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31 March 2011: I recently read something nice that I would like to share.... JUST TWO. Donate blood twice a year. Donate your eyes after death. Thank God twice a day. Write two letters a week. Visit two ailing people a month. Say two words of gratitude-"...
A little humility goes a long way
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27 March 2011: I’ve been a moderator here on DC for a while and it’s a great forum. It really irritates me though when the OP shows no regard for the aunts who’ve taken time to answer questions. We moderators don’t know you, yet we spend time poring over ever...
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Is there a way out of this mess? I feel like I cannot cope anymore....
Q. I am an Orphan brought up by one of my Uncles who is no more.At the age of 27 one of Aunties(Uncle's side)took pity on my bachelor life and proposed to get me married to some one whose parents my Autny had known for years.As it turned out later on ...
A. 27 October 2010: Thank you so much!! I wish the very best for you. Please always be positive...I believe in the circle of life. What goes around, comes around. You have been good and done your duty, things will never go wrong with you. God will walk with you through ... (read in full...)
Is there a way out of this mess? I feel like I cannot cope anymore....
Q. I am an Orphan brought up by one of my Uncles who is no more.At the age of 27 one of Aunties(Uncle's side)took pity on my bachelor life and proposed to get me married to some one whose parents my Autny had known for years.As it turned out later on ...
A. 26 October 2010: I must tell you this...you are a truly wonderful person, to put up with all this, and even after all the hell your wife has inflicted upon you, you dont want her to shift to her parents place...wow!! That just says so much about you.
I think th... (read in full...)
Is there a way out of this mess? I feel like I cannot cope anymore....
Q. I am an Orphan brought up by one of my Uncles who is no more.At the age of 27 one of Aunties(Uncle's side)took pity on my bachelor life and proposed to get me married to some one whose parents my Autny had known for years.As it turned out later on ...
A. 25 October 2010: Oh that is really sad!! But i dont get it...do you live with your wife as of now or not? Where is your son these days and is your wife in touch with him?
But more importantly, what do you want now? Clearly this marriage has been a farce and its ... (read in full...)
What you guys would do if your girlfriend tried to set you up?
Q. I have been with my partner for 3 years we have a wonderful relationship and only had one bad patch and now its all back on track- he loves me and tells me so and I love him very much too. I recently made friends with a girl and I think she is ...
A. 24 October 2010: It seems like you dont have confidence in yourself. What makes you think that your bf might be happier with someone else? You say you have a wonderful relationship with him...then why even think of all this? Im sure he loves you, and who doesn't ... (read in full...)
After 7 years with my current partner, I realised I still love my ex!
Q. iv'e been with a girl for seven years and about two weeks a go my ex girlfriend came back into my life iv'e known her for about 15 years and we have a 9 year old daughter to gether and i realize that i still love her. what do i do ...
A. 24 October 2010: Does your ex feel the same way about you? Why did you guys break up in the first place? How is your relationship with your current girlfriend?
This could get complicated, because you cant just dump someone you've been with for 7 yrs, just bec... (read in full...)
She is single again and I would like to pick up where we left off!
Q. I met a girl I shared very strong chemistry with. However before I could ask her out, she was approached by her old friend she knew from a longtime ago and she decided to go out with him. It did not last longer though and she is now single again. I ...
A. 24 October 2010: Plain and simple...talk to her and see where she is in life, and what she actually wants. For all you know, she might not want a relationship right now (in any case you dont want to be the rebound guy), just take her out for a cup of coffee, have a ... (read in full...)
I think one night stands are disgusting! Am I normal?
Q. Even when I was a teenager I never beleived in 1 night stands and never had sex with a woman I didn't at least care about. I hear about so many cases of cheating, group sex and just fucking someone just for the hell of it. I find it a bit ...
A. 23 October 2010: Honestly, to each his own. You dont like certain things, and I hate them too...but there are all kinds of people in this world, and there are people who dont mind this stuff. Try not to get so judgmental about these things, because then there is no ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend I still have nightmares of being sexually abused?
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles, my boyfriend and I were talking about our relationship this morning and he asked me what my first time was like. He's my first lover and I didn't know how to answer. It took him four different tries to really...do everything ...
A. 23 October 2010: Yes honey...you should tell your boyfriend. For one thing, its going to make you feel a lot lighter, because this is a burden you have been carrying around, FOR NO FAULT OF YOURS. Whatever happened was not your fault in any way, not even with that ... (read in full...)
How do I help her with menstrual discomfort?
Q. It's my gf's time of the months. I've noticed that she experiences pain to the point where she sometimes doesn't want to eat. She takes Advil and it works for her, I was just wondering if there was something I could do to ease her from what she's ...
A. 19 October 2010: I face the same problem myself, and there's nothing much that you can do. Just try not to get on her nerves :)...sorry...i know sometimes when my boyfriend tries too hard to make it better it really irritates me because the poor guy has no clue ... (read in full...)
Is it over? Have I been played?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am so confused. I met a nice guy online, I live in UK and he lives in Norway. We started chatting for a few days, all seemed to be going well, so I suggested a phone call, which also went well. We spoke for about an hour, and seemed ...
A. 18 October 2010: Im sorry, but age has nothing to do with getting played! just goes to show no matter how old or young, a player is a player. Anyway, so what next? U move on...plain and simple. Dont lose any sleep over this guy...he seems to have enjoyed the phone ... (read in full...)
I once cheated on my boyfriend, and now the other guy wants me!
Q. i don't know if its a good idea to do this...never the less... I once cheated on my bf when we were going through a really bad phase...without sounding like i am trying to justify what i did...i was really unhappy...he was making life difficult f...
A. 17 October 2010: I'm sorry, but I wouldn't believe a word of that mail. Its one hundred percent pretentious,and trying to sound too mushy. Dont you believe it. Im not here to judge you so I dont care why you were with him or what you did. The thing is, do you feel ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is more focussed on his sister in law than our wedding plans
Q. Hey.. I am 19 yrs old girl, having trouble in understanding my bf whom i am dating from almost 2 yrs. He was my best friend and now bf. Things were cool before but now i feel he has changed. We were talking yesterday about our wedding plans when sud...
A. 17 October 2010: You're not overreacting and neither are you jealous. I would be concerned too, if i was in your shoes. Its in very bad taste to discuss ones sex life with anyone for that matter..what happens between me and my boyfriend or husband is for just both ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's 'friend' tried to talk her into cheating on me!
Q. My girlfriend got a booty call last night from one of her former f-buddies. I met her f-buddy at a party about two months ago. She said they were still friends but not sexually active so I didn't worry about it. But then yesterday he sent her a bo...
A. 17 October 2010: No you're not overreacting. Why is your girlfriend even talking to this guy? And why do you expect this guy to have any respect for you or your relationship with your girlfriend, when your girlfriend herself doesnt have any respect for the ... (read in full...)
Why do you answer to these questions?
Q. I just want to know something, why do you guys answer to these people? what do you plan to get out of it? do you think "God" will reimburse you for your efforts and "love"? do you feel better by helping others you don't know? I really don't see any ...
A. 13 October 2010: I stumbled upon this site myself when i wanted advice on something. I posted the question and didnt even expect an answer, but i got lots of them They actually helped me.Now i try to do my bit by helping others who need some advice. We dont do it ... (read in full...)
I have a fat fetish and want my girl to be even bigger!
Q. Okay so i have a big problem. I've been dating the same girl for a year and i told her i have a fat fetish and i needed her bigger. so shes gained about 20 lbs for me but i am still not nearly sexually satisfied. i know for a fact im in love with ...
A. 12 October 2010: You're crazy. You're damaging the health of your gf for your absurd fantasies!! Go find some fat girl to date and satisfy u sexually; leave your girlfriend alone.How can you WANT someone to fatten up just because u like it?? This is the weirdest ... (read in full...)
Was I wrong for ending things? He's not over his ex!
Q. I am 46 years old and have been dating a man 53. He has never been married. His last relationship lasted 7 years she left him suddenly for another man and moved to another state. We have been dating for almost a year. I have asked if that ...
A. 12 October 2010: You did the right thing. You should have gone with your gut feeling, and you're certainly not wrong in being upset over ending your relationship over his ex. You should never be the consolation prize for anybody. There is nothing more degrading to a ... (read in full...)
Everyone keeps calling me ugly, but I don't feel like I am!
Q. I havn't had a boyfriend in ages and ages and everyone keeps calling me ugly but im actually not. I don't know what to do please help me???...
A. 11 October 2010: Dont let anybody ever pull you down.Who's "everyone " who keeps calling you ugly? Just stay away from negative people. Who are they to decide if you're ugly or beautiful??
Having a boyfriend is no measure of beauty. You're very young, and you'l ev... (read in full...)
Her husband found out about our secret love and now she has to stay away from me!
Q. I recently told my best, married, friend that I was in love with her. And that I have been for several years, and that I've been waiting for her marriage to dissolve. That sounds vulturous, but it isn't. I'm just way too nice, believe it or not, and ...
A. 11 October 2010: Man..this is difficult!! But there is nothing much you CAN do here...except wait for her to take the decision. I think this girl needs to be sure about what she wants, because this see-saw isint going to be helping anyone. The husband is going to be ... (read in full...)
He's giving off mixed signals!
Q. hi all , very complicated post here ... ok , I started seeing a guy and hooking up with him just under a year ago and felt like we really connected. He has a really busy career and we didnt really see anything of each other since february. He...
A. 8 October 2010: Stay away from this guy. Dont even try to decipher the pattern of his behavior, because you simply cannot reason out with people like him. HE IS A PLAYER.period. He comes and goes as and when he fancies, because he knows that you do have a bit of a ... (read in full...)
He's verbally attacks me but blanks out when I confront him about what he does! Any advice on why he does this?
Q. I am married to a strong-minded, controlling man. He will throw temper tantrums to get his way and to silence me when I try to speak up for myself. He has verbally attacked me many times with put downs,dtreating me like I am stupid. I have mentioned ...
A. 2 October 2010: You know, when I read your question, I figured this is not just a mere controlling mind or the garb of a mental disorder. This is a classic sign of verbal abuse. The trickiest form of denial is forgetting. Become aware that forgetting is a form of ... (read in full...)
Escaping from one ditch slipped into another.
Q. was having a very terrible time with my husband and I am a student in the university. One evening my husband abused me a lot and I decided to quit the relationship that day.(though the relationship was worst for last 5 years). While I was sitting ...
A. 26 September 2010: If Im not mistaken, you had posted this before here, as "foreign students stereotypes" or something like that. I remember because I had found your views bizarre and its all repeated here!! What is wrong with you? You have a problem at home, doesnt m... (read in full...)
My boyfriend died 2 months ago and I cry every night
Q. My boyfriend died about 2 months ago. I have had terrible relationships before he came along. he treated me like I was literally a princess and the only one in this world. I know it has just been a little over 2 months but I still cry every night. I ...
A. 26 September 2010: Im really sorry sweetheart...cannot even imagine what this pain must be like...but you have to pull yourself together. Do it for him. He treated you like a princess, he always wanted you to be happy, right? Seeing you like this would never make him ... (read in full...)
Been together for 10 years, and now this?
Q. In need of some advice..before I make a fool of myself. I left home over a month ago. My Boyfriend was upset but accepted it since it was for school. We've been together fr 10yrs and through a lot. He was upset and hurt I left but I wanted t...
A. 24 September 2010: Oh hun.... I'm sorry for you.Its nowhere your fault and this is so not how things should have gone. But you know what, adversity brings out the best (or worst) in a person. As long as you were with this guy, it was fine...you had a life together, ... (read in full...)
Could this scatterbrain move have offended him?
Q. I've done something stupid! Been asked on a date by a lovely guy from work. He's organised it, told me it'll be outside, hands on, and a new experience. Asked him for another clue, and he said "you'll have to take responsibility for a situation". ...
A. 19 September 2010: OK..the message per se is not what will offend him, but the idea of you discussing his every move with your friend most certainly will.My boyfriend hates it whenever I tell him I talk about him with my best friend.He feels that our relationship is ... (read in full...)
My husband's double life of cheating and a baby?
Q. Hi Hope you take the time and read my post. I have been married 22yrs together for 32yrs, just over 2yrs ago i found out my h/b had been cheating on me at frist i thought it was the only time so i forgave him after several months i found out ther...
A. 18 September 2010: Eleanor Roosevelt had once said something that means so much..."No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Why says you dont have any self esteem?Why do you make yourself believe that??? You have more self esteem and pride than most ... (read in full...)
If he's not going to cheat on his girlfriend, what's with the texts he's sending to me?
Q. A guy friend, maybe "friend" isn't the right word. )We used to have a casual thing last year which has now ended because he's with somebody now and a few other reasons) has recently been sending me text messages that, in my opinion, friends ...
A. 16 September 2010: This man is a cheap, disgusting bad of filth. Stay away from him...just wants to go around having a bit of a roll in the hay and go back to the dear girlfriend...and where does that leave you? Never be the consolation prize or reserve for ... (read in full...)
Why is my girlfriend always so jealous of other girls?
Q. My girl is jealous of girls I talk to sometimes. The first day I get a web cam she's asking me if I'm gonna have live chats with other girls. She's jealous about anything stupid that involves another girl. I don't understand why. I've never been ...
A. 16 September 2010: Its probably nothing to do with you; its about the way this girl is dealing with her past. Does she have a past issue with guys who cheated on her? This could be a reason why she's always so insecure, and thats why she wants a lot of other men "in ... (read in full...)
My sister in law doesn't mind being naked with me!
Q. My sister-in-law (single and attractive) graduated college and recently took a job near where my wife and I live. My wife told her to stay with us in the spare bedroom until she found a place of her own. Initially, she wore a robe over her ni...
A. 14 September 2010: Nope...this is not normal, no matter what anyone says. If you thought it was, you wouldn't be asking this question here in the first place. You have to put an end to this. By keeping quiet, you're only encouraging this extremely bizarre behavior. ... (read in full...)
Age taking it's toll...
Q. I am about to meet up with an old friend the same age as me. He remembers me fondly, we went out once 40 years ago. I am probably fairly attractive, but I wear a hearing aid and have false teeth. I have already put him off once but am meeting this ...
A. 13 September 2010: This is one of the most endearing posts Iv read! Honey you dont need to be conscious about anything.Remember that age has caught up with your friend as well...he's not the same as he was 40 yrs back!!and you sound so graceful and confident...there's ... (read in full...)
Whilst I was on holiday a random boy tried to split me and my boyfriend up. I'm so angry.
Q. Hey everyone some adivce would be greatly appreciated. Im 18 and my boyfriends 19, ive been with him for a year and a half, im going to say i would like to think where the perfect match and that we will be together for a very long time, but these ...
A. 11 September 2010: Agree with the others. ALWAYS keep your identity a secret and never give away personal info on social networking sites. And dont ever chat with anyone you dont know personally. If you hadn't accepted his request for chat, none of this fiasco would ... (read in full...)
Are we doing the wrong thing here?
Q. I have a married friend i have been seeing for 7yrs.i am not married myself or do i wish to be so i don't wish to marry this man or ask him to leave his wife either.or has he ever said a bad word about his wife. We have an extreamly good relation...
A. 11 September 2010: You dont want to marry this man, you dont want him to leave his wife, you dont even want to involve the "love" word in your relationship...so basically you want the physical presence of this man and the sex.
How does that sound to you?... (read in full...)
My girlfriend thinks I should "let her off" and allow her to cheat!
Q. My girlfriend confessed to cheating on me by saying that she's developed feelings for another guy, who also happens to be an old friend of mine. He knows that i and her are in a relationship but even then she was attracted to him after he said that ...
A. 10 September 2010: You did the right thing!! So happy for you!! ... (read in full...)
Can a man love 2 women at the same time?
Q. can a man fall in love with two women,cause there is a man who says that he's got two girlfriends,he love's them both,but he says he feels like he is in heaven when he is around the new girl.is it possible 2 love two women?...
A. 10 September 2010: No. I dont even want to read your entire question, because there are no justifications required. Absolutely No.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend thinks I should "let her off" and allow her to cheat!
Q. My girlfriend confessed to cheating on me by saying that she's developed feelings for another guy, who also happens to be an old friend of mine. He knows that i and her are in a relationship but even then she was attracted to him after he said that ...
A. 10 September 2010: And in answer to your question, "will there be a girl who would just want one guy and stay true to him and be strong?"...YES. Most people who are in a healthy, committed relationship would never have space for anyone else. Its not a game, its a ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend thinks I should "let her off" and allow her to cheat!
Q. My girlfriend confessed to cheating on me by saying that she's developed feelings for another guy, who also happens to be an old friend of mine. He knows that i and her are in a relationship but even then she was attracted to him after he said that ...
A. 10 September 2010: "I don't know" is the best answer that most people come up with. Its safe, its easy, and what there's nothing left to ask someone who "doesn't know". Anyway,you might not like hearing this but I'm not going to sugar-coat anything.Il tell... (read in full...)
Boyfriend weird???
Q. I'm have been in a committed long distance relationship for one year and two months. Me and my bf were talking on the phone and I told him that I'm going to watch movies with two of my guy friends on friday.. and then he started teasing me and i ...
A. 9 September 2010: Where does the question of using you come from? I'm not so sure if I even understand you question.He drove 9 hrs to meet you, why do you need verbal proclamations of love? What are you concerned about? That he didn't meet you in the evening? Thats a ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend thinks I should "let her off" and allow her to cheat!
Q. My girlfriend confessed to cheating on me by saying that she's developed feelings for another guy, who also happens to be an old friend of mine. He knows that i and her are in a relationship but even then she was attracted to him after he said that ...
A. 9 September 2010: You don't want to end this, but drag it on till it gets really ugly? Ask her how she would feel if she were in your place. She's THAT desperate to meet up with this guy, and you still want to make it work? If you think you can look beyond this, then ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend thinks I should "let her off" and allow her to cheat!
Q. My girlfriend confessed to cheating on me by saying that she's developed feelings for another guy, who also happens to be an old friend of mine. He knows that i and her are in a relationship but even then she was attracted to him after he said that ...
A. 9 September 2010: Honey thats crazy!! Nobody in their senses would like their girl to go meet another guy whom she claims to "love".Not being judgmental here...maybe she thinks its ok to behave this way. But its clearly not. Get out of his mess with what little ... (read in full...)
Why can't my girlfriend come up a level of class but can always drop a level?
Q. Why can't my girlfriend come up a level of class but can always drop a level? Last week whilst on holiday at my girlfriend's parents house (in Spain) we met a couple of friends of her parents. Her father used his normal crudeness of introduc...
A. 8 September 2010: You need to take responsibility for YOUR actions here. You've been dating this woman for 5 years. Thats a long time...and certainly enough to know a person really well. This is obviously not the first time that she has behaved like this and ... (read in full...)
Why does he talk to other girls when he says he loves me?
Q. I have this boyfriend. I've heard rumors. I've asked him about them, but he denies them. The first time i heard something about him, I asked him, and he said they were just friends. Today, i wake up, and on his status he's talking about a ...
A. 8 September 2010: You have your answer. There's nothing worse than being with a "needy" man and this constant need to be associated with woman to fan his ego is terrible and pathetic.
Dont ever let ANY man ever question your belief in yourself. Never again in your ... (read in full...)
Was breaking up the biggest mistake of my life?
Q. Dear Cupid, I had been in a relationship (on and off) now for 6 yrs until 2days ago. The relationship started off well although I had just gotten out of the longest relationship of my life at the time so explained that I wouldn't be able to get t...
A. 6 September 2010: If you dont feel the spark, then you probably never will. And maybe you HAVE taken the right decision. You really like his woman and you're comfortable with her...6 yrs is a long time...BUT...if you love someone, then you just know it. You wouldn't ... (read in full...)
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