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writes:Dear Cupid There is a guy that I camp with. I have known him for about 3 months now. He is about 65 or 70. I kind of have feelings for him. Not like I want a relationship but kind of like I love him like a father of grandfather. Am I in love with him, or is it just because I never met my grandfather so he is kind of like a grandfather to me.Should I tell him that I think of him like a grandfather? Help! Reply to this Question
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (15 August 2010):
 My honest opinion, you shouldn't be IN love with him. He's just too old for you. I am going to assume you are fifteen. You haven't finished school yet and you are still going through changes in your body, in your mind and in your life. How does he feel towards you? Honestly, I really hope it's not in that kind of love. You should tell him that he is like a grandfather to you only. You two, legally, morally, spiritually, shouldn't be together in a romantic relationship.
I hope that helps.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (15 August 2010):
 You should be very careful for your sake and for his.
Unfortunately society is such now that most people will assume that a man in his 60s wanting to spend time with a 15 year old girl is up to no good. It is sad that people think that way because young people can learn a lot from spending time with older people and vice versa but that IS the way that people think. For this reason many older men are terrified to spend any time alone with young people to whom they are not related because it only takes the slightest hint or inuendo of inappropriate behavior and they become a social pariah.
Assuming that he is a good man you need to help protect him by not putting him in a situation where people could think that he is not.
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