be with them. He wont even stay with me if the others say go in, he waits to make sure theres someone else with us. Im not sure whats going on but i feel awful! We have had a chat about the way our friendships been in the past and all he said was he doesnt always know what to say. Hes also said to other people that he wishes i would talk more. How can i talk to him when i get no response or effort in return? But as i;ve stated in these last few sentences some of the stuff is pretty ridiculous. Other people have noticed that we don't speak. ive been through every possible reason in my head as to why he could be like this and i cant make sense of any of it. What can i do to help this? Please help me? any advice? thankyou :) Reply to this Question
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (15 August 2010):
 There are two possibilities here. Either he really doesn't like you or he really does like you a lot. I don't know him as well as you do so I'm just throwing out ideas here.
Try talking to him again, actually be more talkative than usual about anything, see if he gradually talks more and more and see where it goes from there. If he starts feeling really uncomfortable then just stop and think about why that is. Ask him if he feels uncomfortable around you. If he wants to go hang out with his friends just because you two are alone, ask him if he wants to hang out or something, get a drink. Then see how he reacts.
I Hope that helps.
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