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writes:My best guy friend who I love like a brother is a real player to other girl. He always has a girlfriend and he's usually a nice guy.There was a new girl who just moved to my school and she's not really that pretty but she's a real bitch except when she's around guys. Of course my friend was all over her (fresh meat) and she loves the attention. All the girls in my class are sick of her attitude and ignore her so she goes and plays the sympathy card and gets all "close" with my friend.I tell him that she's a fake and she's only doing it for attention but he doesn't believe me. He'd rather believe the girl who he just met over the girl that he tells everything to who has known him since forever.It really hurts that he'd rather talk to her all the time because she gets really obsessive over guys she dates and she's on the rebound from a guy who dumped her because she was so obsessive.What can I do? If anything I just want my friend back...any advice would be apreciated!Thanks
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (2 November 2010):
 Guys are like that. Sometimes you have to let a guy fall and get up again so that he knows not to do it again. Just hang around until you get a chance to say "I told you so."
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (2 November 2010):
 There's nothing you can do. Just let him go ahead and get it out of his system.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (2 November 2010):
 Well honey, she's the shiny new toy all the boys want to play with. She laps up all the attention..but as you know shiny new toys's novelty will wear off soon and she'll be tossed aside.
I know it's like a car accident you want to prevent it from happening and you know how, but instead you gotta stand by and watch it happen. He's too blindsided by this girl to listen to a thing you say. So either hang out with your other friends for the time being, and wait it out till this newness wears off then he starts to get bored with her. If he's a rebound, it won't last long.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (2 November 2010):
 Well honey...thats how boys are! I cant even convince my younger brother on his choice of women...and believe you me,he goes for all the wrong ladies! But what can you do? Especially at that age, they would rather go by someone they are attracted to, and no amount of reasoning works out.
Unfortunately, you just need to let your friend be. You cant constantly nag him, because that almost never works...the more you WANT them to do something, the more they run from it. Trust me, it wont take him very long to realize what this girl is...and he'l probably get over her real soon. Right now, there's a lot going on. This new girl KNOWS all you girls cannot stand her, so she loves playing these guys. The more you make your disgust evident and try to stop your friend, the more she wud try to play the sympathy card.
For now, just cool down. I know its pathetic, but let him discover the truth on his own. Once he learns from his own mistake, he wont repeat it again....and then all of you can have a big laugh about this sometime...because this new girl syndrome isint going to last very long!
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