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*ekaaa
writes:i have been with my boyfriend for 2 months now and recently had suspicions of him cheating/flirting with other girlsso i went on his myspace account to look at his messages (the ones only he can access)and he is cheatingi want to end it now but dont want him to know i hae snooped at his emailswhat do i dooo?#please helpx
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (31 March 2009):
Excellent news!
The fact that you are strong enough to do this means you are going to be able to stay away from all the guys that will ever try and hurt you.
Being a strong woman is the best thing you can be.
Never settle for anyone who doesn't make you happy.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, bekaaa +, writes (31 March 2009):
bekaaa is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks so mcuh guys :)
got rid of the sleaze and found out more stuff the sly rat has been up to
he's out of my life for good
x
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (29 March 2009):
He's cheating on you and won't even have the decency to admit it.
If you meet up with him and believe his lies then you are going to end up going out with losers and liars for the rest of your life.
You learn what to do in relationships when you are young, and this is what you should do.
Tell him to dream on and then find a guy who knows how to treat you and would never DARE cheat on you, much less cheat then deny it with a stupid lie and then ask to meet up.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, bekaaa +, writes (29 March 2009):
bekaaa is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks everyone
i told him i wanted to call it a day
and he said he doesnt know what messages im on about
(because he deleted them before hand)
he wants to meet up with me because he said he doesnt want to lose me :/
i still kind of like him, but dont know if i can trust him
x
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (29 March 2009):
Why do you care about if he knows you snooped?
He'll be your ex and he can think what he likes.
Tell him you know he's cheating and it's over and then cut contact. It doesn't really matter how you found out. Just tell him you know about him and Suzie or what ever her name is and then tell him it's over and walk away.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2009): Just look at it like this if u stay with him u will miss out on a evev better guy. U don't wanna stay with someone who is already hurting u. Be strong and just stop answering his calls
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reader, iSmil3y  +, writes (29 March 2009):
I wouldn't lie to him. Just confront him about it, tell him you had the feeling he was cheating/flirting because he was acting a little different around you and just, tell him the truth of what you did. You shouldn't be the one apologizing or feeling bad. He should. He was in the wrong for cheating on you in the first place and he should've known it was wrong to begin with. There are better guys out there and you'll find someone who loves you just as much as you love them, someone you can trust and not have to wonder about them cheating on you. Just tell him the truth and move on. Good luck.
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reader, chickie7545 +, writes (29 March 2009):
okay well i dont really recommend this but i cant say much bc this is wat i did. i found out the my bf was cheating on me because he left me at his mom's house and his cell phone there, well i had my suspicions and i went througgh his text messages on his phone and found out i was right. i confronted him about it and i told him that the other girl had found out about me and contacted me about it. he called that person and she denied it because it wasnt true but i ended it anyways and to this day he doesnt know how i knew to look in his phone. this isnt the best of ways to do it but its an option hope everything works out
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2009): Well don't tell him you snooped!
Tell him you found out through a friend, or you had a feeling he might be because of the way he was acting, or something.
If you want to end it anyway, do you even need to confront him about it? Just end it and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2009): i went through this exact same thing last year. id been with my boyfriend 5 months and was head over heels in love with him... we wer both taking a gap year when we met and had already planned on travelling seperatley. i went to australia and him to thailand, both with mates. i wasnt sure whether to keep the relationship going but he was so certain we could get through the time apart and he told me his love for me was to strong to fade and he would never do anything to hurt me because he respected me too much.we spent 3months apart, in the last month his messages got shorter and i could tell he was acting differently. i sent him a drunken message one night and realised in the morning i didnt want him to read it, so i went onto his account to delete it and i found loads of messages to a girl hed met out there, saying that he loved her and how much fun hed had with her etc etc.i was so angry i didnt care that id read his messages. fair enough i shouldnt have, but he was the one in the wrong, just as ur guy is!tell him ur sorry for snooping, but you had suspisons and suprise suprise you wer right! he should be the one apologising! not you!and from experience dont be upset that its over, the relationship wasnt right, he couldnt be faithful and u couldnt trust him. soon youll find the right man, who loves you, is honest and who you trust with all your heart.just be honest with him now and tell him its over. good luck xxx
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