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writes:I had been seeing this guy for 4 months now. At the onset he asked that we don't see other people anymore. I am faithful by nature so it was not something hard for me. Well New Year's Day, I found out that he's been talking and dating someone else. Only consolation was, it ended 3 weeks before I found out. It was like a kick in the gut, and I broke it off. He is asking for a second chance and promised never to do it again. I have my qualms. A part of me wants to forgive and give him another chance but a part me says, I will never trust him again. Not sure what to do... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2011): If the agreement to be exclusive was suggested by him. Yet he spent almost the entire time you were together, cheating on you. Hes bad news and definately NOT a keeper! However he dresses up the story about why he stopped seeing her, you will never know the truth because hes a liar!
The fact is, he was still looking for someone else. If you had been even close to 'The One' for him, he wouldnt have felt the need to see another woman behind your back. Depending on what he did while he was dating her, you might need to consider getting a STD check. He doesnt seem to have any scruples, so id do that just to be on the safe side if you were intimate with him. He put down very bad foundations for the start of a relationship and you would be daft to trust him now you know what hes like. Id leave things as they are and not be tempted back. You met him in good faith, kept you word, didnt feel the need to run around with others. He choose not to afford you the same respect.
You are worthy of far better. Life is too short to waste on losers. So find yourself a decent guy, there are plenty out there if you have faith and keep looking, rather than getting stuck on that guy. Hes a sneak, a liar and will ruin your confidence. So pay no attention to his cheap sweet talk, rather remember his actions as they are what defines him. And move on swiftly x
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2011): In the first months of relation this things are common if one is only attracted not in love with the other. Sure he is not in love with you and/or there is a relation he wnats to break off but not yet done.
Now the question is do you really want him or not. if you want him you, try to win him, fight. He is floating, make him settle for you. If you don't want the fight and investment just dump him or see what will happen.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (20 January 2011):
 Its all upto you now. What he did was pretty nasty and he had no business sneaking behind your back. If you still think you can start afresh and give him another chance and there is a chance for the relationship, only then go for it.
However, If you feel that this guy is not to be trusted, then just steer clear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2011): Everyone deserves a second chance so yeah give him another chance but make his ass sweat to earn back your trust. Don't take no shit.
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reader, airwaterearthfirebender  +, writes (20 January 2011):
 Walk...period.
He asks you to be exclusive and then he pulls that on you when you have been dating for fourth months.
You can't trust him and I think you know that. What if you hadn't found out? Be thankful you saw his true colors early on.
If you take him back it will be to your own demise.
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reader, harleygirl2010 +, writes (20 January 2011):
 I'm sorry to hear about that. The question is do you want to be with him still? Do think that if he proves himself to you that you two can be together? If you think that you can give him a second chance then i say go for it, but if you decide not to then by all means don't. You don't have to give him a second chance after what he did. If your gut says go for it and try again let him prove himself then go for it. You gut won't lead your astray. It's a hard decision. I hope this advice helps you some. good luck to you and may god bless you and keep you.
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