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writes:About four months ago, i went on a trip to europe. As soon as i left, another guy began flirting heavily with my girlfriend and trying to get her to leave me for him. I knew a little bit about it at the time, and i was a little upset. However, my girlfriend sent him a text informing him that she was not interested and she was very happy with me. unfortunately, this was not enough to discourage him. he then began telling her lies about me. he told her that i was having sex with a girl in europe, and she initially must have believed it, because she confronted me about it. i managed to convince her it was not true, which is wasn't, and everything was seemingly okay. but later that night, she posted a very flirty and suggestive comment on one of his facebook pictures, but insisted it was only a joke. we got into a big fight over this, and she said "oh well what about all of these pictures of you with other girls from europe, i'm sure you flirted with them, etc. etc.". we nearly broke up. the next day, we got over the fight, and she seemed very eager to have me home in 2 days. when i got home, everything seemed wonderful, we were having lots of fun together. but then i heard from two people who were the other guy's friends, that she was 'all over him' the last few days i was gone and that she was going to dump me for him. when i confronted her, she said that she would never leave me and that they were lying. since then, i have gotten over it and our relationship has been great and there hasn't been many other problems. however, recently, i have been thinking about this incident constantly, and can't get it off my mind. i don't know what to do, i really don't want to talk to her about it and bring it back up. i know she made a mistake by not cutting off all contact with this other guy and flirting with him a little bit, but she acknowledged she made a mistake and apologized. i should just move on, right? please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2010): thank you. i've been thinking the same thing. not worth making a big deal out of it. its nice to know that others agree.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (30 December 2010):
 Absolutely right. You put this incident behind you and move on and not make an issue about this. Why? First of all, because it was nothing. Secondly, there's an idiot prowling behind your back waiting for you to make that one wrong move, have a fight with your girlfriend, "confront" her...anything...so that he can swoop in and look like the savior...a real refreshing change from the selfish, worthless boyfriend who had sex with random women in Europe and then makes his poor girlfriend back home look bad. Get it??
Dont be irrational and throw it all away. Its all good, nothing happened, things are FINE between the two of you.
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