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31 March 2011: I recently read something nice that I would like to share.... JUST TWO. Donate blood twice a year. Donate your eyes after death. Thank God twice a day. Write two letters a week. Visit two ailing people a month. Say two words of gratitude-"...
A little humility goes a long way
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27 March 2011: I’ve been a moderator here on DC for a while and it’s a great forum. It really irritates me though when the OP shows no regard for the aunts who’ve taken time to answer questions. We moderators don’t know you, yet we spend time poring over ever...
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How do we make our dog accept the new puppy?
Q. I have a 10 year old American Bulldog. We recently added a puppy to the family and our older dog is very depressed and angry. Any suggestions on how to make him accept the new addition?...
A. 26 January 2011: Its very natural for older dogs to not accept new additions to the family...we had the same problem at our place. We had a very pampered 4 yr old lab, and when my dad got a dalmatian puppy (who, by the way, is now the LIFE of the family!), the older ... (read in full...)
Big decision, do I sell my soul?
Q. im 21 years old and have found myself in a really terrible financial situation. I don't feel like explaining the whole story but I made some bad choices on who to trust. The only immediate job that is paying good is doing massages. Call me naive but ...
A. 25 January 2011: Please dont ever give up your morals for anything.I know its easy for us here to sit on judgment and say this, because you're the one who's in a very difficult situation financially, but whatever it is, DO NOT do it. You wont ever be able to face ... (read in full...)
My wife has webcam sex chats with men, and hides things from me. Should I be worried?
Q. My wife does webcam sex chats and hides a lot of stuff from me. Should I be worried? ...
A. 23 January 2011: Is this question for real?
Your wife indulges in cyber sex and hides stuff from you and you're asking IF you should be worried?? Please....Thats hardly a cause of worry! Are u KIDDING me???... (read in full...)
Do I consider a threesome because I love him? Or just say no?
Q. Right, i need someone's help to make me understand my boyfriend's mind a tad bit better.. He wants to try a 3sum, however.. i want MY boyfriend to Myself! I'm not into girls, sure they're gorgeous but not sexually. I thought we had great se...
A. 21 January 2011: Dont do ANYTHING you're not comfortable with...and this goes for everything in life. Today you give him a threesome to shut him up, what does he ask for next? Will you keep giving in to his demands just to shut him up all the time? Very soon the ... (read in full...)
I think I screwed everything up for me and him.....
Q. Okay, so I've been thinking A LOT about this lately. I like this guy a lot, but I think I screwed everything up for us. This past summer, one night we were texting, playing 21 questions, and he asked me if I had ever liked him. Well, I freaked and ...
A. 21 January 2011: Not really a big screw up. You can always tell him that you like him...provided you know he's in the same place as you...u haven't mentioned much in your post. If he's still single and you guys are friends, tell him and have a good laugh about it ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to get over my first love
Q. I can't seem to get over my first love. We've known each other since high school, we never were a couple. I was in love with him when he was not in love with me, then the tables turned several times during the course of what is now a 20-year ...
A. 21 January 2011: Its very difficult getting over one's first love. There are some of the best memories of life associated with it...that warmth, that "feeling", that innocence, that charm...its magical. I'm sorry things didnt work out between you guys, but now you ... (read in full...)
What should I do with a man who states that all he needs in life is his children?
Q. I met a divorced man about 10 months ago. We have been talking and seeing each other on and off over the last 8 months. We have become intimate and enjoy each others company when we are able to meet. Recently, he mentioned that he didn't want me ...
A. 20 January 2011: Let him just be with his children. He has clearly stated that he has no space for you in his life...no definition to the relationship, no emotional involvement...there's nothing that will hold the bond. Sure he wants to call you...he has the ... (read in full...)
Seeing each other for 4 months, and I found out he was dating someone else this whole time!
Q. I had been seeing this guy for 4 months now. At the onset he asked that we don't see other people anymore. I am faithful by nature so it was not something hard for me. Well New Year's Day, I found out that he's been talking and dating someone ...
A. 20 January 2011: Its all upto you now. What he did was pretty nasty and he had no business sneaking behind your back. If you still think you can start afresh and give him another chance and there is a chance for the relationship, only then go for it.
Howev... (read in full...)
What does this text my ex sent really mean?
Q. I just wanted to get a little insight on my ex's recent text. Here's a quick background: The ex and I were living/together for 6 years. He left me 4 months ago for another woman. I was/am heartbroken. I began NC about 2 months ago and have stu...
A. 19 January 2011: Change your number. If you've had the no contact rule, and you've managed to avoid him so far, dont cave in now. Thats exactly what he wants you to do. This guy wants to have his fingers in too many pies.
He left you for another woman, now that... (read in full...)
We're attracted, she wants a relationship, and I only want sex
Q. I met a chinese girl in my seminar group at university.We are both attracted to each other.The only problem is that I think she wants a serious realtionship whereas I would like sex.I don't see a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship because we differ ...
A. 18 January 2011: At least you're honest about what you want! Simple thing...dont have sex with her because she clearly wants a relationship and it would be very wrong to mess around with anyone. ... (read in full...)
My millionaire boyfriend is a complete tightwad, but he has my heart....how do I deal with this?
Q. "Bob" and I have been dating now for 7 months. I am 47, divorced with one child and was married (once)for 13 years. He is 53, was married once when he was 20 (for one month!), has lived with several women and has a daughter who is 17. He didn't know ...
A. 14 January 2011: You know what, you have 2 options here. First: As chigirl said....Continue to see him as your lover. That way u wouldnt have any expectations from him whatsoever and that wud be best for you.
Second: You can talk to him and tell him point blank ho... (read in full...)
Am I a bit weird for not particularly liking kids?
Q. This isn't a relationship question but i would be interested to hear what people think. Ever since i was about 13 (i'm now 23) i realised i wasn't the maternal type. People would show off their kids and these women would go all ga ga over them and...
A. 14 January 2011: Wow!! And I thought I was the only one!! Thank you OP!! Thats exactly how I feel!!
I'm not very fond of kids myself, and when I happen to mention this, the reaction is almost often a raised eyebrow and an "oh??". I dont really care. Just because ... (read in full...)
Am I a bit weird for not particularly liking kids?
Q. This isn't a relationship question but i would be interested to hear what people think. Ever since i was about 13 (i'm now 23) i realised i wasn't the maternal type. People would show off their kids and these women would go all ga ga over them and...
A. 14 January 2011: Wow!! And I thought I was the only one!! Thank you OP!! Thats exactly how I feel!!
I'm not very fond of kids myself, and when I happen to mention this, the reaction is almost often a raised eyebrow and an "oh??". I dont really care. Just because ... (read in full...)
I'm obsessed with my ex and he's happy in a new relationship and going to get married! HELP!!
Q. I feel worse every day. my boyfriend dump me five months ago for another girl. We worked at the same place and i cant avoid bumping in to him daily. he looks happy in his new relationship and am going crazy getting jealous any time i see him talking ...
A. 31 December 2010: Hmmm...well you just have to learn to accept it then. Sorry...but the only other option you have is to act all obsessive and stalk him...and thats not such a good option.
Take a minute and think. Is this obsessive person the real you? Does tha... (read in full...)
If a girl regularly wears tight clothes or shows skin, does that mean she may not be faithful in a relationship?
Q. OK, I may get flack for this, but the Agony Aunts have given me wise advice thus far so I will give my question a chance: In brief: If a girl you know dresses very immodestly, is that a red flag for a possible future relationship? ...
A. 31 December 2010: Whats that saying....oh yes...Never Judge a Book By Its Cover!!
AuntyEm had it right on...Camilla parker Bowles was a married woman and dressed like an old matron yet she had an affair with Prince Charles while he was married to the most enchanti... (read in full...)
Am I just another "Mr. Nice guy, unfit for girls".
Q. Dear everyone, Wishing you all a merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! This is going to be a bit long, I apologize. Please forgive me if it tests your patience. At the end of typing this I realized I was simply venting out, so probably you ...
A. 30 December 2010: Hey hey hey!!! Whats with all the negativity???
Dont let not having a girl bring you down. Sometimes its better to be single than be with the wrong person and in a load of trouble. The right person comes along for everyone. Some people are luck... (read in full...)
Eurotrip gone bad.
Q. About four months ago, i went on a trip to europe. As soon as i left, another guy began flirting heavily with my girlfriend and trying to get her to leave me for him. I knew a little bit about it at the time, and i was a little upset. However, my ...
A. 30 December 2010: Absolutely right. You put this incident behind you and move on and not make an issue about this. Why? First of all, because it was nothing. Secondly, there's an idiot prowling behind your back waiting for you to make that one wrong move, have a ... (read in full...)
Are chivalry and fidelity things of the past?
Q. After getting my heart broken about a year and a half ago. Am I naïve to still believe in chivalry and fidelity? ...
A. 28 December 2010: Certainly not!! They're very much alive...and there are men out there who are gentlemen and who know how to treat a lady like one. You've had your heart broken and that's why you're feeling disillusioned. But trust me, you will find someone who will ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend saved my life and is now handicapped. Should I stay with him?
Q. I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 24. He is the best thing that's ever happened to me. It almost sounds unreal, but he saved my life about one month ago. He pushed me out of the way from getting hit by an oncoming car, but he was badly injured. Right now, ...
A. 27 December 2010: The fact that you question this means that this is something you have considered. Iv read through most of the posts and I know it must be quite overwhelming for you to read what people have to say...especially when you are the one who's faced with ... (read in full...)
I feel crazy about her but I'm not sure if she feel the same...
Q. Long distance relationship!!!!!!! I feel kind of silly using this page for this question but i really need some advice. im 18 years old from sweden and i went on a boat trip to estonia and i meet this very beutiful and nice girl that was ...
A. 26 December 2010: I know how magical holiday romances can feel!I really hope it works out for you, and there's only one way to know....ASK HER!! Keep in touch with her, see what she has to say, and take it from there!
Good luck!!... (read in full...)
I want to marry her, but she says we're just friends
Q. i'm in love with a girl but she said that we're friends but she does not behave like a usual friend. What should I do . I want to to marry her but she always refuse...
A. 25 December 2010: Thats simple. Just learn to accept the fact that she is not willing to marry you, because you cant force someone to! And if you think she's giving you mixed signals, then just steer clear of her.The sooner you cut her out of your life, the better it ... (read in full...)
I lied to my boyfriend about getting raped and being pregnant and he wants me to help raise the baby!!!!
Q. Okay, I'm 14. My boyfriend (who's 13) and I are really close, so we tell each other everything. One day, I saw him talking to his friend, who I SWEAR was hitting on him (she was touching him and everything)!! So I (obviously) got upset... I didn't ...
A. 24 December 2010: I agree with the poster who said...out of all the lies in the world, this is the only one that you picked???What the hell were u thinking?? And then you just played along??!! Its not funny at all...u lied about being RAPED. Do u know the gravity of ... (read in full...)
Am I right in thinking I need to get rid of him??
Q. Need to rant a bit and get some confirmation that I'm making the right decision because I don't trust myself anymore. I met this guy and fell for him. He seemed so nice and so interested. But then he started canceling plans last minute, and thin...
A. 24 December 2010: YES you need to get rid of him. NOW. He sounds like a typical player and for heaven's sake get out of it before it gets worse. These are classic player traits and please dont get dragged into the web anymore. You need to get rid of him. Period. ... (read in full...)
Is it my fault my daughter's a lesbian? How do I correct her?
Q. My daughter went out of town for a business trip 3 weeks ago, and I've been going to her town home r times per day to check on and feed her 2 cats. Today I had the shock of my life when I entered her town home this afternoon... when I entered her ...
A. 19 December 2010: Oh please dont think its your fault!! Its nobody's fault or mistake when their children are homosexuals...thats just the way they are. I know it must have been shocking for you, but you have to understand that people don't choose to be ... (read in full...)
An unrequited love actually loved you.
Q. My story is like many others on here... A girl I was friends with in college fell in love with me. But for me, I wasn't interested. She was too fat. As time progressed we became good friends. At one point I fell for her best friend. Hard. But ...
A. 18 December 2010: What is the deal with you and weight/looks/accent?? Thats how you choose whom to like and whom not to? You "think" you love the first girl, you "enjoy" your girlfriend...they are both lucky to have you!!
Im very sorry if i sound judgment... (read in full...)
Can anyone share relationships that have gone right?
Q. So I enjoy answering questions here on dearcupid when I have spare time. The thing is they are mostly about relationships gone wrong/problems/etc. I was wondering if people would post about relationships they are in or have been in where things ...
A. 3 December 2010: Love this question!!
Well...Iv known my boyfriend for the last 14 yrs...so thats more than half my life!! He was in love with me since the 9th grade...and i wasn't...but somehow we ended up together after I got out of a relationship where I ... (read in full...)
A bit infatuated with my stalker
Q. I have made an unbelievably bad decision. This might be a little long, so thank you in advance for reading. I have no one to turn to, not because i don't have anyone but because i do not think anyone would understand. Ill start at the beginning...
A. 29 November 2010: The right thing to do is to just STEER CLEAR of this guy and run for the hills. Since you are in the situation yourself, you probably cannot understand the degree of danger (the infatuation isint helping either) but if someone asked YOU this same ... (read in full...)
I'm becoming a nervous wreck to the point where my mind plays tricks on me.
Q. I'm becoming a nervous wreck because I can't trust my boyfriend, please help? I keep looking at my boyfriend's past messages and looking for times that he may have said something he shouldn't have to another girl. I've been looking through his...
A. 14 November 2010: When I read these questions about people putting themselves through this hell, I always wonder, why are you doing it? Is it worth it? Is the so-called security of a relationship worth this tremendous ocean of insecurity that you live in?
Some ... (read in full...)
I told my best friend what her husband had said, and now her husband and my boyfriend have turned against me!
Q. Drama! Drama! Drama! My boyfriend, my best friend and her husband and i aré really cool.. We text or call each other all the time.. Well my boyfriend and her husband were friends before they met us and she and i were friends before we met them... ...
A. 12 November 2010: You were wrong...you shouldn't have meddled. Now that the damage is done, there is nothing you can do but wait for things to simmer down, and learn the lesson...let a husband and wife sort out their issues on their own. Do not interfere, come what ... (read in full...)
I can't get past him having unprotected sex with his ex.
Q. I would like to thank you in advance for reading this and thinking of any type of advice for me. Here goes ... our history: derek and i dated in high school for 2 years, we were each other's first love and first time. i was absolutely infat...
A. 10 November 2010: You need to leave this guy. Sorry for being so blunt, but what you're trying so hard to salvage, is already pretty much gone. Some people can get over their partners cheating on them, and start anew. Some cant.
You tried making it work but it d... (read in full...)
I know this girl is using me, yet she makes me look like the bad guy!
Q. Alright so I was in what you might call a reationship. I dont considering partly through it I figured out she didn't like me. I started dating her while on vacation in south Florida. We talked and found out she wanted to move up to NC about 4 hours ...
A. 8 November 2010: This is really a bad place to be in honey! Its not your fault but you have been on the losing end. Hmmm...lets see now. First of all, dont talk to this girl quite so much. Even if you do, talk normally, without offering any help EVER or even trying ... (read in full...)
I'm worried my OCD is coming back.
Q. When i was a child i used to have pretty bad OCD. Certain things had to be done a number of times e.g. switching a light switch on and off. I know i probably sound like a complete nut but if you don't have it you really can't understand what's it's ...
A. 7 November 2010: First of all, its not weird. Everyone has little quirks. But if you think its bothering you, try this. Next time when you want to do something more than once, resist yourself from doing it. Tell yourself nothing bad will happen. Everything is ... (read in full...)
Am I eating off a used dish?
Q. well ive liked this sgirl for a long time,but she had a boyfreind. She just got dumped and i helped her feel better but then everyone just said i was "eating of a used dish" what should i do should i ask her out or not...
A. 7 November 2010: "Eating off a used dish"? Really?? If thats how you think of her, then she's one lucky lady!! How lovely!!
Show me one person in today's day and age, who hasn't had a bf/gf or not been attracted to anyone. Does that make them used? Haven't ... (read in full...)
I flew across the country to meet him and now I'm not attracted to him
Q. I got into a relationship with someone online. We've been dating for 3months and I fell in love with his personality. I flew across the country to meet him and now that I have I'm not really physically attracted to him. My question is, should I stay ...
A. 7 November 2010: Just because you're scared of being alone doesnt mean you end up with the person who you're not suited/meant/want to be with. Life is beautiful...and you're so young..you have all the time in the world to meet the right person. If there is a hitch ... (read in full...)
If my quiet social life bothers him so much, why does he still want to be friends with me?
Q. I met him on a dating site and dated him for 2 months. The first month things were going really well and we were spending almost too much time together. The second month is when things started to go downhill especially after telling me he wanted to ...
A. 7 November 2010: Who is this man to say that you need to have "fun" friends? And is he doing you a favor or something, by being friends with you? Sometimes people get sadistic pleasures by hurting others, and pulling them down. In your case, this man seems to think ... (read in full...)
He can't marry me because of his parents, and he won't even try to convince them.
Q. Dear Cupid I am in love with a guy younger to me by 3 years. We are together for 1 year. I am crazy about him and he says he feels the same way. So i brought about marriage few days ago and he says he cannot marry me since his parents wont acc...
A. 4 November 2010: I agree with the others...this guy does not respect you. If he WANTED to marry you, he would have convinced his parents in every possible way, but if he doesn't want it, then, he wont. Its as simple as that. He wants to have all the fun he can and ... (read in full...)
It really hurts that he'd rather believe the girl who he just met and not me, when we'v been best friends forever!
Q. My best guy friend who I love like a brother is a real player to other girl. He always has a girlfriend and he's usually a nice guy. There was a new girl who just moved to my school and she's not really that pretty but she's a real bitch excep...
A. 2 November 2010: Well honey...thats how boys are! I cant even convince my younger brother on his choice of women...and believe you me,he goes for all the wrong ladies! But what can you do? Especially at that age, they would rather go by someone they are attracted ... (read in full...)
Husband of 27 years regrets that he didn't have sex with other women!
Q. I have been married for 27 years and a while ago my husband told me that the biggest regret of his life was that he hadn't had sex with more women. He had always lead me to believe that he had only been with me, but during this odd conversation I ...
A. 29 October 2010: Well, in what context did he say this to you? Possibly when you guys had a fight/argument about something and this was said in a fit of anger? Because very often things that are said in anger are just meant to hurt the other person.
You know what... (read in full...)
My life is a reflection of the movie "The Notebook"...I'm torn between my ex and my husband
Q. My ex and I had a child together and were together for 10 years. We divorced for stupid reasons and neither of us felt right about it but for some reason we went through with it anyhow. We were on again off again for 3 years until he finally married ...
A. 28 October 2010: I must say...I love the Notebook....but dealing with something like that in real life must be a tremendous conflict. I'l tell you what I feel...please dont do ANYTHING you're not comfortable with.
However, I'm sorry...but you got married for the ... (read in full...)
I need to get rid of this young girl before my wife finds out!
Q. I need help getting rid of a girl of a young girl in my life... This is causing me much stress and I don't know what to do.. Here is a little background... I'm in my mid 40s, been married for 20 years and have two teenage daughters. My w...
A. 27 October 2010: I dont get it...why is the girl being referred to as a "whore" and "trash" and things like that? Why blame the girl when the man himself goes to her as and when he fancies?
You have had your cake and want to eat it too?? Now that the fun and frol... (read in full...)
Is there a way out of this mess? I feel like I cannot cope anymore....
Q. I am an Orphan brought up by one of my Uncles who is no more.At the age of 27 one of Aunties(Uncle's side)took pity on my bachelor life and proposed to get me married to some one whose parents my Autny had known for years.As it turned out later on ...
A. 27 October 2010: Thank you so much!! I wish the very best for you. Please always be positive...I believe in the circle of life. What goes around, comes around. You have been good and done your duty, things will never go wrong with you. God will walk with you through ... (read in full...)
Is there a way out of this mess? I feel like I cannot cope anymore....
Q. I am an Orphan brought up by one of my Uncles who is no more.At the age of 27 one of Aunties(Uncle's side)took pity on my bachelor life and proposed to get me married to some one whose parents my Autny had known for years.As it turned out later on ...
A. 26 October 2010: I must tell you this...you are a truly wonderful person, to put up with all this, and even after all the hell your wife has inflicted upon you, you dont want her to shift to her parents place...wow!! That just says so much about you.
I think th... (read in full...)
Is there a way out of this mess? I feel like I cannot cope anymore....
Q. I am an Orphan brought up by one of my Uncles who is no more.At the age of 27 one of Aunties(Uncle's side)took pity on my bachelor life and proposed to get me married to some one whose parents my Autny had known for years.As it turned out later on ...
A. 25 October 2010: Oh that is really sad!! But i dont get it...do you live with your wife as of now or not? Where is your son these days and is your wife in touch with him?
But more importantly, what do you want now? Clearly this marriage has been a farce and its ... (read in full...)
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