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writes:I've been seeing my boyfriend for nearly 2 years. He has had about 6 sexual partners before me. He is my first love and I've been brought up to believe that sex before marriage is wrong. He always said he was okay with it but now nearly 2 years on he says its either have sex or end our relationship cos he can't deal with losing out when he at his peak. I kinda understand that most men need sex but I'm so scared of getting pregnant. So do I give up on our relationship or give in to his request (ultimatum)?Any advice appreciated thanks x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2007): I think you should, doesn’t matter how you look at it – it’s an old fashion view.He’s obviously committed to you – surly he’s proved that. And what different with a ring and a certificate make anyway, your still be the same people?And lets not forget the most obvious, sex is good! You have nothing to lose from it and everything to gain!Don’t be afraid, there are contraceptives our there that are so reliable they practically eliminate any possibility of getting pregnant – that shouldn’t even be an issue!I think you just nervous about something you have put off for so long, you don’t want to lose this guy, he’s clearly a descent man. Give and take, he’s given two years of dedication and loyalty to you, give to him! if your going to marry him anyway what's the difference?
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (2 August 2007):
 Wow two years together and no sex, most guys would have given up by now and moved on to get their satisfaction elsewhere. Sorry i am not having a go, save your virginity for marriage by all means, but I think you are being unrealistic to expect your fella who is already experienced to wait until marriage. Its your body no-one elses, so if you want to have sex with your man or not is totally your decision. Go along to the family planning clinic either by yourself or with your boyfriend, they will give you sound advice of what contraception is suitable for you and take it from there. I think by the sound of it somebody has put the fear of god in you about sex and making you believe that doing it before marriage is something that is sinful. Each to their own I guess, but no-one should dictate to you of what is right and what is wrong, only you can decide that my dear. Lets us know how it goes ok. Good Luck x
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reader, sxcbabiegal +, writes (2 August 2007):
 it is really up to you but if this guy doesnt respect your feelings then he clearly doesn't love you as much as you think he does i made my boyfriend wait until i was ready and thats exactly what you should do stand your ground and if he leaves you then hunni he aint worth it expecailly of he doesn't respect u lv jodie xxx
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (2 August 2007):
 You could get married. That would solve everyone's problem. And you can go on the Pill whether or not you're married so you'll be less likely to get pregnant before you're ready for it.
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reader, Uncle Trev +, writes (2 August 2007):
If you are absolutely sure that you want to stay with this one and you want this guy to be your first then go for it. Two years is a long time to wait and it isn't as if he isn't committed. You are obviously very close and your guy obviously wants to get closer still. It is the natural progression of this relationship.
I know some blokes wouldn't have hung around and know many that would have been playing away from home so to say.
I can only say what I would do in your shoes - assuming you two are as close as you indicate in your question is that I would take things that step further. If not - I would be seriously questioning if this one is the right person for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2007): Why don't you get married? That way you can stay a virgin until marriage and He can get laid. Everyone wins!! I understand his point of view, so don't be mad at him. But if he hasn't even considered marrying you, and you don't want to have sex before marriage, it may be time to move on.
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