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writes:Hello everyone,I am curious if anybody else would have the same problem or if it is somehow reasonable that I thought this:My boyfriend and I had a conversation about web sites we visit (to see if we go to any porn sites etc). He said that he hasn't been going to any porn sites lately and the only site that was anywhere close was "3wishes.com" which is the site with revealing costumes as well as very sexy, naughty and revealing (you can see breasts and their behind) lingerie on these super hot models.I got upset that he was looking at that and told him that if he wanted to buy me lingerie he could've gone to victoria secret or similar. His response was that they didn't have all these like on this website. What got me upset is that he was looking at these super hot models and wanting me to wear it (he couldn't help but see their big ass or tits and pretty faces and super hot bodies). Yes, it is very nice that he wanted to buy that for me but I don't agree with where he looked or what he look at.What do you think?
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reader, Emilie  +, writes (9 August 2007):
 Hey, no prob hun im glad you feel better about it :) good luck in the future! xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey- thanks everybody for your help! My bf did say that if he didnt think of how great i would look in it and what a great body i have, he wouldn't think to buy stuff like that because not anyone could wear it.... So i did some thinking and i don't see it so bad anymore :) Thanks
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reader, jordan-72 +, writes (8 August 2007):
he s a very nice guy to buy you something he thinks you d look (sexy ,sluty,kinky, or ,tarty or cute in) if you dont like it comunicate or move on simple j x
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (7 August 2007):
 I went to that website it wasn't that revealing than he probably sees in some Frederick's of Hollywood catalog and certainly no more than he'd probably see on a trip to the beach. Most men who look at porn look at stuff way worse tha this. I wouldn't get too worked up over it. If your curious, log on and order something. It might help you feel better to be modeling some of the merchandise for him (hence he may go to the website less often).
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reader, Emilie +, writes (7 August 2007):
Hey i can understand why you may be upset i had a look at the site to see how bad it was and to be honest they just look like barbie dolls. I dont think he meant anything by looking at this site really, he was just fantasising about how good YOU would look wearing different items of clothing / lingerie. If you still feel that you would like him not to look at these sites, then i would suggest you have a quiet night in and explain to him how you felt and how you still feel. Explain what you explained to us... that you appriciate the thought but you would like him to get your lingerie from a more sutible site.
Don't let this spoil your relationship with him its only a site after all :)
Just leave him to it hes going to think more of you than of them i assure you, after all its YOU he is with and it is YOU he loves, not any of those girls posing stupidly like barbies.
Remember he loves You thats all that counts :)
Hope this has helped a lil. Best wishes xxx
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reader, penta +, writes (7 August 2007):
 I'm one of 'those' women who don't think it's a problem when my husband looks at porn (or any other woman who is not me). I know that I'm the woman he chooses to be with.
Men like to look. They always will. And as long as he chooses to be with me, I don't worry about his looking. I trust him. And I know that the fact that he likes to look has nothing to do with our relationship.
Relax hon. He's with you because he loves you. I'd be more upset if what he wanted to purchase for you was uncomfortable (lace in funny places, etc.) than at the model who wore it so he could purchase it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2007): he probably did get a thrill from looking at those hot models but im betting that what he was mostly thinking was how hot YOU, his partner who he loves and is turned on by, would look in those kinky outfits. he clearly has a lot of desire for you; and not to stick up for him too much cos admittedly id be a bit annoyed too, but vicky secret and such dont quite have the range that some of those sites have. even if he was ogling the naked models, they dont compare to you, flesh and blood he can make love to who will look just as beautiful to him as those models in the sexy lingerie. i think you have very low self esteem as iv noticed a confident woman is less bothered by this kind of thing; just remember, he thinks youre beautiful and he wants to see you in that kind of sexy underwear because he desires you. the only problem id really be worried about is if at the end of this, he doesnt actually buy anything, cos then he probably was just looking at the girls! but lets not jump to that conclusion yet. you could suggest to him that in future if hes going to look for things like that for you, perhaps you can look with him, make a decision on something together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2007): I think that your boyfriend did nothing wrong. I understand that it makes you feel insecure, but he was only trying to do something nice for you. Would you care if he looked at a victoria secret catalouge?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2007): Hay babes.I totally understand where your coming from.I get these feelings too.however the most he can do is not goon them. And i also understand the fact that you wont want to wear itcus thay looked better am i right ? but dont forget, these women are airbrushed ect and everything can be enhanced and altered ect, we dont know aht were looking at anymore. Please visit http://www.dove.co.uk/uk_en/uk_en/index.html and watch and tell him to watch too, it will open your eyes !!!Dont worry-x-
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