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writes: My boyfriend wants me to start calling him 'daddy' during sex. Can anyone explain this? He says that it is really hot and something that will get him off. Why does he find this so hot? It's incest foreplay! It's disgusting!Has anyone done it? Why do men like it?
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reader, Jayjay24  +, writes (21 August 2012):
 I had the same question. It just gives him power and control. "Daddy" or "Big Daddy" is just some of the many names. Also, he thinks its hot because either 1( How you say it or 2( When your saying it to him. Depending on the situation. Since you were having sex, he thinks its sexy or hot for you 2 call him daddy.
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (28 May 2011):
 HI
thats great news :) see everything always has a way of working itself out.
Good luck with the future, xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni tried daddy and i hated it. but we have found a compromise. i call him sir and big man. he loves and it is something we both get off to
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2011): Wow. You really think he gets turned on by incest. Geez woman. I ask my wife all the time, right when she's about to climax, "who's your daddy?" and she enthusiastically responds, "you are! You are!" and I follow up with, "say my name!" and she responds with, ".....!!!" get the point?It's just a way of him knowing that you want no one else but him. That he's making you feel GREAT! Daddy in the sense - that he takes care of you. Not that he's fantasizing about having sex with his daughter!
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (15 May 2011):
 It could be incest it could be submissive it could be something totally different, but the only way you can know is to ask him to explain.If its submissive and that is not something you like the idea of then tell him you are not comfortable with itIf its the incest thing honestly if it was me id run, but that would be up to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2011): The "daddy" term is also used in BDMS.You will only know what "daddy" means if you ask him. Yes, dominance and submissive players in the bedroom.If it is associated with an incest then run, run far far away.LoveGirl
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reader, spinnaker +, writes (15 May 2011):
 If you are not comfortable with it don't do it. If he does not respect that wish you have clear evidence of a guy with control problems.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2011): Yes, it is probably harmless. My man (who is a fairly large and tall man) enjoys when I call him 'big daddy' in an out of the bedroom from time to time... it's just a term of endearment for us. I usually call him by his first name. It's nothing serious... just a term of affection that I started that he likes.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (15 May 2011):
 Im thinking he might associate "daddy" with something other than the actual meaning of "father". Calling him father during sex would probably NOT be a turn on to him. You could ask to make sure of course.
I'm thinking this is more up the terms of "sugar daddy" for example. Just the nickname of someone who takes care of you, and has a certain authority over you.
Since you feel uncomfortable with daddy, try calling him by a military rank instead, or go over the top and call him mr. president.
He just wants to be the manly cave man who knocked you down and dragged you to his cave, and that you now belong to him. That's probably the turn on here, not the incest interpretation.
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (15 May 2011):
 my ex used to shout during sex 'who's the daddy?!' but i don't think this was an incestuous thing, it was just a silly way of asking 'who's the best?'
if you don't like him asking for this, just don't play along with it
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (15 May 2011):
Hi
Many men like role play in the bedroom, as do many women. I dont think it has anything to do with incest, more of a wanting to feel like a sugardaddy, and in control. However if this is not for you, and it makes you feel uncomfortable, you have to tell him, or your sex life will start to go downhill if you go along with it and not enjoying it like he is. Are you knew with sexual activities? as this can happen with a lot of girls who are not used to this kind of play, they find it disgusting and weird. But never do anything your not happy with. I myself have enjoyed many dress up games with my Ex partner, and role play, which I felt enhanced our sexual experience. But then there are days when just love making is in order, just our bare body's and just being close and sensitive.I dont feel there is anything wrong with that, unless someone wants to take it too far. Also I wonder if you were made to feel as you were growing up that sex in any other way was dirty? which may I add is not, its just a fun side to sex that helps you both to have a great time.
I hope this has helped
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reader, Crabman  +, writes (15 May 2011):
 its not incest, its a submissive thinghe wants to feel dominant if you dont want to call him daddy then stroke his ego other ways, moan loud , tell him how BIG his dick is and how great of a lover he is !
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reader, Ravons  +, writes (15 May 2011):
Well, to put it simply; some girls and guys like to add a bit of roleplaying to the sex. It's merely play and doesn't mean anything special. Of course, I'm sure he really doesn't want you to call you 'Daddy' outside of the bedroom. It's merely something extra he'd like to hear.Of course, you are not obliged to actually join in. You can, of course if you are feeling... wild. But if you don't like it at all, let him know. I am sure you two can work it out. In my eyes, it's merely something innocent since I can draw a similiar situation with my ex girlfriend who loved adding roleplaying elements to our foreplay sessions. Some were incesteous, some were like the 'teacher/student' relationship. We both agreed it was simply innocent and an addition to the sex.
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reader, mrmedicine +, writes (15 May 2011):
LOL, Tell him to call you MOMMY during sex and see how he likes it. That'll show him to stop watching Sasha Grey porn flicks.
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reader, adamantine  +, writes (15 May 2011):
 I think it's more of a power thing. It's not that he sees you as a daughter, but being "Daddy" means that he has power and dominance over you. Have you noticed that he likes to take control?This happened to me too, and I thought the way you did, but you'll realise he just wants you in a submissive position.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2011): I see your point it could def be construed as incest and yes that is def wrong. However, like most people, I think he is trying to tell you he likes being in control and have authority hence "daddy" is a term that fits. Maybe you could ask him to choose another word if its uncomfortable. What about captain? or sir? Hope you can find a compromise.
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