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*indsaycrispin
writes:Hi My problem is my boyfriend! I have been seeing him a year and a half now. The first year was great, he treat me like a princess and really showed how much he loves me. We've been through a lot and over the last 2 months he has been not so nice. He always sounds unhappy, never wants me to go and see him, never shows love. He always starts arguments and reverses them around so it looks like its my fault. He says I'm getting too clingy. What should I do? The more he is being horrible the more I am chasing after him. How can I get him to be like he was, and how do I stop being clingy and trust him!!! Please help !!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007): my girlfriend is doing the same thing right now,the fact is there is nothing you can do to chance their mind.. Just sit back and go with the flow. if they really love you they'll come back and treat you the way you need to be treated. if not then o well move on..
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2007): First off I want you to know that I was in the same situation with my boyfriend about a year ago. It was the exact same thing, he would say I'm too clingy, and would always start arguments that somehow end up being my fault. I am still with him, but I'm not happy. We've been together for almost three years now, and I'm about half an argument away from going crazy. I want to end this relationship, but I let it drag on too long, if I had ended it a year ago it would've been much better. I think you should end the relationship, it will make the future much easier for you. You deserve someone who treats you like a princess all the time, not just the first year. Yes its going to be hard and yes it will hurt, but trust me its better than being where I am now.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (2 August 2007):
 My first thought is this guy doesn't much want to be in a relationship right now but why, I do not know. You mention that he used to treat you like a princess, but I'm wondering what did you do for him, to make him feel like a King? Men like to have nice things done for them, sweet little gestures of thoughtfulness. Perhaps things have become one-sided and he's growing tired of doing all the giving. If that's not the case here, then it could be that he has simply grown tired of the relationship and needs to be single for awhile. Your clinginess is only going to make him decide quicker. Be a big girl and give him some space. He may come running once he realizes he actually has to chase you.
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (2 August 2007):
 I think the two of you just need to talk about things. Discuss why he's acting the way he is with you.
From there the two of you can decide what you do to fix things, if of course things CAN be fixed. You sound like a very honest and caring girl. I for one love it when girls show their love and affection towards me. My last relationship didn't always have that.
It could be that your boyfriend just isn't right for you, but right now, you have a chance to find that out.
Talk to him, find out what the roots of your problems are and then try to fix them if possible.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2007): frist i thin k he might be depressed because my fiance went thru thst went i was pregnate and it lasted about almost 5 months and no he wasnt depressed because i was pregnate but because we were young the last time but now im pregnate and were great but just give it a good thought into why he may be depressed or sad? well any ways depression can leave some guys real out of it so to speak and they can feel low and upset with life were they take it out on you and dont mean to well wow let me tell you ive been thru this trust me ive and he told me your too clingy your stressing me out and your on my nevers leave me alone and i love you but you would be better off by your self but any who give it some time and stand your ground if he leaves you dont go after him and dont make it so easy for him to get you back yes i admit people make mistakes but doesnt mean they shouldnt learn from them and im not saying that because hes down and out that he has a right to sit there and be mean to you that isnt how love is shown and all relationships have there ups and down and some are not strong enough or isnt enough some thing there to keep it together just no mater the out come youll be happy in time and then again tie will only tell you never know what can and might happen okay sweets keep your head up for now and talk to your man
good luck
sincerly luva
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (2 August 2007):
 DITCH HIM and find someone who cares/loves you.
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