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*lueberry
writes:Mixed Signals!! DECODE!!!My ex boyfriend whom i still talk with everyday (its a long distance thing) says things that confuse me. Can you tell me what you think this all means:" You're hot. youre better looking than that girl. why would i care about her."" Dont call me so much. It gets annoying. But i dont want you to stop. Just dont as much."" Of course i like you" (wen i asked)" darling" (he calls me this all the time" go ahead and date other men dont wait for me to come back. I may, i may not."" I love u 2, (myname)" wen i said i loved him wen i was drinking and he asked me somthing i said bc i lov u." If/wen i move back we can date." (he is waiting on work stuff)" Ive missed that you havent been calling me"
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reader, blueberry +, writes (3 August 2007):
blueberry is verified as being by the original poster of the question Yes ex...but the only reason he is an ex is because he had to move with his family. They all moved there. We werent dating long enough for him to stay just for me. So that is why i feel we still have a chance if he comes back. But i agree with the answers ive got and I really think i should forget about him. And i think hed agree. sad isnt it ? wen u like someone, lol. Thanks for the answers
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reader, duskyrowe  +, writes (2 August 2007):
 Darling do me a favour stop dancing to this guy's tune, he does this because he knows he can get away with it. I would keep him at arms length. Date someone else who lives nearer to you and does'nt play mind games with you, you certainly don't need his permission to date other guys. Go out and have all the fun you can with your friends, don't wait around for him either. There are plenty more bigger and better fish in the ocean, chances are he could be having his own fun with other women , you don't know for certain what he gets up to do you.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (2 August 2007):
 I think you should stop talking, e-mailing, texting and having conversations with him that leave you confused and unable to move on. By definition, and "ex" is someone who's in the past. It's time for you to start seeing the relationship for what it is -- over -- and begin rebuilding your life without this crazy, mixed up man. He's got all the power in this situation by saying yes when he means no, and no, when he means yes. And because you continue to entertain him in these confusing discussions, he's keeping you on a string. Cut the tie and move on. Start going out with friends, take up a class, get involved in community theater, whatever interests you, and you will probably meet some interesting men who live in your city/town etc. and can start seeing someone who knows what he wants. Good luck.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (2 August 2007):
 Its all a bit of a game though isnt it. If he doesnt want to hear you saying you want him back, maybe he just likes the attention? If someone backs off once they have 'got' the woman or man, it can be a sign of immaturity.Maybe hes nowhere near ready to get serious with anyone. I would be tempted to call it quits and go out, have fun, maybe even date other people, like hes saying you should do. Then what will be will be.Hard i know though.Good luckC xxxxx
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reader, blueberry +, writes (2 August 2007):
blueberry is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes he has said that he doesnt want me to wait and i have been acting a bit impatient and um almost desperate for him to come back...which also may turn him off so i think you may be right...hlskitten. Also may i add that he isnt the type to say i love u even wen we dated but he has said it once to me, and he always says he likes me. but i just dont get it bc he said one day that he slept with a girl but it was nothing and he doesnt want her that way and doesnt phone her. He said that its ok if i date and we are both single. He isnt the type to have a one night stand and i believed him until my sister suggested he may have been lying to get me not to like him anymore. But he told me they had a little argu,ent about why he doesnt phone (she confronted him) so that makes me think it must be true...hard to say!!! Any more insight would be greatly appreciated thanks
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (2 August 2007):
Very hard to say.Maybe he is trying to leave it so you're not waiting around for him to come back or maybe hes confused and doesnt know what he wants, so keeps swinging from being keen to not so keen. Its not fair on you thats all i can see.But without more info its hard to sy anymore than that.I would get on the phone and ask him, its not fair to keep giving you mixed signals.C xxxxx
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