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writes:I routinely look at porn and masturbate to it. I have a craving to share this with my girlfriend, but I'm embarassed to. I'm tired of this "secret life". Ladies, do you think I should share this private info?
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (6 August 2007):
 Let's just say until you know how your g/f is going to react to this news, why not bring it up in a joking way. Like when she's going out shopping and she asks you what you're going to do while she's gone, you could jokingly say, "Oh not much, I have a stack of porn to keep me busy." and see what she says. If she frowns and says, "You'd better not be looking at that crap." Then you know it's not going to be a popular topic to discuss with her. On the other hand, if she laughs and says, "Good, save some for me, and I'll look at it with you when I get back." Then she's probably open minded enough, or secure enough with herself to accept that you do these things. You can put whatver spin on it you want, but it's a very touchy subject with alot of women so go there carefully.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2007): Maybe give up the porn and concerntrate on haveing a trusting relationship with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2007): Thank you, Donna!
I appreciate your compassion!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2007): Absoultely, porn can be very erotic and fun. This is something you should not be embarrased about. If you decide to introduce it to your girlfriend you never know she may like it.
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT  +, writes (5 August 2007):
 Hi there babes,
It would not bother me if my husband looked at porn and he wanted to share it with me, but there are a lot of women who would find this a threat and would not be happy, I don't know your partner so if you really want to tell her then I would bring it up in a film or something or something you are reading eg; Say something like would you go mad if I was doing that?????, and see what she says....
You know your partner better than me hun, if she ever does find out behind your back how do you think she will take it then?????
If you do decide to tell her then you need to let her know that its her that turns you on not some actress, its just a great way to find out ideas too!!!!!
Hope this has helped and good luck hun
Love Donna xx
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reader, Carly72 +, writes (5 August 2007):
 Absolutely! I discovered my partner regularly looks at internet porn and although it took me a little while to get my head round, I have accepted that this is something he does. Although he knows that I'm aware, he does not like me looking at porn (!) and does not share this vice with me. I wish he would let me be a part of this because at the moment I almost feel like he is cheating on me and needs more than I can give. So I think it is great that you want to share this with your girlfriend and I'm sure you'll have a great time together exploring new things. Honesty and openness are priceless in a relationship, so go for it x
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