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Archived questions from: March, 2009 (see latest in Trust issues category)

Trust issues: Help and advice

I'm engaged but unsure and events from the past make me wonder if I'm doing the right thing

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5750 days ago

31 March 2009 (F) - I feel really torn. I have just got engaged but I don't know if its the right thing to do. Last year my boyfriend and I planned to have a baby we talked about it and it seemed that it was what we both wanted, he was more keen than me, but I want a b...

Should I continue liking her, or will I just get more hurt?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5748 days ago

30 March 2009 (M) - Basically, there's this girl called Js, I've really liked her for about 3 and a half years now, we've been with each other on and off due to various petty reasons. More recently I realised how much she does mean to me, I need not explain myself, as ...

I was pretty sure my promotion had something to do with sleeping with my manager

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5750 days ago

30 March 2009 (M) - Hello people. I've been at my current place of employment for three years now. I consider myself a trust-worthy, hard and efficient worker and have been working hard towards a promotion. I've always been slightly distracted by my manager. She's only...

How should I convince him to forgive and forget our pasts?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5751 days ago

30 March 2009 (F) - My ex has made it clear that he is seeing some else because he cannot trust a girl who cheated on him with a cousin (I mean I cheated on him with a cousin)! the thing is I want him back and am really sure.. he asked me to suggest something that the ...

Help with boyfriend's lies

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5751 days ago

30 March 2009 (F) - I need some advice on dealing with my boyfriend and his lie. It all started a year ago when we had been dating for about 4 months. We had already opened up and talked about our pasts (exes, etc - but not in detail - just names and basics) and ...

He thought I cheated with my flirty texts

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5751 days ago

30 March 2009 (F) - Before me and my boyfriend started dating, there were a few people I would flirt with through text messages. It never went any farther than texts. When me and boyfriend began dating, I didn't stop texting the people I used to flirt with, and 3 ...

I think he's secretly getting in touch with his ex. Should I confront him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5752 days ago

30 March 2009 (F) - Been with my b/f for 3 yrs. The woman he was with before me really messed him up emotionally. She moved to Oregon. We have a pretty good relationship now but it's been a rocky one and I don't think he's over her yet. He was in contact with her...

How can I show I trust?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5752 days ago

30 March 2009 (M) - I have a girlfriend who I love with all my heart. We are both honest and we trust each other. We are both people who have been burned by love before. We are both people who take their time before we trust another person. Somehow we seem to be ...

She's become cold and distant and I don't understand why

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5749 days ago

29 March 2009 (M) - Last 4th of July i met a girl and asked her out. She said yes! Everything was great! She was sweet, I felt Loved, and i made sure she felt loved. It was kinda a long distance relationship, but about Thanksgiving, by some miracle, I moved closer to ...

I don't know if I can trust him again, even though I love him as a brother

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5750 days ago

29 March 2009 (M) - i dont know if im overreacting or taking this too seriously or anything but after and incident last year i've become extremely jealous... weel it's because last year i was with a girl, and our relationship was great, but she ruined it by cheating...

I found out that he's telling other girls that he is single

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5752 days ago

29 March 2009 (F) - I started dating this guy 3 years ago and everything was great. We loved each other's company, so after 1 year we decided to move in together. Everything was good in the beginning, he would cook, clean make breakfast, and cuddle everynight. Th...

His past relationship is hurting our future

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5752 days ago

29 March 2009 (F) - he thinks im hanging out with another guy, im not he is the only man in my life. how can i assure him of that?...

I am insecure when he's out

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5753 days ago

29 March 2009 (F) - I am expecting a child with my partner. Having only been together 18 months i am worried a little. I do feel our relationship is strong but my doubts start when he goes out drinking with his friends. He drinks too much and cant even speak when ...

We keep fighting about my past and my b/f's "lack of trust"

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5752 days ago

29 March 2009 (F) - I am seriously involved with a guy now and it has been going on for 2 years. I was in quite a few relationships before which ended badly. I did not speak about them when me and my boyfriend started seeing each other initially. At one point I told ...

I went into his myspace account and found out he's cheating

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5750 days ago

29 March 2009 (F) - i have been with my boyfriend for 2 months now and recently had suspicions of him cheating/flirting with other girls so i went on his myspace account to look at his messages (the ones only he can access) and he is cheating i want to end it now b...

I keep asking questions and its driving him crazy

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5750 days ago

28 March 2009 (F) - my boyfriend is 29 the kind of guy that doesnt like to be touched. and very quit.been together 2 years. met in a strip club. well i found out from one his co workers that he stoped careing for me 4 months ago and planing on moveing in augest and brak...

I don't know whats going on with him and I need help figuring this out before I go crazy.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5750 days ago

28 March 2009 (F) - ok theres something going on between my fiance and i and i cant figure it out... we have been fighting for about 2-3 weeks now. we've been together for 4 years and we have 2 kids together. but some things are little as him chargeing xbox stuff to o...

This, in my mind, has broken my trust for my fiance.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5726 days ago

28 March 2009 (F) - I am very much in love with a man and we are about to get married quite soon. I have been married before and I bought my first husband a very expensive watch which he left behind when he left me. I gave my fiance the watch to sell for me as he know...

My flirty fiancee wont stop flirting with our younger friend...why does she need to do this?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5752 days ago

28 March 2009 (M) - I am 47 and my fiance is 41. She constantly flirts with a younger 23 year old friend of ours everytime she sees him. She says she has no attraction toward him and it's innocent but this really pushes my buttons everytime she does it. I've told ...

She wants to go see an old guy friend, but won't let me come with her...to meet him! Right or wrong??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5734 days ago

28 March 2009 (M) - I am a 28 year old male, in a long distance relationship with a 22 year old female. I had plans to go visit her, for a week in April 3. But we hit a snag here and now I am not sure if I should go, (in light of what's happened) After my visit...

Who do I choose...my wife or my lover?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

28 March 2009 (M) - I ended up having an affair due to lack of affection from my wife. I know I was wrong and I take full responsibility for my actions. Obviously, I wasn't looking for affection, it just grew from a friendship to an emotional level, which turned ...

It feels nearly impossible to gain her trust back now.. what do I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5754 days ago

27 March 2009 (M) - Hi everyone. I just want to know everyone's opinion on this situation I'm in... I recently lost my g/f due to a mistake, on my half, and to an extent I don't understand why I did it.. seriously... Well what happened was I was with my g/f for about...

Why would he be so paranoid calling me a cheater for not answering my phone...?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5754 days ago

27 March 2009 (F) - I love my boyfriend very much. We are very serious and are planning to get married in like a year. I am very trustworthy and not capable of cheating in any sort of way. We've become so attached to each other, However, lately he is being paranoid ...

He is married. I am married. BUT, we love each other!

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 5752 days ago

27 March 2009 (F) - i have been seeing this married man for a year! I know that he loves me and i love him! He spends so much more time with me than he does at home, i understand why he can't leave though rihgt now! He has a lot he has three businesses and lots of p...

Does hypnosis work? He says he will do anything to know why he cheats.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5755 days ago

27 March 2009 (F) - Hi Could you answer some of my questions please. My husband had been having an affairs though out our marriage 3 that i know off,but he keeps changing his mind as to why he did cheat how can he not know the reasons? We are going to relate ne...

I found out that my LDR boyfriend flirted with other women!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5733 days ago

27 March 2009 (F) - I have been in contact with a man over the internet for over a year, he has just seperated from his wife and we have got very close emotionally. We used to ring each other and chat on the pc every night but we live quite far away from each othe...

He makes me feel like sex is all he wants me for sometimes

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5744 days ago

27 March 2009 (F) - I've been dating my boyfriend for nearly 3 years. We are both in our 3rd year of college and busy. He is very much a prototypical 21 yr. old male who wants more sex (right now it's about twice/week). The problem is that I'm very busy and make a long ...

I am really worried he has been to a prostitute!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5754 days ago

26 March 2009 (F) - Hi, my boyfriend stayed in Hong Kong for less than 2 days and in that time he took out two lots of £125. He is now is Australia and says he didn't do any shopping while he was there - just went to an Irish bar. I am really worried he has used a p...

I don't trust him and everytime he goes out I wonder where he is, and who he's with?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5755 days ago

26 March 2009 (F) - I am in a 3 year relationship, have one child and am 8 months pregnant for my second. My partner and i used to have a real good relationship but since october its been different. in october i found some txts on his phone and found out tht he had met ...

My partner has been viewing porn sites and I'm not happy

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5606 days ago

26 March 2009 (F) - I have found out that my partner has been viewing porn sites and Im not happy. Should I confront him...again. I have told him i dont like him doing this and he promised not to do it again. Some of these sites have teenagers in them and we have tee...

Should I move on? She lied numerous times ....

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5755 days ago

26 March 2009 (M) - I am so confused. My ex and I dated for a year, but have known each other for 4 and dated a time or two in that period. An ex boyfriend came back into the picture a few weeks ago. I found her lying to me about where she was, and she was actu...

Why has she left it this long to tell me that? Could she be lying?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5755 days ago

26 March 2009 (M) - I'm having the time of my life romancing an older woman. I'm 26 and she's 46. You have to see her to believe her. She's gorgeous and got a great personality. We met at a party, she's a friend's friend's friend's friend's Mum or something like that...

I want to heal and to trust him. Am I mad?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5755 days ago

26 March 2009 (F) - Hi im 41 and the guy i have been seeing is 52. We have been together on and off for just under a year. In feb of this year, after staying at his house I found very explicit photographs of him and another woman taken over the past few months. I wa...

I truly love him so why am I having these doubts?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5754 days ago

26 March 2009 (F) - ok here goes. I am in a little situation here I have been dating my bf for 2 yrs now and seriously he is not motivated or anything.He is faithful and is a nice guy but I dont think i want to marry him anymore. Ever heard of the saying small thin...

"I am a good man without money" What does it mean???

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5755 days ago

26 March 2009 (F) - Hello, I have been dating this man for 8 months now , He first told me when we met that he dated other women and even got engaged but broke up because of money issues he said he just leaves when any women makes any money demands he said he alway...

Is he using me for a fun time at the weekend only?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5755 days ago

26 March 2009 (F) - Dear Aunts, I have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year - we both work hard and only see each other of a weekend (but all weekend). It took him a long time to say 'I love you' (said it for the first time last month, and even now I can see th...

I have never been unfaithful but he is constantly assuming I am!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5755 days ago

26 March 2009 (F) - I'll just lay it all out on the table. He and I have been together for over one year. I have never been unfaithful to ANYone in my past, I know the pain of infidelity and I would never do that to someone else. For eight months now, I have h...

Serious wife issues

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5755 days ago

26 March 2009 (M) - My wife had a male best friend prior to our marriage. While dating, she had me meet her at her work in order to actually meet him. As an introduction, she stated, "I'd like you to meet AA, he's my life." This upset me some, as we were planning on ...

In love with older woman but we kinda screwed things up

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5756 days ago

26 March 2009 (M) - I've been seeing this woman who about 11 years older than me for about 15 months now. She been divorced for a year now. When started are relationship everything was great. On weekends when she didn't have her kids she would stay about the whole ...

Why won't he trust me? Should I tell him that I over heard him?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5757 days ago

24 March 2009 (F) - I have been with my husband since high school, we got married last summer and I thought we had the perfect relationship. He is in the army and will be leaving to do a 8 month tour on April 15. Last night I overheard him telling his brother that...

I don't want to be made into an idiot..but I'm not sure I trust him!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5757 days ago

23 March 2009 (F) - I've been dating my boyfriend for over 8 months. About 4 years ago, I ended a relationship with a man who turned out to be married (I fully believed him that he was separated and in the process of divorce..it turned out that he was literally living ...

He insists it wasnt serious, but I am upset at the innapropriate texts between my husband and this other woman. I want to confront her!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5735 days ago

23 March 2009 (F) - I discovered last week that my husband has been texting a woman he has been working with suggestive texts and she likewise. He admitted it has been going on for 2 or 3 months and obviously was careless enough not to delete the ones I discovered. I ...

He says he didnt write that email. Could the computer have a virus, or is he lying?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5735 days ago

23 March 2009 (F) - Just a couple of hrs ago I was mailing out an Invoice for my partener of 8yrs and opened up his contacts which opened up an old email account of his that was rarely used. I found an email in the drafts folder addressed to Sexy Men Directory. The ...

I don’t understand why he won’t grab the chance with me

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5758 days ago

23 March 2009 (F) - Hi Does anyone have any advice please on emotionally distant or emotionally unavailable people? I am certain that my man is one of these people. We have known each other for 18 years (we met when we were 18 and are now 36) and during that time...

Need help with overcoming past hurt to move into a great new relationsip

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5758 days ago

23 March 2009 (F) - I have been seeing a great guy for about a month and a half now, for some reason we started having these silly tiffs, and when things started getting a little out of hand we decided to give each other a some space to figure out what the root of this ...

I lied about my debt problems so I wouldn't lose her! She left me...help!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5759 days ago

23 March 2009 (M) - I have been with my fiance' for three years. She moved here from another state to be with me. Being recently divorced, I am broke. I did not want to lose her so I continued to spend money and shower her with "things". I charged more. Became more ...

He gave me permission to have sex with other guys! Does he love me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5758 days ago

23 March 2009 (F) - I'm in a long disatnce relationship and my boyfriend gave me permission to have sex with other guys. Is this a bad thing or does he love me? I love him very much...

We have even been thru counseling and he lied to the Dr. What else can I try?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5759 days ago

22 March 2009 (F) - i need help i have been with my husband for 10 yeasr and married for 6 we have 4 boys together and it just seems like we are not ment to be in a relationship it seems as if te only thing we have in commom are our children and sex at times other ...

Should a good boyfriend accept you for the way you look?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5759 days ago

22 March 2009 (F) - In your opinion, a good boyfriend that really loves you should accept you for the way you look? Even if you feel fat or ugly? ...

I'm 14 and pregnant and really scared.

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 5746 days ago

22 March 2009 (F) - Im 14 years old and I did a really stupid idea with my boyfriend that's 16. We had sex in his truck 1 time... 2-3 weeks ago and it was an accident. I found out 3 days ago that I'm pregnant. I don't believe in abortions because its just plain murd...