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writes:My daughter went out of town for a business trip 3 weeks ago, and I've been going to her town home r times per day to check on and feed her 2 cats. Today I had the shock of my life when I entered her town home this afternoon... when I entered her town home and the image that hit my eyes was my 30 year old daughter and our close female friend who's 60 but doesn't look an age over 35, butt rear naked and in doggy style mating position. I crumbled. Didn't mutter a word. Turned, swept to my van, hurried in, turned the key and cried all the way home where I sat cold, in disbelief. Haven't answered the phone. Haven't spoken to my daughter. She should have called or left a note on the door letting me know her trip was shortened. Is it my fault that my daughter is a lesbian? Shouldn't I have known before today that my daughter's a lesbian? Would a father figure prevented this? There were no signs. What are the types of lesbians? My daughter was behind our family friend. Does my daughter think she's a man? She doesn't act or dress like a man? She's never mention homosexuality. How do I show my daughter to be with a man? I'm a retired Catholic School Teacher. What do I say to the church?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2010): Homosexuality is not a choice by anyone. It is genetically programmed into that person. They are BORN with those preferences and leanings.I am not gay by any means, but why should I have issue with those that are? Sexual and Romantic leanings are a private matter and are no one else's business.Homosexuality is found in almost ALL species, particularly mammals, on the planet. And as usual they take up a relatively small percentage of the populace of each species, in comparison to heterosexuals and bisexuals.Humanity is not gonna die out. It will continue onwards as it always has.Its time to let go of your predjudices and old fears. It's time move forward with the rest of the human race and learn to accept that you do not have any right to judge anyone else's lifestyle because it differs from yours or goes against your religion.Flynn 24
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (19 December 2010):
 Oh please dont think its your fault!! Its nobody's fault or mistake when their children are homosexuals...thats just the way they are. I know it must have been shocking for you, but you have to understand that people don't choose to be homosexuals...its not like something goes wrong in their lives so they rebel this way...thats just the way they ARE. There is nothing to correct or put right and you cant show her how to be with a man...she already knows it and chooses not to, and as an adult, that is her decision. Stand by her and don't make her feel like this is a crime, because its not.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (19 December 2010):
 I would suggest you rethink your faith. Not to spite it, not to question what you truly believe but to test what you doubt. Why should someone be damned merely for loving someone in particular, someone of the same gender? Will you cling to some ill-conceived notion that homosexuality is a sin, or will you support your daughter in her choices simply because you love her as her mother and no bond was ever stronger. No a father figure would have done little to change this, to be gay is merely a taste in mate and nothing more, nothing less. It is not your fault, what WILL be your fault is the tension and shattered remains of the relationship you once had with your daughter if you continue behaving this way.
I am not demanding that you go against your faith, I am merely asking you to place faith in what is right. I am all for religion, I will support all that I can as long as it does not go against what I think to be ethically true and spiritually relevant. Conflicts happen a lot less than you would think. What do you care about more? What do you believe in more? Do you believe your daughter should burn in hell for merely feeling this attraction to another woman? Or do you believe that something is deeply wrong with the person who would condemn people for merely feeling things they cannot help feeling?
I would advise against trying to 'correct' her, firstly because there is nothing to correct. Nothing is wrong with her. If you try anything, she will most likely spurn you and spew hatred towards anything she can blame. Support her as her mother.
I hope that helps.
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