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writes:Does "smiling" REALLY matter?? Been "told" I'm "pretty" and have a nice "smile" (hardly ever use it though) but I never believe it. I don't think I'm "pretty" at all. Reply to this Question
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (17 May 2011):
 absolutely. who would you rather approach? someone who smiles and looks friendly or someone who doesn't? :)x
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reader, belize +, writes (16 May 2011):
 Smiling is good. People who don't smile much over a period of time their face and mouth starts to droop and look sad. They tend to have a tightness around the mouth. A smile opens up the face and exercise the muscles in your face.
When you're smiling the whole world smile with you.
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reader, coltsgirl +, writes (16 May 2011):
coltsgirl is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks everyone. I just don't like my smile.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (16 May 2011):
 Smiling uses fewer facial muscles than frowning.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2011): If people like your smile, then smile for them. For what harm can it do? My daughter has a beautiful smile and is smiling all the time. She cant see how beautiful she is when shes doing it because it never translates the same in the mirror when shes looking at herself. It must be something to do with the type of smile when shes with others that she loves or likes a lot. Not that she doesnt like herself but you know what i mean! Its quite normal to see things in people that they cant see for themselves but just because you cant see it, it doesnt make what they are saying untrue. So trust what they say and smile away!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 May 2011):
Yes, it matters - and obviously you are pretty and do have a nice smile. Maybe you need to work on your self confidence a bit.
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reader, darkwind94 +, writes (16 May 2011):
 Smiles bring happiness to yourself and others. It doesn't really matter, seeing that I don't smile much myself, but people say that a smile looks better on me than a frown. You should really only smile when you are happy, or if you want to smile to make people not worry too much about you. Smiling can help things, for example, if you ever got in a job interview, a smile and eye contact sends a friendly message to people. About being pretty or not, "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder". You may not think you're pretty, but many other people may think otherwise. If you have low self esteem, then you can try doing something proactive to help. Facial expressions can tell a lot about a person in a conversation; if you're not smiling, then the other person may wonder if you are ok, therefore making them want to see you smile. I mean, have you ever the verse in an old time song that says, "You're never fully dressed without a smile"? I think that is true. Let me know if my advice helped you. Good Luck with smiles! :]
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reader, chocoholicforever +, writes (16 May 2011):
sure, smiling matters, so does scowling or looking angry or upset....it affects how other people relate to you, which in turn affects your mood as well as your social interactions. some times even when you feel crappy, forcing yourself to act as if you are not feeling crappy such as smiling, helps to make you feel a bit better. Other times, even if it doesn't make you feel better, at least you don't feel even worse which would be the case if you behaved the way you really felt and it negatively affected the people you have to interact with.
why do you have such an averse reaction to being told that you have a nice smile and that you're pretty?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2011): Smiling is a HUGE nonverbal cue that can signify friendliness and even kindness. Ive had women tell me my smile to them says I look respectful and friendly. It can definitely help initiate conversation so I would use it totally.
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reader, happy140 +, writes (16 May 2011):
 We are our harshest judge. We beat ourselves up pretty bad sometimes. If you do not think your pretty it is partly because you cannot see yourself as other can. If you are told you are pretty then you are to that person, except their compliment. Your age makes you attractive also. Younger men want that appearance and older men want that maturity. If more than one person has told you your pretty then you are, not just to them but apparently too many others, remember many of us do not say that to coworkers because of harassment rules and you can not just go around in public and say if for fear of getting slapped because someone thinks your weird for saying that to a stranger. Go with the flow and accept that you are pretty in another’s eye. The smile, sometimes when a pretty woman smiles at me it makes my day, thats enough to make it always matter.
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reader, spinnaker +, writes (16 May 2011):
 What standard are you using to evaluate your attractiveness?
Smiling displays approachability. As one who seldom smiles, myself, I give off a lousy first impression. But over time people warm up to me. Unfortunately in many cases the first impression is the only chance you are going to get. Yeah its shallow but it is the way of the world in 2011.
This is a time where you just need to take someone elses word for it. This may also seem silly but practice smiling in a mirror. On the inside you may be smiling and in a good mood but people need to see that so that they may feel comfortable around you.
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reader, Kokoro +, writes (16 May 2011):
 Well no i don't think that it's a MUST, if you don't want to then don't, of corse it's nice if you do every now and then.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2011): Most guys think a girls smile is the sexiest thing about a girl.
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reader, honestbear69 +, writes (16 May 2011):
Honestly, take ech and every compliment to heart. Every time some one tells you that you have a pretty smile that will make you want to smile one more time a day!! Smiling is contagious. No matter how bad of a day I am having. Especially, if I go into work where all i deal with is the public, if you see one client smile it will put a smile on my face for the rest of my day!!! Smiling always matters. It does make everything appear better no matter how deep down inside you may be hurting or feel it always helps you start to feel better.
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